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By David DeAngeloJun 19, 20081 topic

How Long A Guy Should Wait To Call A Woman Back - Part 2

If you think about it, every situation is slightly different. One time you might meet a woman in the morning at coffee, and another time you might meet a woman at a club at 1 in the morning.nnIf you wait too long to call her back, I think you run the risk of seeming like you're just using a technique on her and you come across as a player who's trying to do your thing on her.nnWhen deciding how long to wait before you call or email, I think it's important to ask yourself this

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloJun 20, 20081 topic

How Long A Guy Should Wait To Call A Woman Back - Part 1

If you've seen the classic cult movie "Swingers", then you probably remember the part where the guys are discussing how long a guy should wait to call a woman after he's gotten her phone number.nnThe scene really hits home for a lot of guys because it gets down to a real-world situation that we all confront and ponder.nnThe more I've thought about it, the more I realize that this particular question (and the answer to it) are part of a bigger, more important CONCEPT about how

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloJun 18, 20081 topic

Dating Advice on How to Tease, Talk, and Seduce Women - Part 1

When I first met one particular girl, I took her hand when she got into the car and held it for a few seconds... then took it away saying, “No hand holding this early”, as if it were her idea... then at lunch, I put out my hand for her to take it and then when she went to take it, I moved it before she touched me... then did it again... and again saying, “No, really...” nnFinally, after the meal was finished, I reached out for her hand, and she wouldn&

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloJun 14, 20081 topic

Dr. Deming Weighs In On 10 Real Estate Investing Tips - Part 1

William Edwards Deming, the father of productivity, may not seem to have much to do with providing real estate investing tips. After all, Deming had nothing to do with real estate investing at all – he was the mastermind in turning around the Japanese economy after World War I. nnHowever, Deming’s Deadly Diseases outline what so often goes wrong in many businesses, and as such, we’ve enjoyed adapting 10 anecdotes and turning them into what we believe Deming

Primary topic: Business Consulting

Business Consulting

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By David DeAngeloJun 22, 20081 topic

How To Create Sexual Tension To Attract Women - Part 4

1) Don’t take advantage of something.nnLet's say that the woman you're talking to is wearing a sexy outfit. She gets up and walks across the room to get something. She knows that you're going to be looking at her.nnBut you don’t.nnWhen she turns around to come back, you're looking down at your shoes, and commenting about what great taste you have.nnThis is subtle, but powerful.nnNot taking advantage of a look, a touch, a kiss, etc. when it's available dials up the

Primary topic: Dating

1,136 views

By David DeAngeloJun 18, 20081 topic

How Hot Women Test Men They Date and Why - Part 1

In my opinion, most women, especially the ‘hotties’, have gone through a learning curve here in our western culture that has on average given them a sort of ‘predictable psychological makeup’. Now, there are differences between these women… some are smart, some are not… some are tall, some are short… some are cerebral, some are physical… etc. etc. etc… but there are things that most of them have in common. I’ve made

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By David DeAngeloJul 14, 20081 topic

How To Overcome Fear Of Rejection In Dating Women

The real obstacle here is the fear.nnAs I mentioned, fear of rejection, or imagining rejection when you should be imagining success, leads to walking away.nnYou miss 100% of the shots you don't take.nnIronically, I've found that the best way to overcome my own fear of rejection was to see that it wasn't going to actually happen.nnThe more times I approached women and started conversations and the more I saw that women usually responded positively, the less I imagined things g

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloJun 18, 20081 topic

Dating Humor That is Cocky and Funny

Here’s how I mentally approach meeting a new woman: I’m cocky and funny, I steal their lines, I tease them, and I don’t ever give them a break. nnIn my opinion, your most valuable asset, no matter your looks, height, age, or income – is humor. nnI don’t care if you’re four feet tall and have one eye. If you can make women laugh consistently and get those good feelings flowing through them, they’ll love you. nnI decided last year to st

Primary topic: Dating

1,091 views

By David DeAngeloJun 23, 20081 topic

How Attraction Works for Women - Part 3

Think of attraction like a drug (which it really is). If a woman is under the influence of it, then she's gone. She'll do anything to get more.nnIf she's not under the influence, then you’re gone. Nothing you do will matter if she doesn't feel it.nnIf you doubt what I'm saying, ask the next 10 super hot women you see what they think of this.nnRead this to them, and watch their reactions. You'll see.nnOk, now that you've heard a little bit more of my personal perspective

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloAug 15, 20081 topic

How to Act When You Like a Woman - Part 2

Here are a few more quick stories about guys I know who are "cool".nnOne guy I know always has girls around him. In fact, I don't think I've ever seen him without at least one girl with him. Usually he has three or four girls with him... and sometimes up to 10 or 12. He always makes fun of the girls, teases them, and treats them like good friends who he's comfortable enough to bust on. He's not rich, he doesn't buy things for women, and he doesn't kiss up to them. He does, on

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By David DeAngeloAug 15, 20081 topic

Why Attractive Women Love Jerks - Part 3

So, what is it about the "jerk" that creates this powerful, uncontrollable attraction inside of women?nnLet me answer first by telling you what it’s not:nnIt's not the abuse (not usually anyway). I don't believe that women are attracted to that abusive, mean, negative part of the "jerk personality".nnI think that jerks just happen to also possess several attractive qualities that are so powerful that that they literally make women blind to the abuse... women will ration

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By David DeAngeloJun 24, 20081 topic

What Causes Women to Leave Men - Part 2

Why attraction is so importantnnOne of the main reasons why I talk about and teach the concept of attraction is that when it comes to these types of situations, the real underlying reason for them is usually that the woman doesn't feel attraction anymore.nnWhen it all boils down, she just plain does not feel it.nnNow, a woman will say and do all kinds of things other than telling you that this is the problem.nnWomen have all these ideas in their heads, like "I can't tell him

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloJun 10, 20081 topic

Internal States You Need When Dating Women

Finally, I’m going to address the idea of your ‘states’. By ‘state’ I mean the feeling that you have in your body. nnCan you remember a time when you felt happy and excited? nnCan you remember a time when you felt powerful and energetic?n nIf you can, then you can HAVE THESE FEELINGS ANY TIME YOU WANT THEM. Most people don’t use their memories to help them feel good because they say, “Well, that’s not really how I’m feelin

Primary topic: Religion

947 views

By David DeAngeloJun 5, 20081 topic

How I Discovered What Works With Dating Women - Part 1

After many years of studying, researching, and trying many different things, I’ve now realized that there is a conspiracy against men being successful with women. nIt’s very real, and it’s very pervasive in our culture. nLet me explain. nnMost men that I know have some kind of ‘feeling’ that it’s wrong in some way to sleep with more than one woman at a time. (I’m not even referring to a Ménage à Trois, either. I’m talk

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloAug 15, 20081 topic

Why Attractive Women Love Jerks - Part 2

Selfish behavior, as unhealthy as this might sound, often makes women feel attracted to you.nnSarcasm, ball busting, playing hard to get and all kinds of other "illogical" things really do work when it comes to attracting women.nnBut, then I had a dilemma...nnI love the idea of being successful with women but, I hate the idea of mistreating people, being mean to them, lying and being misleading, etc.nnDeep down, I wanted to be a good guy.nnI decided that there must be a way t

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By David DeAngeloJun 18, 20081 topic

Ways Women Think About Men And How You Can Control This - Part 2

I’ll tell them that I was about to go do something (to remind myself and let them know that I have a life) and then say, “Well, let’s see… what’s your schedule for the next few days? (I choose a time based on her reply…) Why don’t we get together tomorrow at about four. Do you know where the blah blah blah coffee shop is? Great… if we get along, then maybe we can go for a bite to eat… but you know, coffee is a safe bet&#82

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloJun 19, 20081 topic

Body Language Dating Advice

Many people agree that women are far more sensitive to body language than men are. nnI have to say that in my experience, women can detect all kinds of things from body language . Ask a female friend to describe what’s going on with a person by looking at them, and you’ll be surprised at all the information they’ll give you. nnSo it follows that if women are so in tune with body language , you might as well get some of the basics together so you’re tra

Primary topic: Dating

883 views

By David DeAngeloJun 12, 20081 topic

Long Term Relationships vs. Sexual Relationships

Here’s a common problem: A man tries to impress a woman by doing things that show that he’s a good LONG-TERM RELATIONSHIP kind of guy, but the woman responds by being stand-offish. I have read some interesting research that shows that women have a few main categories in their minds in which they slot men. nnThese are: nn1) Not interested at all. nn2) Interested as a friend. nn3) Interested in a long-term relationship. nn4) Interested in a sexual relationship. nnHe

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By David DeAngeloAug 11, 20081 topic

Why Intelligent Men Fail With Women - Part 7

MISTAKE #9: THEY ALWAYS NEED TO BE THE EXPERTnnHave you ever met a smart guy who always needed to be "right"?nnHave you ever met someone who would actually argue with you about something they knew nothing about... and make a fool of themselves because they just couldn't shut their "smart mouths"?nnOver the last few years helping guys improve their success with women, I see this one pattern over and over again...nnSmart guys don't like to be "beginners" at anything.nnThey don'

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloJun 18, 20081 topic

Ways Women Think About Men And How You Can Control This - Part 1

I believe that women see men with whom they get involved as either ‘long-term relationship’ material or ‘sex’ material. You have to make the choice about which category you’d like to be in. By the way, if you get involved sexually, you can usually extend that for as long as you’d like. nnIf, on the other hand, you don’t get involved sexually but you still buy her dinner, call her all the time, and pursue her, there’s a good chan

Primary topic: Dating

833 views

By David DeAngeloJul 16, 20081 topic

How To Lose A Girl Fast - Part 3

3) Do "Thoughtful" Things From The BeginningnnWhat's better than a nice, thoughtful guy showing up at the door with flowers and candy for the first date? Well, to quote an old Saturday Night Live episode, "Throwing an entire box of thumb tacks on the floor, and rolling around in them naked".nnOr maybe taking one of those...you know... serrated knives...yeah, that's it...and putting it between your big toe and second toe and slicing back and forth really fast...and then pourin

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloJun 23, 20081 topic

How Attraction Works for Women - Part 2

One of the parts of this process that fascinates me is how each pair of your ancestors decided to get together with that particular person at that particular time.nnI know that some people will be upset that I'm talking about this whole concept in such an analytical, detached way... women in particular seem to love the fantasy of two people being "soul mates" and "knowing that your special someone is out there" and "it just happening".nnIf you're one of those people, stop rea

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloAug 15, 20081 topic

Why Attractive Women Love Jerks - Part 1

I get a lot of emails from guys who read my newsletter that say things like...nn"I'm sure what you're saying is right, but I don't want to be a jerk or an a**hole to women..."nn..or...nn"I have seen what you're talking about happen all my life, but I'm a 'nice guy' and I want women to like me for me..."nn...and...nn"This doesn't make sense..."nnFor most of my life, I was the nice guy of nice guys. As a matter of fact, when I first made the decision to learn how to be successf

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By David DeAngeloJul 28, 20081 topic

How To "Cure" Your Fear Of Women And Dating - Part 2

I personally think that one of the biggest causes of fear when it comes to situations with women is:nnPutting too much importance on what the woman thinks of you and what happens in that particular situation.nnTo put it in different words, most guys don't take action because they're afraid that they'll screw up, or that the woman or others around will judge them.nnThe real problem though is that this whole process has become automatic, and it happens instantly the moment most

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloJun 18, 20081 topic

Nuggets Of Dating Advice Gold - Part 1

Always end conversations, meetings, and phone calls first. nI got this idea from the book The Rules by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider...You remember that book that was written about how to get a man to marry you? Well, it’s a great book. But I don’t think the authors would like the reasons why I think it’s great. I take all of ‘the rules’ and turn them around. When you play the games that women often play, you will not believe the responses you

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloJun 22, 20081 topic

What Causes Women To Leave Men - Part 1

Why do women leave men?nnInteresting question, isn't it?nnWe've all had women leave us...nnAnd we've all been in the situation, wondering why she was leaving... and willing to do literally anything to get her to stay.nnRead the following scenarios, and nod your head silently if you can identify with one of them:nn- You met an incredible woman, and you really hit it off at the beginning. But the more time you spent with her, the less interested she became... but the more inter

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloJun 23, 20081 topic

What Causes Women to Leave Men - Part 3

Solve the problem before it starts.nnNow, the best way to deal with this particular problem is to solve it before it even starts.nnThe absolute most important prevention method is an understanding of female psychology and attraction.nnHere are a few pointers to get you started:nn1) Women are never attracted to wussies. nnWomen don't feel attraction for weak men. Sure, if you chase a woman for long enough, and buy her enough things, she may "fall" for you. But in that case it'

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloJul 28, 20081 topic

Does Romance Have A Place In Dating? - Part 1

You've probably noticed that I don't talk about the idea of "romance" very often.nnThere's a good reason for this.nnI think that most guys use romance in completely the wrong way, and in the process screw up their chances with the woman that they are interested in.nnI'm going to take some time here to talk about my personal perspective on romance, how it is misused, and how to use it to really make a woman feel attracted to you.nnMost guys make one of two main mistakes when t

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By David DeAngeloJun 17, 20081 topic

Dating Success When Approaching Very Attractive Women

I’m going to remind you of something that I talked about earlier in this book: Most attractive women are approached in one way or another all the time by men. nnI was watching one of Chris Rock’s stand up routines recently; Chris was telling the women in the audience that anytime a man is being nice, it’s because he’s offering sex (or ‘dick’ as he put it). nnSo if a guy says, “Wow, you look great!”, what he really means is, &#82

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloJun 24, 20081 topic

What Causes Women to Leave Men - Part 4

No matter what your emotions tell you to do, you have to end it first.nnIf you want to have ANY chance of having things work out in the long run, then you need to take control of the situation, and break up with her.nnFrom this position, you will then be able to see things more clearly, and she will be about 100 times more likely to want to work things out with you.nnIf you really want to increase your chances of having things work out, then you should also start dating other

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By David DeAngeloJun 20, 20081 topic

How To Act On Your First Date? - Part 2

Let me ask you, what are the most INTERESTING topics to humans in general? Right – drama, violence, scandal, and comedy that is painful to one of the parties involved. Here are a few good ideas for conversation that come to mind: nn“So what’s with The Osbournes being MTV’s #1 show of all time? I guess people just can’t get enough of dysfunctional family life... they have to watch it on TV too.” nn“I’m so bummed that Justin broke

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By David DeAngeloJul 28, 20081 topic

How To "Cure" Your Fear Of Women And Dating - Part 3

Think about the difference between doing something because it's important vs. doing something in order to learn.nnSo, for instance, if I saw a woman that I wanted to meet... instead of thinking, "OK, I have to say something charming and original so she'll like me... and if I screw up I'm going to be embarrassed" - I began to think things like, "I'm going to learn how to get a woman's phone number within a few minutes of meeting her... and part of learning this is going to be

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloJun 25, 20081 topic

Make Money and Build Wealth With Real Estate

You must be aware that almost 98 percent of the millionaires throughout the world have made money through real estate investing. The concepts that inspire these millionaires to get involved in this real estate investing are simple, but they too lack any special ingredients needed for real estate investing. There are no secret formulas or ingredients that would explain to you, how you can make millions in real estate investing. It's actually quite simple and straightforward.nn

Primary topic: Business Coach and Business Coaching

Business Coach and Business Coaching

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By David DeAngeloJul 29, 20081 topic

Does Romance Have A Place In Dating? - Part 2

Have you ever seen a T. V. show or movie with a girl holding a flower, pulling off each petal one at a time and saying, "He loves me, he loves me not"?nnThis is a famous cliche... even Madonna does it in her old "Truth or Dare" movie.nnWhat's going on here? And why is it now such a famous idea that it is almost universally known?nnBecause it strikes a chord inside of women everywhere! Every woman can relate to the idea of thinking about a man and wondering if he's thinking ab

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloJun 19, 20081 topic

How To Act On Your First Date? - Part 1

I have had so many readers write and ask me, “How should I act on the first date? What should we talk about? How do you keep the conversation interesting?”, that I felt I should address these points a bit further. nnThe first thing to remember when you’re meeting up with a girl for ‘a date’ is that it’s not an interview. You’re not applying for a job (and neither is she), so don’t act like it. nnIt’s so funny to me when I

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloJun 10, 20081 topic

Meeting Women, It All Comes Down To Your Dating Skills - Part 2

One area that I’ve studied extensively is what’s commonly called ‘internal dialogue’ or ‘self-talk’. This is simply the way that you talk to yourself inside your head. Most people are talking to themselves all day long. But most people are talking NEGATIVELY to themselves instead of talking POSITIVELY. Negative self-talk is, in my opinion, one of the primary causes of low self-esteem, giving up, and a lack of interest in even trying. nn If

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloJun 18, 20081 topic

When You Meet On Your First Date

When they arrive at your place, say ‘hi’ and invite them in for a minute while you get your coat or shoes. Then walk out and seem like YOU’RE IN A HURRY TO LEAVE. Most guys would try to get them to stay and get cozy with them. You want them to think that you’re not overly interested and that you want some coffee. nnTotal indifference. At coffee, just sit and be the funny and cocky self, make jokes, and in general lean back and make ‘friends&#8217

Primary topic: Dating

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By David DeAngeloJun 19, 20081 topic

How To Avoid Paying For Women's Attention On A Date - Part 1

I want to talk to you about a topic that is always on the minds of men...nnIt's the topic of paying for things for women.nnThis includes paying for drinks and dinners, buying her gifts and taking her out to shows.nnThe question is: "Should I pay?"nnMost guys feel obligated to pay if they go out with a woman on a date.nnMost guys feel compelled to buy women gifts, flowers, etc. and "take women out" to "show them a good time".nnIn fact, the "standard" approach for many guys is

Primary topic: Dating

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