All of us at some point or another have been asked or we’ve asked the question “How was your day?” Generally speaking people are well intended and ask out of their kind heartedness and concern. However, upon inspection this unassuming question can unexpectedly handicap our intent at conscious evolvement and trap us in our ego. This is because this common question is very leading and we rush to answer it without much awareness.

The question forces our mind into the past and asks us to make a judgement. I often chuckle or remain puzzled about how to answer the question, knowing full well that the question is an invitation to tell a “story.” I know I’ll have to take a point of view either good or bad. If I say “I had a bad day,” then I fall into the trap of victim. My mind will find evidence throughout the day that caused my bad day. If I’m not aware I may find myself feeding the ego’s “poor me” story to another person. This only strengthens the ego’s hold on you.

Answering the question with “I had a good day” is certainly a better choice. However labeling the day “good” is judging the day. The answer infers the possibility of a bad day. We can’t have a “good” without “bad.” Always proclaiming that I had a “good” day may create denial and resistance of a “bad” day when it occurs. In judging the day “good,” we may or may not be affirming something we believe. The result may be an unconscious tension or contradiction.

So how should we answer the question? There is no right or wrong but it is certainly more neutral to look back at your day as perfect. The word perfect doesn’t mean good nor bad. In fact a perfect day may include tough moments, challenges or opportunities for growth. Although the word “perfect” is still a label, you can shed a non-judgmental and impersonal light on the day. Perfect implies that the day was as it should have been. How could it have been otherwise? “It is as it is” is a cornerstone of spiritual philosophy. You can relinquish the need to evaluate and entertain a “story” of the past by accepting that the day brought you exactly what you needed.

So the next time someone asks you “How was your day?” you can smile and say “as it always is, perfect!”

Author's Bio: 

Craig Villarrubia is a Spiritual Mentor, Speaker and Life Coach. He is a Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist with a background in Eastern philosophy. If you're inspired by spiritual growth and self development visit him at On his site you'll find FREE articles, videos and podcasts that serve as a resource to spiritual enlightenment. Or you can connect with Craig on facebook at