This message/teaching, in which I give several quotes from God's Scriptures - The Holy Bible, is one that has, what amounts to an approximate PG-13 rating. Why is this message of teaching, so important? This is the same question I have presented in several messages and teachings I've given over the years, on this subject-matter. I will first say, it is in an area of sin-stronghold, that possibly brings more people down, both Christians and Non-Christians, than any other that exists, in this present world. Why is it for the most part, ignored and avoided? There are lots of online ministries who address it well but it is less of an overall ministry than is needed today, for the world population. I'll give this answer to my posed-question as to why it is not more-commonly addressed, than it should be, in a one-word answer, being: EMBARRASSMENT!

A protestant "LifeWay Christian Resources" Survey states, that "10 percent of Protestant churchgoers under 35 have previously left a church because they felt sexual misconduct was not taken seriously."

In an article by Chris Donaghue, Ph.D., - sex therapist, he states statistics that have shown, "A car was the third most popular destination for self-stimulation in 19% of women and 20% men."

I watched an interview of a man on a Dr. Phil TV show. The guy was involved in this very habit described above, regarding deviance from a car. Let me say, before I make statement about this, that this is not a habit of mine in my present or future. Neither is self stimulation in general. I felt however, that at that time in my life as a much younger man, that these types statistics and hearing testimonials of the type the man I have mentioned (he saying to Dr. Phil it was "normal expression"), caused me to think to myself that it's not really a serious sin. My conscious became seared with a hot iron, for a period of time, followed by unbearably, tormenting guilt. The Bible adversely says we must flee any type of fornication as Christians (1 Corinthians 6:18). This means not just the type I have given examples of but anything whatsoever that is sexually deviant. Why does this type of deviance involving any place self-satisfaction is involved, fall under the fornication category? Because, it always involves, either pornography (as with my past) or some type of mental, erotic fantasies. This type deviance as a whole, involves far more people than just those "within a car" statistics. Ministers or Christian Psychologists you may seek counsel from, may present the pretense saying they have never committed this type thing or anything similar to it, before in their own lives. However, except for very rare people, this statement, would be a lie.

I have mentioned a Pastor of a large church before in messages and teachings I have presented in the past, who kept evading to speak with me in counsel I asked for, about my former problem in the porn addiction category. However, he continually repeated putting me off. I decided it would be foolish-groveling, for me to ask again, once he had sloughed off counseling me for many months. I have also talked in the past about elders of one church I had a meeting with (not helpful due to counsel avoidance), and of my letters written to a number of men from churches in my area, with only 1 response, from a pastor experiencing my same problem. There was another pastor (not related to me), who confided with me in person about having the same, exact problem as well but no true counsel was given to me from either of them. I was the one asking for help but they likely felt spiritually unfit, other than to confess their own faults (James 5:16). Why is this eluding by ministers the case, do you suppose? I would say it's simply as I state my introduction to this message, it is largely due to 'embarrassment'(not necessarily guilt). It's remarkable that this avoidance emotion gets in the way of helping break the strongholds of Satan, involving sexual deviance, that can destroy peoples lives.

James 3:17 says, "But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, accommodating, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial, and not hypocritical."

Once, at a time years past, I walked into a living room of a house, full of people I know. Almost immediately I was told about a man in my city, who was caught and arrested for sexual deviance from within his car. I believe this was intended to scare me into being delivered. All of these men and women in the room, were obviously told things about me, that I privately confided with them about, only select men. Only 2 of these men I depended on being confidants were present in the room that day, along with several other Christian people. As a result, my confidence in seeking their help was obviously broken. Possibly this confidence was broken by another man, who that was not present in the room that day
This is doubtful, because he was distant and did not know these other people in the room. There was a number of both men and women present that day however, about half and half male and female. These people, rather than offering to gather around me to pray and speak to me words of encouragement toward deliverance, instead seemingly used my horrifying satanic bondage as a point of gossip. Did you forgive them James Lowrance? Yes, but being human, I cannot erase the memory of it or the important lessons I learned from it. I will also, never forget God delivering me from the satanic stronghold, despite these rather strange experiences (satanically-blocked attempts for help). Un-forgiveness due to these people? NO! Was I deeply hurt, a memory that never fully goes away! YES. It is humanly impossible for me to extract this period of my life and the things that occurred during it, from my memory.

I love dearly, each and every one of these people I have mentioned (No pretense, it's true!), and I have forgiven them as just stated. What lesson do I believe can be learned from my experience of horrendously being overwhelmed and the knowledge of my knowing about many other people's experiences occurring in this same manner of sexual deviance, as well? Experiences in which gossiping, rather than anointed counseling was given? First let me quote the scripture following, in regard to people in sin-bondage, who DO NOT generally seek God's help. - - -

Proverbs 1:24-27 "But since you refuse to listen when I call and no one pays attention when I stretch out my hand, since you disregard all my advice and do not accept my rebuke, I in turn will laugh when disaster strikes you; I will mock when calamity overtakes you — when calamity overtakes you like a storm, when disaster sweeps over you like a whirlwind, when distress and trouble overwhelm you."

Following is a scripture regarding the importance of counseling those who DO seek counseling. - - -

Proverbs 11:14 "Where there is no guidance the people fall, But in abundance of counselors there is victory."

It is important to remember that it is wrong to throw scriptures at someone you know, who is in need of counseling but is not seeking it. The difference is that I, - like many other people who have experienced the same stronghold AS I DID, were ASKING for counseling. I will now end with a glorious Gospel scripture about The Gospel of Jesus Christ. - - -

Quote: John 3:16 - "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life."

Also, hear my audio, which was made from the notes this article was also made from - link below.

Author's Bio: 

I am a graduate of Liberty University (1996) for completion of theological studies (33 college credits) and I completed "Bible Survey" with Assemblies of God - Berean College. I consider myself a "Bapticostal" (a Baptist also having Pentecostal beliefs). Bible studies are one of my most-covered book-subjects. I am however, careful to only address those subjects I believe God has given me correct revelation on. I was a Christian Youth Minister, beginning in 1983 for approximately 18 years. During, between and after youth ministries I served in other church capacities as well, including interim pastoring and retirement home ministry. I am a redeemed man, who has received salvation by acceptance of Jesus Christ (John 3:16) and what he did for me in shedding his blood and dying for me on the cross, and in his resurrection from the dead, giving me the promise of eternal life, purely by grace; not due to anything I have done, other than to accept it freely. God does call us to "good works" as Christians - Ephesians 2:10.