Anger is one emotion we all have. Anger can be both a blessing and a curse. Those who get out of control with their anger are often described as having low emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the skill of being able to understand and regulate our emotions as well as sense and understand the emotions of others.

People with high levels of emotional intelligence tend to be better leaders, do better at work and school and have more quality interpersonal relationships. Those who lack emotional intelligence tend to have all sorts of problems. Turmoil might include low levels of closeness with others, a history of failed relationships (including friendships), and reduction of compassion for others feelings, wants or needs.

Skills in emotional intelligence are important because we are able to use this skills to connect better with others. emotional intelligence as a skill helps us to see things from another persons emotional experience as well as their mental one. When we feel "felt" by another, we tend to not get as upset or angry. Empathy helps aid in reducing our anger reaction and relating to the person we are engaged with.

Common problems with having empathy toward others are often caused by using filters. Filters are what is used when we listen but have a response already running in our own mind. Filters also cause us to hear things differently than what is being said. When we learn how to suspend our filters, we tend to show more empathy toward other people.

Empathy can be learned by first understanding it, then practicing it. It takes time to become more emotionally intelligent, but anyone can learn how to do this. As ones' empathy goes up, the feeling of anger and frustration will go down. All skills learned in anger management course or online anger management class.

Author's Bio: 

Ari Novick, Ph.D. is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a certified anger management provider for both adults and adolescents. Dr. Novick is also an adjunct professor of psychology at Pepperdine University's Graduate School of Education and Psychology. His corporate website is and his innovative online anger management class is available at