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- How to Tell if He Is Second-Date Worthy - by Submitted on Jan 07, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerI read this quote recently: I love that feeling of being in love, the effect of having butterflies when you wake up in the morning. That is special. ~ Jennifer Aniston I love her, and no offense meant, but how has that butterfly-thing been working for Jen so far? During my 35-plus years ...
Views: 2041(1 vote) - Answering the $1 Million Question: Is He In To You? - by Submitted on Nov 29, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerAnswering the $1 Million Question: Is He In To You? At least half of all the emails I get from wonderful women who are over 40 and looking for love are about the same question you’ve probably been asking since you were a teenager: “Is he in to me?” Often the answer is: If you have to ask, ...
Views: 2040(2 votes) - The One Word You Can Use to Magnetize the Right Man - by Submitted on Mar 18, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerA single man I know once said: If a woman I'm interested in doesn't seem to love herself, why should I love her...and trying to convince her that she's great would be too exhausting. When a man meets this kind of woman he may be attracted initially, but after figuring out that she is a ...
Views: 2003(1 vote) - ***How to Turn Fear of Dating into Fun Dates - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerWhen you think of dating – especially online dating – do you feel any fear? Do you get even a tiny twinge of terror? If your answer is "yes," you are not alone. In fact, I think you're among the majority. The women I'm coaching often tell me about situations they describe as "scary." Here ...
Views: 1944 - Are You Ready to Teach and Tame Her? (FemiTypes - The Epilogue) - by Submitted on Sep 03, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerOver the past few months I’ve profiled six types of women – I call them FemiTypes – who have less than healthy relationships with men. I’ve written about The Princess, The 18 Year Old, The Scaredy Cat, The Wow-Me Woman, The Bitter Woman and The Sexpot. Why have I written about women when you ...
Views: 1933(1 vote) - ***How to Spot the Bad Guys and Chase Them Away - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerDo you want to be in a relationship with a man who doesn't care what you want and need? I'm going to assume the answer is "no." So I have to ask: Why would you date a man who doesn't care what you want and need? Two of my private coaching clients are struggling with the notion of ...
Views: 1869(5 votes) - ***Key #1 to Finding Hope and Finding Him: Me First - by Submitted on Oct 20, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThis is the first in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. A single man I know once said, “If a woman ...
Views: 1834(17 votes) - ***One Thing You Can Stop Doing to Improve Your Dates and Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerRaise your hand if you can accurately read the minds of your girlfriends. My guess is that, at least for a few, you actually can. Larry and I can read each other’s minds at times. When you’ve spent about 2000 days with someone you love, that happens. (It’s not always a good thing, btw.) Now, ...
Views: 1799(4 votes) - ***How to Be a Powerful, Feminine Woman - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerWant to attract a confident, grounded man who will enhance your already great life? The best way to do it is to act like a lady. Yes, that age-old scenario is still true: masculine men are attracted to feminine women. Men want to know that they're contributing to our lives. When a man cares ...
Views: 1780(12 votes) - ***How You Can Help Men Make You Happy - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerIf you don’t ask…you don’t get. I think this is the key to being happy with men. It’s one of my Dad’s favorite lines. I heard it so often growing up that it’s now a mantra in my already overloaded brain. Dad’s premise was that it is your responsibility to state what you want, and then give ...
Views: 1758(11 votes) - ***Key #3 to Finding Hope and Finding Him: Shed Your Stuff - by Submitted on Oct 25, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThis is the third in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. I know you are a fabulous, smart, ...
Views: 1755(17 votes) - Can I Find Love When I Have Serious Life Problems? - by Submitted on May 24, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerI received an email yesterday that I want to share. I hear some form of this a lot: “I’m [not perfect because of fill-in-the-blank] and I’m worried no man will ever want me!” I get it but I can’t tell you how much this breaks my heart. I lived in the “no man wants a fat girl” reality for a ...
Views: 1723(3 votes) - Delicious Life Lessons I Learned from My Father - by Submitted on Dec 06, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerMy Dad died. There…I said it out loud. Even though I was by his side and saw him take his very last breath, it’s been hard to believe he’s gone forever. F-o-r-e-v-e-r. I wanted to write this article for Thanksgiving so I could publicly thank him and show my gratitude. How trite, I thought. It ...
Views: 1722(1 vote) - Online Rejection: There’s No Such Thing! - by Submitted on Apr 30, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerThis is one skill I want you to master: Rejecting online rejection. Learning to accept rejection gracefully, with as few “dings” to your self-esteem as possible, is key to finding your true love. As a dating coach, I’ve found the #1 reason you won’t have success online is giving up too soon. ...
Views: 1716(3 votes) - What Is Your Online Dating IQ? - by Submitted on Feb 07, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerI know I sound like a broken record about the benefits of dating online, especially if you are single and over 40. I’m going to continue to nag you about this because I want what you want: for you to find the man of your dreams, and to never let each other go. Getting online is the best way to ...
Views: 1695 - ***Ten Tips to Kick-Start Positive Change - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerAll right, ladies. I trust we all got through Valentine’s Day, right? But let's make this your last February fourteenth when you don’t have a fab date! To do that, you’re going to have to make some changes. Put simply, stagnation is never good. When you refuse to change or embrace new ...
Views: 1692 - ***Given a Chance, How Men Can Surprise You! - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerAre you resisting letting men help you or do nice things for you? Maybe you’re thinking it threatens your independence or makes you seem weak. Or maybe you’re just trying to be low-maintenance; thinking that this is what men want. As I’ve said time and time again, letting a man do for you – ...
Views: 1686(4 votes) - ***Why You're Still Single - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerOne of my clients recently said, “I don’t think there’s something wrong with me; I just think I’m doing something wrong.” Bingo. The majority of women who come to me for help with dating and relationships lack confidence. Most are sure something is wrong with them. What else would explain ...
Views: 1663(2 votes) - Are You Dating Like a Grownup? - by Submitted on May 17, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerI’m often asked what I mean by Dating Like a Grownup. It’s obviously a great question that I probably should answer every so often. (I am, after all, the CEO of Date Like a Grownup!) I’m going to give you my definition, and then I’m going to tell you about a great book I’ve read that does a ...
Views: 1661(3 votes) - How to Get (the Right) Man to Like You - by Submitted on May 30, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerI'm sure you know that in order to attract the right man you need to feel great about yourself. That's why Step One of my 6-Step Find Hope and then Find Him System is Who Am I: Falling in Love With Myself. You have to know why you rock and truly believe that you'll make some lucky man a superb ...
Views: 1654(5 votes) - ***Valentine's Day: Make It All about YOU! - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerHave you been dreading it and trying to avoid it? Chances are pretty good – thanks to all the advertising and silliness – that you’re keenly aware Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. I used to call Valentine's Day “Singles Awareness Day.” Now that I'm married I couldn't care less ...
Views: 1650(11 votes) - ***Imperfection Does Not Equal Rejection - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerAre you perfect? Do you know anyone who is? Look at the people you know, especially those in midlife or older. Do you know anyone who hasn't had some rough times behind them or who are not currently facing life challenges? It’s doubtful, because this is real life; not the movies. Those of us ...
Views: 1649(2 votes) - ***Let's Agree to Face Our Fear - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerDo you go month to month, year to year, repeating the same mantra about men? It leaves your mouth in various forms, but you’ve got only one point: to release yourself from any responsibility and keep you safe and snug-as-a-bug-in-a-rug without the worry of that pesky intimacy thing. "There ...
Views: 1609(6 votes) - Two Simple Thoughts That Will Change the Way You Date - by Submitted on Jun 01, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerMy guess is that you’ve been dating a while and not getting great results. You’re here reading this, after all. The best way to shift into having dates that render positive outcomes – like having more fun and eventually meeting The One – is to change the way you talk to yourself before you even ...
Views: 1567(4 votes) - ***How to Make Every Date Great - by Submitted on Aug 09, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThe first ten minutes of a date often determine whether a second date is ever going to happen, and let's face it: second dates are not the norm for many. That was definitely my story until I learned about (what I now call) "Date Waste." Date waste is when a date is a drag but has little to do ...
Views: 1562(14 votes) - ***How to Talk to Men (in a Way That They Like!) - by Submitted on Sep 22, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerNot only is it okay to talk about yourself to men, but it is 100% essential to getting first dates and future dates. When I tell women that it’s GOOD to talk about themselves, it’s generally met with complete shock. But don’t guys love it when we let them do all the talking? Well, yes. Who ...
Views: 1541(2 votes) - ***Key #5 to Finding Hope and Finding Him: Real Women Find Their Man - by Submitted on Nov 09, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThis is the fifth and last in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. The truth is that as we get older, ...
Views: 1541(26 votes) - ***Why You Might Want to Stop Looking for a Man - by Submitted on Jan 12, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerI know you say you're looking for a loving and committed man to share your life, but I have to ask...have you found yourself yet? I know you've heard this before and it sounds trite, but everyone says it for a good reason. If the answer to the question is no, beats me, or who cares...then you ...
Views: 1515(4 votes) - Nine Ways to Make Your Date Great (in the First Ten Minutes!) - by Submitted on May 20, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerThe first 10 minutes of a date often determine whether a second date is even going to happen. And let's face it: second dates are not the norm for many. That was definitely my story until I learned about (what I now call) "Date Waste." Date waste is when a date is a drag but has little to do ...
Views: 1512(3 votes) - ***Are You Expecting Men to Act Like Women? - by Submitted on Nov 11, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerMy idea for today's post came from a seminar I hosted last week called "Making Sense of Men." It was co-led by a trainer for PAX Programs International, which is in the business of educating women about men. If you haven't familiarized yourself with PAX, which is the brilliant work of Alison ...
Views: 1505(18 votes) - ***Be a Woman Who Knows That She is Enough - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerYour fear of being rejected because you are imperfect is exactly what is getting you rejected. Yah…I know I’ve written about this a million times, but two recent experiences reminded me of how major this is. So here I am reminding you in case you still don’t get it. Me…Popular? My Junior ...
Views: 1493(6 votes) - ***What Are Your Dating and Relationship Rules - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerHave you ever asked yourself this question: What are my rules for dating and relationships? What are my boundaries, what must I do, and what must I have? And what will I simply not tolerate in myself or in others? Too often I talk to women who stayed in unfulfilling relationships or have a ...
Views: 1461(4 votes) - ***How to Decide When to Have Sex - by Submitted on Dec 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThe ladies in my Master the Mystery of Meeting Men telecourse have been talking about S-E-X. When is it okay to have it? How do you decide? This is such an important conversation! You may think "I'm not even dating yet...who cares!" But the decision may be closer than you think, and I want you ...
Views: 1455(8 votes) - ***Key #4 to Finding Hope and Finding Him: Time to Get Out and Trail Blaze - by Submitted on Nov 04, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThis is the third in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. I say you need to Trail Blaze because, as you ...
Views: 1444(3 votes) - ***Key #2 to Finding Hope and Finding Him: Assess Your List - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThis is the second in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. Most of you probably have a list of what you ...
Views: 1424(11 votes) - ***Key #2 to Finding Hope and Finding Him: Assess Your List - by Submitted on Oct 24, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerThis is the second in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. Most of you probably have a list of what you ...
Views: 1424(11 votes) - ***5 Must-Know Tips for Boomer Women Dating Online - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerDating sites report that their fastest growing segment are people over 50. My clients, women ranging from 35 – 65, are having great success with it. Face it: online dating is the new hot spot for people who wouldn’t dream of meeting someone in a bar. You know I’m a huge proponent of online ...
Views: 1421(1 vote) - ***"What Looking for Love and Birthing a Baby Have in Common" - by Submitted on Jan 05, 2012 from Bobbi PalmerThere are so many women I care deeply about —both friends and clients — who are holding themselves back from bringing love into their lives. Are you one of them? Are you saying "I want a fabulous man in my life" and "I know I'm a catch," yet not doing much to actually reach your self-described ...
Views: 1356(9 votes) - ***Why Online Dating Is Not for You - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerLast week I hosted a workshop called Get Online, Get Noticed, Get Dates, Exclusively for Women over Forty. I had a fantastic time with these smart and lovely women who really want to meet their mate. It was a total blast, and they all left excited and feeling like they had the confidence and ...
Views: 1333(20 votes) - [Video]How Do I Tell Him I Have Herpes? - by Submitted on Jun 12, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerIf you are over 40 and dating, it is extremely likely that you have something about your past or your present you’re afraid to share when you meet new men. As I talked about in my last Grownup Girls’ Night Out, there is a good time AND a good way to talk about your ...
Views: 1325 - [Video] What To Do When It Doesn’t Work Out - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here I had a disappointment today. I blew an opportunity to do well at something that was super important to me. I was struggling to find a way to fix it…to make it right. So I thought: What would I tell another sister to do in this situation? I came up with the ...
Views: 1276(1 vote) - ***What Men Say About Women (It May Surprise You!) - by Submitted on Dec 21, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerWhat if you could hear men honestly share their thoughts and feelings about women, dating, sex and relationships? I had the opportunity to do that twice last week when I hosted and observed "man panels." If you've never been fortunate to hear a man panel, it works like this: we gather men — ...
Views: 1254(14 votes) - How to Shake Up Your Love Life This Weekend [Video] - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here Do you feel like you’re in a bit of a rut? Sometimes, especially when we’re older and haven’t dated for a while, we can start feeling bored, boring or invisible when it comes to men. I recorded this video to help you shake things up! With very ...
Views: 1242(1 vote) - One Surprising Way Men Help Us While Hurting Us - by Submitted on Jun 24, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerIt’s your fear of rejection that is getting you rejected. ~~ Bobbi Palmer I know…I write about rejection a lot: how to recognize when it is and isn't real; how there’s no such thing as rejection when you’re meeting guys using online dating; and how to learn from it, recover and move on to the ...
Views: 1242(3 votes) - How to Magnetize the Men You Like: Top Tips [Video] - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here Since you all can’t all attend my upcoming Live Event “The Art of Magnetizing Men“, I wanted to share my #1 Top Tip for being a midlife man magnet. Then I figured: why not invite my two guest experts to share theirs! Let me know your ...
Views: 1227(1 vote) - How to Say “No” (Whether You Like Him or Not) [Video] - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here What do you do when a man asks you out and you aren’t interested? Are you worried about hurting his feelings? I get this question quite frequently because, after all, we want to please men, right? Here are my simple tips for how to say “no” to a ...
Views: 1210(1 vote) - How to Answer Those Personal Questions You Don’t Want to Answer [Video] - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here Were you at last Friday’s Grownup Girls’ Night Out Live Man Panel? I had three men — ages 40s, 50s and 70s – generously share their thoughts and feelings about what attracts them to women, what to do on dates, how to tell if a man is into ...
Views: 1194(1 vote) - [Video] How Do I Get Myself to Think Nice Guys Are Hot? - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here Last weekend was my live event in Los Angeles: Mastering the Art of Magnetizing Men. During this two-day event I gave women tons of advice and step-by-step tips to help them attract quality men so they could finally meet their loving lifetime partner. If ...
Views: 1134(1 vote) - ***Make Your List, But Consider It Twice (Or Thrice!) - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerCan you use a dating pick-me-up? Something to boost your hope of finding your fabulous life partner? If you’re wondering if dating and the nonsense that sometimes comes with it is worth it, read on. I have a spectacular success story to share, along with advice on two simple things that will ...
Views: 1133(1 vote) - [Video] Dating New Men: How to Tell Him the Scary Stuff - by Submitted on Jun 21, 2013 from Bobbi PalmerTo Watch Video Click Here Ungrateful children. Mortgage that’s killin’ you. Surgical scars. Chronic health problems…these are all realities of life after 40. Let’s face it: we’ve been around a while. We have “stuff!” When you’re dating ...
Views: 1130(1 vote) - ***One Thing That Makes Anthony a Little Less of a Weiner - by Submitted on Jul 14, 2011 from Bobbi PalmerHave you heard about Weinergate? Just in case you haven't, it goes like this: Congressman Anthony Weiner, after denying it for days, got caught quite literally with his pants down. (Yeah, I know I'm not the first to use that. But it works.) Apparently The Weiner has been acting like a horny ...
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