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- Spring Cleaning: How To Do It with a Preschooler By Your Side - by Submitted on Feb 03, 2003 from Susan DunnMost children love to clean up along with you. In fact, much of the Montessori Method of early childhood education makes use of this fact. If you notice their "work", praise it, and take it seriously, you'll keep them interested and you might also instill some good future work habits. Don't tune ...
Views: 1614(1 vote) - Excerpts from Susan Dunn, The EQ Coach’s New Book, “How to Live Your Life with Emotional Intelligence” - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2003 from Susan DunnHOW JEN USES EQ Jen is a manager for a department store “If you don’t learn how to get along with the Accounting Department,” Bob the Boss yelled, “I’m going to fire you. I’m tired of them coming to me…” Jen got up and closed her office door. Mercy was getting raked over the coals for the ...
Views: 1597(1 vote) - 3 Things to Count on the First Weeks in a New Job (and What to Do Around Them) - by Submitted on Jun 16, 2004 from Susan DunnHere are three things typical of your first weeks on a new job. 1. You will get sick. 2. You will find out you were lied to. 3. You will have a mini-crisis at home. There. Now that you have the proper expectations, it will be easier. If these don't happen to you, be pleasantly ...
Views: 1589 - Where Do You Turn? - by Submitted on May 29, 2006 from Susan DunnWhen my client Lorena was going through her divorce, she said she played the piano every night "until there wasn't an ounce left in me." John went out on his boat and listened to Rachmaninoff. Many of us turn to music when words are not enough, or there are no words. We listen to an opera, or ...
Views: 1586 - Are You Overdue for Some Changes in Your Life? - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Susan Dunn“The Life Coaching professionals at the Life Coach Clinic helped me beyond measure,” says Dr. J. Jordan, a senior management consultant,” to achieve those overdue changes in my life and provided the foundations for successful new directions and personal fulfillment.” It’s for sure life isn’t ...
Views: 1583(1 vote) - What Does It Mean to Have Boundaries? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2004 from Susan Dunn“The purpose of having boundaries is to protect and take care of ourselves,” writes Robert Burney, in “Codependence: The Dance of Wounded Souls.” The term “boundaries” has been around for some time, and if ever a term needed an adjective before it, it would be “boundaries.” For instance, we ...
Views: 1576(1 vote) - It's 'Cause I Have To, Mr. Elmer: An EQ Tale - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2003 from Susan DunnElmer builds roofs and runs construction crews. One afternoon he went fishing with one of his employees. Same bait, same hole, same fishing pole, but he was catching nothing, and his buddy was raking them in. “How come you’re catching all the fish?” Elmer asked. “It’s ‘cause I have to, Mr. ...
Views: 1575(1 vote) - How to Have a Holiday Catered to People - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2002 from Susan DunnWhen we apply our knowledge from the DISC, the StrengthsFinder(tm) profile, the Keirsey, and the EQ-Map, we can eliminate a lot of the stress in the holidays. How does this work? Well, if you're going shopping for the tree with someone who is ambitious, forceful, decisive, strong-willed, ...
Views: 1574(1 vote) - Does It Take "Soft" Skills to Win the BT Global Challenge? - by Submitted on Apr 06, 2003 from Susan DunnHave you heard of the BT Global Challenge? It’s known as the world’s toughest yacht race because it’s sailed “the wrong way” ‘round the world—against prevailing winds and currents. All kinds of waves and weather conditions are likely to be encountered. The originators have designed it crewed ...
Views: 1573(3 votes) - Breaking Bread, Making Money - by Submitted on Apr 04, 2005 from Susan Dunn“Let’s break bread,” was once a popular phrase but you don’t hear it too much any more. It’s still the preferred way to get to know people in the business world, to bond with colleagues from other departments, close deals with clients, work out issues with partners, and build trust. It works, ...
Views: 1572 - If You Want People's Business, I Mean REALLY WANT People's Business, Do This! - by Submitted on Nov 23, 2002 from Susan DunnI've been planning to move for some time, but first I had to repair the foundation on my house (a common problem in south Texas) and also get a new roof because of hail damage (another common problem in south Texas. I finished getting those major projects done, and turned to the tweaking of the ...
Views: 1567 - Ho-ho-Holiday Office Party with Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Dec 09, 2006 from Susan DunnAre you bracing yourself for December, unsure what to celebrate and how? Here’s what you can do: D ... iversity In today’s multicultural world, and office, there will likely be many faiths represented during the holiday season. You can’t assume any longer that ...
Views: 1566 - Okay, So Now I’m Supposed to Develop My Intuition? How Does That Work?” - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2003 from Susan Dunn“Intuition is vital to the empowered employee,” says Garrett Boone, CEO of the Container Store, in “Fast Company,” but intuition certainly doesn’t come to the unprepared mind. The more knowledgeable you are, the better informed you are, the better prepared you are to use your intuition.” So ...
Views: 1558(1 vote) - How to Make a Relationship Work - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2005 from Susan DunnArthur and Samatha are going at it again. It’s hard to watch from the outside, because it’s obvious they love each other, and obvious that they’re quite compatible. They’ve both been divorced, though, so they’re leery, and what they’re doing is finding sore points – even manufacturing them, ...
Views: 1551 - Emotional Intelligence Coaching: Not Just for Athletes Any More - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2005 from Susan DunnIt’s common knowledge that athletes must have trainers and coaches. It’s a long tradition, not even questioned. The results of the coaching are also obvious … athletes engage in physical actions, and one can easily see the results. They are using what’s called “gross motor skills” – hitting ...
Views: 1545 - Express Yourself and Help Others Too! - by Submitted on Feb 04, 2011 from Susan DunnOne of the surest paths to personal growth and well-being is expressing yoursel. You can do this through journaling, but there's a more fun way: write articles for the Internet. The web is hungry for information! Webpublishers looking for content for their websites and ezines and you could ...
Views: 1541(1 vote) - The Top Ten Optimistic Attributions to Holiday Happenings - by Submitted on Nov 19, 2002 from Susan DunnRemember your Optimism rules: Attribute bad things to something that isn't permanent, pervasive, or personal. Attribute good events to things that ARE permanent, pervasive, and personal. Learned Optimism is the emotionally intelligent way to reduce stress, live longer, be healthier, recover ...
Views: 1539(1 vote) - What Does an Innate Strength Look Like ? - by Submitted on Jan 04, 2003 from Susan DunnMartin Seligman, Ph.D., noted Optimism researcher, who’s now studying Authentic Happiness, has proposed that one of the surest paths to happiness is to know your signature strengths and build your life around them, particularly if it’s in a way that has meaning to you. Management gurus, ...
Views: 1531(1 vote) - How to Find the Right Man for You - by Submitted on Oct 03, 2005 from Susan DunnSarah Wilson, a dog trainer, was recently interviewed in a magazine article in reference to her master’s thesis which is about women and their dogs. She feels that what women are intuitively attracted to in a dog are the same things she’ll enjoy in a mate. (I’m sure this applies to men as ...
Views: 1528 - The Midlife Question: Did You Factor Yourself In? - by Submitted on Mar 03, 2005 from Susan DunnIt’s common at mid-life to have the feeling that you didn’t factor yourself into your own life. In fact I got that phrase from a client who, at 47 years, had noticed that she hadn’t. You think your goals and plans were all about you, but at mid-life we often have the feeling that we were ...
Views: 1513(1 vote) - Corporate Ethics, Your Ethics, Intentionality & Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2003 from Susan DunnMy granddaughter is 5. Last time she smacked her little brother and I had words with her, she said, “I didn’t mean to hit him.” A preposterous statement since I’d seen her walk over, pick up a book and whack him with it. But then she’s only 5. It continued, as I comforted both the offended ...
Views: 1508(1 vote) - Acknowledging the Team - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2006 from Susan DunnThis article is for you if you’re a behind-the-scenes kind pf person: the administrative assistant who gets the presentation ready for the guys in marketing but doesn’t get to go to the meeting; the PR pro who writes all the CEO’s speeches and answers all the complain letters; the at-home ...
Views: 1504 - Multiculturalism: The New Reality - by Submitted on May 01, 2003 from Susan DunnMulticulturalism is a reality in the US and for those of us who do business globally. The US has more legal immigrants yearly than all the other countries in the world combined. Also there are vast cultural differences among "native" Americans living in the US for several generations, as you ...
Views: 1502(1 vote) - Do You Have Adrenal Fatigue? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2006 from Susan DunnIt can present itself as depression, aching and exhaustion, burn out, fibromyalgia, auto-immune deficiencies, low sex drive, insomnia, hair loss, and a host of other things that make life a struggle every day. Adrenal fatigue will ultimately compromise your immune system, which is your health. ...
Views: 1498 - I'm Not Looking for a Friend, I'm Looking for a Jedi Master - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2003 from Susan DunnCoaching's been around for about 10 years but there are still lots of people who haven't tried it yet, and don't know what it's about. Two major confusions in people's minds are: · What's the difference between coaching and therapy, and; · What's the difference between coaching and a good ...
Views: 1495(2 votes) - Are You an Entrepreneur Who’s Not Afraid to Think Outside the Box and Make Some Money? - by Submitted on Mar 20, 2003 from Susan Dunn“It’s called Companion Air,” my client Sarita bubbled. She wants to take a trip and doesn’t want to leave Rudy, her dog, at home. So there she is, with lots of money and time, staying home. I LOVE MY DOG AND I WANT TO TRAVEL What is Companion Air? ( http://www.companionair.com ) ...
Views: 1490(1 vote) - Grandmother, What Big Eyes You Have: An EQ Tale - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2003 from Susan DunnWell, you know how the fairytale goes … Little Red Riding Hood heads out into the woods to see her grandmother. First she fails to notice the wolf when he approaches her in the woods, but goes gaily on her way. Then, when she arrives at her Grandmother’s house things look suspicious and she ...
Views: 1490(1 vote) - What the Smart Vacationer Knows - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2004 from Susan DunnVACATION 101. It’s about having fun, peace of mind, not working and not worrying. Do these things and increase those chances! And remember that the watchword today is not that it changes, but how fast it changes. PACK THOSE “SMALL” THINGS. They get really "large" on a trip. The nail ...
Views: 1485(1 vote) - Tips for Making the First Date Bearable - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2003 from Susan DunnThe first date is a high-stress time. Here are some ways to make it work better for you. 1. Keep it in perspective. If it's going well, no problem, but if it isn't, remember it's just a date and it'll end. Make the most of it. 2. Keep your expectations in line. Consider possibilities rather ...
Views: 1461(1 vote) - Stop Torturing People With Terrible Meetings - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2002 from Susan DunnQ: What do most employees hate the most about work? A: The meetings. Here are some ways to apply your emotional intelligence to running the kind of meetings people would actually like to attend. 1. Intentionality. Intentionality is one of the highest-level emotional intelligence competencies ...
Views: 1460(1 vote) - How to Date When You Want a Husband - by Submitted on Aug 26, 2005 from Susan DunnFinding a husband at midlife is a challenge. Since people date for different reasons, if you want marriage, you must differentiate yourself, select men accordingly, and behave differently. Some of the problems are that there are more women than men at this age, some men prefer to date ...
Views: 1451 - How to Help Someone on Crutches - by Submitted on Feb 16, 2004 from Susan DunnThis is from my personal point of view, having just broken my ankle, but what other point of view is there? People have offered to do every one of these things for me, and I’m so grateful and will be passing it on. I should preface this with the fact that I’ve offered people help from ...
Views: 1451(1 vote) - Olivia is 5, and Learning Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2003 from Susan DunnOlivia and I returned from going to the rodeo, and we’d been talking about going swimming. “That would be fun,” I said. “We’re hot and sticky. Let’s ask your Dad if you can.” When we got to the house, Olivia ran ahead of me. While I was talking to her Dad, she came running out in her ...
Views: 1450(1 vote) - Answers to Your Questions About Executive Coaching - by Submitted on Mar 22, 2003 from Susan DunnWhat is executive coaching? Coaches help executives increase their productivity, work relationships and work satisfaction, and the quality of their lives and that of the organization by increasing their emotional intelligence. They also help the executive define authenticity and values. ...
Views: 1442(1 vote) - Get a Coach and Make Your Resolutions Happen This Year - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2003 from Susan DunnHow's your list of New Year's resolutions coming? Studies show that most people have already failed by the 15th of January. Has this happened to you? If so, you may have left out the prime ingredient for your success - a coach! Coaching is a new field. Until you've talked to someone who's ...
Views: 1435(2 votes) - Is It Possible to Have Too Much Emotional Intelligence? - by Submitted on Feb 20, 2003 from Susan DunnSomeone emailed me recently, "Do you think it's possible to have too much emotional intelligence going on? To the point that perhaps logic takes a backseat?" Good question. The fact is, we need both IQ and EQ. You can't have "too much" emotional intelligence, but that doesn't mean atthe ...
Views: 1432(2 votes) - Keeping Your Pet Safe This Christmas - by Submitted on Nov 22, 2006 from Susan DunnThings change at Christmas time - new people come to your house with strange new things, you rearrange furniture, add new things like trees, get more tired, and pay less attention. All these things can confuse your animal companion causing them to do things they ordinarily wouldn’t do, and ...
Views: 1432 - How a Manager Uses Emotional Intelligence Like Map Coordinates - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2006 from Susan DunnIf you’ve read my articles, you know I sometimes talk about knowing your time zones. Sometimes we can get stuck in the past, or treat current situations as if they were like something from the past, or spend all our time dreaming about the future and miss the opportunity that would get us the ...
Views: 1431 - The Common Denominator in Today's Fast-Changing, Multicultural World - by Submitted on Jun 05, 2005 from Susan DunnPerhaps you’ve asked yourself this question in the past few years, or asked someone else whom you thought might have the answer. You’re wondering what you can hang on to, where you can find an anchor, or at least a marker bouy, in a world that’s never the same, and more not the same all the ...
Views: 1427 - When You're Traveling Abroad, Don't Forget to Pack Your EQ - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2003 from Susan DunnWhat do you do when you don’t know the language or customs? That’s when your EQ, or Emotional Intelligence, comes in handy. On my recent tour to Russia, the people in large cities (Moscow, Saint Petersburg) knew English, but not in the small villages (Yaroslavl, Uglich). I thought I’d pick ...
Views: 1411(1 vote) - “It’s Time for SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder). Take care!” - by Submitted on Jan 01, 2006 from Susan DunnSeasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) affects about 5% of us severely and perhaps 25% of us more mildly. Women and young adults are more likely to suffer from it. It’s a form of depression that, according to the National Mental Health Association (NMHA), is a real illness with sometimes severe ...
Views: 1410(1 vote) - Antidotes for a Depressing Time of Year - by Submitted on Jan 16, 2006 from Susan DunnAround the end of January, post-holiday blues combine with bad weather, debt, allergens, failed resolutions, and long hours of darkness. In fact last year a scientist, using a formula of things that make us feel bad, labeled January 24 the most depressing day of the year. It’s a nasty ...
Views: 1401 - Hate It? Gotta Do It? Not Good At It? Whatcha Gonna Do? - by Submitted on Feb 14, 2003 from Susan DunnThe Equalizer doesn't seem to be answering the phone so it looks like its up to you. What? Oh any of those nasty chores we all hate to do. For me its keeping lists, keeping records. Of course I can DO them. I was an event planner - it's nothing BUT details - but it's not my strong suit. ...
Views: 1399(2 votes) - Why Increase Your Emotional Intelligence? - by Submitted on Feb 18, 2006 from Susan DunnFirst of all, what is emotional intelligence? I bet you’ve read some fancy definitions, and maybe even some of the academic articles trying to distinguish between emotions, feelings and moods. Part of emotional intelligence is what we could call “common sense.” So, some common sense ...
Views: 1396 - Is Your Child Playing with Fire? - by Submitted on Aug 12, 2004 from Susan DunnI grew up with the Edwards boys, Eddie, Freddie and Paulie, I’ll call them. Paulie was the youngest and his face and hands were terribly scarred. Eddie and Freddie had found some matches and gone out back and set a fire, bringing Paulie along to watch. Somehow Paulie was the one who ended up ...
Views: 1391 - The Big Question: Why Don’t Middle Managers Know How to Lead? - by Submitted on Dec 05, 2006 from Susan DunnThis question appeared on a blog recently, and of course it caught my interest as it was framed in terms of Emotional Intelligence. I maintain the answer is quite simple: because no one ever taught them how. Now, let me say that I don’t know that middle managers don’t know how to lead. In ...
Views: 1380 - What I've Learned from Mister Rogers - by Submitted on Feb 13, 2003 from Susan DunnFred Rogers is one of my heroes. He was gentle "before gentle was cool". 1. You can never go down, never go down, never go down the drain. When life can involve divorce, layoffs, losing a child, being a single working parents, or starting a new career at 55, it's good to know you can never go ...
Views: 1380(2 votes) - Destructive Emotions and What We Can Do About Them - by Submitted on Mar 31, 2003 from Susan Dunn“Anger kills,” says Redford Williams, director of Duke University Medical Center's Behavioral Medicine Research Center. He references studies of cancer and cardiac patients. He has also authored the book, "Anger Kills". And “Prayer saves lives,” says Harold Koenig, director of the medical ...
Views: 1378(2 votes) - How to Celebrate Mother's Day with Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on May 08, 2003 from Susan DunnI am a mother. I had a mother. I write about emotional intelligence. There is nothing more emotional than "mother." Be prepared to welcome some visceral emotions. We depend absolutely on our mothers for survival, and this sort of feeling, or instinct resides in the reptilian brain, hundreds of ...
Views: 1377(1 vote) - Valentine's Day is Coming. The Pressure is On. Are You Ready? - by Submitted on Feb 06, 2003 from Susan DunnIt's heating up. Lingerie, perfume and flower ads are flooding your email. The radio pumps out dining specials at various restaurants. In San Antonio, where I live, it shares airtime with the rodeo, and my thoughts wander ... I'll take my lover to the rodeo and kill two birds with one stone! ...
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