If one is going through a challenging time or if they are just confused about something, they might end up asking a friend/family member for advice. This could be because they see them as someone who can help.

A Special Bond

At the same time, it might come down to the fact that they trust this person. And this means that it will be normal for them to reach out to them no matter what they are going through.

There are likely to be moments when they will be able to asset them and moments when they are unable to do so. Even so, one could find that they feel better by just having this person to talk to.

A Direct Approach

Alternatively, one could look into what they can do change what is taking place and end up taking action. For example, if one is having problems at work, they could go at speak to their manager.

If this doesn’t lead to their desired outcome, they could end up finding somewhere else to work. Now, this is not to say that they won’t speak to a friend or a family member, for instance, what it means is that they won’t wait around.

Self-Development

Then again, one might end up looking for a book to read; with this being seen as a way for them to change their circumstances. This doesn’t mean that they will read a novel, as this is unlikely to take place.

What they are likely to do is to look for a book that goes into what they are struggling with; which means that it is going to be some kind of self-help book. And in today’s world, there is no shortage when it comes to these kinds of books.

Food For Thought

Once they have read a book, or just a few chapters, they may know what is it that they need to do. This could be a sign that the book has told them what to do, or it may have allowed them to change their outlook.

What this shows is that one doesn’t always need to read a whole book in order to get what they need. There is also the chance that just the title of a book is enough to change their life.

Stepping Back

The reason for this is that it will cause them to think differently, or it could just serve as a reminder of what they need to do. It could then be said that it doesn’t always take a lot for change to take place.

At times, one may need to do a lot, and at others, they might just need to make a few simple changes. This shows how important it is to be able to take a step back and to reflect.

Another Route

There is also the chance that one will feel the need to go and see a psychic or a tarot reader, and this may have been something that has taken place in the past. If they haven’t seen one before, they could have mixed feelings about it.

On the one hand, one could feel as though this would be a good thing for them to do, and on the other, they might wonder if it will actually help. One way of looking at this would be to say that their mind is in conflict with their heart.

The Next Step

However, it might not be long until they have found someone who they would like have a reading with. This could be a time when they will have one question that they would like answered, or they may have a number of them.

The reader could then offer their feedback and say that what they tell them is not set in stone, so to speak. Therefore, there is going to be no need for them to get too caught up with what they hear.

Two Experiences

Even so, if one hears something positive they might be only too happy to believe that this is the truth; whereas if they were to hear something negative, they might not pay too much attention to it.

Or, one could accept everything they hear no matter if it is negative or positive. The fact it has come out of this person’s mouth will be the only thing that matters, and this will show that one has put this person on a pedestal.

A Power Imbalance

When this happens, it will be as if one one’s mouth is wide open and everything that is offered will go straight into their mouth. It won’t matter what this person comes out with, as one will just go along with it.

This reader will then be planting seeds in their mind, and without releasing it, one will end up doing what they can to make sure that what they hear comes true. What this emphasis is that one is not just an observer of their reality; they are playing an active role in what takes place.

A Big Effect

One would then have gone there looking for answers and they will come away feeling disempowered. With this is mind, it will be vital for one to make sure that they don’t get too attached to what they hear; that is, of course, unless they want something to happen.

So as one is playing a part in what takes place in their life, it illustrates why they need to be careful when it comes to what they believe. At the end of the day, what someone like this comes out with is not the absolute truth.

A Deeper Look

What comes out of their mouth is being influenced by what its taking place within them, and this is going to include their own baggage. Thus, the more issues they have the harder it will probably be for them to offer true insight.

When one finds it hard to trust, it can cause them to become dependent on these kinds of people. They might not trust their own judgement or that their life will go as they want it to go.

Conclusion

Another way of looking at this would be to say that one is looking for someone to give them permission in life. So if a reader tells them that something will happen, it will, and if they don’t, it won’t happen.

There are clearly a number of things to consider when it comes to having a reading, as well as what needs to be kept in mind afterwards. One of the main things is that one doesn’t give their power away.

Author's Bio: 

Prolific writer, author, and coach, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand four hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. His current projects include 'A Dialogue With The Heart' and 'Communication Made Easy'.

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