When someone has developed a good level of self-awareness, they will be able to know what is taking place inside them. This means that they will have the ability to connect their thoughts, feelings and needs.

Thanks to this, it will be a lot easier for them to behave in a way that will serve them. Being this way is also likely to have a positive effect on their relationships, as they will be able to take responsibility for how they feel.

For Example

If they were to experience anger, they will be able to take a step back and to reflect on why this is so. Being able to detach and to take a closer look at what is going on will be what stops them from simply reacting to how they feel.

They may find that something inside them has been triggered or that something the other person has done has crossed their line. If they need to work on something, they will be able to, and, if they need to speak up, they will be able to do this too.

An Adult

Another way of looking at this would be to say that they will be able to act in a mature manner. If their life is not how they want it to be or they don’t feel good, they will be able to look into why this is.

Their first action won’t be to point the finger; it will be to look within. Behaving in this way will allow them to do something about what is going on and to feel like an empowered human being.

A Process

At the same time, this doesn’t mean that they will have complete awareness of what is taking place inside them and will never react. They will be a human being after all, which means that they will have issues like anyone else and won’t be perfect.

The thing about awareness is that one can only be aware of so many things at any given moment. Thus, when they are aware of certain things, they are not going to be aware of a number of other things.

Another Example

If they were to think about what they are aware of now, they could find that there are certain things that they were not aware of a few months ago. Once they were no longer focused on something, it would have allowed them to become aware of something else.

It is then not that one will develop self-awareness and that will be the end of it. It will be like any other thing that is on this earth; to exist, it will take consistent practice.

Looking Back

If one was to think about how long they have been this way for, they could find that there was a time when they lacked self-awareness. This could mean that they used to have the inclination to always blame others for what was taking place in their life and how they felt.

Something may have taken place in their life that basically made them wake up and take their power back. In other words, they would have gone from being a victim to being a victor.

A Key Part

When it comes to what allowed them to go from a place of feeling powerless to a place of feeling powerful, it will have most likely involved them facing a lot of the pain that was inside them. Through having so much pain inside them, it will have made it hard for them to be able to go within and to take responsibility for their life.

This pain will have given them the need to avoid their inner world and to focus on what was going on externally. What was going on ‘out there’ would then have been why their life was the way it was and why they felt as they did.

A Different Experience

Considering this, if someone is in a lot of pain, the last thing that they will want to do is to connect to what is taking place inside them. The way for them to feel better will be to find ways to distract themselves from themselves.

As one will be burying their head in the sand and won’t be dealing with anything, their life is bound to get worse. However, the information inside them that would allow them to make sense of why their life is the way that it is will be out of reach, causing them to see themselves as a powerless victim.

Shining the Light

Pulling themselves away from all of the distractions in their life and coming back home to themselves is not going to be easy. For one thing, they are likely to live in a society that offers hundreds of ways for them to avoid themselves.

If their life is to change, they will need to start working through the pain that is inside them. This will slowly take away their need to be consumed by what is going on ‘out there’ and allow them to get back into their own body.


If one can relate to this, and they are ready to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer.

Author's Bio: 

Author, transformational writer, teacher and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, four hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/

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