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- Six Steps to Rebuilding a Broken Trust - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2015 from Janet PfeifferHave you ever disappointed someone or broken a promise? Was the incident serious enough to ultimately compromise the trust between you? We all have been untrustworthy at some point. That doesn't mean that we're bad or selfish. Sometimes, even under the best of circumstances, we let people down. ...
Views: 1990 - Creating a Cooperative Company Culture - by Submitted on May 13, 2015 from Janet PfeifferThe latest buzz word in business today is "company culture". It refers, in part, to the overall atmosphere and mission of the company. Many entrepreneurs begin the best of intentions and hire people who have the same values and commitment to their objective. Yet somewhere along the line, in the ...
Views: 1983 - ASSUME, ACCUSE, ASK - by Submitted on Nov 08, 2017 from Janet PfeifferAt some point in almost every person's life, we have made false assumptions about another or blamed an innocent party for something they were not responsible for. Needless to say, both of these behaviors can lead to hurt feelings, people being offended and outraged or an angry defensive response ...
Views: 1949(1 vote) - HOW TO PREVENT PEOPLE FROM PUSHING YOUR BUTTONS - by Submitted on Dec 13, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWe've all blamed others for how we feel at times. "You really make me angry!" "You hurt my feelings!" "You totally embarrassed me!" Most people don't realize that by allowing others to push our buttons and determine how we feel, we actually give away our personal power. Others decide for us ...
Views: 1945 - How Dare You Judge Me! - by Submitted on Sep 10, 2014 from Janet PfeifferI'm reasonably confident in saying that there's not a person on this planet who has not felt unfairly judged at some point. While we may feel justified in imposing verdicts on one another, when we are on the receiving end the feeling can be quite hurtful. It is not uncommon to react with anger, ...
Views: 1912 - Only Funny in the Sunday's - by Submitted on Jan 22, 2012 from Janet PfeifferI love reading the Sunday funnies. One of my favorites is For Better or Worse by Lynn Johnston. In a recent comic, the young child, Mike, was having a bad day. Trying to construct a building out of Lego-type pieces, gravity was working against him as the entire structure collapsed. In a fit of ...
Views: 1890(1 vote) - Let Go (of) My Ego: The Connection Between Ego and Anger - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2015 from Janet PfeifferWhile in college back in the 60's, I majored in psychology. While it was not my eventual degree, I continued to find it a fascinating subject even decades later. I remember during one of my classes the professor stated that there were only two emotions: love and fear. I found that difficult to ...
Views: 1884 - Weak, Meek or Strong: a Biblical Perspective on Anger - by Submitted on May 28, 2014 from Janet PfeifferThe first verse of the Beatitudes in the Bible says, "Blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the Earth." Like many others, I always had difficulty with the term meek. To me, it was synonymous with being weak. And yet nothing could be farther from the truth. The word meek comes from the ...
Views: 1881(1 vote) - The Truth About Love, Hurt, and Anger - by Submitted on Feb 12, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWe're all familiar with the phrase, "love hurts". Too often, we take a witty cliché and assign truth to it. We then refer to it in times when it brings comfort, helps us to make a decision, or emphasizes a point. In reference to "love hurts", those who have been betrayed by someone they loved ...
Views: 1878 - SAVING AMERICA: HOW TO REVERSE HATRED AND RESTORE UNITY - by Submitted on Jun 28, 2017 from Janet PfeifferOur country is experiencing the most tumultuous and dangerous period that I can remember since the race riots in the 1960's. Political dissension, racial profiling, random massacres, gender prejudice, a reckless and deceitful media, entitlement, and more have caused a division of American of ...
Views: 1877 - 3 R's That Mend Broken Relationships - by Submitted on Apr 13, 2016 from Janet PfeifferRelationships can be challenging, each with its own unique set of issues. Whether on the job with co workers who can at times be condescending, to social encounters with individuals who are overly critical, to our most personal relationships with family members who deeply offend us with hurtful ...
Views: 1875 - The Spiritual Solution to Anger - by Submitted on Dec 03, 2013 from Janet PfeifferI've spoken many times about the importance of all feelings, anger included. With every emotion we experience, we have the ability to learn much about ourselves. No feeling is inherently wrong. It's how we choose to express and use them that determines their value. In The Secret Side of ...
Views: 1870(2 votes) - 5 QUALITIES OF NON VIOLENT FIGHTING - by Submitted on Aug 02, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWhen individuals disagree on a subject matter, whether it's politics, religion, home projects, budgeting issues or such, very often the discussion escalates into a full-blown fight. Tensions rise as each side tries to convince the other that their beliefs or ways of doing something are more ...
Views: 1867 - The ONE KEY to Making Love Last a Lifetime - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2013 from Janet PfeifferAh, Love! What could be more wonderful than falling in love? We find ourselves attracted to another and regardless of our age we feel like a teenager falling in love for the first time. And for a period of time, all is right with the world. But then reality sets in. We begin to notice things ...
Views: 1858 - 20+ TIMES NOT TO SAY ANYTHING - by Submitted on Feb 22, 2017 from Janet PfeifferThere are so many times in our lives when we realize after the fact that it would have been in our best interest to have kept our thoughts to ourselves. Words are powerful and can make matters better or cause damage to others or get us into a whole lot of trouble. There is much wisdom in the old ...
Views: 1839 - DEAL WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE USING C~U~R~B~APPEAL - by Submitted on Sep 21, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWe all have challenging people in our lives yet unfortunately few of us have been properly trained in how to effectively deal with them. Well, that's going to change today. In no particular order, using the an acronym "C~U~R~B Appeal", you will learn tips that will better enable you to get ...
Views: 1839 - Four Keys to Overcoming Anger - by Submitted on May 22, 2013 from Janet PfeifferI facilitated an anger management support group for several years. One woman began attending shortly after our first meeting. Her name was Joan. Joan's marriage of thirty plus years was in trouble. Admitting she had a bad temper, her husband recently filed for divorce. She was devastated. "I ...
Views: 1831(3 votes) - THE NAIL IN THE FENCE - by Submitted on Oct 23, 2013 from Janet Pfeiffer"The sharpest sword is a word spoken in wrath." (The Buddha). A little boy, prone to anger, was told by his father, "Every time you're angry, drive a nail in that wooden fence. When you've learned to control your anger, start removing them." Six months later, the boy had removed every nail ...
Views: 1826(2 votes) - PUSHED TOO FAR: WHEN PEOPLE SNAP - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2017 from Janet PfeifferWe are all too familiar with headline stories about people who are pushed to their limits and snap. Whether on the job, within their own families, or even children in school - everyone has their breaking point. In 2010, Omar Thorton, a 34-year old employee at the Hartford Beer Distributors in ...
Views: 1809 - NEVER BE A VICTIM AGAIN! - by Submitted on May 03, 2017 from Janet PfeifferAt some time in life, most people feel as though they've been treated unfairly to the extent that they would consider themselves a victim. Certainly those who have been the target of a violent crime fall into that category according to society's standards. Even those of lesser offenses can view ...
Views: 1802 - ABCE: ANGER, BOUNDARIES, COMPASSION, ENABLING - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2017 from Janet PfeifferNo matter who we are or where we go in life, we encounter people who are struggling with personal issues and are not easy to engage with. They can prove challenging to deal for a variety of reasons. Often times, we feel ill-equipped to effectively deal with them. Some, feeling overwhelmed or ...
Views: 1798 - EMOTIONAL /SPIRITUAL RECOVERY FROM TRAUMATIC EVENTS - by Submitted on Apr 19, 2017 from Janet PfeifferLife can change in a heartbeat. A few weeks ago, a family was stopped at a red light and rear-ended by a drunk driver. Their 10-year old son, Matthew, suffered a severe head trauma and is in a medically induced coma. The prognosis is not good and the family struggles to make sense of what was an ...
Views: 1798 - 7 TIBETAN STEPS TO LASTING JOY - by Submitted on Aug 17, 2016 from Janet PfeifferThere is something about the country of Tibet that has always intrigued me. Perhaps it's the beautiful landscape along crystal blue waters or the unique architecture of its oriental style buildings. Or more importantly a group of monks that call this country their home are known for their serene ...
Views: 1797 - One Part is the Whole - by Submitted on Apr 11, 2012 from Janet PfeifferI have been busy with the media discussing the recent killing of seventeen year old Trayvon Martin in Sanford, Florida. A volunteer with a local neighborhood watch committee observed Martin walking alone wearing a “hoodie” sweatshirt draped over his head. The volunteer, George Zimmerman, called ...
Views: 1796 - How to Stop People From Hurting You - by Submitted on Dec 10, 2014 from Janet PfeifferIf I posed the question, "Who in your life has hurt you?", you might respond with, "Must I limit it to only one?" We've all been on the receiving end of someone's thoughtless behavior - their anger, sarcasm, back stabbing or betrayals. We've been hurt by those we know and love and even some that ...
Views: 1795 - Grief, Healing, and Wholeness - by Submitted on Sep 09, 2015 from Janet PfeifferElizabeth Kubler-Ross defined the five stages of grief in her 1969 book, On Death and Dying. Grief is a deeply personal process and each individual experiences it on their own terms. Some may endure all five stages, others only a portion; some progress in a seemingly reasonable period of time, ...
Views: 1795 - 7 Communication Strategies to Reduce Anger and Conflict - by Submitted on Apr 02, 2014 from Janet PfeifferWhy is it so hard to talk to one another? Unless you're a recluse, it's something we all do every day. Perhaps because I'm a motivational speaker, author, and radio host I can talk ad infinitum. I actually find it enjoyable and relatively easy. Yet there is a significant difference between ...
Views: 1790 - The Nature of Nature (Excerpt from The Great Truth) - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2012 from Janet PfeifferI have two acres of beautifully landscaped property with colorful gardens. In each, I’ve planted a wide array of flora: roses, tulips, chrysanthemums, geraniums, daisies, sweet Williams, peonies, and others whose names elude me. One day, while preparing dinner in the kitchen, I heard voices ...
Views: 1788 - Winning Arguments Through Non-Resistance - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWhen disagreements arise there is always the possibility that they will escalate into an argument or fight. The very nature of dissension triggers feelings of uneasiness in the average person. Most of us struggle with some degree of insecurity. Contradictory ideas, needs, beliefs, ways of doing ...
Views: 1784 - Winning Arguments Through Non-Resistance - by Submitted on Apr 20, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWhen disagreements arise there is always the possibility that they will escalate into an argument or fight. The very nature of dissension triggers feelings of uneasiness in the average person. Most of us struggle with some degree of insecurity. Contradictory ideas, needs, beliefs, ways of doing ...
Views: 1784 - Domestic Abuse: What Everyone Needs to Know - by Submitted on Oct 09, 2013 from Janet PfeifferDomestic abuse is one of the most serious epidemics modern society faces today. With 1/3 of all women reporting incidences of violence in the home and/or in intimate relationships (this does not reflect the numbers that go unreported nor those of men being abused), no socio-economic group, ...
Views: 1758(1 vote) - Why Do I Feel the Way I Do? - by Submitted on Apr 08, 2015 from Janet PfeifferPeople often believe that they are slaves to their emotions: "I hate feeling like this but I can't help it." Some are ashamed of their emotions and try to hide them; still others find some to be offensive, frightening or sinful. But the truth is that all feelings have purpose and value. They are ...
Views: 1744 - Part 2: "20+ TIMES TO NOT SAY ANYTHING" - by Submitted on Mar 01, 2017 from Janet PfeifferContinuing from where we left off last week, remember that there is a time to speak and a time to keep our mouths shut. Here are more examples of when it's best to remain silent: 11. When you are tempted to outright lie. People lie for a variety of reasons: to protect themselves or another ...
Views: 1742 - 13 Quick Questions for Clarifying Anger - by Submitted on May 21, 2014 from Janet PfeifferDo you ever wonder why it's so hard to break a habit? Whether it's biting your fingernails, the way you speak, or your reaction to drivers who cut you off on the highway, old habits die hard. The reason being is that behaviors, when repeated frequently enough, become habitual. We no longer ...
Views: 1720 - 10 PROLIFIC COMMUNICATE TIPS - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIt's difficult for a lot of people to communicate with each other effectively. Unless you're a recluse, communication is something we all do every day. Perhaps because I'm a motivational speaker, author, and radio host, I can talk ad infinitum. I actually find it enjoyable and relatively easy. ...
Views: 1711 - ANGER: FIRE OR ICE? - by Submitted on Feb 15, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIt doesn't take much to anger some people. Even the most innocent comments can cause some tempers to flare. Innocuous situations can be misinterpreted leading to screaming matches, cursing, or physical altercations. In an instant, violence can erupt where calm once existed and destruction of ...
Views: 1710 - The Sky is NOT My Limit: Setting and Enforcing Boundaries - by Submitted on Jan 23, 2013 from Janet PfeifferMany of us allow others to treat us in ways that are uncomfortable, unhealthy or disrespectful. We remain silent rather than address our disdain for fear of retribution: what will happen if I speak up? Will I lose my job? Will my best friend get angry with me? Will my family choose to no longer ...
Views: 1702 - No Reason - by Submitted on Dec 22, 2011 from Janet PfeifferNo Reason Ten years ago, my Uncle John passed away. Although in his eighty’s, it was hard on his son, Johnny. Three months later, Johnny’s only child, his beautiful fourteen year old daughter, was in a car that plunged into an icy Ohio River where she tragically drowned. Her mother, Johnny’s ...
Views: 1690(1 vote) - How to Stop People From Annoying You - by Submitted on Oct 01, 2014 from Janet PfeifferThey're like mosquitoes on a hot summer night - those irritating and annoying people. They can be found anywhere from our families or coworkers to drivers on the roadways to complete strangers we encounter while on vacation. Their quirky behaviors and annoying habits can ruin our day. Other ...
Views: 1665 - FIVE EASY STEPS TO INNER PEACE - by Submitted on Nov 15, 2017 from Janet PfeifferOne of my favorite authors, the late Dr. Wayne Dyer, once stated that "There is no way to peace. Peace is the way." This seemed rather contradictory to the common belief that a peaceful state of existence is a destination we arrive at after traversing a righteous path. Wayne challenges us to ...
Views: 1665 - Why Forgiveness is Obsolete - by Submitted on Oct 22, 2014 from Janet PfeifferMy mother has always been an advocate of forgiveness. When I was a child she taught me early on to let go of being angry with people. If a friend hurt me she suggested that perhaps they didn't realize what they had done. If it was a family member, well, families don't hold grudges. And as ...
Views: 1664 - STICKS AND STONES: DISARMING HURTFUL WORDS - by Submitted on Nov 30, 2016 from Janet PfeifferI used to pride myself on being sensitive. The problem was I was easily hurt by the things other people said to me. I lived in a chronic state of pain which lead to a lifetime of unhappiness and low self-esteem. But the alternative (being cold and aloof) was less appealing so I resigned myself ...
Views: 1658 - L~A~V~S~S METHOD: 5 KEYS TO RESOLVE CONFLICT - by Submitted on Nov 02, 2016 from Janet PfeifferKeeping our disagreements from becoming full-blown fights can be challenging. Many times, we're so passionate about our beliefs or what we want to do that any form of opposition causes us to become frustrated and angry. We may prefer that others simply agree with our position or if they don't to ...
Views: 1655 - KISSAway Anger - by Submitted on Feb 27, 2013 from Janet PfeifferMy guest on my radio show today, Dr. Erica Kosal, has been dealing with the devastating illness of her husband, Jim, for the past five years. Understandably, she has experienced a wide range of emotions including stress and anger. But this college professor and mother of two refused to allow ...
Views: 1653(1 vote) - Creating a Peace Plan - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2013 from Janet PfeifferWhile it's important to understand, express, manage, diffuse, and heal your anger, imagine how much easier it would be to prevent outside forces from irritating you from the get go? You can learn to be emotionally unaffected by the drama and chaos around you. Rest assured, I'm not suggesting ...
Views: 1652(1 vote) - 14 Common Reasons We Get Angry and Their Solutions - by Submitted on Apr 27, 2016 from Janet PfeifferWhile conducting research for today's show, I found fourteen of the most common reasons people get angry. Keep in mind, these are only the triggers. Outside circumstances are never the actual cause. There are three root causes - hurt, fear, and frustration - that prompt anger in us. Let's ...
Views: 1651 - How To Communicate Rationally When You're Angry - by Submitted on Oct 21, 2015 from Janet PfeifferCommunication is difficult for most of us. It is one of the most necessary interpersonal skills we need yet few have ever been formally trained in. For most, it's a learn-as-you-go process. What makes effective communicating so challenging is that we all converse on different levels and employ ...
Views: 1651 - Ten Tips for Dealing With Difficult People - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2013 from Janet PfeifferDifficult people - ya gotta love em! Or not. Whether you do or don't, it's a fact of life that they are all around us - in our families, places of employment, communities, social events, and everywhere else. For whatever reasons, we all have personal issues that cause us to behave in ways others ...
Views: 1640(3 votes) - Diffusing Family Tension - by Submitted on Apr 01, 2015 from Janet PfeifferI've spent over twenty years working with families as a spiritual life coach. Many of my clients divulge painful or embarrassing situations that their families are struggling with, believing there must be something wrong with them since other families they know appear so well adjusted. I assure ...
Views: 1639 - THE WHY'S WAY TO NEUTRALIZE ANGER - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2017 from Janet PfeifferIf I told you that there was one simple word that could prevent anger from arising would you be interested in discovering what that word is? Or in the event that anger showed up without warning, this same word could easily subdue it and restore your sense of calm? Would you utilize this ...
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