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By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

How to Stop People From Hurting You

If I posed the question, "Who in your life has hurt you?", you might respond with, "Must I limit it to only one?" We've all been on the receiving end of someone's thoughtless behavior - their anger, sarcasm, back stabbing or betrayals. We've been hurt by those we know and love and even some that are complete strangers and it appears that we are powerless to stop them. Some tell themselves that they don't care if their boyfriend found someone else. After all, he's going to regret it when he finally comes to his senses and realizes you were the best thing that ever happened to him.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

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By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

ABCE: ANGER, BOUNDARIES, COMPASSION, ENABLING

No matter who we are or where we go in life, we encounter people who are struggling with personal issues and are not easy to engage with. They can prove challenging to deal for a variety of reasons. Often times, we feel ill-equipped to effectively deal with them. Some, feeling overwhelmed or unprepared, simply disengage and avoid any interaction at all. Others may become defensive or hostile toward them in an attempt to manage them or pressure them to change. Those who feel sympathetic, in an attempt to be supportive, can sometimes become enablers.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

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By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

One Part is the Whole

I have been busy with the media discussing the recent killing of seventeen year old Trayvon Martin in Sanford, Florida. A volunteer with a local neighborhood watch committee observed Martin walking alone wearing a “hoodie” sweatshirt draped over his head. The volunteer, George Zimmerman, called the local police to report a suspicious male who “looks like he's up to no good or on drugs or something.” The dispatcher inquired as to whether he was black, white or Hispanic.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,921 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

NEVER BE A VICTIM AGAIN!

At some time in life, most people feel as though they've been treated unfairly to the extent that they would consider themselves a victim. Certainly those who have been the target of a violent crime fall into that category according to society's standards. Even those of lesser offenses can view themselves as the target of injustice: a faithful spouse who's partner has an affair or files for divorce; a child being tormented by a bully at school; one who has a rumor spread about them, particularly those that cause significant damage or distress.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,918 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

7 TIBETAN STEPS TO LASTING JOY

There is something about the country of Tibet that has always intrigued me. Perhaps it's the beautiful landscape along crystal blue waters or the unique architecture of its oriental style buildings. Or more importantly a group of monks that call this country their home are known for their serene way of life. They seem unaffected by the modern day stresses and anger that the rest of us are subjected to while residing primarily in a state of bliss. What is the secret to their joy?

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,917 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

Winning Arguments Through Non-Resistance

When disagreements arise there is always the possibility that they will escalate into an argument or fight. The very nature of dissension triggers feelings of uneasiness in the average person. Most of us struggle with some degree of insecurity. Contradictory ideas, needs, beliefs, ways of doing things, or opinions challenge us and may threaten our sense of safety or question our level of intelligence. Our natural response to any perceived threat is resistance - we fight to preserve our integrity, to get what we want, or to prove ourselves right.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,916 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

Winning Arguments Through Non-Resistance

When disagreements arise there is always the possibility that they will escalate into an argument or fight. The very nature of dissension triggers feelings of uneasiness in the average person. Most of us struggle with some degree of insecurity. Contradictory ideas, needs, beliefs, ways of doing things, or opinions challenge us and may threaten our sense of safety or question our level of intelligence. Our natural response to any perceived threat is resistance - we fight to preserve our integrity, to get what we want, or to prove ourselves right.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,916 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

7 Communication Strategies to Reduce Anger and Conflict

Why is it so hard to talk to one another? Unless you're a recluse, it's something we all do every day. Perhaps because I'm a motivational speaker, author, and radio host I can talk ad infinitum. I actually find it enjoyable and relatively easy. Yet there is a significant difference between talking and communicating: talking involves only one person, communication includes at least one additional person. Although everyone is speaking the same language, it's not uncommon to become frustrated and angry with each other.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,913 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

Grief, Healing, and Wholeness

Elizabeth Kubler-Ross defined the five stages of grief in her 1969 book, On Death and Dying. Grief is a deeply personal process and each individual experiences it on their own terms. Some may endure all five stages, others only a portion; some progress in a seemingly reasonable period of time, for others the process is much slower. In any case, it is important to recognize that there is no right or wrong way to grieve and no time frame that is considered normal. It is equally important to understand that grief, like every other emotions, fluctuates.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,911 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

The Nature of Nature (Excerpt from The Great Truth)

I have two acres of beautifully landscaped property with colorful gardens. In each, I’ve planted a wide array of flora: roses, tulips, chrysanthemums, geraniums, daisies, sweet Williams, peonies, and others whose names elude me. One day, while preparing dinner in the kitchen, I heard voices outside. I wasn’t expecting company or the UPS guy so I ventured outside to see who was there. No one was visible yet the voices continued. I followed them around to the front of my house. Still, no one.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,901 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

Part 2: "20+ TIMES TO NOT SAY ANYTHING"

Continuing from where we left off last week, remember that there is a time to speak and a time to keep our mouths shut. Here are more examples of when it's best to remain silent:

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,878 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

Why Do I Feel the Way I Do?

People often believe that they are slaves to their emotions: "I hate feeling like this but I can't help it." Some are ashamed of their emotions and try to hide them; still others find some to be offensive, frightening or sinful. But the truth is that all feelings have purpose and value. They are essential messengers that provide us the opportunity to learn a lot about ourselves depending upon which ones enter our hearts. Let's take a look at ten of the most frequently experienced feelings and what they may possibly reveal about us:

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,867 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

10 PROLIFIC COMMUNICATE TIPS

It's difficult for a lot of people to communicate with each other effectively. Unless you're a recluse, communication is something we all do every day. Perhaps because I'm a motivational speaker, author, and radio host, I can talk ad infinitum. I actually find it enjoyable and relatively easy. Yet there is a significant difference between talking and communicating: talking requires only one person, communication includes at least one additional person. Although everyone may be speaking the same language, it's not uncommon to become frustrated and angry with each other while dialoguing.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,861 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

13 Quick Questions for Clarifying Anger

Do you ever wonder why it's so hard to break a habit? Whether it's biting your finge ails, the way you speak, or your reaction to drivers who cut you off on the highway, old habits die hard. The reason being is that behaviors, when repeated frequently enough, become habitual. We no longer consciously think about what we are doing or saying. We react rather than intentionally respond to a person or situation.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,840 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

ANGER: FIRE OR ICE?

It doesn't take much to anger some people. Even the most innocent comments can cause some tempers to flare. Innocuous situations can be misinterpreted leading to screaming matches, cursing, or physical altercations. In an instant, violence can erupt where calm once existed and destruction of property, injury to one's person, or psychological damage can occur. Patience, understanding, forgiveness, and compassion are replaced by personal entitlement and arrogance.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,837 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

The Sky is NOT My Limit: Setting and Enforcing Boundaries

Many of us allow others to treat us in ways that are uncomfortable, unhealthy or disrespectful. We remain silent rather than address our disdain for fear of retribution: what will happen if I speak up? Will I lose my job? Will my best friend get angry with me? Will my family choose to no longer speak to me? Will someone argue with me and tell me I'm wrong for feeling the way I do? There are risks involved whenever we voice our feelings and expect change. Not everyone is eager to accommodate our new requests. Some will argue, coerce or try to manipulate us back into our old patterns.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,822 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

FIVE EASY STEPS TO INNER PEACE

One of my favorite authors, the late Dr. Wayne Dyer, once stated that "There is no way to peace. Peace is the way." This seemed rather contradictory to the common belief that a peaceful state of existence is a destination we arrive at after traversing a righteous path. Wayne challenges us to view peace as a state of mind, a choice, a way of life. One who is serene makes different conscious choices in the way they live. Here are five steps you can take to create a more peaceful life:

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,797 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

How to Stop People From Annoying You

They're like mosquitoes on a hot summer night - those irritating and annoying people. They can be found anywhere from our families or coworkers to drivers on the roadways to complete strangers we encounter while on vacation. Their quirky behaviors and annoying habits can ruin our day. Other than blow up, walk away, or simply endure their lack of sensitivity towards others, we're often powerless to do anything about it.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,797 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

Why Forgiveness is Obsolete

My mother has always been an advocate of forgiveness. When I was a child she taught me early on to let go of being angry with people. If a friend hurt me she suggested that perhaps they didn't realize what they had done. If it was a family member, well, families don't hold grudges. And as Christians, that is what we are told to do: forgive one another as God has forgiven us. Extending mercy towards others has always come easy to me. I've never been one to hold on to resentment or anger.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,796 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

STICKS AND STONES: DISARMING HURTFUL WORDS

I used to pride myself on being sensitive. The problem was I was easily hurt by the things other people said to me. I lived in a chronic state of pain which lead to a lifetime of unhappiness and low self-esteem. But the alte ative (being cold and aloof) was less appealing so I resigned myself to a life of sorrow. But as I got older and more comfortable with myself, the criticisms and negative comments of others became less problematic for me. I realized that words have no power other than what I assign to them.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,785 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

How To Communicate Rationally When You're Angry

Communication is difficult for most of us. It is one of the most necessary interpersonal skills we need yet few have ever been formally trained in. For most, it's a learn-as-you-go process. What makes effective communicating so challenging is that we all converse on different levels and employ varying styles. To know each person's preferences and make the necessary adjustments to accommodate their needs takes a special proficiency, one that few are interested in developing or are ill-equipped to implement. Even under the most comfortable conditions we can find ourselves becoming irritated.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,774 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

L~A~V~S~S METHOD: 5 KEYS TO RESOLVE CONFLICT

Keeping our disagreements from becoming full-blown fights can be challenging. Many times, we're so passionate about our beliefs or what we want to do that any form of opposition causes us to become frustrated and angry. We may prefer that others simply agree with our position or if they don't to remain silent. We may be willing to hear their point of view at times but are not necessarily anxious to discuss it further. Lacking the proper skills necessary to communicate effectively leaves one feeling at a disadvantage and somewhat vulnerable.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,774 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

14 Common Reasons We Get Angry and Their Solutions

While conducting research for today's show, I found fourteen of the most common reasons people get angry. Keep in mind, these are only the triggers. Outside circumstances are never the actual cause. There are three root causes - hurt, fear, and frustration - that prompt anger in us. Let's examine some of the most frequent experiences that elicit an angry response and what steps we need to take to combat each.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,767 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

THE WHY'S WAY TO NEUTRALIZE ANGER

If I told you that there was one simple word that could prevent anger from arising would you be interested in discovering what that word is? Or in the event that anger showed up without warning, this same word could easily subdue it and restore your sense of calm? Would you utilize this information to create a happier life for yourself? Of course you would! Well, there is one simple magic word that can do just that, and the word is "WHY".

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,766 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

I DARE YOU TO ASK THIS

Relationships are critically important in our lives. On a professional level, being a good team player and getting along well with others enables us to maintain our jobs and receive such perks as bonuses or promotions. Also, connecting with the right people can advance our careers providing we have good interpersonal skills. How people feel about us on the job plays an important role in how successful we are professionally speaking.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,764 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

Diffusing Family Tension

I've spent over twenty years working with families as a spiritual life coach. Many of my clients divulge painful or embarrassing situations that their families are struggling with, believing there must be something wrong with them since other families they know appear so well adjusted. I assure them that even in the most seemingly normal families there are often veiled matters of concern. Dealing with tension and strife in our family units can present unique challenges. In our social environments we can more easily disengage or remove ourselves from problematic circumstances.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,757 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

THE 15 MINUTE CONFLICT RESOLUTION SOLUTION

I abhor arguing. It's a waste of precious time and energy and robs me of my serenity. Conflict, however, is horse of another color. Conflict occurs daily in each of our lives. It simply means that there is a disagreement, a difference of opinion. My husband and I engage in disputes on a regular basis yet interestingly enough have had fewer than five arguments in our eighteen year marriage. Unlike popular opinion, conflict is not synonymous with fighting. I'm willing to engage in a discussion but will never allow it to escalate into a battle.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,757 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

The BLAME Game

When something goes wrong in your life, who do you blame? “I’m in so much debt because the economy is bad and everything is so expensive. It’s not my fault” “My mother always criticized me when I was a child. That’s why I suffer from low self esteem and make so many bad choices.” Sadly, many people hold others accountable for what isn’t working in their life. Things are a mess and rather than take ownership they blame others. What they don’t realize is that blame robs them of personal power.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,747 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

Alte ative Healing Modalities for Anger

When I was a child, my mom always utilized natural methods for healing. Fevers were treated with cold compresses to the forehead, sucking on frozen juice pops, and cool baths. Burns were treated with ice, colds with chicken soup. Rarely was medication given to restore health.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,745 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

4 SIMPLE RULES FOR A HAPPY LIFE

Most people I know want to be happy. I say most because there some who are really miserable and seem content remaining that way. They resist every opportunity for joy and find excuses to stay stuck in their gloom. Although I believe that deep down inside every human being desires happiness, I also believe that some feel they are either undeserving or that it is unattainable for them. Some wallow in self-pity keeping them trapped in their own unhappiness. They become so comfortable in their ways of thinking and living that although it may be painful for them it is all they know.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,735 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

EXPOSING COMMON MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT ANGER

I've been presenting seminars on understanding and healing anger for 25 years and it never ceases to amaze me how much misinformation is circulating about one of life's most powerful emotions. Lack of accurate facts and techniques can have serious repercussions in every aspect of life from relationships to health to joy and happiness. Consider the following myths and truths: Myth #1. It's wrong to get angry. Anger is a bad emotion.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,734 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

WHEN LYING IS THE BETTER OPTION

Currently there is a commercial on TV where a cheerful woman visits her new neighbor with a homemade pie. She states that she has actually come by not to simply welcome the woman into the neighborhood but to see if in fact she might be weird in some way. The smiling neighbor inquires as to whether she would like to come in and snoop around to see what her new house looks like. The narrator poses the questions, "Wouldn't it be great if we all said exactly what was on our mind?" While many would agree that honesty is the best policy sometimes lying can be a better alte ative.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,733 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

Anger: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

As a child I was taught that anger was a bad emotion but I've have since come to understand that there are no bad feelings. All emotions have purpose and value as they teach us about ourselves based on how we react to exte al events. We assign value to each depending on how people act them out. If someone feels angry and reacts by screaming or hitting someone, it is pretty well agreed upon that that's bad. Hence the feeling behind the behavior is labeled likewise. Keep in mind that it's imperative to always separate the feeling from the behavior.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,727 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

How to Change Without Changing (and why it's important)

Not everyone likes change. Some are comfortable precisely where they are and prefer to stay within their comfort zone. Others are more adventurous and enjoy a good challenge. They are more open to trying new things in order to experience something new or perhaps to learn something that will positively impact their life. There is one change, however, that everyone resists: that is when others tell us we must be someone other than who we are. They may try to persuade us to change our way of thinking or the way in which we do things.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,722 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

Finding Inner Peace-

No matter where you go in life, you'll find that humans share similar goals: we are all seeking happiness, success, good health, wealth, and love. Some are fortunate to acquired some or all of them. And yet as quickly as we obtain them we can lose them or they can disappoint and hurt us. You study and prepare for the career of a lifetime, reaching the pinnacle of success only to suffer the consequences of a failing economy. At the end of a long day you return home from work to a wonderful family but all you do is bicker with one another.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,721 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

IT'S NOT FAIR!

At one time or another, we've all complained that life isn't fair. Children do it all the time: Karen, who is older by two years, is allowed to stay up later than her younger siblings. They complain to dad that they're being treated unjustly, not realizing that at the same age her bedtime was thirty minutes earlier. As adults, we attribute this behavior to immaturity and expect that as children grow and develop this rationale will make way for a more judicious way of thinking . Sadly, many people carry this mind-set with them well into adulthood.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,720 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

MAD, SAD, OR GLAD: THE OPTIONS

We all get angry from time-to-time. Sometimes our anger is righteous, that is to say it is justifiable and other times without valid cause. For instance, imagine your child is late returning from an evening basketball game. He does not call to let you know that the game went into overtime. You're unable to reach him and become fearful that something awful may have happened to him. It was also agreed upon that he would call if he was going to be late. Your trust has been violated in addition to the fact that you are frantic (fear: a root cause of anger).

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,718 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

The Dangers of Tolerating or Accepting What You Cannot Change (and the Surprising Alte ative)

Years ago, there was a major campaign in schools teaching children to tolerate the difference of others. It was an attempt to create a more comfortable and conducive environment for children of all cultures and ethnic backgrounds to coexist peacefully. I suppose some good came of it but still kids had difficulty being forced to put up with others whom they did not like, understand, or care to associate with. Even in the adult world we very often feel we must tolerate the behaviors, attitudes, and differences of others.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,704 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

D~U~C~A~P Method of Dealing With a Difficult Person

We could all use a few suggestions for dealing with those difficult coworkers, obnoxious family members, or challenging neighbors that find their way into our lives. Some really know how to push our buttons and bring out the worst in us; others are stubborn or opinionated; still others can be rude, disrespectful, or argumentative. Whatever their unique behaviors are, they pose a challenge to everyone they encounter. It's easy to become frustrated and short-tempered but that rarely makes the situation better. Some find it easier to simply avoid them whenever possible.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,702 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

"GO AHEAD - GET GOOD AND ANGRY!"

It's hard to avoid getting angry. Even those who are relatively easy going find themselves irate from time to time. At the most inopportune moments, anger can rear its ugly head and create all sorts of havoc in our lives. Consider these examples: You've been under extraordinary amounts of stress lately and your daughter is late coming home from a date. As she walks in the door, you blow up at her, screaming that she's grounded for a month.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,688 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

ROAD RAGE: A MATTER OF LIFE OR DEATH

Recently, I've been driving into NY City to do mediations for a large clothing manufacture on Madison Ave. I used to teach classes at the Learning Annex and some of my son's doctor's were in the city as well. However, it's been awhile and as incomprehensible as it may sound, NY has become even more congested than I remember. Along with additional vehicles, bikers, pedestrians, city workers and delivery trucks comes added frustration, impatience, anger, and rage.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,681 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

WHY YOU NEED TO CHANGE

People become defensive at the thought of someone telling them or implying that they must change. "I am who I am; take it or leave it" is often the response. "I'm not changing for anyone. Except me for who I am or don't be in my life." While many view these comments as signs of self-confidence - that one does not rely on the approval of others to determine their worth or that they are perfectly content with themselves exactly as they are - in truth this attitude is typically a cover-up for fear. "If I change then I am admitting there is something wrong with me.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,676 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

How to Stop Being Angry With Someone

I find it amusing that very often when I'm scheduled to do a radio show or present a lecture I'm speaking on a subject matter that reflects a lesson I need reminded of. Today's show is no exception. I'm one who is slow to anger and quick to forgive. However, occasionally I find myself trapped in a quicksand of ire that threatens my well-being. Such is my current state of affairs. For nearly two decades I've dealt with a very spiteful, jealous, and hurtful family member.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,675 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

"THE F~B~I WAY TO WARD OFF ANGER

I've been teaching people about anger for nearly twenty five years. What I do is commonly referred to as anger management training. However, this implies that people must first become irate and then seek methods of how to manage it effectively, express it appropriately, and ultimately put it to rest so it does not cause further distress or damage. This makes about as much sense as allowing your house to catch on fire and then taking the necessary steps to extinguish the flames. Firefighters emphasize the importance of fire prevention as a more intelligent approach to fire safety.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,667 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

THE T-I-B-Bs AFFECT ON ANGER

Although we often classify a person's actions as problematic, in truth a person's conduct is never the real problem. Behavior is nothing more than an outward expression of an internal issue. For example, if an individual is in a bad mood and arguing with those around them, the fighting simply indicates a possible insecurity or fear. Perhaps the person is worried about their health and others are offering unsolicited advice. Their angst is overwhelming and can easily be expressed as agitation, causing them to vehemently dispute every suggestion for possible treatment.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,667 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

FORGIVENESS: WHY WE DON'T, BUT NEED TO AND HOW Part 1

Is there someone in your life that you either refuse to forgive or are having a hard time with? I've often heard people make statements such as "I'll never forgive them for what they did!" Or, "Some things should never be forgiven." Still others feel that some people simple do not deserve exoneration. Why are some reluctant to do so when others believe it is absolutely necessary and must be offered to the offending party? Shouldn't the choice to extend absolution be a personal one? Let's first examine some of the reasons why people withhold this act:

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,665 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

14 Common Reasons We Get Angry and Their Solutions

While conducting research for today's show, I found fourteen of the most common reasons people get angry. Keep in mind, these are only the triggers. Outside circumstances are never the actual cause. There are three root causes - hurt, fear, and frustration - that prompt anger in us. Let's examine some of the most frequent experiences that elicit an angry response and what steps we need to take to combat each.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,658 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

PROD Method of Conflict Resolution

Conflict: one of the most feared words in the English language and sadly one of the most misunderstood as well. My mission: to bring deeper awareness to this benign term, to remove all preconceived negativity associated with disagreements, and to reinstate it's position of value in our vocabulary. If anyone is prepared to undertake such a loft goal, it is I - Conflict Resolution Girl! (Ta-da-ta-da!)

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,655 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

IT'S NOT FAIR!

At one time or another, we've all complained that life isn't fair. Children do it all the time: Karen, who is older by two years, is allowed to stay up later than her younger siblings. They complain to dad that they're being treated unjustly, not realizing that at the same age her bedtime was thirty minutes earlier. As adults, we attribute this behavior to immaturity and expect that as children grow and develop this rationale will make way for a more judicious way of thinking . Sadly, many people carry this mind-set with them well into adulthood.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,653 views

By Janet PfeifferRecently published1 topic

The Illusion of Anger

I sent out an email about my upcoming show, The Illusion of Anger, and was met with an angry response. "Anger is NOT an illusion! People die from anger!" he wrote. I am well aware of that. However, that is not the illusion I'm speaking of. According to Webster's dictionary, anger is a feeling of displeasure or discomfort brought about by feelings of helplessness or powerlessness. Powerlessness - feeling weak and vulnerable. I don't know anyone who is comfortable feeling helpless or fragile. It is natural for humans to want to feel safe.

Primary topic: Anger Management

Anger Management

1,651 views

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