Have you ever experienced an encounter with the opposite sex where you felt like you were communicating so precisely, in direct language, and your intentions were completely misconstrued? Okay...it is a rhetorical question. How can we learn to understand and honor our differences with love, compassion and an open heart? My intention with the following essay on men and women is to open the conversation in a healthy way.

Masculine and Feminine characteristics are clearly very different energies. A man who exudes strong masculinity is often a lone wolf, independent, competitive, physically strong, forgetful, logical, tough, and acutely self aware. And what I mean by acutely self aware is a focus on taking care of his needs without consideration of what his female companion might need. Some call this self-centered, and I don’t as it is too negative for the many good things about taking care of your own needs.

What you will notice with a women who lives from an extreme feminine place is a gentle collaborator, nurturing, loving, adapting, empathizing with a relaxed receptivity to change. Often women are co-dependent because they receive what comes to them with the intention of nurturing and loving it back into balance. It’s a woman’s intuition that allows her to feel what is out of balance. The generous way a woman serves in this capacity is a beautiful thing. However, if a woman is not tuned into her own needs and inner nature or intuition, life can easily become unhealthy in relationship with a man.

This is far from an exhaustive list of characteristics, and yet the stark contrast of energies is apparent. We all carry both energies within, and each person has a unique spot on the spectrum from extreme masculine to extreme feminine. From the extremes noted here, it is a no wonder women lose their identity in relationships, and men are so confused by women and their flip flop behavior.

From this woman’s perspective, I have displayed the feminine characteristics noted above for most of my life. I want a man to honor all the aspects of my softer and nurturing approach to life and relationships. My experience is that men love my femininity during sensual and sexual times, and then “don’t get too emotional on me now” can be the refrain when I have overextended my empathizer and need some time to recenter myself.

As I understand men and their energies, I see a strength in mind and body men possess that is calming and peaceful to my inner soul. There is a determination that I admire from the toughness and competitive male stance. Forgetfulness is a vulnerable and innocent place that has a sweet honesty. These are the perceptions and attitudes I am embracing to fully appreciate and love our amazing men.

We need to take responsibility individually for the impact of our own true nature and rebalance ourselves. The world needs our best efforts. I am curious how our communication would change with the ability to stand in each other’s shoes, and see the positive side of our opposing characteristics?

Author's Bio: 

Betty Louise (aka, Coach Betty), US Radio personality, has interviewed progressive thinking experts, artists and innovators from all over the world. Author John Gray of Mars/Venus fame, Grammy Award Winning Freddie Ravel, and brain researcher Jill Bolte Taylor have been some of Coach Betty’s amazing guests. Her show “Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life” airs on Positive World Radio Network (PWRNradio.com).

Coach Betty lives in the San Francisco Bay Area surrounded by innovators in the green movement, alternative medicine, and technology. For the last 20 years, she has coached and interviewed pioneers, artists and experts that have brought about positive change.

She earned her credentials at the Coaches Training Institute (CTI), the CTI Co-Active Leadership Program, the Center for Right Relationship (CRR), and the Academy of Intuition Medicine.  She is also a Master Trainer for the Stanford Chronic Disease Self-Management Program and co-author of the book “Understanding Fibromyalgia: A Guide for Family and Friends.”

Diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis more than 20 years ago, host Betty Louise knows pain inside out. After 15 years of pharmaceuticals, she now fully trusts her inner guide and follows her own natural recipe for a healthy life which includes drawing on the healing of her inner beauty and sexuality. Her expertise and experience have inspired hundreds of her clients return to their inner truth, and find the path to true meaning and happiness.
She is an eco-coach who works with individuals, partnerships/couples, and organizations. She gets quick results when readiness to change outweighs fear. Her phone sessions and teleseminars will open you up to the possibility of living an organic and orgasmic life. anyone, anytime, anywhere…with grace and confidence.

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