If someone wants to improve their communication skills and to make it easier for them to talk to others, a number of ideas could enter their mind. Firstly, they could think about getting a book on communication, and secondly, they could decide to go to places where they can talk to people.

This can show that they are someone who is proactive, as opposed to someone that just waits for things to happen. Here, one will be taking matters into their own hands and doing what they need to do in order to improve themselves and this area of their life.

Another Option

It could seem as though this approach is the only one that will allow them to change their life. After all, if they don’t do anything how will they be able to change this area of their life or to develop themselves?

However, while this might seem to be the case, it doesn’t mean that there are not other things that they can do that will assist them. In addition to what they can do externally, there is also what they can do internally.


What will also serve them is to be aware of how they see themselves when it comes to this area of their life. At this point in time, they might see themselves as someone who is not good at talking to others.

If they did, there is the chance that they wouldn’t be focusing on this area of their life. Taking this into account, they can start giving their attention to the idea that they are good at talking to others and to take away their attention from the view that they are not.

A New Focus

So whenever they perceive themselves as someone who is not good at talking to others, they can become aware of this. Being aware of this and not trying to resist this will be the key.

As if they try to resist what is taking place, they will be empowering the current view that they have of themselves. Yet, through simply noticing when this happens and not feeding into this view, they won’t be strengthening it any longer.

Creative Visualisation

Along with being aware of how they see themselves, they can also take the time to imagine themselves in different social settings. There can be how they see other people responding to them and how they feel during this time.

When it comes to the former, one can imagine other people being happy to see them, smiling, and listening to what they have to say. On the other hand, when it comes to the latter, they can imagine that they feel relaxed, energised, connected and powerful, for instance.


If one no longer feeds into how they have seen themselves for all this time and uses the power of their imagination, in addition to reading and spending time around others, they may find that they are able to progress a lot faster than they would otherwise. As with most things in life, they will need to be patient and persistent.

At first, giving their attention to a new version of themselves and using their imagination to imagine different scenarios might seem like a waste of time. But, if they stick with this, it should soon pay off.

Author's Bio: 

Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, three hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/

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