Posture: Can Trapped Grief Affect Someone's Posture?

When someone has good posture it not only creates a good impression, it also has a positive effect on their health. There is then an external reason and an internal reason for one to pay attention to how they hold themselves.

Therefore, if two people had bad posture, their reason for wanting to improve it might not be the same. One person may want to change it in order to create the right impression, and the other person may be in a position where they need to change their posture in order to improve their health.

This is not to say that some people are immune to the effects of having a bad posture; what it can come down is it that not everyone is going to be in the same position. It can all depend on how long someone has had bad posture for.

Age

When someone is in their early years, they might not pay attention to how their body comes across. Yet, they could end up experiencing a lot of pain as they get older, and this could cause them to change their posture.

The damage that is done during these early years is then overlooked until it builds up, and they won’t notice what is happening until their adult years. If the pain is there already, it could still be possible for them to ignore it, and this also could apply to someone who is an adult.

Another Factor

There is also the chance that one is in pain because of their posture, but that they are unable to make the connection between the two. They could then believe their pain is being created by something else, and they could take things to remove the pain.

And as they are not dealing with the real cause, they are not going to deal with the reason why they feel as they do. In this case, the focus will be on removing how they feel, and this could mean that their posture is likely to get even worse.

Out of Touch

While they will be able to feel better, they are going to become even more disconnected from their body. This is then similar to someone who is in a boat that is leaking, and instead of fixing the hole, they end up looking in the opposite direction.

Although one can end up believing that everything is fine, they will soon realise that they were deluding themselves. However, while a boat will sink without too much time passing, it is likely to take a lot longer for one’s physical health to decline.

The Normal Approach

It would be easy to point the finger at the people who do this, and to say that they need to listen to what their body is trying to tell them. Yet, while individual responsibility is important, it is also important to take into account how one is affected by the society they live in.

In today’s world, pain is rarely seen as something one needs to embrace; it is often seen as something that needs to be removed. The need to feel better right away takes precedence over looking into what would be the best solution in the long-term.

One Reason

Through conditioning people to look outside for solutions, it sets them up to depend on other people for guidance. They are then no longer aware of their own inner guidance, and this makes it easier to control them.

However, while this is going to be pretty obvious to some people, there are going to be others who don’t even realise what is taking place. This could be because they have always been out of touch with themselves, and this is then ‘normal’.

Change

If one wanted to change their posture, they may end up trying to force their body into position. They may believe that their posture would improve if they started to exercise, and how strengthening certain muscles would make a difference.

This could also be a time where they pay attention to how they sit, stand and walk. Through being aware these aspects, it will give them the chance to do something else, and they might start to gradually develop new postures.

Protection

What someone could also do is to take a look at what is taking place at an emotional level. They may find that their bad posture is not just a bad habit; it could be something they do to protect themselves.

If one is unable to keep their head straight, has shoulders that come forward and their back arches, it could be a sign that they are carrying trapped grief. On one side, this posture is having a negative effect on their body and on how other people see them, but on the other, it is what feels safe.

Vulnerable

Their body is adjusting to how they feel, and while one can focus on changing their posture, if they don’t process their feelings, there are going to experience resistance. If they get in touch with how they feel and allow themselves to grieve, they may find that their posture starts to improve.

When someone no longer feels the need to protect their chest, they will no longer need to bring everything forward. One may be able to get in touch with how they feel, or it might take them a while to connect to their feelings.

Loss

This could relate to the loss that they have experienced during their adult life and/or it could go back to what happened during their childhood years. One may have lost a loved one, experienced the end of a relationship and/or had a childhood where their needs were not met, among other things

But although time has passed, how they felt has remained within them. At a deeper level, one might feel as though they wouldn’t be able to handle the pain, and this is why they haven’t been able to grieve.

Awareness

If this is the case, it will be important for them to reach out for support, and this can be provided by a therapist or a healer. This will be a time where one will face how they feel, and cry out the pain that is within them.