Just because someone can look like a whole human being on the outside, meaning that they have a head and a body, it doesn’t mean that they are in touch with the totality of their being. There is the chance that they are aware of what is going on up top, but are unaware of what is going on down below.

Someone like this is then going to be living on the surface of themselves, and it could be as if their body is simply there to support their head. Their head is then going to be the part of them that is there to direct their life, while their body will give this part of them what it needs to survive.

A Way of Life

However, even though one is out of touch with what is taking place in their body, it doesn’t mean that they will realise this. There is the chance that they have lived in this way for as long as they can remember and this is then just going to be what is normal.

What will also play a part here is that they will most likely live in a society that is very cerebral. This will then be somewhere where the focus will generally be on the mind.

Two Options

Someone like this may often struggle when it comes to what they should be doing in life or they could typically have a clear idea about what they need to do in each moment. Through being out of touch with their body, it is not going to a surprise if they do feel lost a lot of the time.

The guidance that they need will be in their body, yet they won’t be able to connect to it. If, on the other hand, one doesn’t have this problem, even though they are out of touch with their body, it could just show that they have pushed this doubt out of their awareness.

Outer Directed

It can then seem as though they are in tune with themselves and are living a purposeful life, but this could be nothing more than an illusion. Through being out of touch with their own needs, pleasing others could be their priority.

Therefore, behind the image that they present to the world of having it altogether, can be a lost human being. What they do will allow them to receive approval and even to feel good, but it is unlikely to allow them to live a deeply fulfilling life.

Another Challenge

Being top heavy is also likely to mean that they will find it hard to form deeper connections with others. The feelings in their body that would allow them to connect with others won’t be available to them.

This is not to say that they won’t ever experience emotions when they are around others, though. What it comes down to is that the feelings that they do experience are likely to be superficial and, at times, they could be forced.

A New Beginning

Until something happens that will shake them out of how they are experiencing life, there will be no need for them to change. If any frustration does come into their awareness, they could simply push it away.

Nonetheless, let’s say that they do get to the point where they can no longer continue to live in this way and they end up feeling totally lost, it will give them the opportunity to reacquaint themselves with themselves. The catalyst here could be the end of a relationship or a ‘midlife crisis’, for instance.

A Challenging Time

What has happened externally, along with how they have interpreted what has happened, will have floored them. This could be a time when they are in a lot of emotional pain or they could just feel numb.

Either way, it could be clear to them that they need to change their life; living in the same way is no longer going to be an option. This time will have come for them to gradually become a whole human being.

The Big Question

The reason they are, or were, emotionally disconnected, could be the result of what occurred during their early years. This may have been a time in their life when they experienced a fair amount of trauma and their feelings may have generally been ignored

Disconnecting from their body would then have been a way for them to survive what took place. If they were abused, for instance, it would have been too painful for them to be with their pain and/or if their feelings were generally ignored, their feelings would have been seen as a burden.

A Divided Being

The trouble is that even though shutting down at this age would have made it easier for them to live in a dysfunctional environment, it would have set them up to experience problems as an adult. Their feelings and needs - the two things that will provide them with guidance - will be out of their reach.

The inner disconnection that they have will be what is behind so many of the challenges that are plaguing them. Living in this way may be what is normal, yet it won’t be what is normal in the truest sense of the word.


Still, it is highly unlikely that one will just be able to reconnect with their body and that will be the end of it. Getting in touch with their body will be one part; another part will be for them to stay connected to it.

The former could be something that takes a number of months, while the latter could take years. Their body is then going to be connected to their head, but there will be another type of connection that will gradually need to be formed.

If one can relate to this, and they are ready to change their life, they may need to reach out for external support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or a healer.

Author's Bio: 

Teacher, prolific writer, author, and consultant, Oliver JR Cooper, hails from England. His insightful commentary and analysis covers all aspects of human transformation, including love, partnership, self-love, and inner awareness. With over two thousand in-depth articles highlighting human psychology and behaviour, Oliver offers hope along with his sound advice.

To find out more go to - http://www.oliverjrcooper.co.uk/

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