Daily we come across a number of people in life – at home, at workplace, in school or college, etc. However, some of them become an important part of our life, so much so that they begin to seem to be the very purpose of our existence. This is mainly because we’ve got attached to them.

But have you ever wondered what does attachment lead to? Is it happiness or sadness?Param Pujya Dadabhagwan, an enlightened being says, attachment finally leads to suffering. This is due to the following:

•When we are attached to someone, we have expectations from that person.
•If that person is able to meet those expectations – we are happy. But if for some reason the person is unable to do so, we get angry with that person.
•The intensity of our emotions is related to the level of attachment with that person. Higher the attachment, higher would be the reaction therefrom.
•Repeated failure on part of the opposite person to not meet our expectations would lead to frustration, as we may feel ‘I am doing so much for that person, but in return what do I get’.

Param Pujya Dadashri illustrates this theory by giving the example of parents and their children.
Parents are naturally very deeply attached to their children. And this attachment increases all the more when their children do things as desired by them, making them feel happy and proud.

However, when children don’t listen to them, they get angry and upset. It is because while parents do everything for their children, in turn, they expect their children to at the least listen to them and respect them.
We often mistakenly term our ‘attachment’ as the ‘pure love’ for that particular person. It would be worthwhile to understand the difference between the two terms.

•Attachment - In case of attachment, there are number of expectations from the person we love. Accordingly, our emotions fluctuate, depending on the situation. And if there happens to be a misunderstanding, affection could even turn into hatred, in that moment.

•True love - In case of pure love,
oThere are no expectations and hence there is no blaming the other person.
oOne does not see any fault / mistake of the other person.
oTrue love does not increase or decrease. It remains stable irrespective of how the other one behaves, be it a good conduct worthy of praise or a bad conduct worth criticizing.

The crux of the matter is that there are no highs and lows in pure love; it's like a plateau, serene and stable throughout. All the rest is still a weakness.
Attachment is a kind of weakness, which often leads to quarrels and disputes. Further, excessive attachment could even lead to irritate the other person.
Basis the above, we can understand that presently our relationships are more of mere attachments. And therefore, in some way or the other, we get hurt by each other.

Our intention should be to gradually work towards inculcating pure love in our relationships. This can happen once we attain Self-Realization. And with the help of Akram Vignan, this is not difficult. For details, you may check out https://www.dadabhagwan.org/

So, let’s look forward to attaining Self-Realization as soon as we can, so that we too can base our relationships on the foundation of real love, where there is no room for clashes and conflicts, there only happiness and harmony prevail.

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Author's Bio: 

Ambalal M. Patel was a civil contractor by profession. In June 1958, spontaneous Self-Realization occurred within Ambalal M. Patel. From this point on, Ambalal became a Gnani Purush, and the Lord that manifest within him became known as Dada Bhagwan. A Gnani Purush is One who has realized the Self and is able help others do the same. Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan used to go from town to town and country-to-country to give satsang (spiritual discourse) and impart the knowledge of the Self, as well as knowledge of harmonious worldly interactions to everyone who came to meet him. This spiritual science, known as Akram Vignan, is the step-less path to Self-realization