With January behind us and Valentine’s day fast approaching, a lot of people are starting to feel the sometimes inescapable pressure that comes with being single at this time of the year.

And whilst many singletons take it in their stride, professing to be single by choice and celebrating singledom, millions of people all around the world are finding the search for true love a rather arduous task.

With men and women’s roles in society blurrier than ever, women wanting to be strong, independent and vulnerable at the same time, and men swearing to not know how to deal with women any more, how is one to know what to do to find the one?

A lot of men think they have to have life figured out before they get into a serious relationship; a good job, cash in the bank, that’ll surely attract women.

Women, on the other hand, forever comparing ourselves to the seemingly perfect and sexy girls portrayed in the media, think it’s all about the looks.

In reality, as Jessie J sings, it’s not about the money, and it’s not about the looks either.

Recent research shows that the number one attribute men are attracted to in a woman is her… smile!

Followed by:

2. Her eyes
3. How she walks and moves her body
4. How she talks
5. Shyness
6. Coolness
7. Quirkiness
8. Her shape & curves
9. Her self-esteem and confidence
10. Her scent

And boys, the top qualities most sought after in a man are:

1. Confidence
2. Ambition
3. A sense of humour
4. Passion
5. Intelligence
6. Sociability
7. Communication skills
8. Positivity
9. Looks
10. Independence

Do you agree? Millions of us do! So, could it be that our perceptions and reality are mismatched? And if so, how can we fix this?

Read part 2 of Confidence In Love and find out how to find true and lasting love.

Author's Bio: 

Anna Aparicio is regarded as Ireland's top female NLP/Hypnosis Life Coach. A Confidence and Motivation Expert, she has helped hundreds of people all around the world feel empowered, super confident, and lead happier more succesful lives. With a unique blend of Neuro-linguistic Programming, cutting edge personal development tools, and a contagious sense of humour and zest for life, Anna is renowned for getting results fast. Now you can get her free report WHY YOU'LL NEVER GET WHAT YOU WANT UNLESS YOU DO THIS at http://www.delite.ie