If someone was to think about what it is that they want to experience, a number of things could come to mind. They may want to have a successful business and/or loving relationships, for instance.

Now, regardless of what it is that they want to experience, what is clear is that they will need to play their part. Naturally, what they want is not just going to drop out of the sky and into their lap.

Moving Forward

Through being clear about what it is that they want, it will be necessary for them to look into what they need to do to materialise their goal/s. Once they are clear about what it is that they need to do, they can take action.

When it comes to how long this will take, it can all depend on what it is that they are working towards. But, the sooner they get the ball rolling, the sooner their life is going to change.

Fairly Straightforward

As the weeks and months go by, one may find that they are getting closer to what it is that they want to experience. Throughout his time, they may have made a note of a number of things that prove that they are getting closer.

The notes that they have made, along with how different their life is, will make it even easier for them to keep going. If what they are doing is truly in alignment with their true self, this will have given them the ability to hang in there during the setbacks.

The Main Reason

It has been said that the purpose of a goal is not primarily to achieve or attain something, it is actually to grow. Therefore, although someone will be - or might be - pleased once they have arrived at this point, this is only one part of it.

The other part of it is that thanks to what they have been through to get to this point, they will have been transformed. This process will have shaped them into someone else, into something else.

The Complete Opposite

On the other hand, someone could do all the "right" things, only to find that they don't get very far. They could find that it's often a case of one step forward, two steps back.

Just as they get to a certain milestone, something could happen that sends them back a few steps. Or, if they were to get to the finish line, so to speak, it might not be long until their life goes back to how it was.

Out of Their Grasp

What they want is then always going to be out of their reach or it will be lost just as soon as it is attained. One could come to the conclusion that someone or something 'out there' is holding them back.

According to their mind, this can be seen as the only thing that explains why their life is the way that it is. But, as they will have been doing all the "right" things, how else would they be?

The Being and the Doing

However, while taking the right steps externally is important, what is also important is be-ing in the right place internally. What this comes down to is that what they experience is not purely the result of what they do; it is also the result of what is taking place inside them.

This means that their thoughts, emotions, feelings and beliefs are having an impact on what is taking place externally. If one is caught up in their ego-mind and sees themselves as just an observer of their reality, it will be hard for them to accept this.

Solid Science

The law of resonance, which is a quantum physics law, says that everything is made up of vibrating energy. When two things are vibrating at the same frequency, they will be drawn together.

Considering this, to experience something, one will need to be vibrating at the same frequency as whatever it is that they want. This is why if one is not vibrating at the right frequency but they are doing all the right things, they will either repel what it is what they want or attain it and then push it away before long.

The Missing Part

Or, if they are able to hold onto what it is that they want, it will most likely take a hell of a lot of effort and be one big struggle. So, for one to be able to bring something in without needing to struggle and then to feel comfortable with it once it arrives, they will need to make sure that they are in the right place internally.

Firstly, it will be a good idea for one to see if they actually believe that they are worthy and deserving of whatever it is that they want. This is a massive part of it and something that can take a little while to fall into place.


If they can see that this is not the case, it is likely to show that they are carrying inner wounds that need to be resolved. By resolving these inner wounds, wounds that can be due to what they experienced during their childhood years and even whilst they were in their mother's womb, they will be able to know what they are worthy and deserving.

What this process will also do is change what they are vibrating and it will allow them to behave like a human being as opposed to a human doing. Also, through being mindful of what is taking place inside them and using their thoughts to create feelings that will keep their vibration "high", it will be easier for them to pull in what it is that they desire.


If one can relate to this, and they are ready to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided with the assistance of a therapist or healer.

Author's Bio: 

Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, self-worth, inner child and inner awareness. With over two thousand, seven hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/

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