Both guys and girls suffer from lack of confidence around the people they fancy and want to date, or just have a brief fling with.

The problem seems less pronounced for women as society puts pressure on men to approach them. Despite the social norms, women are under pressure too, and more and more they need to be the ones that break the ice, or they need to at least be able to show their true selves in the company of both men and other women.

Let’s go over some tips that can help you become more confident around guys.


First things first – relax! I know it is not as easy as it sounds, but to put in perspective, not everyone can like you. If you don’t show who you are, no one can like you.
Another thing to note is, is that men will most likely love to hang around a woman. It’s a fact. So, you can always…

Be Friendly

Be friendly with all guys. Both with those you like and those you don’t. Believe it or not, most of them are equally shy as you are and are likely dreaming about a woman like you talking to them and breaking the ice.

And, there can’t be anything wrong with some innocent…


Even though flirting may be hard to define, as we all have different boundaries, it is always fun. Especially if you make it clear to the other party what your true intentions towards them are.

And flirting with guys that you don’t really fancy is just…


Yes, it is practice for the real thing. Don’t kid yourself; knowing how to behave around guys and how they will react to you, what you say, how you move and how you will present who you are is all about practices.

Or rather, leaving a good impression is about practice. Sure, some women get it good from the start, some learned it long ago. But don’t let that stop you.

The truth is it’s never too late to change. Don’t believe for a second that you will lack the will when you are old, because you won’t; you will still have your dreams and desires. So act now!

It May Take A While

This is something that may not sound pleasing and it is uncomfortable to hear, but nothing can happen overnight. It may take you some time to get it right, to calibrate your behavior so men find it interesting and pleasing and want to get to know you better on a constant basis.

Also, you will likely make some mistakes that sting your emotions, but hey, that’s life, right?

The Road

The road to being confident and comfortable around guys is a road to break your comfort zone. It is a road that is satisfying in itself, even before you get where you are going.

I would even argue that getting there may feel anticlimactic. As while we travel, we grown, we advance as human beings, but once we get there, we stagnate and slowly decline until we find something new to go after.

So, learn how to enjoy the process. Learn how to love yourself on the way. The rest will follow.

Author's Bio: 

Christopher Montrose was featured all over the internet. He writes about hypnosis and subliminal audio and their benefits.

As subliminals have helped him grow immensely, he suggests that you try a subliminal that will help with confidence with men or a subliminal mp3 that will teach you how to flirt with men.