How often have you wondered why someone came into your life? How about a negative situation or predicament that had developed? What's trust got to do with it?

A good friend of mine explored the former conundrum with me a few years ago. We became fast friends, being open and transparent with one another, in which immediate trust was placed at the forefront of our relationship. During this exploration it was concluded that we needed each other in a capacity unbeknownst and undisclosed to either of us at the time.

Concerning the latter, I had been informed that my corporate position would be eliminated. I explored this enigma much in the same way as mentioned above. Why was this situation coming into my life? For what good reason did it appear? During this current scrutiny, I then too, put trust at the forefront, while becoming open and transparent in asking the why.

Did this trust come forward willingly and unabashedly in either circumstance? No, of course not.

The trust took its time while it grew into love and appreciation for the new relationship as it had in each of the situations described above. But what was more important than the answer to the question of why, was the discovery of the world of possibilities that lay ahead.

Now, what do you do when those deeply trusted relationships come to an end or situations change anew? The answer, of course, is to start all over again placing trust at the forefront.

  1. Re-invoke the trust. Put confidence back into the equation that although the why is not immediately known, it will show itself later on.
  2. Ask questions. Think of everything you want answers on, including the tough ones, such as, what energy were you putting forth that might have caused this situation to occur.
  3. Be open and accepting. Those answers are key components to what may be going on way down deep inside of you; removing emotion and judgment when hearing them will be an important factor in reaching the other side of the problem.
  4. Envision possibilities. You gained understanding about what's disconcerting; take that information, remove any remaining obstacles, and look at where you could be now that they've been tossed aside.
  5. Take action. If you follow me on social media or subscribe to my newsletter or blog, you know I say this is always your last step. If action is not taken, it's considered inaction, which of course, is a type of action as well. But you want to move forward, so take off your lead boots (I talk about this in my book, "fiftysomething: The Unknown, Dreams, and Paths) and get going!

You are transitioning, changing each and every day - with relationships and situations, and even within yourself. But you know what? You are not alone, and you don't have to go through it alone. Grab a trusted friend, find a coach or mentor (ensuring it's someone who displays empathy and compassion, yet will not let you get away with excuses) to help you through the tough stages. Your future may well depend on reaching that inner trust.

What will be the first step to elicit trust in your happenstance?

Author's Bio: 

Peggy Lee Hanson is expert at helping women (and a few lucky men!) experiencing loss of any proportion, to mentor and guide them through their journey with proven strategies, tools, compassion, and support.