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Being in a relationship which doesn’t feel as if it is quite working can be a paralysing experience and usually doesn’t help your self esteem. If you are not careful you can end up spending most of your time, worrying about:nn* What you should don* Whose fault is itn* What if I get ...
The way you act towards other people can be categorised into three types of behaviour: Passive, Aggressive and Assertive. If you tend to act passively then you may be seeking to avoid conflict, often at the expense of your own needs. If you tend to act aggressively, you may go to the other ...
Jealousy is an emotion experienced by people all over the world, but when you have it you may feel as if you are completely abnormal or out of control. Overcoming jealousy for most people is often a matter of finding sensible practical strategies to help you deal with the insecure thoughts and ...
Being in a relationship which doesn’t feel as if it is working can be a stressful experience and usually doesn’t help your self esteem. If you are not careful you can end up spending most of your time, worrying about:nn* What you should don* Whose fault is itn* What if I get the decision ...
As a life coach of some years standing, I am frequently emailed by people with queries about becoming a life coach, so I have recently put together a regular newsletter with information about the kinds of considerations which I believe you should take into account before you try to launch yourself into a coaching career. This article gives an introduction to some of the preliminary issues that it may be worth you bearing in mind if you are thinking of being a personal coach.
Often people contemplate a change of career with some trepidation, holding fears such as: - Will I be able to achieve what I am aiming for?rn- What if I don’t earn enough money?rn- Will I regret my decision? One common tool for helping you to decide whether you are right in wanting to change jobs is for you to draw up a list of costs and benefits of making the decision to make a big leap into a new career.
Nightmares can be caused by a number of different things. For example, your nightmare might be caused by:nn- Having a particular kind of food or drink before sleepingnn- A side effect of prescription or off the counter medication that you are taking nn- Anxiety about your ability to control a ...
If you are feeling anxious or stressed or having difficulties sleeping, relaxation techniques can be useful in helping to calm your mind and body. The following are some relaxation techniques you can try. Ideally, if you can, practise one or more of them on a daily basis. The techniques are ...
The occasional missed night's sleep may make you feel tired the next day, but it won't harm your health. However, if you frequently miss sleep this can lead to:nn* Prolonged bouts of tirednessn* Difficulties in concentrating and lack of productivity in daily tasksn* Irritability or anxietyn* ...
Social anxiety, also sometimes known as social phobia, is a condition in which you experience high levels of anxiety about being criticised by or judged in a negative way by others. In some surveys as many as 10% of people have been found to suffer from the condition, although it was not ...
The occasional missed night's sleep may make you feel tired the next day, but it won't harm your health. However, if you frequently miss sleep this can lead to:nn* Prolonged bouts of tirednessn* Difficulties in concentrating and lack of productivity in daily tasksn* Irritability or anxietyn* ...
If you are feeling anxious or stressed or having difficulties sleeping, relaxation techniques can be useful in helping to calm your mind and body. The following are some relaxation techniques you can try. Ideally, if you can, practise one or more of them on a daily basis. The techniques are ...
This article looks at how a model of how people make changes proposed by the psychologists James Prochaska and Carlo DiClemente can be used by life coaches as a framework for structuring coaching intervention, particularly in situations where a client is seeking to break away from a habitual form of behaviour which is creating repeated problems for them. Prochaska and DiClemente’s model has been applied to working with a range of habitual problems, including: - Smoking or misuse of alcohol - Difficulties in relationships where there are repeating patternsrn- Lack of assertivenessr
We live in a society which puts great emphasis on success and failure and the related concept of willpower. Often people tend to think they should be able to make changes easily - that it is only a question of willpower. The problem with this is that if you don't succeed as quickly as you'd like (and most don't) then you can feel that you are a failure.
Multitasking is a topic which has been much in the news recently. In layperson's terms it involves trying to do more than one thing at the same time. The phrase originally comes from the world of computers, where engineeers could devise systems flexible enough to perform several tasks at once. ...
One popular definition of life coaching is that it is a method or practice of helping people to achieve goals. At the time of writing this is the kind of definition which appears in the internet encyclopedia Wilkipedia. There are aspects of this definition which is helpful – for example, it draws attention to the following features of life coaching: * Coaching is a forward thinking pragmatic approach as opposed to some forms of counselling which are more conce ed with looking back into your past
Everyone experiences nervousness or worries at some time in stressful situations. For some people, anxiety can take on a different dimension, including outright fear and panic, or a disabling daily condition, which is affecting your capacity to live the life you want to. Anxiety Disorders can ...
We live in a society which puts great emphasis on success and failure and the related concept of willpower. Often people tend to think they should be able to make changes easily - that it is only a question of willpower. The problem with this is that if you don't succeed as quickly as you'd like ...
Nightmares can be caused by a number of different things. For example:nn- Having a particular kind of food or drink before sleepingnn- A side effect of a prescription or off the counter medication that you are takingnn- Anxiety about your ability to control a particular situationnn- Having ...