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Have you ever felt that you just have too much going on inside your head? I have too much that I am thinking about right now. Too many projects; a family reunion to plan, pets to feed and walk, repainting the house, fixing our roof, helping family with health issues, participating in my local chapter of the International Coach Federation, my job, my kids, my family, etc.r
Does this sound familiar? In addition to showing up at work, doing a fantastic job, keeping hearth and home moving along with enthusiasm and brilliance (and looking great all the while,) you maintain a second career as social secretary to your children. This is the reality of many working moms and for the most part, all is well. We handle it with grace and flexibility. And then, there are times when our child throws another ball into the collection that we are juggling, and we must say no in order to maintain our sanity and the equilibrium of the family.r
Has this ever happened to you? You’ve started a business at home or are building your business. You are getting on a roll and things are beginning to click. New marketing opportunities are showing up and clients and customers are finding you. And then, when summer starts and the kids are out of school, the progress slows and in some cases by mid-August it has drawn to a ear-bending screech of a halt!
For the last two weeks, I have had more space in my schedule and it has been wonderful. More space means that I have time to think. Time to do whatever needs to be done in that moment. Time to see friends that I have been meaning to see for too long.
Today I started a 21 Day meditation challenge for the 12th time. Not sure if the meditation is the challenge, or if the real challenge is me and my total inability to be still and think of nothing, for 20 minutes. The first day I attempted meditation, I fell asleep. I then let a few days slip by and tried again but made sure to have a cup of coffee before sitting down. There I sat cross legged with my steaming hot cup of coffee perched between my legs – doesn’t that sound relaxing?
How many times have I started something, only to give it up 3 to 6 months later? And, to make things worse, like an amnesia survivor, I have absolutely no memory of why I stopped. I am only left with regret and a lingering annoyance with my seeming inability to “stick with something.” Does ...
Ready, Set, Launch! I have a child who is going off to college next year. The first of my three to reach this point in life. I am mindful of my role as a support system during this time, but also that I have a responsibility to be doling out opportunities for her to self manage and possibly make a few mistakes. It seems that I am a jumble of emotions. I am thrilled and excited for her as she embarks on a new chapter in life and I know that she is ready to take on the world. In fact, I look forward to having a front row seat at the unveiling of her new adventure.r
What is the cost of efficiency? I recently started to realize that although I value efficiency and organization, I have lost some experiences along the way due to my commitment to my LIST. We are constantly making choices in life, and when we choose one option, we eliminate many others. That is to be expected. However, it is useful to know what we are choosing so we can continue to make new choices if our commitments or goals change.r
Have you ever had one of those weekends where you were just having too much fun? You attended three 8-year-old birthday parties, went to dinner with friends, cheered the Dodgers at a game and hosted a brunch with the extended family – only to wake up Monday morning thrilled at the thought of dragging yourself into the office, to REST. Sometimes we group our “fun activities” in such a way that we are having so much fun, we are too exhausted to enjoy any of it.r
I have never been a perfectionist. I drop food on my clothes, leave the house with wet hair, wear makeup only when necessary and buy cheap sunglasses because eventually, I will scratch or break every single pair. When it comes to mothering, I am also imperfect. I get my children to bed too late at times, forget to make the occasional lunch and when it comes to showers; well, let’s just say that an eight-year-old can go a full week without a shampoo and still be presentable.
As a mom I find that I am often providing services for which I have no training at all. For example; I have no business helping anyone with 9th grade math. In fact, I am finding that I am only slightly qualified to help with 4th grade math. And yet, on a regular basis, I hold my child’s hand and wade into the deep end of factors and algebraic expressions, as if I have a clue.r
Nothing is working, what should I do? Have you ever had that unsettling thought? What happens when you wake up and nothing seems to be working in your life? There is no immediate crisis, but you feel “out-of-step.” Now, because you are a “doer”, you will begin to take a mental inventory of ...
You know those things you want to do someday? Here’s my partial list: Learn to speak Spanish, write a book, Take belly dancing lessons, complete a baby scrapbook for each of my three children, read the stack of books by my bed, help my daughter with her knitting and so much more. My list ...
Kids are so great at acknowledging themselves for little wins and small successes. We teach them this at an early age by congratulating them for small steps, first smiles, rolling over and sitting up. In turn they congratulate themselves early and often:r
Have you ever looked in the mirror to find a very tired woman? This morning, perhaps? Me too. When I looked into the mirror this morning, I found a happy woman with a full life, a great job, wonderful people to share it all with and bags as big as watermelons, under my eyes. It's not that ...
I coach women who are busy, high-powered, over-committed and exhausted. Most of them are married with children and holding down part or full-time jobs. Their husbands are busy too - they are not just sitting around watching football and drinking beer. These guys are involved with the kids, the ...
This morning I had a bit of a hiccup with my first grader. As she inspected the lunch that I had made for her, she announced that she no longer likes the vegetarian chicken nuggets that have been the main staple of her diet, for the last 4 years. I calmly told her that, after all, she has ...
What's new? Nothing? How wonderful! I am so pleased to announce, that blissfully, wonderfully, nothing is new! I have nothing to report. Everything is status quo. PHEW! I recently came out of a 6 month whirlwind. It began with the first of 3 infestations of lice, in October. I won't ...
Have you ever had one of “those” days, weeks, months or years? Who hasn’t? You wake up, set your feet firmly on the floor, step onto the roller coaster of life and strap yourself in for another day. The ride is constantly changing. Whether it gently slopes or takes you careening around ...
Recently, I have been on a "start-the-new-year-off-right" saving spree. Now, I know it's March already - but it still feels like the beginning of the year, doesn't it? And, these activities have received an impetus from the new buds of spring! I've been successfully saying no to small ...
Recently, I have been on a "start-the-new-year -off-right" saving spree. I've been successfully saying no to small purchases that we really don't need and taking those few extra moments to think about whether there might be a lower cost solution to the challenge at hand. At the same time, (I ...
Do you have friends? Of course you do. So do I. Do you see your friends? Do you grab lunches, take walks, chat on the phone? If your answer to these questions is yes, then Bravo! However, if you're like me, you may feel as if you don't have time to cultivate and nurture friendships. The ...
I looked in the mirror this morning and this is what I saw; a very tired woman. Not unhappy, not yelling at the kids, but just plain tired. It’s not that I cannot do everything that needs to be done. I can, as long as I don’t sleep. But not sleeping leads to a very cranky version of myself ...
You know those things you want to do someday? Here is my partial list: Learn to speak Spanish, write a book, Take belly dancing lessons, complete a baby scrapbook for each of my three children, read the stack of books by my bed, help my daughter with her knitting and so much more. My list ...