Looking up a definition of vulnerability, the first one noted is “susceptible to physical or emotional injury.” Aren’t we all, as human beings, susceptible to a blow to our physical and emotional well being? This is part of BEing a human. We can be strong and powerful in one moment, and fragile in the next.

Other phrases that are used to describe vulnerability are “chink in one’s armor,” “live in a glass house,” “out on a limb,” “sitting duck,” or “over a barrel.” They certainly are not powerful images, are they? It is no wonder that we create stories that we are weak, helpless and victimized when we feel vulnerable.

My personal experience with vulnerability has shown the spectrum from feeling weak and helpless to feeling powerful and in deep integrity. What I know is that the moment I burst into tears that I can’t hold back, I am tapping into the deeper mystery that lives within and is raw and true. I may not have the words for it and understand what it all means in the moment, but I know I am hovering around something deeply meaningful. If I can pause and let the tears pass through, WITHOUT judgement, there can often be an insight for me. As soon as I start to criticize myself or feel helpless or victimized, then the emotions take over and the learning is often lost.

I know I am in helpless victimized vulnerability when I hear this kind of self-talk: “Are you kidding me?” “Really! This has to be sooo difficult for me.” And the ultimate Viola Victim self-talk is “Why me? What did I do to deserve this?” The other awareness about the helpless victim place is that it becomes more difficult to be grateful for what I have in my life. Sometimes, it just seems impossible to feel the gratitude.

Well I imagine you can guess what the empowered vulnerability might look like; gratitude comes easy for all the amazing simple moments; I embrace the fragile nature of my life as part of life; and I feel the truth in how it connects me deeply with the rest of humanity. We are all on our hero’s journey, and we all have moments of vulnerability.

I love asking questions that make people stop and think in new ways. Sometimes people furrow their brow and wonder whether I am asking a trick question or know the right answer when I ask them to pause and consider something like the power of vulnerability. When you ponder questions that do not coincide with the normal ways you think, you expand your view and open up creative problem solving. Asking new kinds of questions get at new kinds of understandings.

What does “The Power of Vulnerability” mean to you?

Author's Bio: 

Betty Louise, Sexual Wellness Coach and US Radio personality, has coached and interviewed progressive thinking experts, artists and innovators from all over the world. Author John Gray of Mars/Venus fame, Grammy Award Winning Freddie Ravel, and brain researchers Jill Bolte Taylor and Dr. Louann Brizendine have been some of her amazing guests. Her show “Living an Organic and Orgasmic Life” airs on WeEarth Global Radio Network (WGRNradio.com).

She earned her credentials at the Coaches Training Institute (CTI), the CTI Co-Active Leadership Program, the Center for Right Relationship (CRR), and the Academy of Intuition Medicine.  She is also a Master Trainer for the Stanford Chronic Disease Self-Management Program and co-author of the book “Understanding Fibromyalgia: A Guide for Family and Friends.”

She is an eco-coach who works with women and mindful men to rediscover their inner beauty and sexuality so that they fall in love with themselves every time they look in the mirror. Her phone/skype sessions and teleseminars will open you up to the possibility of living an organic and orgasmic life with courage, confidence, and grace.

Diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis more than 25 years ago, Betty Louise knows pain inside out. After 15 years of pharmaceuticals, she now fully trusts her inner guide and follows her own natural recipe for a healthy life which includes drawing on the healing of her inner beauty and sexuality.