How to Effectively Channel Your Grief after Losing a Loved One

Losing a loved one is never easy. No matter a person’s age or health, we always grieve when it is time to say goodbye. However, grief should be managed in a healthy way. Mourning too long can disrupt normal life and make it harder to recover. Ignoring or repressing grief can lead to depression and an eventual outburst of pain and mourning. Here are some effective ways to manage your grief following a loved one’s passing.

Plan Ahead

None of us like to think about the inevitable future passing of someone we care about. But as our parents age, it is helpful to at least give some thought to final arrangements, so when the time comes, it won’t be so overwhelming to make decisions. Spouse dependency is another reason to plan ahead so that everything is basically in order if a loss should occur unexpectedly. In advance, you can ask a loved one’s preferences so they can have things the way they want them. Although you will still grieve, your feelings may be less intense since you have less to worry about when someone passes.

Consult Professionals

Whatever last rites you have planned for a loved one, or no rites at all, you may find it helpful to consult a local funeral home. The director can advise you of available services and products that may help you to make important decisions. You may be able to get referrals to religious congregations and clergy for spiritual support. It may be a good idea to meet with a therapist to discuss your feelings of loss and hurt. There are many professionals who are skilled in working with people who have lost a beloved friend or family member. Don’t grieve alone.

Stay Connected

Everyone should have a network of friends and relatives that serves as an informal support group when needed. Social media makes it easy and convenient to stay in touch via Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and other platforms to share news and arrange gatherings. Quick notes of encouragement and offers to help can also be conveyed in less time than it would take to buy and handwrite a condolence card. Phone calls and text message are also helpful. Don’t hesitate to ask for a listening ear or a helping hand when you feel down.

Find Solace

Some who are grieving find a church or other religious program to attend. Others join a grief support group. Arrange special events to commemorate the loss of the loved one. Make it a happy or peaceful event that helps to begin the process of healing.
Saying goodbye to those we care about is painful and difficult. Following steps like these can help to manage the emotional difficulties of losing someone you care about.