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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***5 Keys to Regroup in the Face of Failure

Failure and rejection are tough pills to swallow. But sometimes they prove to be the best medicine in the long term. Let me explain. We live in a fast-moving, success-driven, “quick fix” oriented society. Encountering disappointment, under performance or outright failure it is something that can feel like a punch to the gut. Perhaps you launched what you thought was an awesome program, but didn’t get the sign-ups you wanted. You booked the room for your workshop and only 2 people besides your mom showed up.

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

Overcoming Obstacles: 4 Tips to Clear The “How Hurdle”

As a coach, I’m privileged to be part of a process where my clients create a new and exciting vision for their lives and take action towards it. The excitement is palpable as they connect with what’s truly important to them. But often they’ll hit what I call, the “How Hurdle.” “How will I do that?” or “How can I get myself from here to there?” The excitement starts to deflate as they focus on not knowing the clear answers to the “How” Hurdle.

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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*** BIG COSTS OF TOLERATING THE SMALL STUFF: LESSONS FROM A LIGHT FIXTURE

Warning. This is a true story and it ain’t a pretty one. It’s actually a bit embarrassing too because, as a teacher and trainer, I should “know” better not to get stuck unconscious behavior. By sharing this personal examples I hope to illuminate for you more clearly how tolerating those little distractions, clutter and incomplete “to dos” can siphon away your energy and hold you back.

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

Life Balance: Tips from a Yoga Class

It can be tricky to find that place of balance in life. Juggling work, family, community and personal needs isn’t easy, but I believe it is part of what makes life joyful and meaningful. I’ve certainly had my fair share of days when hours spent on the phone or behind the computer whizz by and I emerge from my home office to discover that somehow the sun has set and I forgot to have lunch again.

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***Unplugging From Your Ex-Spouse

Have you ever been emotionally triggered and hijacked by something your ex said or did? Have you ever been emotionally triggered and hijacked by something your ex didn't say or do? When you're "plugged in" to the actions of someone else, you typically have a strong emotional reaction. You know ...Have you ever been emotionally triggered and hijacked by something your ex said or did? Have you ever been emotionally triggered and hijacked by something your ex didn't say or do? When you're "plugged in" to the actions of someone else, you typically have a strong emotional reaction.

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***Divorce Politics - 6 Tips to Handle Mother's Day and Father's Day after Divorce

Divorce and separation can mean that special family holidays, like Mother's Day or Father's Day, can end up being stressful and full of conflict. When you're separated or divorced, what kind of role does the ex-spouse play in helping the children show that for their other parent? Here are a few ...Divorce and separation can mean that special family holidays, like Mother's Day or Father's Day, can end up being stressful and full of conflict. When you're separated or divorced, what kind of role does the ex-spouse play in helping the children show that for their other parent?

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***Are You Parenting From Guilt?

When a couple decides to separate and starts the process of splitting up the children's family home into two separated homes, there is inevitably a sense of guilt. Divorce is an adult problem created between two adults, but as parents watching our children adjust to going to "mom's house" and ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

3 Ways to Break Free of Resistance

We’ve all had those great moments of inspiration, where an amazing idea is sparked within us and we’re totally energized to make it happen. Your focus is clear and your creative juices are flowing. With your confidence and joy at an all-time high, you feel invincible. That was certainly the case for me when I wrote my award-winning book, The 7 Pitfalls of Single Parenting. I was so on fire I wrote most of the first draft in less than a month!

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***Step-Parenting: 7 Ways To Undermine Your Blended Family

Blended families are becoming a reality for more people every year. Did you know that one in three Americans is part of a blended family, either as a step-parent, step-child or step-sibling? What kind of blended family will you have? Here are 7 sure-fire ways to undermine your blended family ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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***Measuring Self-Worth After Divorce

Divorce can really knock your self-esteem for a loop. When you’re in an intimate relationship with another human being, a huge sense of who you are and your self-worth is tied up in the relationship. When that committed relationship ends, the degree to which you’re reliant on someone ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

5 Ways Spiritual Overload Syndrome Sabotages Your Productivity

It’s a busy, busy, busy world out there. So many people I know, friends and clients alike, are feeling truly overwhelmed these days. The internet and our various battalion of electronic gadgets most of us use nowadays can bring an entire world of data, information and ideas to your fingertips within minutes.

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

*** When Divorced Parents Act Like Kids

Divorce can definitely bring out the worst in people. Often adults will revert to behavior worthy of the schoolyard bully. Witness the recent public outing of actor Alec Baldwin, who unleashed the fury of his anger and despair of his divorce at his 11-year old daughter. Baldwin has been ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***Divorce and Children - Different Rules, Different Homes after Divorce

You're divorced and you have kids. How do you handle different rules and discipline between mom's house and dad's house? Do you have any say about what goes on in the other parent's home anymore? Here's how one of my readers expressed her frustration: "My two children are with my ex every ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

*** Relationship Break-Up (Part 2): Living In the Void

The break-up of a love relationship can be emotionally devastating. As I shared, I recently joined the ranks of the heartbroken when an important relationship I was in ended abruptly and unexpectedly. Life in the void is an important opportunity to let go of an old paradigm and prepare yourself ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

Divorcing Your Inner Critic

Have you ever wondered if it’s possible to divorce your inner critic? You know that questioning, nagging little voice inside you that is never at a loss to point out your flaws, highlight your doubts and cross-examine you on your decisions? If you don’t know what I’m talking about, it’s the part of you that just asked you “What inner critic is she talking about?” Most human beings engage in ongoing self-talk, with researchers estimating as much as 45,000-50,000 thoughts per day! The rare exception might be those few enlightened masters who meditate on a mountaintop for 14 hours a day.

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

*** Law of Attraction: Allow and Receive Your Desires

Separation and divorce are two of the biggest roller coaster rides you’ll ever find emotionally. The Law of Attraction can give you some traction so you can regain your footing and see your way forward in your divorce journey. Our thoughts create feelings, which in turn create vibrations ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

Loving Yourself Through Your Divorce Journey

When we’re going through a stressful time like a divorce, how do you move forward? These are the moments that define who you are and reveal the important inner workings of your own mind. Sure, it’s easy to feel good about yourself when things are going your way. More important to ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***Holiday Survival Tips For Divorced Families

Family holidays are supposed to be relaxing and stress-free, but often they aren't. Holidays like Thanksgiving and Christmas can take you back in time to when you were a family with both parents living together under one roof. Holidays that have a strong cultural tradition of "family" can ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

5 Steps to Transform Overwhelm Into Productivity

Some of the greatest challenges our society faces today is overwhelm and distraction. It seems like most of us suffer from an inability to maintain our attention and focus on getting our dreams and goals across the finish line. In Part 1 “5 Ways Spiritual Overload Syndrome Sabotages Your Productivity“, I explained that Spiritual Overload Syndrome is running rampant.

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***Separation and Divorce Tips - How’s the Ex?

Divorce etiquette is often badly needed after separation after separation and divorce. How many times have your family or friends “How’s the Ex”? You know all too well that divorce requires an adjustment in how you see yourself outside your marriage. When you’re used to saying “we” or “ours”, ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

Your Brilliant Backbone: How to Align with Success

Is there a noticeable disconnect between your efforts and the level of success and abundance you are experiencing? Does something seem “off” or “not quite right” despite all the proactive steps you are taking to manifest abundance in your business and life? If so, it’s time to take a deep breath and prepare to readjust your alignment.

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

Different Parenting Styles after Separation

It’s not uncommon for the difference in parenting styles between parents to become very apparent after separation. Children usually experience some transition time to get acclimated to the unique rhythms of each household. Realizing you have little control over what happens “over there” at ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

Manifesting Your Desires: 4 Keys

Manifesting is the latest “Big Thing” and buzzword. People seek out seminars, workshops and gurus to help learn the secrets of manifestation so we can fulfill our heart’s desire. My manifestation guru looks a little different than most. She has a shaggy beard, 3 inch eyelashes, four legs and speaks no English (or any human language). My guru’s name is Sandy and she is my labradoodle dog. Sandy’s absolute passion is retrieving tennis balls. She has a knack of manifesting them in whatever park or school yard we visit. Here are some keys to Sandy’s manifestation success.

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***Divorce Transition Dos And Don'ts

Divorce is an enormous life transition. The basic storyline goes something like this. One day you’re in a relationship and the goal is to live happily ever after. Then over time, your relationship hits the rocks. People get unhappy with each other and someone makes the decision to divorce. ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***Men And Depression After Divorce

A new study by Statistics Canada shows that men are more likely to suffer depression than women in the two years after a marriage or common-law relationship breaks up. The longitudinal data from the National Population Health Survey showed that men, aged 20-64, were six times more likely to ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

Separation and Divorce Tips - Riding the Emotional Rollercoaster of Divorce

Divorce and separation can be quite a ride. Up and down. Up and down. Will it ever stop? Even before the decision to separate or divorce is made, life can feel like it’s spinning out of control. One day you’re up, the next day you’re down. It can feel like you are losing your mind. Divorce ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

*** Law of Attraction: Activating Your Desire and Attention

The Law of Attraction states that “like attracts like” and that what you focus your attention on will expand. It is in operation whether we hold a positive or a negative thought. People working their way through the divorce process are often flooded with thoughts and feelings they ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***Relationship Break-Ups (Part 1): Flowing With Your Feelings

Let's be honest. I believe separation, divorce, and relationship break-ups always have a gift to offer us, but the initial breakup period sucks. For most of us, when we're in relationship, it feels like we're on solid ground. It may feel comfortable and soft to walk on, or it may be rocky and ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

The Backsliding Blues: Tips to Get You Back on Track

Progress is never a straight line. Often it’s a matter of one step forward, two steps back. Just ask Oprah, icon of self-improvement, who publicly confessed how sabotaging beliefs contributed to weight issues that continue to plague her. Backsliding after we’ve started some new habits or set new goals is common. The choice you make after you’ve “fallen off the wagon” that is critical.

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***Divorce: Stop Sabotaging Your Healing Process

Are you familiar with the phrase “The shortest distance between two points is a straight line?” While this may be true in math or drawing, it is not true in the journey of healing your heart after divorce. When dealing with our emotions, progress is definitely not linear. It’s ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***Divorce Drama - Rewriting Your Divorce Story

Divorce generates drama. I remember riding those rollercoaster moments of my own divorce and wondering, “How is this movie going to end?” I personally love going to the movies. My favorites are the ones that have relationship plotlines that are rich, complex and surprising. ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***Self-Care: Stop Going For The Martyr Medal

Divorce is one of the most emotionally demanding life transitions you'll ever encounter. One big pitfall is what I call "going for the martyr medal." You get so preoccupied and consumed with making sure everyone else is taken care of first, that your own needs fall by the wayside. Single parents ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

*** Control Your Mindset: You Are What You Think

After you separate or divorce, the most important tool you have at your disposal is your mindset. What are you thinking? What are you telling yourself? Is your goal to "survive" your divorce? Do you feel like you're a failure or "damaged goods"? Your thoughts have a powerful impact on your ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

*** Don't Become a Divorce Martyr

Divorce is one of the most emotionally demanding life transitions you'll ever encounter. One big pitfall is getting preoccupied and consumed with making sure everyone else is taken care of first. Some divorcees adopt a martyr role as they navigate the new waters of their life. "Yes, my life is ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

The Cancer of Clutter

Take a look around your home or your office and notice what's there. Is your space clear and open, ready to support you in the challenges you set for yourself? Or are there things lying around that disturb your sense of peace and well-being, distracting you from your daily goals? Perhaps there's ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***Procrastination: The Dream Stealer

Procrastination is a dream stealer. It's insidious and has the potential to snuff out our vitality and diminish how we feel about ourselves. According to the American Heritage Dictionary, to procrastinate means "to put off doing something, especially out of habitual carelessness or laziness". ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***Dating After Divorce - Tips To Getting Back Out In The Dating World After Divorce

Dating after divorce can be intimidating. For some people, it may be a few decades since you've been out there in the dating scene. As a divorce coach and author, a big conce my clients have is what to do to ensure they have more success in their future relationships. Here are some important ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***Top Tips For Life After Divorce

People going through divorce often focus on the endings it represents – the ending of a relationship, a dream, a way of life. To thrive after divorce requires you to look at divorce as a beginning – the beginning of a new life, of new possibilities for loving relationship, of a sense ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

The Art of Listening

Listening is such an under-rated and highly valuable skill. I got a great example the other night during dinner courtesy of my children. My 7 year old son was more interested in bothering his 13 year old sister than he was in eating. This typical domestic scene escalated very quickly and ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

Stressed out? 5 Self-Care Survival Strategies

Are you feeling stressed out? Isn’t this time of year when families and friends come together to celebrate special holidays and connect supposed to be a time of joy and peace? Then why are so many people out there feeling stressed out, short-tempered and run down? A key ingredient for success is to make an unwavering commitment to your own self-care. Practicing meaningful self-care can be a hard challenge, especially for those of us who get so much joy and passion from offering our services and wisdom in a desire to make a difference in the world somehow.

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***Divorce Management: 5 Ways to Stop Your Energy Drains

Is divorce draining your vital energy? Are you facing your own personal energy crisis? It’s a common challenge. Going through divorce is like playing a whole new ball game in life. If you’re feeling drained, overwhelmed or worn out, please realize that some of those old moves, habits ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

*** Dealing With Divorce Lawyers

Picking the right divorce atto ey is a critical decision. Divorce lawyers are your guides through the legal system. They are your teachers about your legal rights and obligations. At a time when you’re not in your peak decision-making form, you have many important questions to answer when ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

*** Viewing Divorced Life As An Adventure

Living life as a separated or divorced person is like wandering into uncharted territory. Like a traveler in a foreign country, so much of what you will experience is new or unfamiliar. There's the legal process, your changing social network, the emotional roller coaster rides, creating new ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***The Power Of Appreciation

Is there anything more mysterious in the world than the formula to having a successful romantic relationship? As a divorced woman, I now marvel at those who are able to create passionate, loving, long-term relationships. From my studies with books and the school of hard knocks, I believe that ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

Productivity and Energy: 4 Strategies to Managing Your Energy Cycles

Are you struggling to become more productive and get ahead of your “to do” list? Do you feel overwhelmed at how meet all of the demands life makes of you? Most people focus on exte al solutions like time management skills or organizational systems to help them become more productive. An important, yet often overlooked, aspect that is critical to your success is your energy cycle.

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***Speak From the Heart

I recently had the pleasure of participating in a workshop in Los Angeles with 150 others who, like myself, want to hone their skills as a trainer. One of our instructors was Les Brown (visit www.lesbrown.com to learn more about him). I had heard this inspirational man speak before, but never ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

*** Peaceful Blended-Family Events Can Happen!

Blended families are becoming more and more the norm. One in three Americans is a member of a blended family. I’m sure Canada’s statistics are very similar. Looking at my own family of four, 75% of my family is blended because my children have step-siblings. Bringing divorced parents ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

***Resolutions For Life After Divorce

Often people going through divorce focus on the endings it represents - the ending of a relationship, a dream, a way of life. To thrive after divorce requires you to look at divorce as a beginning - the beginning of a new life, of new possibilities for loving relationship, of a sense of ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

3 Keys to Staying Afloat In Turbulent Times

Life is not always going to be a “smooth sailing” kind of experience. Right now there is a lot of turmoil going on in the world – economically, politically, environmentally, even socially. In the world of your own life, how are you faring? Are you getting rocked by the waves and wondering to stay afloat?

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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By Carolyn EllisRecently published1 topic

*** Law of Attraction: What is it and Why Should We Care?

What is the Law of Attraction? The Law of Attraction states that “like attracts like.” What you focus your attention on expands. Your thoughts are energy, and create a vibration which can be either positive or negative. Let’s look at an example. Think of a day when you woke ...

Primary topic: Entrepreneurs

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