If someone is going through a challenging time in their life, they may hope that that this will soon change. What this could show is that one area of their life is not going as they would like it to go, or there might be a number of areas that are like this.

Another Factor

In addition to this, there is going to be how long their life has been this way for. This could be how their life has been for a few weeks, or it might have been this way for a number of months.

It is likely to be a lot easier for them to handle what is taking place if it hasn’t been this way for very long. But if it has been going on for quite some time, it is likely to be a lot harder for them to keep their head up.

Holding On

This is then the same as what would happen if one was to hold onto a heavy weight for a certain period of time. In the beginning, they can feel strong and as though they will be able to hold it forever.

Yet, as times goes by and their muscles begin to tire, their outlook is gradually going to change. Not only will they need to use more physical energy to hold it; they will also need to use more mental energy to stay focused.

One Area

What this could show is that one is in a relationship that is not going very well, and this might make it difficult for them to focus on other areas of their life. For example, when they are at work, they might not be able to be in the moment.

As a result of this, it is not going to be possible for them to perform at their best, and this could end up creating another problem. In the short-term, they might be able to get away with it, but if their behaviour doesn’t change before long, it will be a different story.

Sinking Deeper

One can then end up in a position where they hope their relationships will get better and that they don’t end up losing their job. Their mind is going to have another thing to think about and this will create even more pressure.

One problem has then ended up creating another problem, and it is then not going to be one more area of their life that is not going in the right direction. From here, it might only be a matter of time before other areas of their life start to crumble.

Another Experience

Alternatively, one could find they are in a relationship that is not very fulfilling, their career is no better, and their health is also in a bad way. But although this is the case, they could still hope that it will all change for the better.

It then doesn’t take a lot of brain power to realise that it is highly unlikely that their life will get better; in fact, it will probably get a lot worse. So instead of wasting energy hoping that their life will change, it will be far better for them to actually do something about it.

Two Parts

Through taking this approach, they will have the desire to experience a certain outcome and they will do what they can to make it happen. One is then going to be using their mind and their body.

When one behaves in this way, it will show that they are in touch with their own personal power. They are not going to see themselves as someone who doesn’t have any control over their life.

Not the Same

If someone like this was to hope that something will change, it could be a sign that it relates to something that is out of their control. One could have a family member or a friend who is unwell, or one could feel this way if they have been taken hostage, for instance.

It could be said that even though the hope they are experiencing won’t have an effect on what is taking place externally, it will have an effect on what is taking place within them. When it comes to the first example, it will give them strength and, when it relates to the second example, it might keep them alive.


What stands out then is that when one allows their life to be defined by hope, it is going to stop them from being able to live a fulfilling life. Their life is going to be out of their hands, and they will have to wait and see what happens.

At a deeper level, this is likely to show that one feels powerless, and this could be how they have felt for as long as they can remember. Consequently, it is not just going to be how they feel; it will be how life is.

The Truth

One is then going to have no other choice than to put up with what is taking place and to ‘hope’ that their life will change. There may have been moments in their life when certain things have changed, but this unlikely to have had much of an effect on their life as a whole.

If one was to take a step back and to look into what their early years were like, they may find that this was when they first felt powerless. This may have been a time when they were abused and/or neglected.


Time will have passed, but what took place all those years ago will still be defining their life. Due to what happened to them when they were younger, they might be carrying trauma.

If one can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they may need to work with a therapist or a healer.

Author's Bio: 

Prolific writer, author, and coach, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand three hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. His current projects include 'A Dialogue With The Heart' and 'Communication Made Easy'.

To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/

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