When someone is in touch with their feelings and needs, it could be said that they are in touch with their true-self. And if it is possible for these aspects to have an effect on their life, it will mean that their life will be an expression of who they are.

The Ideal

One way of looking at this would be to say that this is the ideal way to experience life, and this is because they will be able to fulfil their needs. This is not to say that their life will always go as they want it to; what it means is that they will be used to feeling as though they are on the right track, so to speak.

Through experiencing life in this way, it will be a lot easier for them to handle the moments when this isn’t the case. But while this can be seen as the ideal way to experience life, it is not something that everyone can relate to.

Two Experiences

When one is out of touch with their-true-self, they may realise that this is the case, or they might not. If they are aware of the fact that their life is not an expression of who they are, it will give them the chance to do something about it.

However, if one is not aware of this, there will be no reason for them to do anything about what is taking place. It will then be seen as who they are and that could be as far as it will go.

A Positive Experience

Yet even if one is out if touch with who they are, it doesn’t mean that they won’t enjoy their time on this planet. The reason for this is that they could play a role that allows them to receive positive feedback from others.

As a result of this, it will stop them from having to see that they are out of touch with themselves. But if they were to spend a certain amount of time in their own company (and without any kind of device), this is something that could soon change.


During this time, it won’t be possible for them to receive the kind of feedback that they would usually receive, and it could then cause their true feelings to arise. Having said that, one could find another way to avoid how they feel.

What this will show is that they are doing everything they can do run away from themselves, and unless this starts to change, they will continue to play a role. Yet if they did want to change how they experience life, it could be a sign that they are no longer receiving the same feedback from others.

Loss of Control

Their priority will then be to experience life in the same way as they did before, and this means they won’t feel the need to find their true-self. They are then not experiencing as much control as they did before and they will want this to change.

This can then be a time when they start to look for ways to change their circumstances, and they could end up being drawn to self-development. The same thing could also happen if one was to see that they are out of touch with themselves.

The Solution

It could be said that the reason why they would be drawn to this is because it will be seen as something that will allow them to change their life. When one has the need to find their true-self, they could come into contact with information that will allow this to take place.

At the same time, they could end up covering up their false-self, and create another false-self instead. And if one simply wants their life to return how it was before, they could also end up doing the same thing.


In this case, they will have a different intention, but they will end with the same outcome. What this shows is that self-development can enable one to let go of what doesn’t belong to them, or it can allow them to add another mask on top of the one they are already wearing.

Letting Go

When it comes to the former, it can be a time where one will be looking into what is taking place in their mind and their body. One will not only be looking into what they believe; they will also be looking into if they are carrying an emotional build-up and/or trauma.

There can then be what one needs to add, and there can also be what they need to take away. Therefore, things like affirmations and positive thinking will play a part, but that won’t be all there is to it.

Adding More Layers

When it relates to the latter, there will be no reason for them to take a look at what is taking place at a deeper level. This is not to say that they won’t want to change how they feel; what it means is that they will want to do this without having to change themselves.

There is then going to be no reason for them to let go of anything; the only thing they will need to do is to add things to their mind. Thus, positive thinking and affirmations could be seen as the only things that matter.


One can then come to the conclusion that they are developing themselves, but this is not going to be the complete truth. It might be more accurate to say that they have found another way to avoid themselves.

Yet unless one has the desire to find their true-self, they are unlikely to change their behaviour. Being drawn to things that will allow them to avoid themselves will be what feels comfortable.


Nevertheless, if one does want to get in touch with who they are and to express this part of themselves, it might be necessary for them to work with a therapist. This is unlikely to be something that will take place straight away, but it will occur if one keeps going.

Author's Bio: 

Prolific writer, author, and coach, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. His current projects include 'A Dialogue With The Heart' and 'Communication Made Easy'.

To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/

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