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As a life coach who has had more than 8300 over the last 16 years, I can tell you with certainty that three simple shifts in your point of view will cure your recession blues, lift your spirits and get you back on the road to a personal recession recovery plan.
As an Inspired Action life coach, I support people with the process of transmuting their anger and moving back towards being happy, positive, fulfilled, and satisfied. This is not always easy to do, but many successfully happy people have created strategies that assist them in moving out of the anger and back to happiness again. Here are three of those strategies.
Do you find yourself always saying 'yes' to other people's requests? Are you up to your eyes doing errands for others because you just cannot turn them down and say 'no'? Looking back on your life and the decisions you made in the past, Have you pursued a path – career or personal – that was different from what you wanted simply because that's what was expected of you? If you answered yes to the above then you, and several hundreds of thousands of people in this world, have a stronger than normal desire to please others over yourself.
Prosperity is often associated with money. The more money you have, the more prosperous you become. This has become a common belief that is false. Most of our lives, we have been taught by the our instinct and society to be "go-getters"; meaning, we have been taught to always grab the opportunity to make money as much as we can to have a prosperous living. But for most people who believe in this, seem to have the opposite situation of what they want, resulting to depression and regret. In order to turn your life around now, let us define first prosperity.
God helps those who help themselves. You ever heard that before? I notice with some of my clients are visioning, visualizing, writing out their goals and affirmations, but they’re not taking any action. They aren’t getting the results that they want. Now, I notice that also there’s another truth here. Some of my clients do no visioning, do no goals, do no dreaming, and I’d like to propose that the visioning, the goals, the affirmations, the dreaming- those are modern day ways of connecting to God.
Over the years, I’ve discovered three actions that can guarantee your happiness. To start off, it’s important for you to know that happiness is a skill that anybody can learn. Most people believe that happiness is some kind of circumference that is outside of yourself. To be happy, many people think that have to own a certain thing, live a certain place, make a certain amount of money, etc. They think, “if this thing happens, then I’ll be happy.” Also, a lot of people think happiness is formula. They need certain events, things, etc to all align in order to be happy.
There are five steps that I say will help you to eliminate your anxiety. After working with more than 8,000 people and coaching them on a weekly basis to live in states of happiness and peace, and succeed at the highest levels, I can tell you, I’ve dealt with a lot of people with anxiety.
As a life coach, my job is to help you remove barriers to happiness and success. One big barrier is your mind. I often ask my new clients, “Have you ever considered that your mind is not your friend?” Most are stunned by the idea of it. Your mind, which I call The Drunk Monkey, is just a biological mechanism designed to keep you alive longer. Your mind's job is to help you to avoid danger or become better.
As a life coach, my job is to help people see beyond their limitations and ultimately live in a state of happiness and peace. The problem is that most people are con artists and they don’t know it. The dictionary defines con artist as a person adept at lying or glib self-serving talk. Most people are trying to con everyone around them for self-serving reasons such as achieving more, getting ahead, having more sex, subverting responsibility, and, of course, avoiding potential breakdowns. As an Inspired Action Coach I realize that you can’t be faulted for your conning nature.
Simple : Just keep doing what you are doing. Manifesting is not think and wait. When Law of Attraction is moving successfully in your life, you are in action. You are alive. You are inspired.
So what actions can you take today to immediately take advantage of the power of gratitude? The first thing that I’d recommend is something that I recommend to all of my coaching students when they come to me. That is the 10/10 visualization process. I’ve coached 8,000 people over the years, and most of them have come to me in some sort of stuck state. That’s generally where people come to me. They’re stuck in some way, and one of the quickest ways to get unstuck is through a process of gratitude and visioning, and that’s what the 10/10 visualization is.
I’d like to invite you to release your body fascination, so that you can become a happier human being. Your body is a part of the earth. It’s doing whatever it’s doing. You can certainly manipulate it into different forms, that’s for sure. We’ve seen people become stunning bodybuilders. We’ve seen models sculpt their body and adjust it so that they can be more beautiful for the photographs or movies that they’re in. You can certainly do that.
Getting a job will not make you happy. I know many of you think that it will, but it won’t. In fact, I was reading a survey done by Deliotte Shift. It was a index survey, and they discovered that eight percent of the people who are employed today are dissatisfied with their job. Why? Because happiness is not a set of circumstances, happiness is a skill set that you take on. It’s a set of disciplines. It’s a discipline of being optimistic. That’s a discipline.
Counting your blessings each day is essential for positive growth. God/Source/Universe is happy to provide for you as long as you are happy about what you already have. If you are dissatisfied with your current situation, that energy muddles up your intentions. The more dissatisfied you are, the more you get what dissatisfies you. Remember, this is an attraction-based universe.
Have you ever driven to a sales appointment with your mind focused on how badly the market is doing? Have you driven to a sales appointment harried, exhausted and unsure of your ability to close the deal, even though you have sold your product for years?
Tonight was a powerful reminder to keep my emotions under control I allowed The Drunk Monkey to derail my emotions and i suddenly found myself stopped at every step of my trip. When I finally released my resistance, the results were magical. Heres what happened. I arrived at the airport later then I would like (45 min till take off). I was nervous about missing my flight. Not a great feeling of ease and allowing, which is my practiced state.
As a life coach, part of my job is to support my clients in having amazing relationships with everyone in their life. But often I find that a person's primary relationship with their spouse, lover, or partner is the most significant and influential. If you are not in a good place in your primary relationship, then it has a negative impact on everything you do in your life. So in the Inspired Action Coaching program I place great emphasis on being in harmony at all times with your primary partner.
My clients are generally the biggest of the big in their respective industries. Each of them has created massive success. Yet the process they used to get there often seems inapplicable to the other aspects of life like happiness or peace. The process is the same. You must create structures, systems, disciplines and processes that make your happiness automatic. Here are three tips that will start you on this process. 1. Gratitude. The Drunk Monkey (my nickname for the mind) is designed to look for what is wrong and try to fix it, kill it or avoid it.
Complaints are normal. Everyone complains. If you listen to the random thoughts in your head, which I call The Drunk Monkey, you will hear thousands of complaints a day. It’s natural. Complaints are aspects of your experience that The Drunk Monkey disagrees with. Life happens, people do things and your brain says, “That should not be that way!” The truth is, that complaining is a survival mechanism. Since complaints describe that which you believe is not good, complaints are a way of identifying potential threats and avoiding them.
As a child, whenever you were given something tangible (gifts) or intangible (compliments), you were taught to always acknowledge it by saying 'thanks' or 'thank you' because it was the right thing to do. You were being polite. But did you know that being thankful or grateful has other effects on the body as well? Research has shown that gratefulness is good for your health and mental well-being.
How do you love the work that you do? So often the work that you are doing doesn’t feel like it is necessarily your life’s purpose. And yet, you were drawn to this work. If you’re interested in finding work that is your life purpose, and you don’t feel like you are there yet, there is a way to get there. You need to actually begin to accept, appreciate, and honor the work that you do.
As a Life Coach, this is where I find people. Great lives born out of negative pasts. If your past sucked, then you benefited and your life is better today because of it. Having a negative childhood is almost always the best thing that ever happens to someone. The contrast you experience gives you new desires, new ideas, and the energy you need to create the life you want. The negative past is a catalyst for profound change. In that way, it is great!! But your unwillingness to accept it and appreciate it becomes a barrier to the next level of happiness and peace.
I answered this on Yahoo Answers and I thought you might enjoy my thoughts. “A friend recently introduced me to The Secret: Law of attraction, a concept I found extremely interesting. Upon further research, I found that it is strongly linked with the new thought movement. Both of these concepts believe that everything in our lives is attracted to us via our thoughts, so illness comes from negative thoughts.
At one point or another, you will meet a very rich and seemingly successful person. It can range from real estate brokers, salesmen, executives, business owners. They seem have the power to have all the vacations they want, stuff and investments. Good life isn't it? But as you dig deeper, you will find that most of them if not all enter a life coaching program. Now do not get me wrong here; it is not because they can afford it, It is because they seek a result: a fulfilling experience in life that their money cannot buy or they can not seem to achieve.
What is The Contribution Game? How will it manifest my desires? Who Will You Meet Today?
As a life coach, I help clients understand what their true passion in life is, and then help them set their life up so that their passion can exist within the structure of their life. Now, this is not easy, because our life is currently designed to perpetuate the commitments that we've made in the past. Oddly, that's really the hint or the key to getting our passion to fit into our life, as well. It's all about making commitments and making promises.
So many times my clients say to me, “Well, Matthew, you know, this is just a means to an end. I’m doing this business. I’m doing this project because where it’s going to get me is where I want to go.” You know what I say to that? Means to an end equals suffering. It means suffering today. And you don’t have to do that. You don’t have to get involved in a project or do an activity today because hopefully, someday, it will turn out better so that you can be happy.
One source of immeasurable misery in relationships is thinking that the past will repeat itself. Sorry… People have changed, life is different, and nothing is the same today as it was yesterday. WARNING! Listen to The Drunk Monkey in your head. Mine says “Matthew Ferry, you are insane! There are many things the same today as yesterday you noodle head!” Look again. Everything is slowly changing, eroding, degrading, evolving, emerging and transforming. Especially people.
I’m sitting in row 20 seat E. That’s the middle seat at the back of the plane. This morning, not knowing what seat my assistant had booked me for this trip I wrote in my intentions, rather spontaneously, “I am so thankful to the universe for providing me with first class seats on the way up and back to Seattle this week… or something better!” This isn’t normally something I spend too much time manifesting as I practice being in a state of Ridiculous Bliss where ever I am, regardless of the circumstances. But I know what my clients would say, “Where is your manifesting now Mr.
As an executive coach, I notice one shift in mindset can translate to amazing results. As a life coach, I see people experiencing so much joy, love, peace and happiness in all areas of their lives – business, home, relationships with others, health. Setting the Law of Attraction into motion to achieve what you want can be a powerful force along this path. And I know this, and still I myself make mistakes. sr I made some big mistakes last year and I want to share the results with you.
How do you pick a life coach? I think that the main thing you need to do is decide what exactly you want to get out of the life coach process. For example, my specialty in the process is happiness and peace, and then utilizing that to be an action. But that’s not everybody’s specialty. I have a friend’s whose specialty is post divorce. I have other people wh […]
As a life coach, my job is to support my clients in getting inspired and empowered to take action on their most cherished dreams. Fear gets in the way.
All the top sales people who are committed to having a fulfilling experience in life are in a life coaching program. Well, I say all and that is a bold statement. I’ll explain. So many of the top salespeople I have worked with don’t care about having a fulfilling experience. They care about winning. They care about awards. They care about the juice, the next sale, the win. But then what happens to their lives?
As a life coach, I help my clients get into harmony with everyone in their life as soon as possible. Once you have achieved harmony with all the people in your life, everything you do is easier and comes together faster. So here it is. To gain forgiveness with your parents is very simple and yet 99% of all people will never do what I’m about to ask you to do. 5 Step Forgiveness Process 1. Forgive your parents. To empower yourself in this situation, you must surrender your fears and resentments.
A lot of my clients come to me and they’re just like the rest of us; they have a big life. They’re up to things and they’re taking things on. When you get a lot of projects going, it’s so easy to get stressed. There are physical ways to combat stress. There’s exercise, diet, meditation, things like that. 100 percent, yes. Do all that. But I’m not going to focus on those. The most effective way to combat stress is just to realize that stress is an illegitimate response to danger that doesn’t even exist in your life.
I completed my first marathon back in 1999 and I remember calling my mom and saying to her, “Oh my gosh! I completed my first marathon! It’s such a victory! It’s so amazing!” And she’s like, “It is! It’s huge! It’s so amazing, congratulations!” And I said, “Yes, especially since my knee has been hurt ever since I was a young kid.” And she’s like, “Really? Your knee was hurt? How was your knee hurt?” And I’m like, “Mom, my knee, remember?
Because of the nature of my training and coaching programs, many of my clients come to me with a very spiritual perspective on things. The promise of a spiritual perspective is that you will feel more connected, more loved, more joyous, and feel a sense of oneness. Yet, many spiritual people DO NOT have an abundance of these experiences. In fact, most of the spiritual people I meet have pretty sucky lives. And guess what, I’ve been there too.
As an Inspired Action life coach, my job is to help my clients successfully transition from the life that they currently have to the life they want. This means confronting and conquering the fear of change. Think about it like this. Even though your goals and dreams are exciting to think and talk about, your dreams are usually much less exciting to implement. Dreams are new. New is hard. New is different. New means potential failure.
Divorce can be brutal on you emotionally. When my first wife divorced me, I was devistated for a couple years. Needless to say, back then I did not understand how to feel bliss and all I had was anger, doubt, fear, disappointment and hurt feelings. That was 14 years ago and it was the catalyst for a profound transformation in my life. I’ve sought bliss and found it. Since then, I’ve supported many of my clients through the process of divorce. In my program Creating Relationship Ecstasy (which is included in my Inspired Action Weekly Program) I mapped out the process in great detail.
In life coaching, your coach simply wants the best for you. But your mind is not designed for change. Your mind is designed to keep things the same. Your mind is designed to keep things going in a similar direction, because your mind is designed to keep you safe. The problem is that when you make safe decisions, you are not changing. You are limiting yourself to experiences that will not lift you into the life of your dreams. The fabulous experiences you can experience will occur when you step outside of this safety zone.
Executive Leadership Coaching removes all the barriers to inspiration. When the leader is inspired, the energy of that inspiration pours through and energizes the entire company. Results naturally skyrocket. Executive leadership coaching is a powerful tool for creating that energy and inspiration. It is about designing a collective future for the company that is so inspiring that the entire company – all of the employees, all of the players – can step into that future and take action in alignment with that future.
Two months ago I published 10 ways you let fear get a hold of you. I continue this exploration with 9 Conditions of Fear. As a Life Coach, my intention is to demonstrate the conditions that make fear more favorable. In phase III of the Inspired Action Coaching process my coaches and I work with people to shift the conditions of life to support happiness and success. Consider this idea, “Your environment dictates who you are!” Most people have allowed the conditions of their life to set themselves up. Rather than being deliberate, they are accidental.
As an Inspired Action life coach, my job is to assist my clients in action on their goals and dreams. This is not easy to do because most people have been trained to motivate themselves to take action. The problem is that motivation doesn't last. Motivation is like utilizing sugar in your body. It’s good for a short burst but it’s not sustainable energy.
I’ve got a group of people working with me in my Transforming Fear into Action Class. Their assignment is to think of four outrageous actions that would catapult their life forward. Many were having troubles, even after we went through their entire life, rated their level of satisfaction in each category of life and identified what would make life a 10 in that area. So, here are some ideas on outrageous things you could do this week that would terrify The Drunk Monkey and give yourself an opportunity to see your machine in action.
When I have clients who are feeling sorry for themselves, I pose the question “If Picasso were in jail, would he still create?” Some say, “No, he wouldn’t.” Others say “If Picasso was in jail, he wouldn’t be able to create the same way, and therefore his creations would not be of the same quality.” These people assume his paintings in jail would be less valuable than other paintings.
Last night I had one of those nights where my mind worried. Using my techniques I didn’t pay much attention. But I use to get gripped by the madness. Laying there not able to do anything about any conce because it’s midnight, I’m in my PJ’s and I’m trying to go to sleep for god sake!.
There are two ways you can approach life. You can approach life as if you are at the effect of things or like you are the cause of things. Both are true. The way you focus creates your reality. It’s clear that you are being the cause of your life because you are reading this blog about self improvement. The only question is, “Are aware of what you are causing?” In order to manifest a new lover, the perfect job, that next big opportunity or millions of dollars…you have to get present to your ability to magnetize what you want. You have to see it, realize it, know it and trust it.
As a life coach I focus on a process I call, “Radical Responsibility”. It’s a term I borrowed from my mentor, Dr. David Hawkins author of Power vs. Force. It is the antithesis of being a Victim. Instead of asking, “Why is this happening to me?” you ask, “How am I causing this?” In truth neither question is better or worse, they just give you a different experience of your life. When you ask, “Why is this happening to me?” you are basically saying that there is a world out there that I have to deal with and I don’t like it.
Life coaching starts with a rigorous examination of your entire life. You will identify everything that is standing in the way of living the life of your dreams. Working with your coach, you will uncover what is working and what is not working. You will spend some time getting clear about what you are happy about and also what you are unhappy about, so you can eliminate what doesn’t work and expand what does.
I answered this on Yahoo Answers and I thought you might enjoy my thoughts.