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Debbie’s life had seemed to be perfect. She had a wonderful husband, Todd, and three beautiful children and they shared a happy life together. This included camping holidays with her best friend from Teacher’s College, Simone, and her husband and two children. To Debbie’s horror, her husband and “b…
The Right Person to Have Sex With The “age of consent” is the age at which it becomes legal for young people to engage in penetrative sexual acts. There are laws to stop older people from taking advantage of people younger than sixteen by having sex with them. There are different laws in different states of Austral
Although a woman may feel immense hurt and anger to discover that her partner has visited with a prostitute, it is strongly recommended that he be given a chance to explain the circumstances. There are two types of men who see prostitutes. The first type is the man who has an addiction to anonymous sex - the man with w
Andrew was a very handsome and fit twenty-seven year old. He self-referred for therapy because he confused about what to do with his relationship. He had first met Cherie five years ago when they had an instant attraction, but because she was already in relationship, they only saw each other as friends and did not have
Anxiety and guilt about sex often relates to masturbation. Common judgements and old wives tales include warnings that your hand will shrivel up and fall off, or you’ll grow hair on the back of your hand or your hair will fall out. Apparently, the earliest Encyclopaedia of Sex advises that masturbation will cause you
I am sorry to say it but there is no magic wand which can make your sex life better. You must be willing to get solid therapy with an accredited expert and you must change your negative thinking, attitude, feelings and your behaviour. The typical ways that people sabotage their sex therapy program include: 1. Their err
I recommend that “open communication” is not necessarily the same as totally honest communication – which I call “the overwhelming truth”. Open communication involves deliberately telling your partner how you feel, what you want and what you don’t want, but only in a positive and constructive way.r Overwh
Hypnosis is an experience of mind expansion where the unconscious mind may be integrated with the conscious mind. My layman's theory is that we are typically only aware, consciously, of thirty percent of our mind's activity. So what is happening with the other seventy percent? It's all still happening...but on an uncon
Gerry was sixty-eight and Sonia was sixty-one and they came for sex-therapy because Gerry was having trouble with sustaining an erection. He felt mortified because he was a high performer in his life and was not used to failing. Sonia had two marriages previously where she had been a victim of violence. She had never l
Time and time again I hear stories of couples who live with the oldies for the very good reason of saving money and find out that their sex lives get put on hold. Living with parents or in-laws may be practical if saving for a first home, but can be the equivalent of “hitting the penis on the end with a cold spoon”
Date Rape is when a couple get together for an agreed date and one partner pushes the other one into sex when they don’t really want to. r
Michelle was happy. She had a beautiful baby girl of six months and was enjoying being a mother. Suddenly her husband, Paul, was retrenched from his job and there was no money coming in. Paul had little prospect of getting another job but Michelle, a school teacher, could easily return to work. So Michelle sadly passed
“It’s just got to work out. Fate intended us to be together! Otherwise, why would two people from opposite sides of the country literally bump into each other at a conference and fall so deeply in love?” Sue was working hard at convincing herself that her relationship with Max was “it’ - ‘life’s ONE true
A client recently had the scare of her life when her husband of 22 years admitted to a 10 month affair with a colleague. He was fed up with "always being the initiator" and had decided to seek out an equal partner. The wife was anguished. She admitted she was warned by her parents "good girls never let on they want sex
If you want to feel really alive, have high energy and mental alertness, you must be comfortable with your sexual connection. It’s 25% of who you are in your relationship! The other three connections which make up the other 75% of your relationship are your soul, mind, and heart connection. Can you assess how good yo
You will have your colors analyzed so that you can confidently choose colors that enhance your personal power. You will also be advised how to get the difference that makes the difference in your individual presentation for elegant, business and casual wear. They will also teach you how accessories – your tie, your b
Elle’s guy started cheating on her in the first year of their rocky six-year relationship. He had physically and emotionally abused her. Several times he moved interstate without telling her where he was going, only to call her several weeks later, apologising, declaring his everlasting love and begging her to come t
As a practicing sex therapist, I never can understand how so many people expect that sex therapy will work in one session! These people are expecting a “magic wand” solution. Well there is no magic wand except for the willingness to do your own work and change your thinking, your attitude, your feelings and your be
In an interview on a gay radio program recently the reporter asked his presenting expert why it was important to be monogamous in a relationship. She said that she believed that whether it is a gay or heterosexual partnership, the main reason it is important to be monogamous is that it prevents drama! Of course that’
Are you a leader? Well, here's a challenge for you!As a leader, you are a success coach with an awesome responsibility. How can you keep your team goal-oriented, motivated and coach them to success? Most importantly, how can you coach your potential successors to excellence and magnificant results? Leaders are goal-ori
How do you keep up with this highly competitive and rapidly changing world and manage your stress levels and stay healthy …and look for Mr or Ms Right at the same time? Well from my observations at a typical suburban nightclub recently, lots of you are not doing very well!r The obvious signal of high stress/low healt
"What's gone wrong? Why isn't it working? She's gorgeous, I'm truly in love for the first time in my life and my sex life is on-existent?" John's speech was chaotic. He couldn't believe that he was pouring out his troubles to a psychologist/sex-therapist - especially in having to admit that he was having great difficu
If sex is so fantastic why don’t we have it more often! Who’s ever been too busy for sex?r Who’s ever been too tired for sex?r Who can’t remember when they last had sex? It’s time now, to look at the “sexcuses” which get in the way of us enjoying regular sex.r Let’s look at the top sexcuse. The Sexual T
1. The first step in becoming dry is WANTING to become dry. A motivated child is much more likely to cooperate and be willing to learn about becoming dry. 2. Give lots of encouragement and praise for dry beds. Never scold or make fun of your child when he/she wets the bed. It feels bad enough just being wet. 3. Teach y
1. Ask for help –you can’t do it on your own without wasting time, and the power of synergy is exponential.r 2. Share your feelings with someone you trust –don’t bottle them up.r 3. Don’t sweat the small stuff or rejection – toss it over your shoulder and move on.r 4. Record your preferred TV programs so yo
Learning to be respectful and how to act with responsibility, are fundamental lessons for almost all children. Children are never too young to learn to say please and thank you, to ask before taking, pick up toys and tidy their room, or take care with the possessions of others. Why is a respectful attitude important?r
The national survey on sexuality which was reported in the Australian Study of Health and Relationships published in the Australian and New Zealand Journal of Public Health, 27, 2, 200 has a worrying finding. One in twenty Australian men and one in five Australian women reported that they had at some time been forced o
Who has a fight-free family? Whenever I ask this question of my audience everybody looks around the room :all hoping that someone else will admit that most mornings, by the end of breakfast time, their family has fought at least one major battle already. There’s big smiles of relief when I tell them the truth about f
A woman called Jane told how she was badly scarred by boiling water when she was four and required a lot of surgery over many years. There are no photos of her in the family album from the age of four until she was sixteen, until she was clear of all her treatments to her skin to get rid of the sca…
Douglas came to counselling because he couldn’t cope with not seeing his two sons more than once a week. His ex had tied everything up with a costly court battle and she was dictating the terms of Dad/kids access. Douglas was considering suicide. r
How Parents Can Recharge Their Batteries Modern-day media has promoted a myth that children need quality time. In particular mothers fall over themselves to make sure that everyday, everyone of their children gets some special mother time. Why doesn't the same mother make sure she gets the same time for herself? Allowi
"Life's for living to the full!" I was listening to Florence Houghton (then aged 83) who had been talking at me for over an hour ... and I was hanging off every word. She had recently made a tandem parachute jump (the oldest person to do so in the southern hemisphere) and was looking forward to her next adventure. Howe
A mother was very upset as she spoke about her eleven year rnold daughter who had a very possessive friend. The so-called rnfriend wouldn’t let her daughter play or get close to any other girls at school. She threatened her and was mean to her. The daughter was scared to go to school and had developed stomach aches a
Rosie and Peter were juggling full-time careers and bringing up three children. They had been increasingly concerned about tempers fraying and short fuses as a major negative effect on their family. They would start every day with a good intention to be loving, but never seemed to have the time to show their loved ones
Most studies of love and marriage show that the decline of romantic love over time is inevitable. The butterflies of early romance quickly flutter away and are replaced by familiar, predictable attachment. r
According to Barbara D’Angelis, author of the best book I know to finding the ideal partner, “Are You the One For Me”, an age difference of more than eleven years is a “time bomb”. This means that everything may start out rosy, but sooner or later there is bound to be a blow-up –a major conflict of interest