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By Graham and JulieJul 2, 20041 topic

Keep Good Company

Do you have the courage to reach your goals? Do you have the courage to succeed? Do you have the courage to mix with the people who can change your life. Do you have the courage to walk away from those who keep you in your place? If you really want to change your lifestyle and become successful one of the major keys is simply: keep good company.nnThe people around you affect the way you live your life and the way you see the world. Mix with negative, judgemental, angry, criti

Primary topic: Career Development

Career Development

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By Graham and JulieMar 2, 20051 topic

How to overcome your âObstaclesâ.

â¦â¦I realised that I really created my own obstacles in life, and nif I just got out of the way of myself and nlet my mind not hold me back, nI could do things I never thought I could.ân(Hilary Swank, as reported in the Sunday Times)nnnHilary Swank puts her breathtaking performance in Million Dollar Baby down to the way Clint Eastwood was able to get her to relax and stop her interfering with her natural ability to create such an awesome character. nnWhat about you? How

Primary topic: Happiness

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By Graham and JulieMar 14, 20041 topic

Stop Scoring Own Goals

STOP SCORING OWN GOALS nOwn goals are actions, things we do, that stop us from reaching where we want to go or what we want to obtain. When we are out of focus, when we are out of tune with whatâs going on, when we do something which takes us in the opposite direction of where we were going or should be going, we have scored an own goal. Sometimes they happen accidentally, sometimes on purpose and sometimes simply because we try too hard.n nFirst Own GoalnTo stop scoring th

Primary topic: Success Coaching

Success Coaching

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By Graham and JulieMar 24, 20041 topic

Discover What You Really Want to Do.

Are you doing what you really want to do or did you just fall or wander into the job you now have. As a friend of ours once said,â I am one of twenty two doctors in our family. The only ones in our family who are not doctors are the dogs and catsâ. Did you decide what you wanted to do or are you one of a growing number whose work was dictated by circumstances or their parents?nnThe question is not what are you doing and who put you there but; are you happy? If you are not

Primary topic: Career Development

Career Development

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By Graham and JulieSep 4, 20041 topic

Only The Weak Ones Quit!

Only the weak ones quit. Is that true? There is a story of a CEO of a multi-national company who decided to withdraw a product from the market when it had consistently failed for nine months and eaten up millions of pounds in advertising, promotions etc. Was he weak? He could have maintained the myth of success and stayed in the market and gradually withdrawn, costing him and his company many more millions. Instead, he chose to face the fact that they had made a bad decision

Primary topic: Business Opportunities

Business Opportunities

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By Graham and JulieMay 7, 20041 topic

Are You a Bully?

Heâs a very successful sales manger who craves results. He canât be bothered with people who donât produce. They are losers. He always produces the numbers year after year. The question is does he do it through bullying or coaching? nnWhatâs the difference between bullying and coaching? This was one of the questions that ran through our mind when we were talking about Dave.nnCoaching, for us, is making people do what they donât necessarily want to do in order to ach

Primary topic: Success Coaching

Success Coaching

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By Graham and JulieMay 7, 20041 topic

Are You a Bully?

Heâs a very successful sales manger who craves results. He canât be bothered with people who donât produce. They are losers. He always produces the numbers year after year. The question is does he do it through bullying or coaching? nnWhatâs the difference between bullying and coaching? This was one of the questions that ran through our mind when we were talking about Dave.nnCoaching, for us, is making people do what they donât necessarily want to do in order to ach

Primary topic: Success Coaching

Success Coaching

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By Graham and JulieMay 3, 20051 topic

âYou must play by the rulesâ

You must play by the rules. Everything has rules. You want to play chess then learn the rules. You want to play soccer then learn the rules. You want to play tennis then learn the rules. You want to play life thenâ¦.hang on a minuteâ¦. Who wrote the rules of life? nnWho wrote the rules to your life? Did you?n nWhen you look at your life you begin to realise that most of the time you are living by someone elseâs rules. The rules made by your family, the education system, t

Primary topic: Career Development

Career Development

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By Graham and JulieFeb 24, 20051 topic

The need to be successful

The need to be successful. This is the bottom line for us all. Deep down we all, you and me, want to be successful. This is why we are attracted to the various âget rich quickâ schemes that appear on the internet and in the newspapers. We are searching for success. This is what drives us beyond our limits. The need to be successful. nnWhen we are breaking our necks to reach the top it is the need to be successful that is driving us. None of us wants to end our lives with

Primary topic: Career Development

Career Development

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By Graham and JulieDec 25, 20041 topic

The most under rated method to achieve success!

The most under rated method to achieve success is: The power of Visualisation. The best kept secret of success on the sports field and in athletics is: The power of Visualisation. The situation where the mind is in charge of the body. Athletes and other sportspersons constantly use the power of thought to change their lives. To bring them success. When all else is equal the master card is: the power of your mind. Your mind is the most under rated method to achieve success.nnI

Primary topic: Leadership

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By Graham and JulieDec 9, 20041 topic

What Footsie taught us !

We have just inherited a rag, tag and bobtail of a dog called âFootsieâ. She was found three weeks ago wandering around outside a local restaurant for a couple of days looking for food. Paula, a woman who takes responsibility for stray animals in this part of the island, took her in and started to look after her. She soon found that, Footsie has such a quiet, loving nature but is definitely not a âlookerâ. She wouldnât win any awards at Crufts. Pure white coat, almo

Primary topic: Family

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By Graham and JulieMay 7, 20041 topic

Are You a Bully?

Heâs a very successful sales manger who craves results. He canât be bothered with people who donât produce. They are losers. He always produces the numbers year after year. The question is does he do it through bullying or coaching? nnWhatâs the difference between bullying and coaching? This was one of the questions that ran through our mind when we were talking about Dave.nnCoaching, for us, is making people do what they donât necessarily want to do in order to ach

Primary topic: Success Coaching

Success Coaching

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By Graham and JulieApr 14, 20051 topic

Everyone talks in code!

How often have you left a meeting with a customer or your boss telling yourself he likes my ideas. Only to find later that you didnât get the sale or your boss has told everyone that you are crazy. nnAs we get older it seems to us that everyone talks in code. No one tells us what they really mean. Everything is hidden behind a veil of double talk. nnBut all is not lost. We found a copy of the code breaking manual on the web site of that well known code breaking magazine, Ha

Primary topic: Corporate Training

Corporate Training

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By Graham and JulieJun 8, 20051 topic

Discover YOUR Passion

What are you passionate about? We didnât ask if you are passionate. But what are you passionate about? What stirs your emotions? What is it you canât stop talking about whenever someone asks: âWhat are you passionate about?â Whatâs the fire in your belly? What really turns you on? What do you love doing most?nnWhat is it that you love doing so much that you forget time? You forget others. You are so focussed that you donât hear anything. What is it that gets your

Primary topic: Career Development

Career Development

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By Graham and JulieJan 23, 20051 topic

What Inspires You?

Have you ever thought? What inspires YOU? What is it that drives you day in and day out? What is it that inspires you?nnWe think of creative people as being inspired and ask about their work. What inspired you to paint, draw, produce this piece of work? What inspired you to make this? Usually the answer is: a book, poem, film, experience, person, a place or in Cole Porterâs case the âphone call from the directorâ. nnSomething else or someone else inspired the artist, th

Primary topic: Happiness

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By Graham and JulieJun 20, 20051 topic

Whatâs the point of meditating?

What are you likely to gain from meditating?nnSimple: nnâ¢ It improves the power of your concentration. nâ¢ Calms you down. nâ¢ And enables you to know what you want out of life and how to achieve it. nnIn our experience, we each have two sides of us, two YOUS if you prefer.nnONE YOU: wants to be successful and has the ability of giving you all the help and encouragement you need. nnTHE OTHER YOU: wants you to be an all so ran. Mediocre and that one will also give you all

Primary topic: Sports

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By Graham and JulieOct 23, 20041 topic

What do you need to do to be successful?

What do you need to do to be successful? If you are searching the net you may feel that you need to sign up for the latest affiliate marketing programme. Or perhaps you need to be a member of the latest MLM scheme. On the other hand it may be that you need to follow the directions of the latest web marketing guru. Each of theses routes give you the opportunity of being successful but without courage, zeal and enthusiasm you will join the ranks of the 80% plus who fail.nnYou n

Primary topic: Success Coaching

Success Coaching

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By Graham and JulieMay 27, 20051 topic

Do you have the skills to be a secret service agent?

Do you have the necessary attributes to be a successful secret services agent? Do you melt into the background where no one can see you? Do you hide behind someone else? Would you describe yourself as having an incognito life? Are you capable of always putting yourself second? Do you constantly defer to another person? Do people see right through you and ignore you? nnThen you have the skills.nnYou see, as John Reilly, states in the song he wrote for the musical Chicago; you

Primary topic: Career Development

Career Development

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By Graham and JulieMay 17, 20041 topic

Nothing Ever Stays the Same

Nothing ever stays the same. On the one hand we despise change yet on the other we donât want to stagnate and become boring. Yet our habits keep us locked into a course of action day after day, year after year. The way we think, the way we behave, the way we experience things, the way we react to incidents, all are dominated by our habits. They are so strong that most of do not even know what they are. Whatever our habits are they keep us fixed in a particular perspective o

Primary topic: Happiness

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By Graham and JulieMay 13, 20051 topic

âAnything thatâs worth doing, is worth doing Poorlyâ

Yes you got it. You read it correctly. Weâre not out of our minds. We really are saying that âanything thatâs worth doing is worth doing poorlyâ. When we found this quote by Joachim DePosada on the web site: The Gary Halbert Letter, it struck such a huge cord. It made such immediate sense to us. The more we looked the more we realised that our lives were built around this quote. What about yours?nnJust take your mind back to when you started to learn to drive. That ve

Primary topic: Creativity

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By Graham and JulieMar 16, 20051 topic

How to avoid being labelled as Average.

When your life is over how will you be graded? Will you get an A or a B or will you get a C Average? Will your time on this earth be rated as average? None of us want to be average. We all want to be successful. We all, deep down, have the desire to achieve something in our lives. nnSo why oh why are you satisfied with being Ms or Mr average? What is it that makes you content being average?nnWhat makes you average?nnThe inability to say No. nThe need to back your life both wa

Primary topic: Empowerment

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By Graham and JulieNov 30, 20041 topic

A prison cell?

Do you have a goal? A focus in life? Have you invested a great deal of time, effort, money to achieve and yet feel you havenât made it yet? For all your effort do you still feel that there is something missing in your life? It is obviously very important to set goals in your life. It gives you a focus a way forward a mechanism for making decisions when faced with a number of options. However, it can also be a prison cell.nnHow can making goals and having a focus be a prison

Primary topic: Goal Setting

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By Graham and JulieMar 31, 20051 topic

What is your process of Discovery?

When Julie looks through the lens of her camera she is interested in what is in focus and what is out of focus. Sometimes what is in focus is so boring, itâs the out of focus which interests her. The question that occupies her mind is: how do I bring that which is out of focus in focus? nnThe solution, for Julie, the photographer, is in thinking differently. In thinking what if I use this lens. Will the different lens bring what is out of focus in focus? What if I approach

Primary topic: Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

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By Graham and JulieJan 25, 20051 topic

Who should win the Oscar?

Who, do you think, should win the Oscar this year? Who has been the best male actor in film this year? Should it be Don Cheadle, in Hotel Rwanda, Johnny Depp in Finding Neverland, Leonardo DiCaprio in The Aviator, Clint Eastwood in Million Dollar Baby or Jamie Foxx in Ray.nnWhat about Leading female Actress? Who gets your vote? Annette Bening in Being Julie, Catalina Sandino Moreno in Maria Full of Grace, Imelda Staunton in Vera Drake, Hilary Swank in Million Dollar Baby or K

Primary topic: Happiness

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By Graham and JulieNov 19, 20041 topic

Itâs all to do with the way you wake up.

Do you start your day with anger, frustration and annoyance at the alarm and the need to get up? Do you wake up hoping the day will go away and you can get back to sleep? Have you lost the fun? The confidence to have a go at things. Are you struggling along? Are you just going through the rituals of life? Are you just doing enough at work? Doing what is necessary because you think you âought, should, must do this for the sake of others? Do you feel all washed up and no one

Primary topic: Happiness

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By Graham and JulieMay 7, 20041 topic

Are You a Bully?

Heâs a very successful sales manger who craves results. He canât be bothered with people who donât produce. They are losers. He always produces the numbers year after year. The question is does he do it through bullying or coaching? nnWhatâs the difference between bullying and coaching? This was one of the questions that ran through our mind when we were talking about Dave.nnCoaching, for us, is making people do what they donât necessarily want to do in order to ach

Primary topic: Success Coaching

Success Coaching

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By Graham and JulieMay 7, 20041 topic

Are You a Bully?

Heâs a very successful sales manger who craves results. He canât be bothered with people who donât produce. They are losers. He always produces the numbers year after year. The question is does he do it through bullying or coaching? nnWhatâs the difference between bullying and coaching? This was one of the questions that ran through our mind when we were talking about Dave.nnCoaching, for us, is making people do what they donât necessarily want to do in order to ach

Primary topic: Success Coaching

Success Coaching

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By Graham and JulieMay 7, 20041 topic

Are You a Bully?

Heâs a very successful sales manger who craves results. He canât be bothered with people who donât produce. They are losers. He always produces the numbers year after year. The question is does he do it through bullying or coaching? nnWhatâs the difference between bullying and coaching? This was one of the questions that ran through our mind when we were talking about Dave.nnCoaching, for us, is making people do what they donât necessarily want to do in order to ach

Primary topic: Success Coaching

Success Coaching

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