Someone once said that the difference between ethics and etiquette is the presence of others. Etiquette is applicable when there are other people around, like cleaning your nose or passing gas. But when no one is around, the rules don’t matter. But for ethics, the rules matter whether people are present or not.

Consideration of others is not so much etiquette but ethics. If you have an empty bottle and you throw it into the bushes because no one else is looking is simply being inconsiderate. But, if your sense of consideration is deep, you will wait for the nearest trash bin.

Such is a mark of wellness and empowerment – when we see the world equally or even more valuable than ourselves. Oftentimes, people only care if they are affected. People didn’t care about the climate change issue until the flood submerged their houses. Families will only donate to cancer research if someone in their family is suffering of this disease. But true consideration is making sure that our actions and behaviors wouldn’t hurt or damage others even if we have been victims or not.

But where does consideration come from? Various researches have found out that it comes from at least five sources:

a. A memory with caring parents

Consideration can be an inherited behavior. When both parents are very considerate of others, chances are their children will grow up showing the same behavior. It acts like an auto-reminder from an inner voice. Before you throw away plastic bottle into the bushes, you can hear your mother saying, “That is not good” in your mind.

b. Acquired behavior from a caring community

Consideration is also a learned behavior. It has been established that people who grow up in a caring community are very considerate ones. Anecdotal evidences point out that those who have lived in rural and farming communities – where animals are nurtured and cared for – become very considerate even if they move to the big city.

c. An intuition for compassion and caring

Consideration it seems is also an innate character of being human. We have a natural tendency to look out for another. This is an intuition developed through evolution of surviving against the more ferocious species in the forest. The only problem is that oftentimes we don’t pay attention to our intuition.

Cathrine Margit Moller, healer, coach, counselor and therapist based in Canada, has developed a unique tool in helping people using her intuitive approach. Such a process helps clients get in touch with their own intuition.

d. A result of media exposure

Sometimes, consideration is a result of exposure to the news reports about the state of the world and what is happening to the environment. Media exposure creates consciousness which brings out the natural ability to be considerate of others.

e. A fruit of a spiritual experience

And lastly, consideration is a fruit of a spiritual experience. Those who feel the miracle of God or those who have grown in spiritual life usually become very considerate. All religions teach goodness and compassion. And those who are very true to their faith practice consideration as a form of being godlike to others.

Author's Bio: 

Cathrine Margit Moller was born and raised in Denmark
She began her career in radio and television, and worked in that capacity until moving to Canada in 1998.

For the past twenty-six years, she has pursued a career in the healing arts at the same time, focusing on alternative health care and healing. By training under some of the leading wellness experts in the world, Cathrine keeps escalating her quest toward personal excellence, so she can offer you the best of the healing arts. This has included studies in Denmark, the U.S., Canada, and England, studying under leading experts in alternative medicine.

Her background in hypnotherapy is extensive. In 1999, she was certified Hypnotist by the 'National Guild of Hypnotists' and certified Master Hypnotist at the 'Ontario Hypnosis Centre' in 2000. Her work in hypnosis and hypnotherapy is diverse, and includes clinical use of hypnosis designed to empower her clients in areas ranging from the stresses and problems of their everyday lives, to past life regressions, and Self-Hypnosis training. She has also been certified as a hypnocoach by Dr. Lisa Halpin.
Her expertise also includes Somatic Healing, Reconnective Healing, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), NGH, and Reiki, all of which offer powerful but simple solutions to a range of physical and emotional issues. She also offers NLP, which offers additional access to identifying self-limiting behaviors. These techniques are discussed at more length elsewhere on this site.

Her Personal Mission Statement
Cathrine sees people as incredible beings of infinite potential, whom she can empower and guide toward fulfilling on their goals and their dreams. As an Intuitive, Cathrine knows the Universe and trusts it to steer her in the right direction. Her goal is to help people, and enable them to find their full potential, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Her greatest joy is in seeing a person evolve into all they can become, on every level.

She looks for the miracles in everyday life, and uses them to connect strongly to the forces that enable her to tap into the forces that have shaped a person’s life. As an intuitive, she uses her abilities to uncover the old and unproductive patterns that keep people “stuck,” working with them to purge the unproductive patterns that entrap them.

Cathrine’s own life has had personal challenges that have informed and transformed her, the most significant being when she was diagnosed with apparent MS. Rather than regarding this as a limitation, she has embraced it and used for personal transformation. Working with it in her personal practice, she has not only brought herself back to good health, but has used it to inform and illuminate her life’s path