It could be said that the ideal will be someone to spend most of their time living in their body. There will then be times when their awareness leaves their body and goes into their head, but this won’t be the norm.

When this does happen, it could be because they are using some kind of technological equipment at work or at home, for instance. This could also happen when they don’t want to face how they feel.

Inner Sanctuary

When they are not using any technology or are not overwhelmed by how they feel, they will be able to inhabit their body. Through being in their body, they will be able to relax and to feel at peace.

Furthermore, they will be able to tune into how they feel and to connect to their needs. Another way of looking at this would be to say that one will be in touch with their true essence.

One Benefit

Being this way is going to have a positive effect on their relationships and it will most likely allow them to lead a life that is fulfilling. This is due to the connection that they have with their own needs.

The needs that are in their body will tell them what they need and whether they should or shouldn’t do something. Ultimately, this information will allow them to behave like an individual.

At Ease

When there are dramas going on around them or their life is not going as planned, for instance, they will be able to settle down into their body. There will be no need for them to be in their head.

If they were unable to do this and stayed in their head, they could end up being caught up in what is going on around them. Thankfully, they won’t be a prisoner of their mind, allowing them to get out of their monkey mind.

Another Benefit

What they are also likely to find is that being in their body enables them to feel connected and powerful. Along with the connection that they have to themselves, will be the connection that they have to everything else.

It will be this connection that allows them to feels strong and as though they have an effect on their life. Ultimately, one will look like a whole human being and they will be operating as a whole human being.

A Radically Different Scenario

However, while this is how some people experience life, there are going to be others that don’t. As a result of this, they will look like a whole human being but that will generally be about as far as it will go.

Therefore, irrespective of whether they are using some kind of technological equipment at work or at home, they are likely to be in their head. Furthermore, their emotions could often be out of control.


Consequently, one may find that it is normal for them to be on edge and that it is incredibly difficult for them to relax. But even though living in this way will be stressful, it doesn’t mean that it will be possible for them to simply get back into their body.

Living on the surface of themselves is going to cause them problems, that is clear, but it could be what feels safe. In a way, it will be as if their life is under threat, which is why they need to spend so much time on alert.


They can then be in a position where they are typically hyper aware of what is going on around them, yet they will rarely have any idea about what is taking place within them. Their life is then unlikely to be a reflection of their true-self.

It could generally be a mystery as to what their needs are, and it is then going to be a challenge for them to have fulfilling relationships and to live a life of purpose. And when they are disconnected from their body, they will probably feel disconnected from everyone and everything else.

A Dangerous Place

What is going on in their mind is likely to be projected onto the external world, with this being the reason why they believe that the world is not a safe place. If they are able to feel at peace, it could show that they have taken something.

The big question is why don’t they feel safe enough to be in their body? Firstly, there is a strong chance that they are carrying a lot of pain in this part of their being and, unless this is dealt with, it is unlikely that they will be able to get back in there.

Way Back

If one has experienced life in this way for as long as they can remember, it may show that their early years were very traumatic. This could have been a time when they experienced some kind of abuse and/or neglect.

As a child or even as a baby, leaving their body may have been the only thing that they could do to handle the extreme pain that they were in. This time in their life may have been filled with trauma.


So, living on the surface of themselves can just be part of who they are now that they are an adult, but when they were growing up, it would have been something that they had to do to survive. As a child, it probably would have taken a little while for them to leave their body and, now that they are an adult, it will probably take them time to get back into their body.

If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.

Author's Bio: 

Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, one hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

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