My Husband Left Me Will He Come Back: Will He Come Back To Me If I Let Him Go

"My husband left me and I feel all alone, can I still get my husband back?" Many wives have been asking this question on getting back their husbands. Is this still possible if the husband left for another woman? How about if the husband left and says he only wants to be friend?

Well, it is not uncommon for you to want your husband back after split up and I have seen many couples successfully got back together more loving. You should think long and hard about the way things were before the marriage became shaky.

Think about the problems in your marriage with your husband. What problems contributed to the break up? List down the things that you will do to improve on your situation. Another question to think of is, "do you know about his thinking and needs?"

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Don't be upset and get too desperate if he doesn't show interest in getting back together. While this situation does make it harder for you to get back your husband, it is still possible to win his heart if you know how to open up the communication with him again. If he says it is better that both of you remain as friends, take a step back and let loose of the situation for time being.

When both of you are having enough space and time, both parties will naturally be able to calm down and think carefully about the marriage. Start your relationship with him all over again and learn how to know each other just like you have knew him only recently.

Once you get him onboard and willing to communicate with you freely, you can turn your situation around and get him back to your side.

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If you're in a marriage or relationship that isn't as happy or fulfilling as you'd like it to be...if you're in a marriage or relationship where your needs are going unmet...and no matter what you say or do you can't seem to get through to your spouse, then read on because in this article, you get a simple and powerful way to get your message through to them and thereby initiate the improvements you want.

Many a man and woman started out in a wonderful relationship. He thought she was just the thing - and she thought the same of him. In fact, they both just "couldn't" live without each other - they "had" to be together.

You know what happened next...

Over the course of time, the "togetherness" gave way to "separateness". The excitement and happiness gave way to dullness and unhappiness. Now, permit me to share some good old-fashioned marriage advice - the kind that really works...

Husband, what it took for you to get your lady is what it will take for you to keep her! Wife, what it took for you to get your man is what it will take for you to keep him! Stop doing what you did to get him or her and soon enough, you're going to lose him or her.

It's as simple and sophisticated as that.

Of course, at some level, every husband and wife knows this. And yet, husbands and wives everywhere violate this truth that they know.

Then, when the relationship falls apart - as it surely will when this truth is violated - when an affair is discovered or divorce papers are served - they say things like, "I'm shocked. I had no idea he/she felt that way."

Now, I want to help you get through to your spouse so hold this thought of, "What it took to get him or her is what it will take to keep them" and let's cover one more thing...

The marriage relationships that fail, the one's that end up in disaster, the one's that wreck people's lives have a specific strategy that they use to reach that end.

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And, the marriage relationships that survive and thrive, the one's that are a source of joy, satisfaction, fulfillment, and inspiration also have a specific strategy that they use to reach that end.

Would it be useful to you to know what the difference is between the strategies? Yes? Ok...

In marriages that have failed, the strategy used was this; sometimes the husband...sometimes the wife...often both of them essentially viewed their marriage as a THING - it was something to GET - and once they GOT it, they were then free to move on and GET other things that they were individually interested in - and while they were pursuing their individual interests, they still EXPECTED to GET whatever it was they wanted from their spouse without any additional effort or cost on their part.

Well actually, in the beginning, they did GET a THING...when they got married they received a marriage certificate stating that they were legally married.

A marriage certificate isn't a marriage!

A marriage relationship isn't a THING. It's an ongoing PROCESS.

And marriages that survive and thrive understand this...because their strategy is one of continually RELATING to one another in a way where there is BALANCE between them as they BOTH repeatedly put forth the effort and pay the price to GIVE to each other - which means they perpetually RECEIVE from each other.

And yes, even in the best of marriages, there are times when it's a sacrifice to give. But mostly, it's a joy. And yes too, there are times it seems like one is giving out more than they're getting back. But here too, soon enough, one finds that it all comes back to them and more.

OK, so how do you get through to your spouse so that you can get your marriage going in a better, happier, more fulfilling direction? Here's how...

In a loving, kind way you DIRECTLY and BOLDLY tell your spouse, "A marriage is an ongoing process of RELATING to each other in a way where we are both SERVING to meet each others needs - where we are BOTH having our needs SERVED by the other. Further, we must BOTH realize that what it took to ATTRACT each other is what it will take to KEEP each other. And, if EITHER or BOTH of us STOP SERVING or DOING ATTRACTING and ATTRACTIVE things, then OUR marriage WILL dissolve and come to an END. I want you to know that I don't want that to happen and my hope is that you don't want that to happen...AND from my perspective and experience there are some things we DEFINITELY need to work on IF we BOTH want this marriage to be the happy, fulfilling, and satisfying union it was meant to be. Am I making myself clear? Am I getting through to you? Good, I'm ready to talk about this in depth whenever you're ready...we can do it now or we can do it within the next day or so if you need a few hours to gather your thoughts...which would you prefer?"

I can assure you, if you express this message in the right way, it WILL get the attention of your spouse. And, it works particularly well because it gets them thinking in terms of PROCESS and RELATING and HAPPY, SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE and SHARED RESPONSIBILITY. This is much better than two people feeling "unhappy" with each other and fighting and arguing without ever channeling their energies and emotions in the direction of improvement.

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I want him to love me again. Sadly that's an all too common thought for many married women. As women, we have an inner instinct that will usually tell us what our husband is feeling. We know that when he's moody, something is stressing him out and when he's quiet, he may be feeling the weight of worry. If your husband suddenly becomes distant that can leave you with a gnawing feeling in the pit of your stomach. Realizing that your husband doesn't love you the way he used to is never easy. You may start to wonder if an unwanted divorce is in your future. It doesn't have to be this way at all. You can rekindle the love he once felt for you and make him love you even more than he did when you two first married.

If you want to make your husband adore you again you've got to take a long, hard look at how you've been treating him. It's very easy to point the finger of blame solely at our spouse once the relationship starts to come apart. The fact of the matter is that it takes both of you to make it work, and both of you to let it wither and die.

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Husbands are very in tune with what their wives are feeling. If you are like most women, you feel overwhelmed and overrun. Working, tending to household duties and being a parent all can add stress to a woman's life. It's easy to take that stress out on the person closest to us. If you've been neglecting your husband or allowing your frustration over other issues to seep into your relationship with him, you need to change that now. Start putting his feelings first and taking time to consider how he feels when you treat him in a negative way. If you show him that you value him as a partner and co-parent, he's going to feel closer to you again.

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I sometimes hear from people who are extremely upset because they are dealing with two very serious issues. The first is that they are separated but they wish that they weren't. The second is that they had a chance to reconcile or get back together and it failed. So now, not only are they still separated, but they don't know if they will ever get a chance to try again.

Someone might say: "my husband and I separated because I felt that he was having an inappropriate relationship with someone at work. He denied this, but his behavior toward me had changed. We've been married for over 15 years and I know his behavior very well. I knew that something was wrong. When I tried to discuss this with him, it honestly made things worse and not better. So I felt it best if we took a little break. I honestly did not expect for the break to last for very long. But weeks would go by without us talking. I stayed with my aunt, who said I was welcome as long as I needed to be there. Very slowly, my husband started calling again and begging me to come home. I am not the kind of person who is going to cave in immediately, but I missed him so much that after a couple of weeks of his begging, I relented and came home. Right away, things were tense and awful. I expected a happy homecoming, but what actually happened was anything but that. We bickered constantly and it felt like he didn't want me there. I finally started asking him what was wrong. At first he denied any problem, but I kept at him. He finally admitted that he has real feelings for the other woman at work, although he continues to deny any inappropriate relationship. I became so angry about this, that I packed my bag and went right back to my aunts. He isn't me begging anymore. When I do talk to him, he's in a hurry to get off the phone. Now I fear I've made a huge mistake. By leaving the way that I did, he's now free to pursue a relationship with the other woman. Essentially, I gave her free reign to come and take my husband away if that is what she wants to do. Should I just come home unannounced? He didn't ask me to leave. I did that on my own. My fear is that if I come home, things will be tense again."

This is a tricky situation. And it happens quite a bit. These type of unfortunate situations are often why I encourage couples to seek counseling during their separation and to take things slowly. It is a little more difficult to fix this then it would have been to rebuild a foundation before attempting to reconcile. However, none of this is impossible. But because you perceive that the other woman is in the picture, you feel that you don't have the luxury of time. One way to try to get around this is to attempt to schedule regular times to get together (preferably to seek counseling or at least work on your relationship.) If you feel that your husband won't want to do counseling, then you might try just asking him to support you in sessions for yourself. This is a roundabout way to get him involved, with the hope that gradually as he becomes more comfortable. the counselor can incorporate the issue of your marriage. You might also get together for coffee or dinner afterwards, but at least this way, you are working toward something and are laying a foundation rather than just hoping for the best while not making any real changes.

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If he doesn't agree to this right away, just try to wait without pressure. Go back to what you did before when he was calling you regularly. If you had success being patient and staying upbeat before, then consider doing that once again.

I know you fear that he's immediately going to start a relationship with another woman, but him admitting feelings for her doesn't mean that he's going to immediately pursue her. I'm not saying he can't or won't. I'm just saying that it's better to wait and see (while reminding him that he's married with regular contact and hopefully counseling) than to just assume the worst. She may not even be interested. He may be the one with all of the feelings.

If you feel like it's important to address this, you might try a conversation like: " I want you to know that I do regret just bailing immediately like that. I really wanted for the reconciliation to work, but when you admitted feelings about someone else, I reacted to the fear rather than to logic. I regret that. But it upset me so badly that I wasn't really thinking. I was just reacting. I don't want you to think that I am not interested in reconciling anymore because I am. I just have some real concerns that need to be addressed and I am not sure that either of us are qualified to do that alone. I would love it if we could either go to counseling together or at least you could go with me when I attend. It may or may not work, but if it doesn't at least we will know that we tried. I don't want to give up on this marriage, but neither of us are mental health or marital experts so I think it's smart to get some help. I don't want to continue on as we are. We both know that we miss one another, but we don't seem to know how to move toward reconciliation successfully. How do you feel about this?"

Hopefully, he will agree. If not, I think it pays to be patient and to try not to panic. If you start pushing and panicking, you almost make it easier for the other woman (and that's assuming that she shares his interest. We don't know that she does. She may not want to become involved with him - even if he was willing.)

The hope is that eventually, he will miss you in the same way as he did the first time. But instead of rushing, you will now have the opportunity to build a new foundation and work some things out before taking the leap to move back in immediately.

Saying or doing the wrong thing can actually cause your spouse to feel even more distant from you. You can make your spouse fall back in love with you, all over again.

You don't have to worry about whether your spouse is on the brink of asking you for a divorce. You can control the situation and use specific techniques to naturally make them fall hopelessly in love with you.

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