Nowadays, it is not uncommon for someone to suffer from anxiety, and this could be something that stops them from being able to function. As a result of this, it is not going to be possible for them to just let go of how they feel and to live their life.

Nevertheless, even if this is something that they only experience in one area of their life, it could still cause them a lot of problems. This could be something that stops them from being able to socialise with others.

The Difference

One could then spend time around a close friend and this won’t stop them from being to be themselves. And if they have a job where they don’t see a lot of people, they might also be able to perform at their best.

But if they were to join their friends on a night out or to go out into a crowded place during the day, it will be a different story. This will also be the case if one had to go to some kind of conference or to if they had to move into a working environment where there are lots of people.

Loss of Control

What this shows is that one’s life can end up being defined by anxiety even if it is not something that they always experience. So if they are in an environment where they are able to relax, it might not be long until they are in an environment where they are unable to.

This could show that one has a party to go to once they finish work, for instance, and this is going to stop them from being able to feel at ease. It won’t matter what kind of environment they are in, as their mind will have taken them somewhere else.

Out In the Open

Now, if their friends are aware of how they experience life, it might be slightly easier for them to handle their anxiety. This can stop these people from criticising them for being this way, and they could do what they can to make sure that they don’t overwhelm them in any way.

One way of looking at this would be to say that they will have people around them who have a good level of empathy. Maybe, some of these people also suffer from it or have done in the past.


Alternatively, this could be a side that they try to keep to themselves, and this could show that one feels ashamed of what is taking place. Suffering from anxiety is going to be bad enough, but it will be even worse if they feel bad about being this way.

This could cause them to harm themselves for being this way, and this could take place through how they talk to themselves. It could go ever further though, as they could engage in destructive behaviours.


One is going to have people around then, but it will be as if they are all by themselves; the support that they desperately need is not going to be provided by these people. Still, as one doesn’t reveal what is going on for them, this is to be expected.

There may have been a time when they spoke about how they felt and this may have resulted in them being put down. Wearing a mask is then going to be a way for them to protect themselves from what they believe would happen if they were to open up.

One Step Further

At the same time, there is also the chance that one hasn’t got anyone around them; one can then feel completely isolated. The kind of support that they need is going to be out of their reach.

It could be said that this is a common problem in today’s world, even though it is so easy to talk to people on social media. What this comes down to is that face-to-face interaction is not something that can be replaced by talking to people over a screen.

The Next Step

If one is able to reach out for support, regardless of whether they are surrounded by people who are supportive, they could end up going to see their doctor. An alternative would be for them to go online and to use a search engine.

Through taking one of these routes, they may end up being told that they need to change what is taking place in their mind and to alter their behaviour. What this will then do is allow them to change how they feel.

On The Surface

This could be an approach that will allow one to settle down and to no longer live a life that is, in one way or another, controlled by anxiety. The behavioural therapy approach will have been the answer they were looking for.

What one could also find is that this is not having much of an effect on them, and this might cause them to look a little deeper. From here, one might begin to look into what is taking place in their body.

The Forgotten Area

In today’s world, the mind is typically seen as the most important area when it comes to mental and emotional health, and this causes the body to be overlooked. Not only is there a brain in one’s body that has a massive effect on what is taking place in the brain in their head; this is also an area where they can carry emotional pain and trauma.

Therefore, if one was to look into what is taking place in their body, they may find that they have only been aware of what is taking place on the surface. Underneath their anxiety could be a lot of fear and pain.

Going Deeper

What one could find is that they fear that other people will reject and/or abandon them, and this is likely to how that they are carrying toxic shame. Along with this, one could have a fear pf being harmed by others.

Experiencing anxiety is then going to be a way for one to make sure that other people don’t leave them and/or it will be a way for them to make sure they are not harmed. This is likely to show that one was abused and/or neglected when they were younger.


If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, it might be necessary for them to work with a therapist or a healer.

Author's Bio: 

Prolific writer, author, and coach, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand four hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. His current projects include 'A Dialogue With The Heart' and 'Communication Made Easy'.

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