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By Martha BodyfeltRecently published1 topic

Feeling Jealous After Divorce? Help is Here!

You know that feeling. Some of us know it all too well during divorce and after divorce. When one of your grown children, after spending the weekend with your ex, tells you about the "new friend" that is at your ex's house. Or when you hear about the trip your ex is taking to Europe while you’re struggling to make ends meet. Ah, jealousy. The Green Eyed Monster that consumes us, when what we should really be doing is focusing on our own divorce recovery.

Primary topic: Divorce

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By Martha BodyfeltRecently published1 topic

Tired of being around toxic people? Here's what to do.

When you’re working to get your confidence back and build boundaries after divorce, there is one “hiding in plain sight” barrier that will keep you from reaching your goals. And that’s surrounding yourself with toxic people. You know *exactly* who they are... The pushy one with unsolicited advice that makes you doubt your decisionsr The catty female with snide comments and back-handed complimentsr The one who blames you and makes herself the victim when you call her out on her shit. Sound like anyone you know?

Primary topic: Divorce

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By Martha BodyfeltRecently published1 topic

This is the key to letting go of your divorce anger.

As you recover from your divorce and move on, there is one all-too-common emotion that causes us way more headaches than you need. Anger. Being ticked off. The persistent rage that will not leave you but could jeopardize your future relationships. To start off with, there is something that you must remember. Anger is a thief. Don’t let it rob you of your chance to move on.

Primary topic: Divorce

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By Martha BodyfeltRecently published1 topic

Saying sorry is killing you.

Want to feel better? Then quit apologizing! Ever been in a situation like this before? You don’t pick up the phone in time and when you call the person back, the first words out of your mouth are “I’m sorry.” You bring store-bought cupcakes to your friend’s party and you utter “I’m sorry.” You vent to a good friend about something going on, and you say, “Sorry for rambling.” Notice the pattern going on? You’re apologizing. Waaaaaaay too much. And it’s those apologies that are screwing with your self-esteem and slowing your divorce recovery.

Primary topic: Divorce

1,010 views

By Martha BodyfeltRecently published1 topic

Jealous during COVID? Here's what to do.

You know that feeling. Some of us know it all too well during divorce and after divorce. When one of your grown children, after spending the weekend with your ex, tells you about the "new friend" that is at your ex's house. Or when you hear about the trip your ex is taking to Europe after COVID while you’re struggling to make ends meet. Ah, jealousy. The Green Eyed Monster that consumes us, when what we should really be doing is focusing on our own divorce recovery.

Primary topic: Divorce

971 views

By Martha BodyfeltRecently published1 topic

Struggling right now? How to let go of unmet expectations

So I’ve been hearing this one thing a lot from readers and clients of mine who are trying to move the hell on... “It wasn’t supposed to be like this.” “We were supposed to grow old together.” “I was supposed to retire in a few years, but now I have to go back to work because of the divorce.” “I was supposed to be on his health insurance, but now I don’t know what I’m going to do.” Supposed to... I should be.... Sound familiar? Ah, the language of expectations. Or rather, unmet expectations that now haunt us.

Primary topic: Divorce

970 views

By Martha BodyfeltRecently published1 topic

Stressing about the holidays? Here's what you need to know.

Well, Thanksgiving is done and we’ve survived Black Friday. But we’re not through the holiday abyss yet. Which means we’ll most likely be dreading the stress, craziness and visions of perfection shoved down our throats. For many of us, the holidays can feel dark, lonely, and stressful—especially if we are going through or recovering from divorce. And instead of looking forward to the beautiful decorations, smell of baking pies, and holiday songs on the radio, we instead may feel triggered by sadness.

Primary topic: Divorce

949 views

By Martha BodyfeltRecently published1 topic

Don't be afraid to piss people off.

Want to feel more confident? Then don't be afraid to piss people off. Here’s the uncomfortable truth, friends. In your journey to get confident and feel better about yourself, you cannot be afraid to step on toes. In other words... Don’t be afraid to piss people off. Strong women will end up pissing people off. And that’s okay. Now, to be clear, I’m not talking about pissing folks off in the wanton, sociopathic, “Fatal Attraction” bunny rabbit kind of way.

Primary topic: Divorce

946 views

By Martha BodyfeltRecently published1 topic

Hey, that's not what I was expecting!

So I’ve been hearing this one thing a lot from readers and clients of mine who are trying to move the hell on... “It wasn’t supposed to be like this.” “We were supposed to grow old together.” “I was supposed to retire in a few years, but now I have to go back to work because of the divorce.” “I was supposed to be on his health insurance, but now I don’t know what I’m going to do.” Supposed to... I should be.... Sound familiar? Ah, the language of expectations. Or rather, unmet expectations that now haunt us.

Primary topic: Divorce

936 views

By Martha BodyfeltRecently published1 topic

I’m finally divorced, so why is my self-esteem still so low?

I noticed something recently that I want to talk to you about. Do you ever find yourself thinking the following deep thoughts... Ugh. Why do I still feel like shit? I thought I’d be totally confident after all of this divorce stuff was over, so why is my confidence still in the dumpster? LIke, what the f*ck is wrong with me? Ain’t nothing wrong with you, sweetheart. You’re feeling like this because you may have never been given that confidence early on in your life--the confidence that would have helped you not feel like shiznat once you were newly single. Say what?

Primary topic: Divorce

930 views

By Martha BodyfeltRecently published1 topic

Want to feel more confident? Don't be afraid to piss people off.

This is the #1 thing you must do to stick up for yourself. Here’s the uncomfortable truth, friends. In your journey to get confident and feel better about yourself, you cannot be afraid to step on toes. In other words... Don’t be afraid to piss people off. Strong women will end up pissing people off. And that’s okay. Now, to be clear, I’m not talking about pissing folks off in the wanton, sociopathic, “Fatal Attraction” bunny rabbit kind of way.

Primary topic: Divorce

914 views

By Martha BodyfeltRecently published1 topic

Are you making this five huge divorce mistakes?

Although feeling overwhelmed and confused during divorce is normal, remember to avoid the egregious divorce mistakes. It will save you time, money, and your sanity so that you can move on to the next chapter of your life better, not broken or bitter. Not looking at the big picture

Primary topic: Divorce

896 views

By Martha BodyfeltRecently published1 topic

Why is healing after divorce so hard?!

Hey, gorgeous! If your divorce is finished, you might be kicking yourself. I know I was. Back in 2011, my year-long divorce was finalized, but I wasn’t jumping up and down and doing cartwheels. I felt stuck. Sure, I was going to therapy and had good friends, but I was still struggling. I was putting myself first, slowly learning how to manage my money better (definitely a shock when I no longer had my husband’s income, or our fancy lifestyle anymore), but I didn’t feel like Hollywood told me I should feel.

Primary topic: Divorce

883 views

By Martha BodyfeltRecently published1 topic

3 Steps to Beat Divorce Loneliness when you’re on Facebook

We’ve all been there. You pour a glass of wine after a long day at work, and all you want to do is some mindless scrolling on Facebook to give yourself a mental break. But the exact opposite happens. The first thing on your newsreel is a picture of flowers that your high school acquaintance Janine--the annoying cheerleader who married her school sweetheart--is bragging about. The flowers are beautiful, and she’s put the caption, “30 years strong, married to my best friend” or some corny BS like that.

Primary topic: Divorce

852 views

By Martha BodyfeltRecently published1 topic

Tired of feeling like a doormat?

It happens all the time and you’re probably not even aware of it. Or you are aware of it, but you’ve just accepted it as a way of life. Your boss just *assumes* you’re going to work late...even though you already made plans. Your ex texts you, saying how sad he is, although you asked him to quit quit contacting you. Your adult daughter hangs up on you when she gets a call from a friend.

Primary topic: Divorce

828 views

By Martha BodyfeltRecently published1 topic

Did you just dodge a bullet?

Hey, Gorgeous! So, I'm not going to tell you something that you don't already know. Rejection sucks. There’s no way around it. As we learn to move on after divorce, even the strongest of us can’t help but feel like we did something wrong when the person we loved and cared about and spend our lives with as a partner suddenly doesn’t want to be with us anymore. “Why don’t they love me anymore?” “What did I do wrong?” “What’s wrong with me?” “What could I have done differently?”

Primary topic: Divorce

811 views

By Martha BodyfeltRecently published1 topic

4 Divorce Myths you need to bust so you can get what you want.

If you’re divorced and still feel guilty or ashamed about asking for what you want, you may be struggling with common myths that are making you feel like you’re not worthy. Today, you’ll learn the top divorce myths that keep you from getting what you want. And learn the powerful steps for busting those myths. Divorce Myth #1: Asking for what you want is selfish.

Primary topic: Divorce

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