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- Emotional Intelligence & Feeling Good - by Submitted on May 07, 2003 from Susan DunnTwo emotions, or ways of feeling, are especially troublesome to most of us – anger management and depression. Depression appears to be epidemic now, globally, and without going into the etiology (the causes), or pinpointing definitions or degrees of severity (they vary; there are many) lets ...
Views: 3037(1 vote) - Emotional Intelligence & Your Toddler - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2003 from Susan DunnI was in the grocery, knew I was approaching the toy aisle, and braced myself. Adam was sitting happily in the grocery cart, but I knew what was coming: a tantrum! I knew he was tired and hungry – this was an emergency run to the grocery. I knew I was tired and hungry, too. Adam and I were ...
Views: 2761(1 vote) - Emotional Intelligence and the Gentle Art of Conversation - by Submitted on Mar 10, 2003 from Susan DunnHaving just returned from a cruise, where I was seated nightly with a table of 10 stranger, I was reminded of the many definitions of ^emotional intelligence.^ When I ask laypeople what EQ means, they respond “common sense,” or “manners,” or “knowing how to get along.” These are good ...
Views: 1837(1 vote) - Emotional Intelligence: The Shot Felt 'Round the World? - by Submitted on Mar 25, 2003 from Susan DunnI just hung up the phone with Li-Yan, who wants me to come to Malaysia and present a workshop with her on emotional intelligence for businesses. She quit her corporate job there, because she found the work environment stifling, unethical and demoralizing. Now she wants to help businesses in ...
Views: 1371(1 vote) - Examples of Reptilian Behavior in the Workplace - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2003 from Susan DunnThe reptilian brain, our oldest brain, operates at the level of survival instinct. It's the life of easy choices -- Can I eat it? Will it eat me? Can I mate with it? This brain regulates basic life functions, generates strong primitive emotions needed for survival (lust, fear, aggression), ...
Views: 3767(1 vote) - Excerpts from Susan Dunn, The EQ Coach’s New Book, “How to Live Your Life with Emotional Intelligence” - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2003 from Susan DunnHOW JEN USES EQ Jen is a manager for a department store “If you don’t learn how to get along with the Accounting Department,” Bob the Boss yelled, “I’m going to fire you. I’m tired of them coming to me…” Jen got up and closed her office door. Mercy was getting raked over the coals for the ...
Views: 1597(1 vote) - Express Yourself and Help Others Too! - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Susan DunnOne of the surest paths to personal growth and well-being is expressing yoursel. You can do this through journaling, but there's a more fun way: write articles for the Internet. The web is hungry for information! Webpublishers looking for content for their websites and ezines and you could ...
Views: 1541(1 vote) - Express Yourself with Internet Articles - by Submitted on Jan 10, 2003 from Susan DunnSelf-expression is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. It helps you solidify your thoughts and feelings, gives you a chance to pass on the knowledge and wisdom only you have to give, and nourishes your creativity. Perhaps you’ve seen an article on the Internet and said, ...
Views: 1830(1 vote) - Goals That Help and Goals That Hinder - by Submitted on Jun 25, 2003 from Susan DunnShort-term goals, long-term goals, decisions and choices. What to do? Have your goals, and yes, write them down. The short-term goals should get you to your long-term goal, but keep your eye on the long-term goal, as if you were jumping hurdles. The long-term goal is the line to cross at the ...
Views: 1004(1 vote) - Got Employees? Look Who's Coming to Stay - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2003 from Susan DunnThere is a demographic trend you need to be prepared for if you have employees. According to demographic trends analyst, Cheryl Russell, by the year 2005, the most common household in the US will be single-person households. "Never before in American history has living alone been the ...
Views: 1266(1 vote) - Grandmother, What Big Eyes You Have: An EQ Tale - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2003 from Susan DunnWell, you know how the fairytale goes … Little Red Riding Hood heads out into the woods to see her grandmother. First she fails to notice the wolf when he approaches her in the woods, but goes gaily on her way. Then, when she arrives at her Grandmother’s house things look suspicious and she ...
Views: 1490(1 vote) - Grasso, Kennedy, Frost, Public Service and You - by Submitted on Sep 25, 2003 from Susan Dunn“Something we were withholding made us weak/Until we found out that it was ourselves," wrote Robert Frost, in "The Gift Outright." Frost recited this poem at John F. Kennedy’s inauguration in 1961. With the words, “And so, my fellow Americans: ask not what your country can do for you -- ask ...
Views: 1831(1 vote) - Gut Instinct: How to Develop Yours - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2003 from Susan DunnHe did it again – my stockbroker. He rolled a ten-bagger into my lap. That means the stock he picked for me went up x10. Then he had me sell just before it started its decline. I bought low and sold high. Or rather he did. Making me (and him) that kind of money isn’t what I’d call ...
Views: 5558(1 vote) - Has Everyone in Your Office Been Grafted, So There's No More Evolving? - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2003 from Susan DunnHas everyone in your office been grafted so there’s no more evolving? Let’s say the “party line” is demanded of everyone, like a graft on a plant, so eventually everyone’s thinking the same way. New people are hired, chosen to be as similar to the old as possible, and then they get grafted. ...
Views: 1016(2 votes) - How Can I Improve my Self-esteem? - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2003 from Susan Dunn“Having decided to achieve a certain task, achieve it at all costs of tedium and distaste. The gain in self-confidence of having accomplished a tiresome labor is immense.” ~ Thomas Bennett You can’t talk yourself into self-esteem, and neither can your coach, your best friend, your boss or ...
Views: 1223(1 vote) - How Do You Feel About Cell Phone Abuse? - by Submitted on Feb 10, 2003 from Susan DunnRemember the British noble-woman who said, re: sex, “I don’t care what two consenting adults do as long as they don’t do it in the street and frighten the horses”? She may have said “embarrass,” I can’t find the quote. Either will do, as I proceed to apply this to cell phones. I agree they’re ...
Views: 3457(1 vote) - How Do You Help Your Child Develop Emotional Intelligence? - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2003 from Susan DunnIn her book, “Taking Charge: Your Life Patterns and Their Meaning,” Gudrun Burkhard writes: “It is important that the child’s feeling life should find fertile ground on which to grow. Such fertile soil can be provided by art or religion, but above all by loving authority which comes from ...
Views: 1697(1 vote) - How Do You Know What Your EQ (Emotional Intelligence) Is? - by Submitted on Sep 02, 2003 from Susan DunnIf you’ve been reading about Emotional Intelligence, the Catch-22 has probably occurred to you: Since EQ begins with self-awareness, the people who have the worst EQ are also going to be the worst at assessing their own. Top EQ performers, said Daniel Goleman, Ph.D. (author of “Emotional ...
Views: 1118(1 vote) - How Immune Are You? - by Submitted on Mar 15, 2003 from Susan DunnCurrently, the leading causes of death for women in the US are: 1. Heart Disease, 29.9% 2. Cancer, 21.8% 3. Stroke, 8.4% 4. Chronic lower respiratory diseases, 5.1% 5. Diabetes, 3.1% 6. Influenza and pneumonia, 3.0% 7. Alzheimer’s disease, 2.9% 8. Unintentional injuries, 2.8% 9. Kidney disease, ...
Views: 1267(1 vote) - How is Coaching Different from Therapy? - by Submitted on Oct 12, 2003 from Susan Dunn“Oh,” said Bob, after listening to me explain what I do, “So coaching’s like therapy for healthy people?” No, because for one thing there are healthy people in therapy, and for another, coaches aren’t doing therapy. In fact this strikes many of us coaches as funny, because we intentionally ...
Views: 1253(1 vote) - How to Be A Good Guest - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2002 from Susan DunnBeing a good guest isn't a passive affair. It means actively participating in making the party or gathering a success. There are certain people I like to invite to anything I give because I know they'll show up and leave on time, they'll be able to talk to anyone, and they'll help me with little ...
Views: 2075(1 vote) - How To Be The Perfect Guest - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2003 from Susan DunnBeing a good guest is important to both your business and your social life. When you’re invited somewhere as “the guest,” you really have a role to play, and it’s an active one, not a passive one. You’re there to enjoy yourself, but it’s also up to you to make a positive contribution to the ...
Views: 2296(1 vote) - How to Become Change-Proficient - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2003 from Susan DunnIn today's fast-changing world, there's hardly a more important emotional intelligence competency to have than resilience. Resilience means being able to bounce back after setbacks, failures, disappointments and losses. It means not giving up, and continuing to face the future with optimism ...
Views: 1312(1 vote) - How to Build Your Career with Emotional Intelligence (EQ) - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2002 from Susan DunnBuilding your career with emotional intelligence is one of the smartest things you can do! How do you begin? 1. EQ starts with self-awareness. Know your strengths. Take the StrengthsFinder(tm) profile and find out what your innate abilities are so you can build your career around them. This ...
Views: 2200(1 vote) - How to Celebrate Mother's Day with Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on May 08, 2003 from Susan DunnI am a mother. I had a mother. I write about emotional intelligence. There is nothing more emotional than "mother." Be prepared to welcome some visceral emotions. We depend absolutely on our mothers for survival, and this sort of feeling, or instinct resides in the reptilian brain, hundreds of ...
Views: 1377(1 vote) - How to Choose a Good Partner - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2003 from Susan DunnThe best way to choose a partner is using your emotional intelligence. Here are ten tips. 1. Sexual attraction is based on a primitive and powerful feelings that can "hijack" us. It comes from the reptilian brain and is automatic and powerful because it relates to our survival. It is ...
Views: 7926(1 vote) - How to Choose the Best Partner for Life (and Make Other Important Decisions) - by Submitted on May 05, 2004 from Susan DunnHow to choose the best partner for life? Let’s use the investment analogy. Here’s how it works. I’m a fan of Warren Buffett, the world’s greatest investor. He took $100 and turned it into a multibillion-dollar company. In the latest Forbes “richest ...
Views: 3694(2 votes) - How to Choose the Right Coach for YOU, Using Your Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Mar 16, 2003 from Susan DunnMore people are hiring a coach every day. Choosing a coach is an important decision. To choose wisely, use your emotional intelligence - all parts of your brain, emotional as well as cognitive. HOW TO START YOUR SEARCH Start by doing the research. · Enter "EQ coach" on a search engine, ...
Views: 1293(1 vote) - How to Find the Work You Were Meant To Do - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2002 from Susan DunnI'm using "Now, Discover Your Strengths" by Buckingham and Clifton, for career coaching for clients with marvelous results. It was published this year and based on a survey done by The Gallup Organization of over 2,000,000 people who were excellent at what they do. The usual premises in ...
Views: 5117(1 vote) - How to Handle a Mid-School Year Move - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2003 from Susan DunnQ: What’s worse than moving ? A: Moving in the middle of the school year. My family did it more than once when I was growing up. I still remember some of the incidents-being introduced in the front of the class, having to share a locker until they could find one for me, breaking into the ...
Views: 3686(1 vote) - How to Have a Holiday Catered to People - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2002 from Susan DunnWhen we apply our knowledge from the DISC, the StrengthsFinder(tm) profile, the Keirsey, and the EQ-Map, we can eliminate a lot of the stress in the holidays. How does this work? Well, if you're going shopping for the tree with someone who is ambitious, forceful, decisive, strong-willed, ...
Views: 1574(1 vote) - How to Have an Emotionally Intelligent Valentine's Day - by Submitted on Jan 09, 2003 from Susan DunnEvery time Valentine’s Day comes along, I think of the day before Valentine’s Day a couple of years when, as I was leaving the card and gift shop where I’d selected some Valentines, while cursing the materialism dictated to us by Madison Avenue that demanded the expression of feelings with ...
Views: 2385(1 vote) - How to Help Someone on Crutches - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2004 from Susan DunnThis is from my personal point of view, having just broken my ankle, but what other point of view is there? People have offered to do every one of these things for me, and I’m so grateful and will be passing it on. I should preface this with the fact that I’ve offered people help from ...
Views: 1451(1 vote) - How to Learn What You Need to Learn in Order to Succeed - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2004 from Susan DunnIt used to be a college education was enough, and then you would learn a few job skills and be on your way. People often stayed in the same job, much less career, for their entire working life. In today’s fast-paced workplace, the college education is just the beginning, and you must ...
Views: 1154(1 vote) - How to Make Your Single Guest Comfortable at the Holidays - by Submitted on Nov 12, 2002 from Susan DunnWhether you've invited a military person, divorced friend, friend whose children are holidaying with their other parent, or a widowed or widowered parent or friend to your table for the holidays -- when everyone else is paired -- here are some things you can do to make your single guest more ...
Views: 1685(1 vote) - How to Plan a *Super* Family Reunion - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2003 from Susan DunnMy years in public relations taught me a lot about setting up successful events – and that’s what you family reunion can be. Here are some tips. 1. You take the lead. Maybe your family’s never had a family reunion. Probably they’d all like it, but someone has to get the ball rolling. It ...
Views: 1360(1 vote) - How to Protect You and Your Children from West Nile Virus - by Submitted on Jul 05, 2004 from Susan DunnTAKE THE MOSQUITO-BAIT QUIZ: Who is most likely to get bit by mosquitoes? a. Tom, who goes jogging at dawn in his shorts and tank top. b. Mary, who sprays her hair, puts on deodorant, perfume, sunscreen, and her sharp-but-scanty black patio dress, and heads for a late afternoon lawn party, ...
Views: 1109(1 vote) - How to Stay Motivated in Hard Times - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2003 from Susan DunnA few years ago, psychologist Al Siebert, who's studied resilience and is the author of "The Survivor Personality: Why Some People Are Stronger, Smarter and More Skillful at Handling Life's Difficulties" ( http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0399522301/ susandunnmome-20 ), wrote an article ...
Views: 3134(1 vote) - How to Stay Motivated When You Don't Feel Like Doing Something - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2003 from Susan DunnHow do you stay motivated when you don’t feel like doing something? There’s the ‘carrot and stick’ philosophy which works for children. How do you “motivate” your 10 year old to clean up his room? Either punish him for not doing it, or hold out a reward for him when he does do it, the ...
Views: 2081(1 vote) - If the Floor's Dirty, Don't Call a Meeting, Pick Up a Broom - by Submitted on Sep 04, 2003 from Susan DunnMother Theresa. How would you describe her? Compassionate? Kind? That’s not what people who knew her said. In my Strengths course, I ask the learners to name the major strength of different well-known people. Here’s what Pamela Sheppard replied: “The standard is compassion, but, having ...
Views: 1856(1 vote) - Interview with a Psychiatrist and Coach: What To Do As Christmas Accelerates - by Submitted on Dec 19, 2003 from Susan DunnAs Christmas draws closer, and emotions escalate, we asked a pro for some tips. Anne Dibala, M.D., is a psychiatrist, addictionologist, and The Recovery Coach™ (http://www.responsiblerecovery.com ) SD: Anne, we’re into the home stretch, and the pressures are getting worse, not better. Can ...
Views: 1069(1 vote) - Is Email Dead? - by Submitted on Mar 13, 2004 from Susan DunnIf not “dead,” it’s certainly in extremis. That’s a medical term meaning “at the point of death,” but the gist of the phrase will work. Email is in trouble, perhaps extreme, but we do not know. Is it stressed, or has it moved into strain? What will be the future? Of course no one knows. ...
Views: 1006(1 vote) - Is Emotional Intelligence Just the Fad du Jour? - by Submitted on Mar 30, 2003 from Susan Dunn“I’ve been doing this for 15 years,” Annette told me. “It just wasn’t called this.” I was explaining to a counselor in Australia about the field of emotional intelligence, and she was sure she’d found it first. Likely you'll feel the same way. “Oh, I know what you’re talking about,” James ...
Views: 2589(2 votes) - It's 'Cause I Have To, Mr. Elmer: An EQ Tale - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2003 from Susan DunnElmer builds roofs and runs construction crews. One afternoon he went fishing with one of his employees. Same bait, same hole, same fishing pole, but he was catching nothing, and his buddy was raking them in. “How come you’re catching all the fish?” Elmer asked. “It’s ‘cause I have to, Mr. ...
Views: 1575(1 vote) - It's Late September, Maggie, and I Really Should Be Getting Back to School: An EQ Tale - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2003 from Susan DunnThe young man in this song, who lets Maggie keep him away from things he should be doing, is not practicing Intentionality. Intentionality is one of the higher level emotional intelligence skills. It means saying what you meaning what you say. Keeping your word, in other words, and doing ...
Views: 2193(1 vote) - It's Okay if Things are a Little Different at Nana's - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2003 from Susan DunnMy granddaughter has great parents and also great grandparents, and we all do things differently. As parents, we love our children and also are responsible for emotional intelligence training and also character training! We want them to grow up to be responsible adults, contributing members ...
Views: 1318(1 vote) - Let's Celebrate National Women's History Month! - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2003 from Susan DunnMarch is National Women's History Month and this year's theme is "Women Pioneering the Future". According to the National Women’s History Project, this includes both “pioneering women from US history, who led and won struggles for equality and civil rights, created and advanced educational ...
Views: 1759(1 vote) - Life Strategies from Mister Rogers We Can Still Use as Adults - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Susan DunnKnowing how you feel, having personal power, managing anger, being creative, focusing on your strengths and having Intentionality - these are all emotional intelligence competencies. 1. You can never go down, never go down, never go down the drain. 2. You can stop when you want to, stop ...
Views: 1232(1 vote) - Looking for That Perfect Relationship? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2004 from Susan DunnIf you ARE looking for that perfect relationship, stop reading this article and do one of two things: (1) Go to one of those websites that promises something like that and be “taken” again, or (2) Brush up on your emotional intelligence skills. Looking for anything perfect is an ...
Views: 4432(1 vote) - Motivation: It's an "EQ" Thing, not an "IQ" Thing - by Submitted on Mar 11, 2003 from Susan Dunn"Motivation is not a thinking word," say John P. Kotter and Dan S. Cohen, in their book, "The Heart of Change." (http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/1578512549/susandunnmome-20 ) They go on to say ANALYSIS HAS 3 LIMITATIONS: 1. In a remarkable number of cases you don’t need it to find the ...
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