Overcoming Tragedy

The first half of 2011 was filled with news about tragedy - from floods, earthquakes, tsunamis, and fires to manmade tragic events such as the political turmoil in the some countries in the Middle East and North Africa. Even the news of Osama Bin Laden’s death reminds the world of the tragedy that happened ten years ago.

When tragedy happens, nobody is prepared, in the same way that no one can truly prepare for a disaster. However, it is best to equip ourselves with internal tools and right information so that when tragedy strikes, we will not be at a loss.

1. Make sure that you surround yourself with positive people. These are family members and friends who can be your support group. Never go through a tragedy alone no matter how tempting it is to isolate you.

2. Crying helps. It is normal for a human being to cry as the emotions are too heavy to carry. Crying is not just a form of release of tensions; it clears your mind and helps you see things clearly. If you want to, cry with a friend around you.

3. Bring back the good memories. Looking back at the good times make you feel thankful of the times shared together. This is an effective way of putting the tragedy in the right perspective.

4. Stop the self- blaming. We are prone to blame ourselves for the tragedy that happens. There are too many “if only’s” to count. If only I did this, if only I did that. They do not help except torture you and make the tragic incident worse than it already is.

5. Go back to the usual rhythm. Your daily patterns of work, those habits, and those ways of doing the laundry will provide mechanisms to feel productive.

6. Do not set a time limit for grief. Just allow the process to proceed without setting a deadline. If the closure happens, you will know because you are ready to move on.

7. Find an outlet. Write a book. Read a lot. Go on a vacation. Go out with friends.

8. Tell stories. Share. Share. Don’t digest everything within. Find someone to talk to and share what is happening to you. It is called unloading.

9. Do not hesitate to ask for help. You will be amazed at the natural generosity of people, even strangers. Even a simple help such as doing the grocery shopping, or arranging a memorial service. Ask for help.

10. If you see signs that the burden is too much to carry. If you are tempted to commit suicide. If you are feeling depressed, seek professional help.
There are grief counselors who will be honored to accompany you in this process.

Author's Bio: 

Cathrine Margit Moller was born and raised in Denmark
She began her career in radio and television, and worked in that capacity until moving to Canada in 1998.

For the past twenty-six years, she has pursued a career in the healing arts at the same time, focusing on alternative health care and healing. By training under some of the leading wellness experts in the world, Cathrine keeps escalating her quest toward personal excellence, so she can offer you the best of the healing arts. This has included studies in Denmark, the U.S., Canada, and England, studying under leading experts in alternative medicine.

Her background in hypnotherapy is extensive. In 1999, she was certified Hypnotist by the 'National Guild of Hypnotists' and certified Master Hypnotist at the 'Ontario Hypnosis Centre' in 2000. Her work in hypnosis and hypnotherapy is diverse, and includes clinical use of hypnosis designed to empower her clients in areas ranging from the stresses and problems of their everyday lives, to past life regressions, and Self-Hypnosis training. She has also been certified as a hypnocoach by Dr. Lisa Halpin.
Her expertise also includes Somatic Healing, Reconnective Healing, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), NGH, and Reiki, all of which offer powerful but simple solutions to a range of physical and emotional issues. She also offers NLP, which offers additional access to identifying self-limiting behaviors. These techniques are discussed at more length elsewhere on this site.

Her Personal Mission Statement
Cathrine sees people as incredible beings of infinite potential, whom she can empower and guide toward fulfilling on their goals and their dreams. As an Intuitive, Cathrine knows the Universe and trusts it to steer her in the right direction. Her goal is to help people, and enable them to find their full potential, physically, emotionally and spiritually. Her greatest joy is in seeing a person evolve into all they can become, on every level.

She looks for the miracles in everyday life, and uses them to connect strongly to the forces that enable her to tap into the forces that have shaped a person’s life. As an intuitive, she uses her abilities to uncover the old and unproductive patterns that keep people “stuck,” working with them to purge the unproductive patterns that entrap them.

Cathrine’s own life has had personal challenges that have informed and transformed her, the most significant being when she was diagnosed with apparent MS. Rather than regarding this as a limitation, she has embraced it and used for personal transformation. Working with it in her personal practice, she has not only brought herself back to good health, but has used it to inform and illuminate her life’s path.