There many tools and understandings that relate to the golden age psychology, and today, I would like to impart to you the concept of the relationship triangle.

Between birth and three years of age, we believe that our parents are God. The relationship we observe between them and the way that each parent relates to our child self sets a blueprint at the subconscious level of how we will interpret relationships and relate to others for the rest of our lives, unless we do something about it.

The child functions from the subconscious, and at the subconscious level, even when we are grown ups, we project the role and vibration of our mom, dad or child self to everyone whom we meet. We are usually not aware of this, as it is something we do automatically and subconsciously.

And so we become our mom, dad or child self to everyone whom we meet and in turn, they fulfill the role of mom, dad or child self for us emotionally, based on who the person or circumstances the person reminds us of most. When we start observing this and paying attention to it, we can consciously take back these three roles or positions and transmute the karmic pattern behind the condition. Then we become able to relate to others and have them relate back to you in a way that is authentic. We can see people face to face, as Paul said, and not through a glass darkly of projections and counter projections based on the karmic condition we experienced in childhood. We stop automatically pegging people as, “This person reminds me of so and so, therefore I must behave with them in this way to have a sense of security and control.”

We have to be able to relate to people at the level of the Christ and not be limited because of preconceived notions and unresolved patterns at the level of the subconscious—the “gut reaction” that says I like or I don’t like that person and I already know what relating to them is going to be about. Often times our subconscious can give us a very accurate reading from a human standpoint but it is a self limiting matrix and we are talking about relating beyond the human, moving from a horizontal relationship to a vertical relationship where we interface through the Christ in each other, heart to heart, and not through our belly buttons. We trust no man at the level of the subconscious and yet we trust the Christ who can come through and work with each man.

It is very important to become masterful about how we relate to others because relationships are how we pass our initiations and balance our karma. If we are not able to get along with specific people while we are here on earth, we will have to learn to get along with them in the etheric retreats between embodiments. There is no escaping the initiation of loving our so-called “enemies,” who are self-styled and mirror back to us what we have unresolved in our own beings.

As we learn to master our relationship triangle, we are also learning to balance out our threefold flame, the presence of divine love, wisdom and power anchored in the heart. Our early experience of love, wisdom and power with our parents influence how we will perceive the nature of love, wisdom and power. As we sublimate this experience and subconscious position of human love, human wisdom and human power into Christ love, Christ wisdom and Christ power, we become more and more of our higher self and balance our threefold flame.

Author's Bio: 

Therese Emmanuel Grey is spiritual and relationship mentor who teaches the inner family archetypes to help heal individuals and families. She has co-authored two landmark books, Why We Do What We Do and The Psychology of Success. Her autobiography, Miracles, Masters and Mirth: Adventures in Spirituality and Self-Awareness, provides extraordinary insights on the purpose of life and can be found at Therese also wrote the beautifully illustrated children's book, The Legend of the Ancient of Days, available at Therese nurtures a fast-growing online community of spiritual seekers and holistic minded individuals at She also hosts several radio programs, including daily violet flame mantras and meditations at Therese teaches weekly classes, webinars and facilitator training courses from her home in Montana, including the well-loved Radiant Sherpa Retreat. She also offers private sessions, where she shares highly effective insights and rituals to help you connect to your angels and sponsoring master. Find out more at