Date Rape is when a couple get together for an agreed date and one partner pushes the other one into sex when they don’t really want to.

Mandy was sixteen and was in her boyfriend’s bedroom, lying on his bed, kissing him passionately. There was no-one else at home. He started to undress her and put his hand between her legs. When she didn’t say “no” he kept on going. When Mandy felt his penis starting to push at the opening of her vagina she suddenly got scared and started to push him away, saying “no, no, no. I don’t want to go all the way”. He was just too excited and pushed his penis in and kept going until he ejaculated.

Usually it is difficult to prove Date Rape. Look at Mandy’s situation. Isn’t she partly responsible for her loss of virginity? After all, she was in her boyfriend’s bedroom, knowing his family were not home.
She knew she was turning him on and she let him kiss her passionately and “feel her up”.

What do I think? Even though I’m a woman who identifies with the pain of every woman who is forced to have sex when she doesn’t want to, I understand that women have a responsibility in how much they tease a guy and give him the wrong idea about being OK for him to go ahead and have sex.

TRUTH FOR GIRLS

Remember the amounts of testosterone that guys have compared to girls?
Testosterone is the hormone that helps guys turn on so strongly. Guys are made of flesh and blood and hormones and if a girl teases him with her sexual availability he may eventually expect her to “go all the way”.
The only real protection a girl has from that pushy old testosterone is her own common sense.
Talk about how far you want to go with your guy when you are NOT in a passionate embrace.
Make your expectations really clear to him and…KEEP OUT OF HIS BEDROOM when there is no-one home. After all, a guy’s bedroom is his private palace. It’s where he has been happily masturbating himself and fantasising about having a flesh and blood woman in bed with him for several early teenage years. By the time you start kissing passionately with him, he can’t help himself from going ahead and having full-on sex with you. It’s like all his dreams have finally come true.

So come on girls. Be realistic about expecting a guy to stop when you have made him sexually aroused.
Remember that saying: “If you can’t stand the heat…keep out of the kitchen.”

TRUTH FOR GUYS

The girl is just not physically able to stop you once your lust takes over. Be the chivalrous knight in white shining armour. Never let your lust take over.

Definitely learn that the woman means No when she says No and you should respect that.

Author's Bio: 

Dr. Janet Hall is a psychologist, hypnotherapist, sex therapist, author, professional speaker, trainer, and media consultant. Jan consults regularly with print media and is a frequent guest on talk-back radio and current affairs shows.

Jan was a regular for two years on the Sex Life television program in Australia. Her user-friendly strategies offer practical solutions to sexual and relationship issues so that you can have the love and the sensational sex that you deserve. Jan has a unique ability to encourage people to clarify their situation and solve their own problems with both heart (trusting intuition and feelings) and head (with logical analysis and rational prioritization). She believes that people deserve to feel empowered and allow themselves to be the best they can for the good of all. Jan has a happy knack of making psychology user friendly.

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