There was a moment in the beginning of 2013, when I didn’t know why something was taking place. I had been in relationship for a few months and I didn’t completely understand why the woman I was with was behaving in a certain way.

I had the need to find out about what might be going on, which caused me to go onto a search engine. I think this was a time when I typed in ‘hot and cold behaviour’, and before long I came across an article that covered what I was going through.

The Website

The article was called “Hot and Cold” and it was written by someone called Susan Winter. After reading this article, I left a comment thanking her for what she had written, and I then carried on with my life.

To my surprise, Susan ended up leaving a comment on one of my social media pages. This was a time when she expressed her appreciation for my writing and she asked if I would like to become a contributing editor on her site.

The Unexpected

I remember reading her comment and being shocked that she had taken the time to reach out to me. Once I had settled down, I said told her that I would be only too happy to have my articles on her site.

What I liked about her writing was that she didn’t beat around the bush, it was direct. When it came to her writing, it was as if she was the female version of me, and this is partly because her primary intention is to assist others and to make a difference.

The Real Deal

I soon found out that she had been on Oprah Winfrey and she had a number of books out. During this time, I felt as though I was finally being recognised, and I felt extremely grateful for what was taking place.

At this time, I had a lot of belief in what I was doing, but receiving feedback from her made all the difference. I had received a lot of positive feedback up until this point, yet this time it was different.


It was the same as how an amateur sports player would feel if a professional player gave them positive feedback. If they heard the same thing from the average person it might not have the same impact.

Soon enough, my articles were featured on her site and I must say that this was a proud moment in my life. When I was looking for information, I had no idea that something like this would happen.

The Message

As I look back on this moment in my life, it makes me think about how this is often what happens in life. How we can think that we are doing something or going somewhere in order to do a certain thing, and soon find out that it was actually for a reason that we were not even aware of.

It could be said that this comes down to the fact that our mind only knows so much. There is another part of us that knows far more than our mind can or will ever know.

Author's Bio: 

Prolific writer, author, and coach, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over one thousand five hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice. His current projects include 'A Dialogue With The Heart' and 'Communication Made Easy'.

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