Although the ideal will be for someone to be able to experience positive feelings on a regular basis, it doesn’t mean that this will be something that they are able to relate to. It could typically be a challenge for them to feel good.

In general, they could feel bad, guilty, ashamed and worthless. Therefore, they are going to spend a lot of time in a very low place and this is likely to have an impact on just about every area of their life.

Two Parts

Along with spending a lot of time feeling depressed, they could even have moments when they think about ending their life. This will show that not only are they in a bad way but that they are unable to see a way out of the hole that they are in.

If they are able to feel good about themselves, it could be a sign that they are engaging in a certain activity or have consumed something. When they do feel good, it is likely to be something that they will try to hold onto.

One Area

When it comes to what they do for a living, this could be something that is soul-destroying. Then again, they might do something that is fulfilling but they might not have been able to make much progress.

If they can relate to the former, they won’t feel as though they deserve to have a fulfilling job and when it comes to the latter, they won’t believe that they deserve to take the next step and be successful. Either way, what they do is going to cause them to experience a fair amount of frustration.

Another Area

As for their relationships, they might not have any close friends and may just have what could be classed as associates. They might not have been in an intimate relationship before either.

If they have been in an intimate relationship, this might have been a time when they were often mistreated. During his time, they might have simply put up with what was going on and not stood their ground.

It Makes Sense

However, taking into account how they feel about themselves, this is to be expected. Part of them might have felt uncomfortable with what was going on but a bigger, stronger part of them would have felt comfortable.

After a while, the other person might have ended the relationship or they might have just got to their limit and walked away. Still, if they did walk away, this might have only taken place after they had been in this position for quite some time.

Totally Irrational

Now, based on how they live their life and treat others, for instance, they may see that there is no reason for them to feel so bad about themselves. This is not to say that they are perfect in every way but there is no reason for them to be.

They will be an imperfect human being who makes mistakes but that doesn’t mean that this should prevent them from being able to feel good about themselves and being successful. If they were to think about how long they have been this way for, they may find that they have been this way for as long as they can remember.

One Reason

What this could show is that their early years were not very nurturing, with this being a time when they were abused and/or neglected. They would have been egocentric at this stage of their life and thus, personalised what took place.

It was then not that their parent or parents had their own issues; it was that they were inherently bad, worthless and unlovable. How they feel as an adult will then be a continuation of how they felt and the self-image that they formed as a child.

One Step Back

There could be more to it, though, as what took place in their last or previous life may have also played a part. This may have been a time when they were ostracised, for instance, and felt bad, guilty and worthless.

How they felt in this life would then have played a part in why they ended up incarnating into a family that was unable to provide them with what they needed to grow and develop in the right way. This will show that what is not dealt with in one life ends up being brought to the next life.

One Step Forward

Taking this into account, what this illustrates is that they were not treated badly during their early years because they were bad; they were treated badly because of what was not resolved from their last or a previous life. They would have had a certain level of consciousness and this partly defined who would bring them up in their next or another life.

The truth is that they are not inherently bad, worthless or unlovable. To realise this, they are likely to have a number of inner wounds to face and work through.


If someone can relate to this and they are ready to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided with the assistance of a therapist or healer.

Author's Bio: 

Author of 25 books, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, self-worth, inner child and inner awareness. With over two thousand, eight hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

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