Although a lot of what one needs to survive, and even thrive, will come from others, it doesn’t mean that their survival is dependent on one person or a group of people. What this then means, is that one is not going to need to please one person or a group of people in order to survive.

One can live their life and express who they really are without worrying about whether or not another person will approve of what they do or say. If they do or say something that does lead to a negative reaction from someone else, they will know that this won’t lead to their demise.

One Example

So if one works for someone else, they are not going to believe that their survival rests on their boss. Therefore, if they were to lose their job, it probably wouldn’t be seen as the end of the world.

Now, this is not to say that they wouldn’t be upset and even miss working there; what it comes down to is that they will know that they will be able to find another way to support themselves. Where they worked will just have been seen as somewhere that provided them with the means that they needed for a certain period of time.

One Source

This can be seen as similar to how one tap will provide one with the water that they need at one moment in their day and, at another moment, another tap may provide the water that they need. What provides them with water, or anything else for that matter, will just be a channel.

Therefore, if one works for someone else, this will be a way for them to receive the money that they need to live. And, as this is only a channel for money to be directed into their life, they won’t need to get attached to it.

Another Example

If one is in a relationship, this will be another area where they receive things from someone else. From someone like this, they are likely to receive support, acceptance, and love, amongst other things.

Even so, they won’t believe that they need to be with person in order to survive. In addition to being able to support themselves financially, they may also be able to source support, acceptance and love from inside themselves.

The Messenger

As they are not dependent on this person, it can be normal for them to be authentic and to express their true-self. This is not to say that they would be happy to throw what they have away, though.

They will appreciate what they have, but as they don’t see their partner as being essential to their survival and are able to source positive feelings from within, they will be able to fully show up. Hiding who they are and going along to get along is unlikely to be something that crosses their mind.

A Key Part

What could have an impact on how someone like this lives their life is that they could be religious or spiritual. Deep down, one could know that someone or something provides them with what they need.

The only thing that they need to do is to listen to the guidance that is inside them and to trust that what they need will be given to them via one channel or another. One could also believe that the mere fact that they are on this planet means that they deserve to receive what they need.

A Transition

Another way to look at this would be to say that their caregivers provided them with what they needed during their early years and as time passed, mother nature and father sky started to provided them with what they needed. Of course, mother nature and father sky were providing their caregivers with what they needed during this time.

One is then a child of god or nature and as this is so, they are provided for. Existence itself is then there to make sure that they have what they need and, as this source is abundant, there is no need for them to go without.

A Different Reality

Not everyone on this planet experiences life in this way, though, and this will mean that they have a very different experience on this earth. Consequently, someone like this can believe that their survival rests on their boss and/or their partner.

Due to this, they can have the tendency to hide who they are and to be who they think that other people want them to be. Thus, even if they are not aware of what they believe, it will still define their life.

A Half-Life

If they have a job that they enjoy it might not be as bad as it would be if this wasn’t the case; even so, they could still wonder what they would do if they lost their job. This could be a time when they experience a lot of fear and anxiety.

Even if they do something that they don’t enjoy or work in an environment that is toxic, leaving where they work could be seen as too much of a risk. What they do for a living is going to undermine them, yet it will be as if they have no choice.


If they are in a relationship with someone who is not a good match for them, they are unlikely to do anything about it. In addition to being financially dependent on them, they could also depend on them to provide other things.

This will show that one can’t support themselves financially, and is unable to source love, acceptance and support from inside themselves. Through being this way, one will be more concerned with pleasing others than with pleasing themselves.

A Deeper Look

Unlike the person above, one is not going to see another person as serving as a channel so that what they need will be provided for them; they will see them as being in control of whether or not they live or die. Based on how one sees someone like this, it could be said that one sees them in the same way that a child sees its parent.

One is then going to be an adult, yet they will still view certain people as parental figures. If one felt like an adult and was able to see other adults as people who are no more connected to the abundance of the universe than they are, there would be no need for them to behave in this way.

What Is Going On?

Physically, one is going to look like an adult, but when it comes to their emotional self, they are not going to feel like one. Instead, they are likely to feel like a needy and dependent child.

What this can illustrate is that their early years were a time when they didn’t receive the type of care that they needed to be able to develop in the right way. Perhaps this was a time when they were neglected, which would have caused them experience a lot of trauma.

Emotionally Stuck

The years will have passed since this stage of their life and their external appearance will have also changed, but they will still feel like an abandoned child on the inside. How they felt all those years ago will have stayed in their body.

This part of them won’t want anyone who they believe is in control of their survival to pull away, as this will be seen as something that would cause them to be abandoned. To this part of them, being abandoned will be seen as something that would cause them to die, and as they were abandoned at this stage of their life, it would have set them up to believe that they were worthless.


For one to no longer attach their survival to one person and to feel supported by the universe, they will most likely need to work through the trauma that is inside them. By doing this, they will be able to feel connected to the support that is inside them and this will make it easier for them to receive the support that is on the outside.

This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or a healer. With the presence of someone like this, one will be able to work through the pain that they were unable to face all those years ago.

There will be the layers of pain that relate to feeling rejected, abandoned and worthless to process.

Author's Bio: 

Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand, two hundred in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.