Part I – L O V E!

When my son passed two and a half years ago, I told God the following: There better be a higher purpose for his death, and I want to know what it is!

Since then, my grieving process has included the unraveling and discovery of the higher meaning. I did not want to believe/accept the alternative: that his passing was one of the meaningless, random events of life.

I have, and still am, discovering this higher meaning. What I have learned from my own direct experience of asking and receiving inner guidance is that when we are confronted face to face with death, the ultimate frontier to be conquered is fear! Fear can only be conquered by love. We need to make friends with fear with love. We conquer fear by allowing ourselves to be broken by the pain without resisting it, in this case, death and then we become open and transparent so that all the concepts and ideas we have of death can dissolve and the only thing that remains is the truth. When I allowed myself to do this; to be broken by the pain while still remaining open in order to discover the meaning, I found that life in its pure form is never destroyed.

Fear of death is the fear of absolute dissolution, absolute extinction. This is not the truth because when all illusion of extinction is relinquished, life in its glorious vibrancy remains. Love is what guided me to trust in this.

Love is the fuel that has ignited the fire in my heart. It was what I needed to bring me back to the world of the living. Love is the primal force of nature that nourished me back to life. It has saved me from the reality of death, and the pain associated with it, which seemed to split me apart, shattering me into a million pieces.

Love has been the breath of life! Love enabled me to survive, and to eventually begin to thrive.

Author's Bio: 

For the last twenty-two years Medea Bavarella Chechik, M. Div., has lead her own private practice in Toronto. Medea is Transformational Psychotherapist and Relationship Coach, as well as a Feminine Power Coach. She has facilitated trainings in The Self in Transformation, Authentic Communication, Authentic Relationships, Dance Your Spirit Free and The Creative Process. She is currently facilitating seminars and workshops in Creating Conscious Relationships, and women spirituality circles Urban Goddess. For more information, visit