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By Sam VakninOct 15, 20121 topic

When the Narcissist and Codependent Reverse Their Roles

Sometimes, the breakup is initiated by the long-suffering spouse or intimate partner of the narcissist or psychopath. As she develops and matures, gaining in self-confidence and a modicum of self-esteem (ironically, at the narcissist’s behest in his capacity as her “guru” and “father figure”), she acquires more personal autonomy and refuses to cater to the energy-draining neediness of her narcissist: she no longer provides him with all-important secondary narcissistic supply

Primary topic: Codependency

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By Sam VakninRecently published1 topic

Do Narcissists Have Friends?

Question: Do narcissists have friends? Answer: Not in the usual sense of the word and not that they know of. The narcissist is one track minded. He is interested in securing the provision of Narcissistic Supply emanating from Narcissistic Supply Sources. His world is as narrow as an ant's, to ...

Primary topic: Psychology

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By Sam VakninFeb 10, 20131 topic

People-pleasers and Pathological Charmers

People-pleasers dread conflicts and wish to avoid them (they are conflict-averse) - hence their need to believe that they are universally liked. Always pleasant, well-mannered, and civil, the conflict-averse people-pleaser is also evasive and vague, hard to pin down, sometimes obsequious and, generally, a spineless “non-entity”. These qualities are self-defeating as they tend to antagonize people rather than please them. But conflict-aversion is only one of several psychodyn

Primary topic: Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence

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By Sam VakninRecently published1 topic

Narcissistic Mothers and Their Children

Interview granted to Samantha Cleaver for YourTango.com Q. What are some common ways that a mother's narcissism can affect her daughter's relationships? A. Depends on how narcissistic the mother is. Narcissistic parents fail to recognize and accept the personal autonomy and boundaries of their offspring. They treat them as instruments of gratification or extensions of themselves.

Primary topic: Psychology

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By Sam VakninRecently published1 topic

Do Narcissists Have Emotions?

Of course they do. All humans have emotions. It is how we choose to relate to our emotions that matters. The narcissist tends to repress them so deeply that, for all practical purposes, they play no conscious role in his life and conduct, though they play an extraordinarily large unconscious ...

Primary topic: Psychology

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By Sam VakninOct 15, 20121 topic

Narcissistic Personality Disorder in the DSM V

The DSM V re-defines personality disorders thus: at "The essential features of a personality disorder are impairments in personality (self and interpersonal) functioning and the presence of pathological personality traits." According to the June 2011 text of the DSM V, the following criteria must be met to diagnose Narcissistic Personality Disorder (in parentheses my comments): Significant impairments in personality functioning in either identity, or self-direction (should

Primary topic: Psychology

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By Sam VakninFeb 11, 20131 topic

"My Wife's Separate Vacation Spells the Beginning of the End of Our Relationship"

Separate vacations may, indeed, signify the beginning of the end of your relationship - or serve as a boost to its quality and durability. It all depends on several factors: 1. Topical vs. recreational vacations If your wife is addicted to chess and you can't stand the game, she has the right to travel to attend a tou ament in another city. If you are an expert skier and your spouse prefers more sedentary pursuits, why drag her along to your ski resort? Separate vacations t

Primary topic: Divorce

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By Sam VakninRecently published1 topic

Sadistic Personality Disorder

The Sadistic Personality Disorder made its last appearance in the DSM III-TR and was removed from the DSM IV and from its text revision, the DSM IV-TR. Some scholars, notably Theodore Millon, regard its removal as a mistake and lobby for its reinstatement in future editions of the DSM. The ...

Primary topic: Psychology

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By Sam VakninSep 19, 20111 topic

Narcissist's Reactions to Deficient, Fake, Negative, Low-grade, or Static Narcissistic Supply

The narcissist presents to the world a facade of invincibility, equanimity, superiority, skilfulness, cool-headedness, invulnerability, and, in short: indifference. This front is penetrated in times of great crises that threaten the narcissist's ability to obtai Narcissistic Supply, or when the Narcissistic Supply is spurious (fake or low-grade), negative, or static. In the majority of cases, narcissists react to deficient narcissistic supply by resorting to several adaptiv

Primary topic: Psychology

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By Sam VakninFeb 2, 20121 topic

“I Attract Abusers Like a Magnet”

Many victims of narcissists are firmly convinced that they have bee "chosen" by their abusers because of their capacity to empathize, their innate sensitivity, compassion, and their ability to love and care. Indeed, these qualities tend to attract exploitative psychopathic predators who leverage these human emotions to their advantage. "Classical" narcissists, however, are actually repelled by such displays of contemptible "mushy" frailties. They regard natural born empaths a

Primary topic: Domestic Violence and Abusive Relationships

Domestic Violence and Abusive Relationships

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By Sam VakninRecently published1 topic

Why Do We Love Sports?

The love of - nay, addiction to - competitive and solitary sports cuts across all social-economic strata and throughout all the demographics. Whether as a passive consumer (spectator), a fan, or as a participant and practitioner, everyone enjoys one form of sport or another. Wherefrom this universal propensity? Sports cater to multiple psychological and physiological deep-set needs. In this they are unique: no other activity responds as do sports to so many dimensions of one's person, both emotional, and physical.

Primary topic: Psychology

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By Sam VakninRecently published1 topic

A Typology of Codependence and the Dependent Personality Disorder

Typology of Codependents Codependence is a complex, multi-faceted, and multi-dimensional defence against the codependent's fears and needs. There are four categories of codependence, stemming from their respective aetiologies: (i) Codependence that aims to fend of anxieties related to abandonment. These codependents are clingy, smothering, prone to panic, are plagued with ideas of reference, and display self-negating submissiveness.

Primary topic: Psychology

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By Sam VakninMar 28, 20131 topic

Impulse Control and Narcissistic Fear of Failure

Many narcissistic defences, traits, and behaviours revolve around the compulsive need to sustain a grandiose self-image of perfection (“perfectionism”.) Paradoxically, deficient impulse control helps achieve this crucial goal. Impulsive actions and addictive behaviours render failure impossible as they suggest a lack of premeditation and planning. Moreover: to the narcissistic patient, these kinds of decisions and deeds feel immanent and intuitive, an emanation or his core s

Primary topic: Overcoming Fear

Overcoming Fear

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By Sam VakninOct 8, 20131 topic

How can you tell a TRUE friend from a FAKE one?

A TRUE friend supports you only when he believes that you are doing the right thing in your self-interest and welfare; A FAKE friend supports you always, no matter what you do. A TRUE friend respects you only when you have earned respect and act respectably; A FAKE friend "respects" you regardless of your behavior - or misbehaviour. A TRUE friend trusts you only as long as you prove yourself trustworthy, only while you do not put his trust to the test too often, and only

Primary topic: Friendship & Loneliness

Friendship & Loneliness

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By Sam VakninMay 21, 20151 topic

The Narcissist in Custody Battles

The Narcissist in Custody Battles Presentation made by Sam Vakninr Author of “Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited” In the 11th Annual and First Internationalr Battered Mothers Custody Conference http://batteredmotherscustodyconference.org/ HOW NARCISSIST SEES HIS CHILDREN 1. As extensions of himself ---> Possessiveness ----> Breach of BOUNDARIES ---> abuse (incl. SEXUAL) 2. Mere avatars of his inner constructs 3. Pawns in the grand chess game that is his Life 4.

Primary topic: Divorce

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By Sam VakninOct 15, 20121 topic

Countering Abandonment and Separation Anxiety

Clinging and smothering behaviours are the unsavoury consequences of a deep-set existential, almost mortal fear of abandonment and separation. For the codependent to maintain a long-term, healthy relationship, she must first confront her anxieties head on. This can be done via psychotherapy: the therapeutic alliance is a contract between patient and therapist which provides for a safe environment, where abandonment is not an option and, thus, where the client can resume perso

Primary topic: Friendship & Loneliness

Friendship & Loneliness

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By Sam VakninFeb 2, 20121 topic

“It's All My Fault for Having Provoked Him”

How often have you heard the following phrases coupled with the most horrific physical, verbal, and psychological abuse: "It's all your fault, you made me do it" or "look what you made me do!" Abusers have alloplastic defenses and an exte al locus of control. This means that they tend to blame others for their misfortunes, mistakes, and misconduct. They believe that the world is a hostile place, "out to get them", and that there is little they can do to mitigate and ameliora

Primary topic: Domestic Violence and Abusive Relationships

Domestic Violence and Abusive Relationships

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By Sam VakninJun 8, 20121 topic

Bodily Effects of Torture and Abuse

There is one place in which one's privacy, intimacy, integrity and inviolability are guaranteed – one's body, a unique temple and a familiar territory of sensa and personal history. The torturer invades, defiles and desecrates this shrine. He does so publicly, deliberately, repeatedly and, often, sadistically and sexually, with undisguised pleasure. Hence the all-pervasive, long-lasting, and, frequently, irreversible effects and outcomes of torture. In a way, the torture vic

Primary topic: Domestic Violence and Abusive Relationships

Domestic Violence and Abusive Relationships

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By Sam VakninJan 23, 20121 topic

Abuse Victim's New Year Resolutions

New year resolutions are notoriously fragile and ephemeral. But victims of abuse cannot afford this cavalier attitude: their mental - and too often physical - health depends on strictly observing the following promises to themselves: 1. I will treat myself with dignity and demand respect from others. I will not allow anyone to disrespect me. 2. I will set clear boundaries and make known to others what I regard as permissible and acceptable behavior and what is out of bounds

Primary topic: Divorce

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By Sam VakninRecently published1 topic

The Narcissist's Addiction To Fame And Celebrity

Question: Are Narcissists addicted to being famous? Answer: You bet. This, by far, is their predominant drive. Being famous encompasses a few important functions: it endows the narcissist with power, provides him with a constant Source of Narcissistic Supply (admiration, adoration, approval, ...

Primary topic: Psychology

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By Sam VakninJul 3, 20131 topic

TIPS: How to Cope with Financial Abuse

Q. Would narcissists often try to restrict their partner's independence by reducing their access to shared family finances? Why? A. Narcissists are control freaks, paranoid, jealous, possessive, and envious. They are the sad products of early childhood abandonment by parents, caregivers, role models, and/or peers. Hence their extreme abandonment anxiety and insecure attachment style. Fostering financial dependence in their nearest and dearest is just another way of making su

Primary topic: Financial Freedom

Financial Freedom

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By Sam VakninOct 15, 20121 topic

Romantic Jealousy

Pathological envy is not the same as romantic jealousy. These two emotions have little to do with each other. Romantic jealousy is the product of a violation of trust; a breach of romantic exclusivity of intimacy; and a denial of possession. It also involves damage to the self-esteem and self-perception of the cuckolded spouse, as he compares himself unfavourably to the "competition": the affair is perceived to be an overall rejection of the cheated partner. But there's muc

Primary topic: Domestic Violence and Abusive Relationships

Domestic Violence and Abusive Relationships

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By Sam VakninFeb 22, 20031 topic

Mou ing the Narcissist

At the commencement of the relationship, the Narcissist is a dream-come-true. He is often intelligent, witty, charming, good looking, an achiever, empathetic, in need of love, loving, caring, attentive and much more. He is the perfect bundled answer to the nagging questions of life: finding meaning, companionship, compatibility and happiness. He is, in other words, ideal. It is difficult to let go of this idealized figure. Relationships with narcissists inevitably and invari

Primary topic: Abuse and Recovery

Abuse and Recovery

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By Sam VakninRecently published1 topic

Gender Bias in Diagnosing Personality Disorders

Ever since Freud, more women than men sought therapy. Consequently, terms like "hysteria' are intimately connected to female physiology and alleged female psychology. The DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, the bible of the psychiatric profession) expressly professes gender bias: personality ...

Primary topic: Psychology

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By Sam VakninJul 2, 20131 topic

Bad Mother, Good Mother, Good Son/Daughter: Offspring of Narcissistic Parents

Children of narcissistic parents grow up to become either sensitized or desensitized to narcissistic behaviours, traits, and personalities. In adulthood, sensitized offspring are able to rapidly disce the presence of narcissists by reading their body language and by resonating with subtle cues emitted by the narcissist even when he is on his best behavior and when he puts on a show and embarks on his charm offensives. They experience repulsion, resentment, and rage and react

Primary topic: Abuse and Recovery

Abuse and Recovery

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By Sam VakninFeb 2, 20121 topic

"I Fear the Holidays: It is the Worst Time of the Year!"

The holidays season should be a time of family get-togethers, love shared, and relatives and friends brought up to date. Holidays are supposed to be the reification of that contradiction in terms: mass or group intimacy. Instead, for victims of family violence and abuse, the holidays are recurring nightmares, replete with danger and duplicity, a theater of the absurd with menacing overtones. This is especially true when the offender also has Narcissistic or Antisocial Person

Primary topic: Abuse and Recovery

Abuse and Recovery

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By Sam VakninRecently published1 topic

Why Do We Love Pets?

The presence of pets activates in us two primitive psychological defense mechanisms: projection and narcissism. Projection is a defense mechanism intended to cope with internal or exte al stressors and emotional conflict by attributing to another person or object (such as a pet) - usually falsely - thoughts, feelings, wishes, impulses, needs, and hopes deemed forbidden or unacceptable by the projecting party. In the case of pets, projection works through anthropomorphism: we attribute to animals our traits, behavior patterns, needs, wishes, emotions, and cognitive processes.

Primary topic: Psychology

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By Sam VakninNov 17, 20131 topic

Psychology of The Lifestyle (Swinging)

The Lifestyle involves sexual acts performed by more than two participants whether in the same space, or separately. It is also known as “swinging”, “wife-, or spouse-swapping”, “wife-, or spouse-sharing”, “group sex” and, where multiple people interact with a single person, “gangbanging”. Swinging can be soft (engaging in sexual activity with one’s own intimate partner, but in the presence of others), or hard (having sex not with one’s spouse or mate.) Threesomes (mostly mal

Primary topic: Sexuality

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By Sam VakninMay 28, 20101 topic

The Body as a Torture Chamber

There is one place in which one's privacy, intimacy, integrity and inviolability are guaranteed: one's body, a unique temple and a familiar territory of sensa and personal history. The process of chronic disease invades, defiles and desecrates this shrine. It does so publicly, enhancing the sufferer’s sense of helplessness and utter humiliation. Hence the all-pervasive, long-lasting, and, frequently, irreversible effects and outcomes of long-term, intractable illness. In a w

Primary topic: Pain Management

Pain Management

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By Sam VakninAug 1, 20111 topic

Narcissists and Hotel Maids: The Strauss-Kahn Affair and Beyond

Dominique Staruss-Kahn, the scandal-ridden former head of the International Monetary Fund (IMF) is entitled to the presumption of innocence until proven guilty. But, if he did try to rape the hotel maid in New-York in May 2011, his behavior would conform to the type of misconduct common among malignant narcissists. Narcissists in positions of authority and celebrity narcissists exhibit a confluence of three pernicious phenomena: pathological charm (i.e., the illusion of bein

Primary topic: Psychology

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By Sam VakninOct 15, 20121 topic

"I am Terrified that S/he will Abandon Me! I will Do Anything to Avoid It!"

Clinging and smothering behaviours are the unsavoury consequences of a deep-set existential, almost mortal fear of abandonment and separation. For the codependent to maintain a long-term, healthy relationship, she must first confront her anxieties head on. This can be done via psychotherapy: the therapeutic alliance is a contract between patient and therapist which provides for a safe environment, where abandonment is not an option and, thus, where the client can resume perso

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Sam VakninMay 20, 20101 topic

Cyber-celebrity vs. "Real" World Fame

I know at least ten people whose personal Websites attract as many unique visitors a year as the number of copies sold of Dan Brown’s books. Yet, Dan Brown is a global celebrity and they remain largely anonymous. Why is that? Fame is defined as the number of people who have heard about you. If the same number of people learns of your existence online as has heard of Dan Brown, why is it that he is in all the prime time TV talk shows and you are not? What is the difference bet

Primary topic: Success Principles

Success Principles

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By Sam VakninOct 24, 20031 topic

Coping With Your Abuser

How to cope with your abuser? Sometimes it looks hopeless. Abusers are ruthless, immoral, sadistic, calculated, cunning, persuasive, deceitful - in short, they appear to be invincible. They easily sway the system in their favor. Here is a list of escalating countermeasures. They represent the distilled experience of thousands of victims of abuse. They may help you cope with abuse and overcome it. Not included are legal or medical steps. Consult an atto ey, an accountant, a

Primary topic: Abuse and Recovery

Abuse and Recovery

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By Sam VakninApr 9, 20071 topic

Millon Clinical Multiaxial Inventory (MCMI-III)

The third edition of this popular test, the Millon Clinical Multiaxial Inventory (MCMI-III), has been published in 1996. With 175 items, it is much shorter and simpler to administer and to interpret than the MMPI-II. The MCMI-III diagnoses personality disorders and Axis I disorders but not other mental health problems. The inventory is based on Millon's suggested multiaxial model in which long-term characteristics and traits interact with clinical symptoms. The questions in

Primary topic: Psychology

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By Sam VakninRecently published1 topic

Narcissistic Injury, Narcissistic Wound, and Narcissistic Scar

Narcissistic Injury An occasional or circumstantial threat (real or imagined) to the narcissist's grandiose and fantastic self-perception (False Self) as perfect, omnipotent, omniscient, and entitled to special treatment and recognition, regardless of his actual accomplishments (or lack ...

Primary topic: Psychology

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By Sam VakninAug 7, 20131 topic

Sexual Fantasies of Narcissists and Psychopaths

Inevitably, the sexual fantasy life of narcissists and psychopaths reflects their psychodynamic landscape: their fear of intimacy, misogyny, control freakiness, auto-eroticism, latent sadism and masochism, problems of gender identity, and various sexual paraphilias. Fantasies which reflect a fear of intimacy involve the aggressive or violent objectification of a faceless, nameless, and sometimes sexless person, often in impersonal, alien or foreign settings (example: narrati

Primary topic: Psychology

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By Sam VakninFeb 22, 20031 topic

The Psychology of Torture

There is one place in which one's privacy, intimacy, integrity and inviolability are guaranteed - one's body, a unique temple and a familiar territory of sensa and personal history. The torturer invades, defiles and desecrates this shrine. He does so publicly, deliberately, repeatedly and, often, sadistically and sexually, with undisguised pleasure. Hence the all-pervasive, long-lasting, and, frequently, irreversible effects and outcomes of torture. In a way, the torture vic

Primary topic: Abuse and Recovery

Abuse and Recovery

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By Sam VakninFeb 22, 20031 topic

The Malignant Optimism of the Abused

I often come across sad examples of the powers of self-delusion that the narcissist provokes in his victims. It is what I call "malignant optimism". People refuse to believe that some questions are unsolvable, some diseases incurable, some disasters inevitable. They see a sign of hope in every fluctuation. They read meaning and patterns into every random occurrence, utterance, or slip. They are deceived by their own pressing need to believe in the ultimate victory of good ove

Primary topic: Abuse and Recovery

Abuse and Recovery

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By Sam VakninRecently published1 topic

The Somatic and the Cerebral Narcissist

Question: Are narcissists mostly hyperactive or hypoactive sexually and to what extent are they likely to be unfaithful in marriage? Answer: Broadly speaking, there are two types of narcissists, loosely corresponding to the two categories mentioned in the question. Sex for the narcissist is ...

Primary topic: Psychology

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By Sam VakninFeb 22, 20031 topic

Sex or Gender

Alan Pease, author of a book titled "Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps", believes that women are spatially-challenged compared to men. The British firm, Admiral Insurance, conducted a study of half a million claims. They found that "women were almost twice as likely as men to have a collision in a car park, 23 percent more likely to hit a stationary car, and 15 percent more likely to reverse into another vehicle" (Reuters). Yet gender "differences" are often the

Primary topic: Sexuality

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By Sam VakninJun 8, 20121 topic

Narcissistic Supply and Sex

The psychosexuality of all types of narcissists – cerebral and somatic alike – involves the objectification and interchangeability of intimate partners. Narcissists are polyamorous and autoerotic. Quite a few of them have comorbid sexual paraphilias (are deviant.) The cerebral narcissist aims to stabilize the flow of narcissistic supply by suppressing his sexual predilections and orientation and thus by rendering himself asexual. The somatic narcissist aims to secure an uni

Primary topic: Sexuality

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By Sam VakninJan 30, 20121 topic

"I Can Achieve and Do Anything If I Only Put My Mind to It"

From an early age we are taught (at least in the USA) that there is no limit to what we can achieve; that if we wish to accomplish something all we need to do is set ourselves goals and then apply ourselves to their attainment. With time and dedication, we are told, positive outcomes are guaranteed and ineluctable no matter how high we set the bar. There are no unrealistic aspirations - only insufficient perspiration and lacking inspiration! This is a narcissistic and delusi

Primary topic: Achievement

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By Sam VakninFeb 22, 20031 topic

Facilitating Narcissism

"The new narcissist is haunted not by guilt but by anxiety. He seeks not to inflict his own certainties on others but to find a meaning in life. Liberated from the superstitions of the past, he doubts even the reality of his own existence. Superficially relaxed and tolerant, he finds little use for dogmas of racial and ethnic purity but at the same time forfeits the security of group loyalties and regards everyone as a rival for the favours conferred by a pate alistic state.

Primary topic: Abuse and Recovery

Abuse and Recovery

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By Sam VakninFeb 22, 20031 topic

What is Abuse?

Abusers exploit, lie, insult, demean, ignore (the "silent treatment"), manipulate, and control. There are a million ways to abuse. To love too much is to abuse. It is tantamount to treating someone as an extension, an object, or an instrument of gratification. To be over-protective, not to respect privacy, to be brutally honest, with a sadistic sense of humor, or consistently tactless - is to abuse. To expect too much, to denigrate, to ignore - are all modes of abuse. There

Primary topic: Abuse and Recovery

Abuse and Recovery

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By Sam VakninFeb 22, 20031 topic

Traumas as Social Interactions

("He" in this text - to mea "He" or "She"). We react to serious mishaps, life altering setbacks, disasters, abuse, and death by going through the phases of grieving. Traumas are the complex outcomes of psychodynamic and biochemical processes. But the particulars of traumas depend heavily on the interaction between the victim and his social milieu. It would seem that while the victim progresses from denial to helplessness, rage, depression and thence to acceptance of the tra

Primary topic: Abuse and Recovery

Abuse and Recovery

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By Sam VakninRecently published1 topic

The Narcissistic Stalker

"Such a one (the narcissist – SV) is encased, is he not, in an armour – such an armour! The armour of the crusaders was nothing to it – an armour of arrogance, of pride, of complete self-esteem. This armour, it is in some ways a protection, the arrows, the everyday arrows of life glance off it. ...

Primary topic: Psychology

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By Sam VakninMay 5, 20151 topic

Narcissist and His Body in Health, Illness, and Disability

When narcissists fall victim to chronic or acute diseases, or survive a traffic accident, they react in either of four typical ways, depending on the type of narcissist: 1. The schizotypal reaction: the belief that the narcissist's predicament is a part of a larger, cosmic plan, or of a blueprint that governs the narcissist's life and inexorably leads him to greatness and to the fulfillment of a mission. 2. Narcissistic rage intended to allay feelings of helplessness, loss

Primary topic: Body Building

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By Sam VakninMar 14, 20111 topic

The Aging Narcissist

Interview granted to Harmony (India) The first thing that occurs to me when thinking of aging is a gradual change in one’s physical structure that is apparent to others, and to oneself of course. Now what precisely do we mean by aging, or getting old or older, in terms of the mind or psyche? "Old" is commonly thought of as an adjective which bundles together objective physical and mental changes (for the worse); growing dysfunctions in a variety of areas of life; and cultur

Primary topic: Psychology

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By Sam VakninFeb 10, 20131 topic

Once and Future Monogamy

The ancient institution of monogamous marriage is ill-suited to the exigencies of modern Western civilization. People of both genders live and work longer (which renders monogamy impracticable); travel far and away frequently; and are exposed to tempting romantic alte atives via social networking and in various workplace and social settings. Thus, even as social monogamy and pair commitment and bonding are still largely intact and more condoned than ever and infidelity is fe

Primary topic: Marriage Coaching

Marriage Coaching

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By Sam VakninRecently published1 topic

The Stable and Unstable Narcissist

Question: Is the narcissist characterised by simultaneous instabilities in all the important aspects of his life? Answer: The narcissist is a person who derives his Ego (and Ego functions) from other people's reactions to an image he invents and projects, called the False Self (Narcissistic ...

Primary topic: Psychology

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