Emotional Intelligence Articles

The word intelligence comes from a Latin derivation meaning “entering through the lines.” People are always using their intelligence to enter or read into the lines of what you are saying or not saying. They fill in the white spaces between your words almost automatically, because it gives them a sense of understandin…

How the Shiny Light Destroys Relationship and Our Leadership Credibility What percent of time do you think you operate on automatic from your habits? Research tells us that it is 95% of the time. What are you missing out on when you are doing things on autopilot every day? Often what this failed focus leads to ignorin…

40% of organizations say they don’t have enough qualified leaders. Plus, the recent recession has lost thousands of jobs including leadership positions. Add to that the retiring of Baby Boomers and you can see the opportunity awaiting for people like you. Finally the economy is growing again offering people the opport…

Michael received his 360 degree assessment feedback and looked at the summary page. What quickly jumped out to him on almost every competency was that his own self-scoring for his leadership were higher than his team's scores for him. He embarrassingly laughed and said, “I guess they don’t see all the good things I am…

I was coaching James a new leader who had three direct reports. After about 6 months he was given another team of four to supervise. I talked to James about meeting with them individually and getting to know them, their work challenges and strengths. Then encouraged him to have a team meeting to go over his expectatio…

The Manager Misstep is explained and the VIVID Tool is highlighted. Are you guilty of the Manager Misstep? • When your direct reports or team come to you do you step in too soon without fully hearing what they want? • Do you step in the wrong direction, suggesting something they already tried? • Do you step on their i…

How to get your energy, focus and performance back when tapped out? This is the second in a series of exploring the main diversions and distractions that keep us from being our best leaders. • How are we captured and detained from being our best leaders, truly developing others and having them grow their focus and lea…

We are all on automatic and consequently overwhelmed. How can we tune back in? Daniel Goleman states in his newest book Focus, “our attention and focus are under siege.” We are kidnapped and diverted from being our best in the moment. How are we captured and detained from being our best leaders, truly developing other…

Five Emotional Intelligence Strategies with Others: Mastering the Moment In the last blog I started with strategies to raise your emotional intelligence for yourself. In this next in the series we will look at strategies to raise your emotional intelligence with others. Mastering the Moment Your success or underperfor…

Five Strategies to Raise Emotional Intelligence: Mastering the Moment, Part One Self-Development In the last blog I wrote about why you need Emotional Intelligence. In this multi part series we will look at the main strategies and actions to raise your Emotional Intelligence and propel you to be a top performer. These…

What are the top reasons you need to develop and enhance your Emotional Intelligence (EI)? After working with thousands of executives and leaders and focusing on helping them raise their Emotional Intelligence for the last 20 years, both individually and in their organizations, I wanted to summarize some of the key be…

Teamwork is very popular and a necessity in organizations, but it is an unnatural act that takes a strategy, discipline and practice. Most organizations talk about teamwork and put a group of workers together and say “you are a team now.\" Duly formed the team is marched out onto the field to succeed or fail. We know…

It's true. I hear voices in my head. I don't talk about it much. But maybe it's a good time to start. You see, I'm a complex person. A lot goes on inside my head that no one else ever realizes. The main voice I hear comes from my ego. My ego takes information from the world - from my ...

If you want to learn how to stop obsessive thoughts, the first step involves understanding exactly what's happening to you right now. It's like you're spinning on a hamster wheel. Like a treadmill that just runs in circles without ever getting anywhere. Why? Because you lack TRACTION. You ...

Top 3 Reasons Why Applicants Fail Their Background Check and what you can do to prevent it from happening to you. Finding a job in this economy can be a daunting and difficult task. In a competitive job market employers become more stringent and will disqualify applicants that provide incorrect or incomplete information about themselves over the past 10 years. When employers find discrepancies between the information you provided and what they find out in your background chec

I had a good crying spell yesterday. Actually, I felt pretty okay about it. Because it showed me where my boundaries of pain were, and it showed me I was going into those boundaries. As a way to expand myself. In other words, the crying spell was a signal, or a manifestation, of the process ...

People-pleasers dread conflicts and wish to avoid them (they are conflict-averse) - hence their need to believe that they are universally liked. Always pleasant, well-mannered, and civil, the conflict-averse people-pleaser is also evasive and vague, hard to pin down, sometimes obsequious and, generally, a spineless “non-entity”. These qualities are self-defeating as they tend to antagonize people rather than please them. But conflict-aversion is only one of several psychodyn

They're found in every work place. Regardless of how fortunate you are to be working with a great group of supportive caring coworkers, there always seems to be at least one that makes your work life less than ideal. They always seem to be looking for opportunities to impress the boss and spend an inordinate amount of time speaking just to hear themselves. While they can be mean and condescending to people under them they are sweet angels, the ideal team players, whenever their direct report or other superiors are around.

Discipline Tough love is the best way to handle disruptive and/or destructive behaviour and following through is the key to instilling the message. Know the difference between natural and logical consequence and teach your child in it. - A natural consequence is when a child is playing with matches and accidentally burns their finger.

I speak to people everyday about the importance of emotions and feelings in our daily life. Most of them are completely numbed and all they can do is nod their head while reading my words or simply sigh when I’m finished speaking. They’re knee deep in symptoms of mental illness; depression or an anxiety disorder, or both. They have poor eating habits, never relax and never exercise. Most of them hate their jobs, are struggling to make ends meet and have a distant marriage rel

It seems almost a cliche'. "Avoid negative people. Eliminate them from your life! They'll only bring you down. One bad apple..." On the surface, it seems like good advice. We all want to feel good. Happy. Successful. How can you feel good if you're around someone who's miserable? ...

For most of us, the subconscious mind is a curious and untameable beast. It lurks in the shadows, awaiting an opportunity to seize control of our willpower and force us to abandon our goals for the temptation of the moment. Dozens of techniques and disciplines such as positive affirmations, self-hypnosis, neuro-linguistic programming and creative visualization have been created for the sake of gaining control over the passions of the subconscious mind. Yet even these strategi

The whole point of a color personality test is to measure your personality. By doing something as straightforward as picking your favorite colors, it is possible to actually determine not only your present state of emotions, but so much more. For instance, a color personality test is said to be able to detect even the future behaviors that you will exhibit. All it takes is picking your favorite color. If you think that a color personality test is all hype or just scientifical

Who is the person in your life who treats you the best? Who watches out for you, notices when you are hungry, tired, lonely, angry and then takes care of you? Who knows what you are thinking, so you don’t even have to say a word? Who knows all your favorite things, how you like best to be comforted? Who is the person whose respect you seek, whose appreciation you earn, whose love goes the deepest? Did you say, “I am!” I hope so. Our relationship with ourselves is our pr

It is said that Health Care Providers are prone to Compassion Fatigue at one point or another. The best of us are more likely to burn-out when extending our willingness to provide healing support beyond our capacity or in so trying circumstances that we fail to refuel rapidly enough to face the demand. As you know, a breach to our inner core may be caused by exposure to some element we are more sensitive to, leaving us vulnerable.

Five Critical Exercises to Help You Figure Out What You Really Want in Life "Life is not a matter of chance...it is a matter of choice. "rn— Ka

Psst! Abuse. Shhh! Voicing openly on the subject of abuse is still largely considered taboo and best kept as ‘civilized’ society's dirty little ‘bully secret’. When you think about it, it’s quite inconceivable that in every society bullying as domestic abuse is more acceptable than unacceptable. In fact, there are millions of people who never admit to being ‘abused’; they either accept it as part of their upbringing or it’s so deeply hidden inside that they find it too painful to face so “it’s best not to go there”. Wrong!

We know what organizations think motivates people. But the research says money isn’t an effective motivator. By the 1960s researchers were showing that paying employees a miserly wage or salary is an effective way to destroy their motivation, but once you are paying them enough, any additional dollars won’t add much to their drive to succeed. But the news for leaders and trainers is good. Research reveals motivators that cost nothing, are simple to use and provide us with a valuable checklist to make our training more effective.

Teaching Skills No matter the age, consistency is the key to teaching good habits and hygiene with the parent being the most influential example. You will find that children will mimic their parents in practically everything and will reflect a lot more back when they become a young adult. Children learn faster when the parent is interacting on their level, such as getting down on the floor and putting their toys away along side them. Walk them through things at a pace that they can follow as they have very short attention spans even without ADHD.

Life can be a slow and inarticulate teacher. Yet a few simple, proven ideas can give us all far more control over our lives. Researchers who observe people who succeed in business, study, sport and relationships are revealing some valuable information about the way top achievers think. For me, the biggest surprise is, not so much what they think, but how much difference it makes to the whole of their lives. SECRET 1: CHOICEr

A stagnant stigma Let us take good look at the stagnant stigma surrounding abuse and see abuse for what it really is: an oppressed, suppressed, repressed mighty universal power that has been stolen – mostly feminine. Now look closer. It takes extraordinary resilience and endurance to contain such compressed energy in the cells of our bodies, as well as our psyche. And, since it is an inherent and infinitely expanding energy, it was never meant to be suppressed.

A school’s complete body of students will be impacted upon when the sudden death of a student’s parent becomes known.

rnby Sheila Pearl, M.S.W. rnHave you ever fantasized about living a life without any problems? A life that is neat and tidy, with no mess? If your life is anything like mine, you might have started your day by putting out fires, cleaning up some kind of mess, solving some kind of problem. Just when you thought you had everything all figured out, just when everything was beginning to run smoothly...bang! Something happened that created a disruption in your plans; something occ

Our emotions got us into the recession. They can keep us there, or get us out of it. Resilience is the essential ingredient for thriving when budgets are cut, sales are down, when our jobs are threatened or gone, or when we are simply overwhelmed by it all. People who lack resilience can go into a downward spiral of lost confidence, worry, poor motivation, negative thinking and depression.

The other day I was driving down a four lane road at about 3:00 in the afte oon. There was light traffic and I was in the right lane. All of a sudden this car cuts right in front of my as he swerves into my lane and THEN he hits his brakes. My first impulse was to get both of my hands ...

The notion to lose weight can come from something as simple as an innocent remark, such as, "Haven't you put on a couple of pounds?" Depending on your personality, there's a whole new life issue that you hadn't explored yet, and for some sensitive personalities, it's a dangerous place to go.

Fiona was Corrie’s manager at a branch of a large financial institution that had branches across the U.S. Europe and Asia. They had recently come up with a new process that Fiona was hoping that the organization would adopt throughout their operations. As Corrie was instrumental in developing ...

At the end of the unit meeting Jeremy once again felt very frustrated. Janice and Alan had once again taken up the majority of the time, talking about things which he felt were trivial and inconsequential. It seemed to him that every little thing that they did they had to embellish it so that it would look like it was some huge accomplishment. Jeremy, on the other hand, did have some success which merited attention. Over the last couple of months he had thought up and launched a couple of major initiatives which were quite successful.

“A true history of human events would show that a far larger proportion of our acts are the result of sudden impulse and accident than of reason of which we so often boast”. Albert Cooper Have you ever spoken out in anger and regretted the words almost as soon as they came out? Ever acted without thinking out the consequences of your actions? If you are you are certainly not alone. Many high profile people have had their careers ruined because of one brief moment when their mouths went into action before their thoughts could stop them.

Partnership Driving Partnership Driving, is a method of driving in which the passenger is designated by the driver as a partner in driving. The two set up an informal contract between them that expresses the terms they mutually agreed on. The contract is for one trip only, and needs to be renewed each time. Here is an example of a typical Partnership Driving Agreement or PDA: 1. I, the driver, designate you the passenger, as my driving partner for this trip. 2. As my driving

Dealing with difficult people is never easy. You can't do this successfully unless you have and approach that enables you, to control what you can and eliminate that you cannot. You are in control of so much more than you realize when it comes to dealing with difficult people, and your emotional intelligence is the key to getting past the problems they create. Step 1: Rise Above Difficult people are so tough to deal with because their behavior is so irrational. Without ques

An organization is about the products it creates or the services it provides, but an organization is also about people: customers, consumers and employees. Without these an organization simply doesn’t exist. As an employee in an organization, building positive relationships with people is as important a skill as knowing how to forecast market trends, draft a proposal or weld widgets. Social Awareness is an emotional intelligence competency that illuminates ideal social behav

Its stating the obvious but our bodies respond physically to how we think and feel. This is the 3rd article in a series of 4 describing how emotions impact health and how we can use this fact to improve our wellbeing. The previous article is here . Emotional Intelligence is the ability to recognise, assess and ultimately control emotions. Author and brain and behavioural science journalist Daniel Goleman describes Emotional Intelligence as “the capacity to recognise our own

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For more than a decade, people from all organizational levels and from a broad spectrum of industries and businesses have participated in programs to help them enhance their Emotional Intelligence (EI) skills. While the participants' various roles have presented them with quite different pressures and challenges, the one factor all these people have in common is the emotions they experience. When people develop EI skills, they are able to become internally self-managed and capable of making their greatest contributions.

As human beings, we are blessed with some amazing super powers. These are the abilities we have that can, when used properly, transform our lives from places of misery and suffering into lives filled with joy and blessings. Wanna guess what they are? Love, gratitude, decision, and commitment are high on the list. Choice is always my number one. Here’s the thing about our super powers. They are always there, they have been there from the very beginning. We don’t pay much a

We are exhorted by personal development professionals, including me, to have a positive outlook, to remain optimistic, and to eradicate negative thinking. But let’s face it, these are tough economic times and there can be days when we struggle a bit, when we feel out of sorts, under pressure, or when we are just having a low energy day.

Biological Factors - ADHD – If you have a high-energy problem child, have him/her tested for ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder). If they have it, learn as much as you can about it and change the child's diet to exclude triggers like foods high in refined sugars (sucrose, dextrose), foods containing dyes (kool-aid), and heavily-processed foods. Try to avoid drugs like Ritalin as it may make things weird and children won't remember to take it on their own at school.

Teach your child in the art of life and at the same time learn about who he/she is. Parenting begins the moment a child is born. Whether you are a little or a lot involved in raising the child, the guidelines are the same with consistency being the key to making it a part of the child's character. How active your are in your child's life reveals what kind of parent you are. Even a deadbeat parent is being a parent, just not a good one, and there is that part in a child that knows it as neglect. Being a parent is a state of mind.

Deadbeat Parents This is someone who never grew up themselves and usually clings to their own parents too much or disassociates altogether. They are in fact mostly men, but women do it, too. On the other hand you can find a deadbeat parent right in the next room, leaving all of the child rearing up to the other parent or the television.

For most of us our goal in life is to be comfortable. For instance, we want just enough money to be able to live a “comfortable life”.rn rnWe don’t necessarily seek the passion of fulfilling great visions, or the other extreme of apathy and despair. For many of us our lives are focused on securing an as comfortable and pain-free existence as possible. However, painful situations do inevitably come in life, and whilst they are painful, they can bring a gift. The gift is

Let's get controversial. Formal business letters are not more professional; they're just stuffy. They're not better service; they're aloof and cold and say, 'This is our routine letter; we couldn't be bothered writing one especially for you'. Any manager who insists on formal language for business letters and reports is wrong. There, it's time someone said it.

We all listen, but there is a big difference between receiving information, and actually understanding what is being said. For many of us our main focus whilst listening is to pick up clues to respond to. This is not necessarily wrong, but the difference is our intention in listening. Are we listening to hear and understand what the other person is saying, or are we listening only in order to refine our point of view. As an example, we might have conflicting points of view th

A little blitz to cleanse the body and get back on track always is welcome when that winter padding or muffin belly appears. Keep it simple. It’s a <back to the basics> moments. Here’s my routine, my little tune-up. Whether you stick to it a week or a month, it usually energizes you. It’s like taking the time to pamper yourself and your body loves it! 1. Eat 5 shares of veggies, 3 fruits and two 4 onces of meat, fish or protein per day. Add 2 slices of whole wheat bread with light margarine or a tiny bit of butter.

I cried this morning and asked myself if there was another way to deal with my bittersweet emotions. Keep reading to the end and let the wisdom of our cat mommy, Kiki, show you the best way to deal with your emotions when saying goodbye to your best friend. Today, our baby kitten Ami (which means ‘friend’ in French) left the nest. The last eight weeks we were blessed to be part of a cat world that showed us the ease and grace of animals while growing up. It was refreshing

rnMy soul sometimes feels it needs to take a leap off of a cliff. I find myself watching reruns, just to bide my time until something better comes along. There are a million other things I could be doing at this time, yet I choose to spend my time watching "mindless" tv. I don't necessarily think tv is mindless, but if I have already seen the episode, I do not think I receive much stimulation from it. I feel like I need an escape...an escape from endless work, routine days, a

The older we get – the more we forget – or so it seems. When I began my personal growth journey for recovery I began remembering the most traumatic events that transpired when I was a child. After researching information conce ing memories, I realized that some of the things I was remembering that happened in my childhood might not be accurate. Why - you ask? I am an adult now remember a child’s perception of what happened. When I was a child and experienced a sniper crawlin

By Frosty Wooldridge While growing up, you faced many challenges. You tackled schoolbooks that demanded your attention to gain knowledge. Your teachers busted your butt with homework assignments. Your parents piled on chores such as mowing the lawn, washing the car, taking out the trash, cleaning dishes and worst of all, picking up your room. You quickly learned that life on this planet demanded you take care of things. You discovered “responsibilities.” You also discovered

If you are considering volunteering and are wondering if you can really make a difference. The simple answer is “Yes!” A single person that volunteers at the Society of St. Vincent de Paul joins forces with over 16,000 other people who volunteer their time and talents to help the homeless and working poor in Arizona. One person volunteering can and does make a difference. Why volunteering is important? Each year, St. Vincent de Paul moves over 10 million pounds of food th

Authentic : 1. Of undisputed origin; genuine. 2. Conforming to fact and therefore worthy of trust, reliance, or belief We hear this term so often in this world of ours as we become increasingly aware of the need to know ourselves and achieve life balance. How can you tell if some-one really is authentic or the real-deal?r

Most people experience life as a roller-coaster of different emotional states, accepting without question that emotions are something that just happen in response to life events. In any given day, you may experience a range of states, some positive and some that are negative or distressing. The emotional state we are in is so important as it affects how we behave and the results we get. If you are feeling positive and happy, of course the whole world seems better and more int

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A total blunder may set you back. However, should you encompass a radical failure rather than a mere scrape, it would benefit you to analyze and reflect on the every step taken to reach your goal. It may well be that you hadn’t taken the time to envision all possibilities before selecting the best paths towards goal achievement. Ask yourself the following questions.

There’s nothing more frustrating and disheartening than feeling that your boss is undermining your efforts to do your best at work. Maybe it seems intentional, maybe it seems just who s/he is. Whatever the origin, the toll on your morale and performance is heartbreakingly wasteful. What to do? You’ve almost certainly tried everything you could think of. Maybe you’ve managed to largely insulate yourself from contact with him or her, so your anger and frustration erupt less o

1. Change the cause of emotion. Fix the thoughts, fix the emotions. Circumstances do not cause emotions – rather, your thoughts and attitudes about those circumstances do. the only exception is when emotion is driven by a physical chemical imbalance in the brain, which can be identified and treated effectively with medication. nn2. Realize that thought is not the same as logic. Logic is a system for reasoning, and reasoning is what you do with your thoughts. You may be bril

As a leader, you will be called upon to solve a variety of problems. People will seek out your expertise to enhance performance and productivity. Your people skills will be sought out to facilitate, even mediate at times. Your wisdom will build your reputation and increase your responsibility to others. It is therefore in your best interest to constantly improve your skills and be up to date on methods and systems to enhance performance, productivity and skills. Your professional growth will also be closely linked to your self-growth.

The question is not can one sustain leadership, but rather can someone be a leader and maintain a low negative resonance in the workplace and expect compliance and growth in a business where they are in a position of authority? What do you think? Over the next few paragraphs we will explore this ...

Let me begin with a short story… Brian and Martha were classmates in their high school. While Brian was voted the most popular student for his friendliness and charm, Martha was not so popular but she was an intellectually brilliant student with high hopes for her future. She found it difficult to mingle with most of the students as they were not as smart as she was. Years later, Martha is a lawyer; however she still has the same problem of forming relationships. On the oth

It may seem like we never learn absolutely everything about our bodies and how to best take care of them, but there are some good guidelines as well as other people's experiences that can help immensely. Health A healthy body starts with healthy thoughts. We can see how our own body responds to the life style we give it. For example, too much stress can cause weight gain because of the release of the hormone, cortisol. Stress can also cause weight loss because of a nervous stomach.

A situational judgement test is a type of psychometric test designed to unpick how candidates react in different situations commonly seen in the workplace. As a result, they’re a popular tool for employers looking to hire decisive, efficient, logical thinkers. The test normally involves a set of hypothetical scenarios, followed by a selection of potential responses. The scenarios will be chosen carefully to reflect the kind of challenges you’ll come up against at a specif

In the last couple of years I have written a lot of articles and a special report to tell people how they can improve their small talk and conversations skills. Quite often, I get compliments from people who tell me that my articles on making conversation have helped them a lot. However, I also get a lot of complaints from people about my articles on making conversation. The main complaints I get about my conversation articles goes something like this: “ I read this article

In times like these, when people in workplaces everywhere are feeling such strain from a lack of resources, and intense stress caused by such uncertainty, it helps to stop and consider. These times can accomplish growth in each of us and although it is burdensome, it can be viewed in a positive light.n nGrowth mentally and emotionally comes from our ability to control and balance our perceptions and thoughts about the world around us. We need to employ specific strategies to

Are you feeling real emotion? Or is it just a fabrication? Here's how to find out... Just because you're feeling something, that doesn't automatically mean it's a 'real' emotion. Because so much of what we feel is a 'mental construct' of our own making. In other words, it's a fabrication; ...

What kind of love are you talking about? There are many forms of love that English has only has one word for which is 'love' and it gets bantered about indiscriminately. Greek has five, which are more descriptive: - Desire – Attraction (epithumia) - Longing – Romance (eros) - Belonging – Affection (storge) - Cherishing – Friendship (phile) - Selfless Giving – Unconditional Love (agape) There is much range in the length, strength, and potential for loving and our life experiences help us to expand in all of them.

There are quite a number of instances that work the desire for an individual to have more than average emotional intelligence. Watching some detective movies, especially those that seek to uncover hidden conspiracies connote the effectiveness of possessing emotional intelligence. Most people may revert and discard some of the implication created when one pose to think if actually attaining emotional intelligence is possible, well the hard truth is that it is very possible and

What we commonly refer to as 'chronic guilt' could more accurately be described as 'habituated guilt' or 'patterns of guilt'. Because 'chronic' almost implies illness or disease; something we have no control over. When it comes to guilt, nothing could be further from the truth. No one is born with feelings of guilt. Guilt must be learned. Over time, it becomes habituated. Which means patterns become laid in the subconscious. Usually this happens in childhood, but the 'chronic guilt' can last a lifetime if no steps are taken to end it.

Stressed? You’re dealing with a real physical threat to your health. Stress clogs your arteries and shrinks your brain. Unfortunately, when we’re stressed many of us just make things worse. We overeat. We spend money we don’t have on vacations or lavish treats. We turn to drugs and alcohol. rnBut you don’t have to go that route. In order to help you out, I turned to 5 of my natural health colleagues and put this roundtable article together. I knew we could all use som

Getting Technical Psychological Type was developed by Carl Jung to explain some of the apparently random differences in people's behaviour because of the different ways that people use their minds.

It can be a cold cruel world out there. You don't have to look far to see it. That's why so many people sleep through life. Asleep in their pity, their judgments, and all the other anesthetics currently on the market. Sleeping because it's too painful to wake up. It can be hard to find ...

What is emotional intelligence and how can one benefit from it? There are quite a number of definitions for emotional intelligence. Most people will define this as an art whereby an individual is able to synchronize his mind and body acts through mind control acts; some define the subject as a high aura impulses which aid an individual react to situation. All these individuals are right; any individual who’s attained emotional intelligence creates lots of advantages in his

Many people are prone to marveling whether emotions and brainwaves have a relationship with each other. The answer to this is yes! This is because the brain is the central point for all the emotional communication with the body. It is the main producer of most of the current in the basic neural pathway. It dies this with the use of different frequencies such as Delta, Alpha, Theta, Beta and Gamma. Al these have a major say in the body and usually determine the emotional state

Oh, you think men won't commit? I know for a fact that millions of men can't wait for that 'special day' to arrive. They'll think about it constantly. Talk about it with their friends. Dream about it at work. And the week leading up to that special day - they can't wait for it to ...

One of the biggest problems we all experience with our emotions involves getting 'stuck' in them. Meaning, we keep feeling the same exact feelings, over and over; day after day. If you seem stuck in your feelings - it's almost guaranteed to be painful. Or at least unpleasant. Sadly, we end up ...

What is the secret to success? There are so many people talking about how to become successful, but there is a problem. They are telling you how to become successful based on what they believe success means. For you to be truly successful, you must first define what success means to you. So how do you define success? The easiest way is to first consider the basic domains of life and then write down specifically next to each domain what success means to you in each domain. Here are some of the domains to consider. Relationships Intimate Relationships Family Relationships Otherr

112558 FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE Dr. Carl Robinson Publishes a journal for Addressing Pervasive Anger A decade of successfully touching lives in trainings and sessions inspires his new book

Recently, we were designing a training program at the Institute for Health and Human Potential, and we began our meeting as we always do - by asking ourselves the question: “What do we want people to be able to do differently after the program?” It’s interesting that no matter ...

Training the mind to affect certain self development acts is very important for anyone interested in attaining any kind of emotional health. The mind body and soul are interconnected together in order to affect functions in the body. An individual mental health determines how best they achieve any goal in their lives. There are quite a number of ways an individual can do to achieve good mind development act, however it is very important to dig information about how one can in

If you want a relationship to click...find out what makes it tick.

Let’s first define COACHING as being a means of support given by someone having expertise in a certain domain. This support will be brought to you in consultations sessions given by email, over the phone or face to face individually or in groups. In some cases, the goals pursued will be known by you when you begin; in others, you will search for, discover and pursue your goals with the help of your Coach. In Life and Career Coaching, people seek to grow and enhance their capabilities. In Grief Coaching, people wish to find a soothing comfort to learn to manage their emptiness and pain.

It’s an ordinary day on the dementia unit of a health care facility and one of the residents – we’ll call her Sarah – is trying to leave. The unit is secure and residents wear alarm-triggering ankle bracelets that alert staff if they pass through the door. Matilda, a nurse assistant, reaches out to Sarah, validates and engages her in an attempt to gently dissuade her desire to make that exit. But empathy and redirecting are just not working. Sarah wants out! Beth Boynton, RN,

Speed Programming, most of the members might have not even heard this term particularly people not belonging to Computer Science . I listen it a lot when my brother got admission in Computer Science , indicating he was really fond of programming. At the time of my admission in university, he forced me to get admission in a computer university. I don't know how but I certainly started getting interest in programming and then again the term speed programming came into my life w

A positive body image is one that we should all strive for. This is when you know yourself and who you are. You have a very true perception of your size, shape, and weight. You see yourself as you are in the present. You accept yourself, even though you may be overweight. You believe in ...A positive body image is one that we should all strive for. This is when you know yourself and who you are. You have a very true perception of your size, shape, and weight. You see yourself as you are in the present. You accept yourself, even though you may be overweight.

Are you blocking relationships too? Somewhere early in life I decided I did not live in a safe world because the people in it could hurt me. And the closer someone got to me, the more likely they could (and would) inflict pain on me. I saw only one solution to this problem. I just can't let anyone get close to me. It's the only way I'm going to survive. I'll pretend when I have to, but deep down inside, there's no way I can let someone into my heart. One of the first movies I ever saw on TV showed a man crying because he couldn't be with the woman he loved.

Have you ever had a so-called friend that turned into your nemesis as time went by and still remained glued to you in some way even though you’ve done all you could think of to push this person out of your life? Have you ever witnessed how some individuals weave themselves into your every relationship, tinting your every gathering with their presence, always finding a way to be invited through some other acquaintances? Short of escaping to another part of the world and cutting all communication with previous contacts, there seems to be no way out!

How do you feel when someone gives you a gift? In particular remember a gift that you have really wanted, or a gift that has been handmade. Or how do you feel when you receive a gift from a child that they have lovingly prepared for you? If you say that you “feel warm and fuzzy”, that you “feel ...

Being members of Selfgrowth puts us in a unique position of appreciating the power of social networking, and networking sites like Ecademy, LinkedIn, and Facebook. So what is the power of social networking? Well those in the know say it is about forming relationships. OK then what? Well then ...

Money! Power! Sex! When we have them, and use them well, they are so much fun. When we don’t have them, we have feelings about them. When we misuse them, we have feelings about them. And sometimes we have serious mis-learning around them, and become either abusive or abused with them. As little children, we learn about the world from our grownups. If our grownups have some trouble handling the energies of money, power, and sex, we learn their ways. Some of us learn to push

From my perspective, our emotional wounds don't live in our minds. So healing our minds, as Dr. Eve Woods teaches on her show Healing Your Mind, Body, and Spirit, from September 19, 2006 titled "Rewrite Your Internal Script," does not actually get at the core issue. I find this idea - that somehow we can heal our minds with our thoughts, and that this will take care of the dis-ease that often permeates our lives - to be an all too common misconception.nnOur emotions don't liv

Child Abuse To know about a person's open wound on the outside is obvious. - To treat it we apply a bandage and some TLC To know about a person's open wound on the inside may come from observing a person's demeanour which requires more study or by simply being told about it. - To treat it we need to apply compassion and lots of TLC The future of child abuse is that some people carry a subtle awareness that they are damaged property and will avoid committing to relationships and some will bury their abuse so deep that everyone is surprised

Emotional Intelligence (EI), often measured as an Emotional Intelligence Quotient (EQ), describes an ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one's self, of others, and of groups. As a relatively new area of psychological research, the definition of EI is constantly changing.nn Defining emotional intelligence nnThere are a lot of arguments about the definition of EI, arguments that regard both terminology and operationalizations. The first p

It is no secret that a company can not succeed without sustainable leadership. Today’s executive leaders must hold the secret on how to be a good leader. One may think they are a respected, successful leader, but are they really? Are they infecting their organizational community with negative ...

Alexithymia from the Greek words &#955;&#949;&#958;&#953;&#962; and &#952;&#965;&#956;&#959;&#962; (literally "without words for emotions") is a term coined by Peter Sifneos in 1973[1][2] to describe a state of deficiency in understanding, processing, or describing emotions.nn Classification nnAlexithymia is considered to be a personality trait that places individuals at risk for other medical and psychiatric disorders while reducing the likelihood that these individuals will

For over a decade, I have worked with an Emotional Intelligence (EI) model that indicates emotional self-awareness as the foundational competency. Emotional self-awareness supports and serves as a basis upon which to build EI competencies including emotional self-management, emotional ...

EQ SUCCESS STORIESnIHHP - Institute for Health and Human Potential Two years ago, John Gardner, Systems Engineering Manager at Medrad, a medical devices company, was recognized as someone with a high degree of technical skills and an ability to "get things done." But at what ...

This book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Emotional Intelligence. Emotional Intelligence is an ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one's self, of others, and of groups. Emotional Intelligence is often measured as an Emotional Intelligence Quotient or EQ. Reldan S. Nadler, Psy.D. is the Official Guide to Emotional Intelligence .nn Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ , by Daniel Goleman, is a valuabl

Without work all life goes rotten- but when work is soulless, life stifles and dies. Albert Camus Business owners, leaders and CEOs everywhere are talking about the search for humanity in the workplace. These global leaders are examining the role of true meaning and purpose, both on an organizational and individual level. Steven Covey says there is a “spiritual renaissance taking place in the business world today.” While corporate leaders are searching ways to ignite commit

nIt’s Always Personal: Three Ways to Beat Criticism at its Own Gamenn(Part 1 of 3)nnDoes criticism control your life?nnThink about your last argument with a friend, co-worker, employer, or neighbor. Whether the subject matter at hand was missing a lunch date or forgetting to turn the office lights off at the end of the day, chances are the dispute started when someone said something unpleasant to someone else.nnWhen I worked in upscale retail stores stocking $29.95 soft red

For more than a decade, organizations have been helping their employees improve their Emotional Intelligence (EI) skills. People at all organizational levels - from executives to administrative staff - experience the same emotions even though the challenges, pressures and demands they face at ...

Those who suffer from Social Anxiety Disorder, or S.A.D., feel they must hide from other people: "I can't let other people see me." While the intensity of those feelings varies widely, those who suffer from social anxiety disorder share one common underlying premise: "There's something wrong with me, and I can't be fixed." Maybe not those exact words, but you get the idea. When you have S.A.D., you feel flawed and defective to the very core of your being. You feel 'bad and wrong' and nothing you can do will help.

Yoga is an exercise that continues to grow in popularity. While it used to be associated with Eastern religions, yoga has broadened its audience and is now practiced by a wide variety of people around the world. Yoga is known for providing physical, mental and spiritual benefits to during their experience. Various jewelry items are available for both male and female and can be either simple or elaborate, depending on the taste and desire of the wearer. Yoga Jewelry is not an

Guilt exists as a fabricated emotion. It holds little or no realness. It's hard to call it a real emotion. You see, a real emotion is one that has both a positive and a negative side. Love, fear, hate, anger, sadness, happiness and so many other emotions all have both a positive and a ...

Ever felt unworthy? Many people do. There's no substitute for self-worth. Self-esteem is a different story. Many substitutes exist for esteem. Interestingly, most people seem to confuse self-esteem with self-worth. Your esteem must be earned. Your worth is given. All humans are worthy. ...

Your shadow is real. I'm not talking about the dark image that forms on the ground behind you when you face the morning sun. No, I'm talking about a part of your consciousness. Your shadow is born when you are born. It's job is to collect and save all the thoughts and feelings you deny. ...

Be glad we don't live in a place where marriages are arranged or we are restricted to certain partners like a religious cult. Been there, done that. The best advice you can ever gave yourself was to discard any lingering baggage from childhood and get to know yourself really well before you settle down into a relationship. There is nothing worse than sacrificing yourself to an institution that you don't even know if you believe in yet because you don't know your self at all.

I've heard stories from friends about the agony and stress caused by caring for their aging parents. Their rolls vary depending on the level of care their parents' need. Some are fortunate in that their parents require very little care; perhaps just a daily check-in to make sure all is well. Others are faced with greater challenges. A parent may require the level of care offered at a long-term care facility or nursing home.

Emotional Intelligence, the combination of self-awareness, "other"-awareness, ability to recognize and regulate one's own emotions and interpersonal skills, is at the core the ability to listen. Listening Inwardly for our own assumptions, beliefs, and emotional reactions. Listening to what is being communicated to us. Checking it out to see if what we heard is actually what was expressed. Listening changes the world, because everything from medical errors and airplane disaste

Latest world news may demonstrate you with number of addendum and postscript at a time on the particular screen. You can come across news by medium of internet and other means. The world news consists of all the latest matter of India news headlines, latest news occurring all over the world, political news, crime news and much other news. The news will be accessible in many different languages and speech such as in Telugu, Kannada, Hindi, English and many other idioms. The de

Quantum physics clearly demonstrates that energy, in one form or another, constitutes the most fundamental building blocks of the universe. To be even more precise, these building blocks, called quarks, or quanta, are actually the potential for a particular frequency, or state, or amount of energy. I use the word potential because we cannot measure the actual energy involved until we specifically observe it The universe, then, is a field of pure potential that is continually

Recall the opening scene in the blockbuster movie, Forrest Gump – a feather floating in the wind, up and down and all around with no control or sense of direction whatsoever. I would argue that many business people feel that awful feeling of being powerless, being blown around by the latest change of which they have no power, influence or sense of control. Helpless. It is not a good feeling.nLater in the movie, as Forrest’s son is about to leave for his first day of schoo

Emotional wellness basically means being in a state where a person understands their feelings and doesn’t try to avoid them. Having a positive emotional wellness is a true success maker since one develops a positive approach to life, being able to approach feelings freely and effectively. This is someone who can express how they feel even though undergoing life’s ups and downs is able to deal with them without stress or depression. A person on getting to this state is abl

Emotions are pesky creatures. They can creep up on you when you least expect it and throw your whole day into a tailspin. They can be good, bad or somewhere in between, but often come up unexpectedly. Understanding your emotions is the key to personal development as they are often a window to your soul. Relax before you React Strong emotions are often the reaction to stressful situations. To take control of your emotions, embrace relaxation techniques during stressful times.

The obvious - but often unspoken - premise of most emotional healing lies with finding a way to rid yourself of those so-called bad emotions. Any way you can. Because some feelings are good, and others are bad. Even little kids knows that. We develop a hierarchy of good and bad emotions: ...

This book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Emotional Intelligence. Emotional Intelligence is an ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one's self, of others, and of groups. Emotional Intelligence is often measured as an Emotional Intelligence Quotient or EQ. Reldan S. Nadler, Psy.D. is the Official Guide to Emotional Intelligence .nn The Emotionally Intelligent Manager: How to Develop and Use the Four Key Emotional Skill

Empathy is on a precipitous decline in the family and home environments. Technology is partly to blame, but so are other social and economic trends. On June 9, 2005 the BBC reported about an unusual project underway in Sheffield (in the United Kingdom). The daily movements and interactions of a family living in a technology-laden, futuristic home are being monitored and recorded. "The aim is to help house builders predict how we will want to use our homes 10 or 20 years from

Winter is upon us, which means it is a natural time to go within ourselves and work through feelings that have been tossed aside during the holiday rush. When these feelings come up, they can at times feel relentless. All that is really happening is that our emotions are trying to get us to ...

Level 2 Leadership is leadership in conflict. A Leader at this level will see the world in a "dog eat dog" mentality. When a level 2 leader is pushing and pulling and demanding, throws responsibility your way and then blames you when things go south; watch out. In management we call this ...

President Harry Truman said that, "a weeping man is an abomination." Truman was president from the close of World War II into the early 50s. I saw this quote just the other day, and was reminded of my grandfather, Oren Ryals. Oren was my father's father, and when I was a boy I idolized him. He ran a chicken farm on a seven acre spread near McMinnville Oregon in the 50s and early 60s. I got to go down and spend time working there just about every summer between 1956 and 1963.n

"This life is a test. It is only a test. If this had been a real life, you would have received further instructions on what to do and how to do it." Ever heard those words? When you first read them, it's almost a relief. "Whew! It's just a test." But when you look deeper, you ask: "Well ...

Hope, being the flickering light that gleams and brightens the dimmest paths, permitting to grasp at dreams, wholeheartedly, even when circumstances seem to alienate all positive outcome probabilities. You’ve known, I’m sure, people who have made it beyond their dreams. What makes them different? Sure, you will see incredible perseverance, profound belief, skillful manifestations, outstanding courage but, the inner light of hope that propels through adversity is only ignited when resilience is present. Resilience leads to triumph.

The Emotional Intelligence (EI) of a business's people can be critical to success. Leaders' and employees' emotions can play a role in how people behave (what they say or do). And this behavior can directly impact their customers and the bottom line. In their Harvard Business Review article, ...

In a way, fear is a lot like fire. Fire is essential for life, but it can also rage out of control and even kill you. The goal is not to eliminate fire. You can't. But you can turn it into an ally. You can set the boundaries and the rules and make fire work for you. Just as you can make ...

Increasing your Emotional Intelligence skills offers significant benefits in three categories: decision-making, relationships, and health. These categories embrace virtually every behavior, every action and reaction, every situation you may encounter. They apply to your business and professional ...

I have been working with my coach to take my leadership skills to the next level. We recently looked at an emotional intelligence framework to better understand leadership.nnThe grid, as outlined below, has four quadrants. To demonstrate great emotional intelligence the aim is to be highly skilled in all four quadrants. My coach began to outline that I was fantastic in three areas but one area was greatly missing. I began to wonder what could it be. I thought I had a pretty h

This book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Emotional Intelligence. Emotional Intelligence is an ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one's self, of others, and of groups. Emotional Intelligence is often measured as an Emotional Intelligence Quotient or EQ. Reldan S. Nadler, Psy.D. is the Official Guide to Emotional Intelligence .nn Emotional Intelligence Quick Book: Everything You Need to Know to Put Your EQ to Work ,

This book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Emotional Intelligence. Emotional Intelligence is an ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one's self, of others, and of groups. Emotional Intelligence is often measured as an Emotional Intelligence Quotient or EQ. Reldan S. Nadler, Psy.D. is the Official Guide to Emotional Intelligence .nn Primal Leadership: Realizing the Power of Emotional Intelligence , by Daniel Goleman, Ri

It is no secret that who you know is just as important as what you know. In fact who you know may be more important than what you know because if you know someone who knows it you don't have to know it. Now there's a mouthful. n Knowing them is not enough. You've got to know them well enough ...

Ralph Waldo Emerson said "Riding a horse is not a gentle hobby, to be picked up and laid down like a game of solitaire. It is a grand passion. It seizes a person whole and, once it has done so, he will have to accept that his life will be radically changed." Alte ative Healers from all over ...

This book review is part of a series that covers the topic of Emotional Intelligence. Emotional Intelligence is an ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, and manage the emotions of one's self, of others, and of groups. Emotional Intelligence is often measured as an Emotional Intelligence Quotient or EQ. Reldan S. Nadler, Psy.D. is the Official Guide to Emotional Intelligence .nn Working with Emotional Intelligence , by Daniel Goleman, is a valuable resource for peop

A truth is seen by one person as factual, verifiable. The funny part of it is that it will vary from one individual’s perception to the next. Your perception is the way you receive and process a fact and what it means to you. It will be influenced by your values, previous experiences, your background, culture and environment.

Betrayal, big or small, trashes your heart to bits. You do survive and heal. When it has been shattering, your scar will usually be deep and render you hyper-sensitive. You may have a tendency to armor yourself in order to protect yourself from any other injury. This armor may be so absolute, so impenetrable that you may trash any trustworthy or loving relationship in the future, or at least, that’s what can happen if you’re not careful!

Relationships are difficult; requiring understanding, openness, patience, commitment and a sincere desire to do what it takes to make it work. It also requires both people to be committed not only to the relationship, but to their own personal growth. If one or both partners are not open to look at their own issues, which we all have, the relationship will ultimately run aground.

One of the great writers on motivation, Ausabel, determined that there was intrinsic and extrinsic motivation. What does that mean exactly?

Today's inspiration comes from a client who wrote the following email to me: Hi Lena Thank you once again. This time is for helping to remove a deep-seated block inside me. Since your last sessio I have peacefully embraced my tears. Because now I understand it is the body's desperate need to flush out the pain. And gosh, do I have alot of pain. I hope to find out why and where did all these pain come from in your next PLRT session. I always hate myself when I cry, people a

I never kept a single New Year's resolution. Until I learned the secret I'm about to tell you. And now, I don't even *think* about whether or not I'll be keeping any new resolutions I make. I know it's completely up to me. And 'will power' has nothing to do with it. Will power is overrated ...

Homeowners will discover any sort of home is smaller than their storage necessities. In the kitchen area, a homeowner may have built sliding cabinet racks. These make it possible for more utensils and dishes to be stored in a small, well-organized space. Within the bathroom, hanging a vanity provides sufficient space for toiletries together with other accessories. While in a living area or family room, a built-in could be an exceptional way for keeping more books, pictures an

35 years ago, at the tender age of 15, I happened upon a book called "Think And Grow Rich". I don't remember if it actually mentioned the Law of Attraction by name, but it certainly covered the topic well: All I had to do was focus - with intention, and purpose, and will - focus my thoughts on ...

When sickness or disability is temporary, you will react and adapt to the momentary discomfort by seeking medical council and assistance to rehabilitate. On a short term, most people do not lose their bearing, unless they are worried of it being prolonged. Our society is set to provide the services for such instances. Generally, a person will assess and seek the required help.

Once upon a time I was frantically racing down a side street, when suddenly the light up ahead turned red. Screeching to a halt, I yelled out: "I CAN'T WIN!!" Lot of emotion behind those few little words. But they pretty much summed up my life at the time. "Glad nobody heard that," I ...

Power often stands as a mystery - a misunderstood phenomenon. We often think power means 'power over' - which really amounts to manipulation or intimidation or coercion or outright brute force. True power has nothing to do with anything outside yourself. It comes from within. How it's ...

All kinds of losses can make you feel like it’s the end! Some are worse than others. Whether it is a separation, a divorce, a death, it will wind you out! The grieving period will extend according to your needs and one day, you will feel the need to claim your life back.

Always ready for a challenge, a new dare? When things are not to your liking, you erupt like a volcano, splashing surroundings and people with lava and spurting rocks! Are you forcing by-standers to relocate rather than be splattered? Never planning and having an unrealistic sense of what the future holds, are you always taken aback by events? Lacking the capacity of conscious, responsible action, you constantly blame the world for its intolerance. Rules and laws burden you! To those of your entourage, the scene is becoming old! Now, you feel their despair or disdain!

The high cost of overlooking introverts What do Albert Einstein, Warren Buffet, Mahatma Gandhi, Charles Darwin and Rosa Parks have in common. They are all leaders who made an impact on their world.

Its stating the obvious but our bodies respond physically to how we think and feel. This is the final article in a series of 4 describing how emotions impact health and how we can use this fact to improve our wellbeing. The previous article is here . Imagine being able to monitor and manage the physical and mental wellbeing of ourselves, loved ones and our community as a whole, all by evaluating emotions? The reality of that isn’t that farfetched at all. I’ve developed Tr

I was taught most of the fundamentals about life by my Father and therefore learnt to think like a boy. It certainly has served me well in many aspects however I believe that I learnt to copy the social behaviour of men and never really got to know how to appreciate the intrigue of being a woman. I spent most of my free time with my Dad at sports clubs and pubs and was able to interact with people much older than myself. Another thing that has stood me in good stead.

I learned this morning one more time - how important it is to pay attention to my thoughts and feelings. It happened as I was looking at the barriers I've put up to 'receiving'. I was curious to know why I don't receive more love, more success, etc. I knew I must be blocking so much of ...

Maybe I shouldn't call it 'finding' courage because courage doesn't lie around waiting to be found. You don't reach down and pick it up from the side of the road - or anywhere else, for that matter. No one is born with courage, so you can't really reclaim it either. Unlike love and ...

Most people would agree that it's important to communicate what you're feeling. But how do you KNOW what you are feeling? Here are some simple yet profound ways to know what you're feeling and how to use those feelings to improve your life.nn Steps nn1. Know what feelings are. They're simply energy that moves through the body. We sometimes try to stop our feelings from moving through, either because we're embarrassed by them, or because we think we'll be seen in a negative li

"In the world today there is plenty of technology, plenty of entrepreneurs, plenty of money, plenty of entry capital. What's in short supply is great teams." John Doerr, Legendary Silicon Valley Venture Capitalist Teams with high levels of EQ consistently outperform ...

It is no secret that a company can not succeed without sustainable leadership. Today’s executive leaders must hold the secret on how to be a good leader. One may think they are a respected, successful leader, but are they really? Are they infecting their organizational community with ...

Frantic, forgetful, fragmented and flummoxed. Does this describe your workplace or someone you work with? If so, you’re not alone. Many workplaces are driven by a frenetic, globalized, technology-driven, task focused climate.

We all are born with a certain amount of intuition. The problem is, from a very young age we are often told to ignore our feelings or that our feelings are just wrong. You are never taught to trust your emotions. Much like force-feeding an infant can cause the child to start ignoring their natural hunger control mechanism, its the same with emotions. The more we have been taught to push down our feelings, the more likely we are not to trust our emotions. You Get a Feeling in

Success appears when resilience is present whether it be in life or career transitions, in struggles or problem solving, or even in life’s moments of despair. Your goals are seldom reached in one easy stride. Life rarely serves Success on a golden platter. You will need to seek it relentlessly. It is your capacity to set objectives with determination and pursue these with all the courage and perseverance you can muster that brings Success your way.

A lie can travel halfway round the world while the truth is putting on its shoes. A single lie discovered is enough to create doubt in every truth expressed. If you tell the truth, it becomes a part of your past. If you lie, it becomes a part of your future. We all know how difficult it is to trust someone again, who has lied to you before. Trust is an important part of every relationship; and when we lie, even if we think others will never find out, we will create a barrier

A leader should be transparent and his/her integrity should be evident. This is a challenge because when in accuracy emerges from a Leader’s mouth, the trust in his/her ability to lead dwindles. Therefore, a Leader needs to be detail-oriented. Notes taken on projects, detailed methodology suggested as to how his staff is expected to pursue their goals, clear expectations, consistent pertinent feedback to employees after individual meetings. ‘Details!’ You’ll exclaim! ‘I barely have time to complete what I need to do! It is time consuming AND time is a commodity, I can’t spare!’

"Shhuuut uuup!" said the sassy Gen Y to her astonished manager. "Excuse me?" replied the shocked manager, a Boomer. This conversation took place recently in the boardroom at one of the world's largest oil and gas companies. It is a moment that ...

Without work all life goes rotten- but when work is soulless, life stifles and dies. Albert Camus Business owners, leaders and CEOs everywhere are talking about the search for humanity in the workplace. These global leaders are examining the role of true meaning and purpose, both on an organizational and individual level. Steven Covey says there is a “spiritual renaissance taking place in the business world today.”

Anger is a funny thing. Controlling it is not... We tend to want to cover it up, the way we cover up certain body parts. "Don't let your anger show." Many people are afraid of anger - theirs and others. Some people use their anger as a weapon; or at least a tool of negotiation. A lot of ...

Your Emotional Intelligence skills are recognized. Your Leadership, team work, perseverance, performance and resilience are well-known. Your cognitive intelligence has been proven. Your analytical skills and capacity to rationalize has proven useful in emotionally loaded circumstances. You know yourself well and self-assess regularly to make sure you’re well and on track. You’re self-confident and poised. Your reliability is undeniable. You strategize and prioritize well. You know your limits well. You know when to stop and change orientation.

What is keeping you stuck? What are the barriers to your success in your business, your life, or your personal relationships? Most likely, if you are struggling in one area, all areas are suffering. Why is that? Well, we each come to the table with a certain amount of available energy each and ...

A person with an anxious personality experiences an overreaction to threatening stimuli in his or her environment, resulting in the body having a greater stress response than another person might have to the same event. The anxious person is less able to tolerate the normal uncertainties about ...A person with an anxious personality experiences an overreaction to threatening stimuli in his or her environment, resulting in the body having a greater stress response than another person might have to the same event.

This article is for people who have dreams of greater lives. It can be a dream of starting a new career, greater intimacy, improved health, and any other unrealized great desire. I've learned tons while pursuing my dream of owning a thriving coaching business. I respect and empathize with your struggle, which is why this is dedicated to you. There are four areas of life that must be dedicated to the realization of any dream: the emotions; the mind; the body; and, routine. On

Real people Each child is a unique and real person that parents get to meet each day as they grow into themselves. They bring their own sense of self and personality to the world along with their own place on the timeline of history. They also take us into new and strong emotions with fears in watching them make their own mistakes as they strive for independence.

Common Sense is a lie. A lie that has frustrated me for a long long time as it is the cause of most misunderstandings and hatreds in the world. Why is Common Sense a lie? Well let’s define it first:rnCommon Sense as defined from thee Merriam-Webster Dictionary. • COMMON SENSE: Sound and prudent judgment based on a simple perception of the situation or facts. The initial problem with this definition is the assumption of “Simple Perception”. And where the disconnect lie

Peter's Story: With his degree from a top school, hard work, and excellent organizational skills, Peter was able to land a challenging job as a new product manager. He was on top of the world. Based on his impressive accomplishments, Peter was assigned the responsibility of locking in ...

We feel their presence in minute instances, remember their smile and laugh vibrantly, even when our eyes water at their loss. It is those moments that will forever remain. It is the sense of their presence that has impacted our lives and been determining factors in our growth or our life transitions. The more intuitive may even reconnect through dreams, alleviating the pain by finding solace in this seemingly real presence.

Formal soft-skill training for issues such as Emotional Intelligence, conflict resolutions, teambuilding and others can present a high-cost solution for organizations, especially in today's economy. However, creative approaches can be implemented without compromising the quality of the training. BODYr

How can we change? How can we make this new year better than the last? Let me offer one suggestion: Learn what responsibility really means. See, if you're like I used to be, you may believe responsibility equals pain, punishment, shame, blame, martyr, burdens, duty, obligation and ...

The rising levels of stress Americans experience was identified in the 2009 American Psychological Association's (APA) "Stress in America Survey." Conce ed with the "prevalence with which Americans continue to report increasing and extreme stress levels," Dr. Katherine Nordal Phd., APA's executive director, expressed the need for tools to help people better manage their stress. The development of our Emotional Intelligence skills offers an approach that goes beyond just managing stress.

It's scary to really truly understand you have an ego - a living breathing part of you with its own thoughts and feelings quite separate from yours. And you're both living in the same body. It's like being locked in a dark closet with a total stranger. Imagine the feeling. All your life you ...

Occasionally I come across a "case study" for an Emotional Intelligence training program that conce s me. Generally there is a very thorough write-up explaining the program process, including rolling out the program to the organization. However, what conce s me is the program "results" that are shared. They have a tendency to indicate that the program was well-accepted and include other "feel good" program results. In this case it appears the ultimate result was that participants were aware of their reactions.

The secret key to success is failure! It's sounds, strange, it sounds counterintuitive but it is the secret to success. Ask yourself how many times have you failed in your life? I'm sure the answer is more than you care to remember. Then think of someone you admire, a role-model who you believe is very successful. Now ask yourself how many times have they failed? I guarantee the answer is many more times than you have. It is a natural law of life, we learn through trial and error. Just look at Edison and the thousands of attempts he made before he created the light bulb.

When something happens in your life, it tends to bring up a certain amount of feeling. Someone cuts you off in traffic, and it brings up anger or perhaps fear. That anger and that fear have a certain amount of volume to it. Or perhaps you're grieving for the loss of a loved one. You have a ...

Do you feel like housemates rather than lovers? Are you disconnected and feeling unloved? Deepest intimacy - When your relationship started and you were so 'in love', do you remember what it was like? Can you remember that you used to talk about everything? You spent every moment with each ...Do you feel like housemates rather than lovers? Are you disconnected and feeling unloved?

Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is a concept familiarized by Daniel Goleman, an internationally known psychologist, which is defined as one’s ability to understand and manage his or her emotions as they happen in themselves and others, while using this awareness to manage relationships effectively. Emotional Intelligence is a collection of four major skills. Self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management. Each of the skills fall under two primary

Are you happy with yourself just the way you are? Do you accept yourself with all your shortcomings? Most people don't. For several reasons. For instance, society holds certain standards that by their very nature are almost impossible to live up to. You're supposed to strive for the perfect ...

Ms Jenni Wright from http://www.emotionalintelligenceaus.com talks about the Dalai Lama the torch relay and compassion. The Dalai Lama has recently attended a five-day Seeds of Compassion conference. The conference featured dozens of workshops on various subjects, beginning with a panel ...

As a parent you may be wondering if there is anything you can do. There are a number of things that can be done that will help your child avoid being involved in bullying or help them through situations where bulling occurs. 1. Be open to, accept and encourage your child’s emotional responses.

A few years back, I decided I wanted to get back into Literacy Project implementation and socio-economic development with Natives somewhere on this planet. My wonderful children were all grown up and I felt the urge of filling the void with a passion of mine!

But if in your fear you would seek only love’s peace and love’s pleasure, Then it is better for you that you cover your nakedness and pass out of love’s threshing-floor, Into the seasonless world where you shall laugh, but not all of your laughter, and weep, but not all of your tears. nnFrom The Prophet, Kahlil GibrannnI am feeling very proud of myself. I just realized that I can distinguish between different types of my own tears. Why do I consider this an accomplishme

It's true. I was coping with anxiety for many years. I don't even remember when it started. But I do remember when it ended. I was in an abusive relationship with my anxiety. I was being abused. Every day. It wasn't pretty. But I coped. Meaning, I 'handled' it. I struggled through. ...

As promised, here is your sequel to . You’re a go-getter. You’re constantly striving to reach your goals. You’re a determined achiever and feel pride and joy at performing well. You confidently move through difficult challenges with passion. Burnouts happen to the best of us. Just take a moment for a quick reality check. Are you eating and sleeping well? Do you take the time to exercise regularly? Do you have quiet time just to yourself?

In the last few decades, researchers have been identifying specific things that make people successful and have shown top achievers see life and behave in ways that we can learn. They use a set of skills that we could loosely call intelligence - emotional intelligence.

Youths are upset when they get low grades from what the feel is high-grade work. The resent it when discipline seem excessive or uncalled for or seem motivated by racial bias. They are angry when special attention or professional treatment is given to the teacher’s pet. Granted, teachers are far from infallible. They have their fair share of quirks, problems, and, yes, prejudices. A youth name Joseph noticed that his teacher “was snapping at everyone” Joseph tactfully approa

The most aggravating feeling in the world is the feeling of abandonment. You can talk all you want yet you will never get your point across and it will be hurtful for your pride to speak whenever you are feeling abandoned. You feel as if the world has ended and no matter who comes to help you, your pride will not allow you too.rnBut what causes that strange feeling of abandonment? Do the people around you affect you negatively enough so you would feel abandoned that way?rnThe

The term, “emotional Intelligence” refers to the ability to asses, identify and control your emotions or that of others or groups. The process can be acquired through learning although it can also be in born in some individuals. You can actually use emotional intelligence to get ahead in life if you care to know the secrets involved in using it. rnThe secrets you have to know are mainly hidden in the four branches of emotional intelligence. Let’s take a look at them. rn

Expectation and disappointment are often two sides of the same coin but the experience between expectations in our businesses as opposed to our personal lives can be very different indeed. BUSINESS vs PRIVATE EXPECATIONS

In this day and age we are obsessed with discovering where our children measure up against their peers. We want to know how their test scores compare, whether their growth percentiles measure up, and how their IQ scores compare to their classmates. Not only can so much pressure be hard on our children, but it can also instill the wrong message: that test scores are all that matter. The Benefits Of A Positive Outlook Carol Dweck , a professor of Psychology at Stanford Universi

Enhancing Emotional Intelligence (EI) is the key to becoming resilient in this stressful world. Stress and its detrimental effects pervade our headlines. We are bombarded with a never-ending drove of articles on such topics as the economy, layoffs, holiday stress, academic stress, relationship ...

The human brain is the epicenter of the entire nervous system in every living individual on planet earth. When properly motivated, your brain can help you achieve complete emotional mastery anytime. The power of the brain cannot be underestimated especially when the brain is well nurtured and empowered. There is nothing impossible in life when your brain is in top most. The power of the brain encompasses the whole processes going on in your mental system per time. Every singl

SPECIAL FOR TEACHERS ONLY What do students need to know to want to learn? 1. First, they need to know WHY? 2. Then, WHAT it will give them. In order words, HOW will it BENEFIT them? 3. This is usually related to careers, jobs, MONEY, GRADES. 4. Followed by, WHAT TIME INVESTMENT they will need, so HOW LONG will it take? 5. Ultimately, will they ever use it again, so WHEN will it be useful? Your greatest success will come in presenting everything as an OPPORTUNITY!

For many, blame has become an art form. Ever see a comedian take a prop - some ordinary item like a pencil - and make up jokes about it? That's the way many approach blame. Just throw 'em a topic - anything - and they'll find someone to blame for it. We all do it from time to time. But for ...

Its stating the obvious but our bodies respond physically to how we think and feel. This is the 2nd article in a series of 4 describing how emotions impact health and how we can use this fact to improve our wellbeing. The first article is here . rnOur emotions have a physical impact on our health and wellbeing, whether positive or negative, and whether we realise it or not. We might sometimes think we’re in control; my body, I know what it’s up to - I’m stressed, but I

It is unthinkable that someone exposes others to a debilitating disease simply because they feel it conce s no one that they are sick. Fear of being discarded may lie beneath such attitude. Even worse are those who refuse treatment and propagate illness without the least remorse.

Sometimes you feel like you REALLY got to change something. Maybe it's an annoying habit. Maybe it's more serious. Maybe it's losing weight, or stopping smoking. Whatever it is, you just get fed up with the situation. You're motivated to change. SOMETHING'S GOTTA GIVE! Maybe it's occurred ...

Are absent employees leaving you short staffed? When you start hearing excuses for absenteeism like, "I got bit by a mosquito and my eye is swollen shut," or, "I broke my big toe and can't walk," or even, "My car won't start," it's a symptom that your people are sick - sick of work. The woman who has an illness or death in her family on a regular basis may really be avoiding work, and you should be more than a little troubled about it.

Remember seeing a photo of the earth taken from outer space? A beautiful blue sphere painted with swirls of white. Pretty incredible, huh? Now imagine the blanket of atmosphere that completely covers our earth like a glove. We're cradled in this fabric that protects us and keeps us ...

A group of professional internal consultants from Chicago invited me to facilitate a professional development network session on the subject of Emotional Intelligence (EI). Because this group was comprised of highly seasoned professionals, I decided to draw upon their expertise. I developed a ...

The question is not can one sustain leadership, but rather can someone be a leader and maintain a low negative resonance in the workplace and expect compliance and growth in a business where they are in a position of authority? What do you think? Over the next few paragraphs we will explore this ...

There's a lot more to the magic of love than we could ever cover in one short article, but here's a good place to start. See, we're so used to hoarding our love - locking it up; hiding it; keeping it safe - that we often end up hiding it even from ourselves. So often, we don't allow ourselves ...

"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place" George Bernard Shawn We all have relationships at work that aren't working. This is not surprising, given how the pressure of time and need for results can cause people to have impact ...

Feeling better involves taking a series of steps. But a common problem I've had - and I've seen in many others - is they just want the success (whatever it is) without having to take the steps to get there. I call it the 'visualize winning the lottery' syndrome. "I don't want to succeed - I ...

What's Going on at Your Hospital? The Perils of Playing SmallnIHHP - Institute for Health and Human Potential What's Going on at Your Hospital? In US hospitals today, one in 20 patients receives the wrong medication. Three and a half million patients become infected while ...

“If he can control his emotions today…..he can win this tou ament.” If you’re a golfer, you’ve heard broadcasters announce this many times before the final round of anprofessional golf event. The statement is a very strong endorsement for what’s important to greatnperformance. The frustrating thing is that no one ever tells us how this golfer might do it. Whilenthe importance of controlling emotions in attaining success is repeatedly stressed, the idea ofn“controlling” and h

We are all subject to it at one time or another. You’ve had this goal for a certain time. You’ve been working at it diligently, strategizing and prioritizing as you went along. Actions have been taken following your laborious planning chart and BOOM! A dry spell strikes. You’re right there; you can just about taste it. Everything is in place, it seems. The project is a theoretical or virtual success! Nothing concrete is happening! Questions scramble your well organized thoughts and the merry-go-round starts.

The energy behind fear is very real. Not something to play around with. Or take lightly. It reminds me of the time - years ago - when I was visiting some friends on the North Shore of Hawaii. They were born surfers. Who moved from Florida to enjoy the awesome waves. Right before we got ...

Marketing is a term which is the major part of any business because marketing is the only process by which we can increase or spread our business all over the world. International big part of marketing are depending now on top internet search engines like Yahoo, Google, Bing and other local engines. Internet search engines are providing two type websites listing on its SERP (search engine result page) one is normal and second paid (sponsored links). Natural type listing are c

In Focus, Psychologist and jou alist Daniel Goleman, author of the #1 international bestseller Emotional Intelligence, offers a groundbreaking look at today’s scarcest resource and the secret to high performance and fulfillment: attention.

Realistically, striving for perfection may somewhat be only a motivator to excel in a certain domain. There should never be a depletion of self-worth or self-confidence when perfection has not been reached. The human factor constantly interferes with the notion of perfection. Whether it is a mere droplet of inconsistency, a smudge or ripple, a tremor on a calm surface, it is just enough to cause the gripping feeling of failure with your core.

EQ Coaching Report February 2007 -n IHHP - Institute for Health and Human Potential Summary: IHHP has conducted an assessment to determine the effectiveness of an extensive training, coaching and eLea ing program that we have delivered to one of our clients, a major financial institution. ...

Your Inner Critic Holds the Secret to Your Success Inner Critic Mastery as Revealed in the Scheherazad Story Do you really want to know the secret of your success? I will tell you a secret about yourself that you may not have realized. If only I had known this secret myself when I first started out in life, I would have improved my life and saved myself much suffering. And maybe, because I was young and foolish, I would not have listened. So, YOU be the judge. Will you listen or will you brush it aside and pay no more attention? Behold what you are about to hear!r

WHAT ELSE DO STUDENTS NEED TO KNOW? They need to know you genuinely care. So hear their conce s; Tune into their feelings; Show you really care with your actions. They need to know you walk your talk meaning if you say it, you do it. They need a daily dose of HOPE and HUMOUR. I know you have it in you! Try anecdotes and laugh with them. They’ll love it and connect. They need to see flexibility. HOW? Say things like <Your way or My way>, whichever gets you to the goal. Just make sure you do everything.

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Eight Tips to Choose a Workplace Coach: To stay competitive, relevant and innovative, workplaces must do more with less talent. Providing a leadership and career coach is one way keep your employees “emotionally engaged” to contribute their personal best. “There’s no question that future leaders will need constant coaching,” notes Ram Charan, Leadership in the Era of Economic Uncertainty (McGraw-Hill, 2008). “As the business environment becomes more complex, they will increasingly turn to coaches for help in understanding how to act.”

Here is something fun to try. Pull your stomach in really, really tight. Now totally relax it. What? It didn't totally relax? Well, try it again. Still not? Ok. Not to worry. Just push it out as far as you can. Now try to relax it. What is the deal? Why is relaxing your belly kind of challenging? The solar plexus is the seat, so to speak, of our personal power and intuition. It turns out we have a "brain" in our bellies, complete with neurons and neuro-choemicals. 95% of the

I have been working with Emotional Intelligence (EI)* for many years. During my 3 decades as a sales executive I found it to be an invaluable asset, and more recently, in my role as a business and life coach, I have encouraged my clients to harness its huge potential.

Hope, being the flickering light that gleams and brightens the dimmest paths, permitting to grasp at dreams, wholeheartedly, even when circumstances seem to alienate all positive outcome probabilities. You’ve known, I’m sure, people who have made it beyond their dreams. What makes them different? Sure, you will see incredible perseverance, profound belief, skillful manifestations, outstanding courage but, the inner light of hope that propels through adversity is only ignited when resilience is present. Resilience leads to triumph.

Every human being has the right to be happy. Every person is born with that right. We can be - and are - as happy as we will allow. And yet when we look around us, we see so many people who claim no happiness at all. Or if they do, it seems so fleeting; so elusive. Being happy and content ...

Best Resources on Emotional Intelligence So much has been written about emotional intelligence over the years. For many self help gurus, this is the key to living a more happy and fulfilled life. The definition of emotional intelligence varies depending on who you ask, but most agree that it is the ability to control one’s emotions despite our external influences. This sounds simple in thought, but in fact it is something that most people struggle with. Even those that woul

Sometimes, against all odds, life continues. At other times, it stops with no previous warning. Baffling, to say the least! What does that tell us? Well, I see it as a call to action. If you live, you must do. Do what? That depends on what is meaningful to you. I know one thing for sure, if you stop doing whatever matters to you, you will soon cease to exist in one way or another.

In the mid 90's, with the advent of Daniel Goleman's best-selling book, the concept of Emotional Intelligence gained popularity. Emotional Intelligence presented a new means to understand and improve people's performance because it could be applied to a wide variety of organizational development areas. While many businesses followed the approach of assessing their people's Emotional Intelligence, this did not guarantee the development of skill. In addition, without a means to measure impact, it was difficult to prove the worth of a training or development program aimed at improving skill.r

Everyone knows that high IQ is no guarantee of success, happiness, or virtue, but until Emotional Intelligence, we could only guess why. Daniel Goleman's brilliant report from the frontiers of psychology and neuroscience offers startling new insight into our "two minds"—the rational and the emotional—and how they together shape our destiny.

Once I was walking outside on a beautiful sunny day, I had stopped to chat with my horses and was walking towards the open field, when my dog came charging joyfully. It felt precisely like a locomotive ramming into my legs at full speed, sending me flying up in the air. Landing on my back, banging my head, I screamed <You stupid, stupid, stupid dog>, as the pain shot through my back and stars swirled around my head.

Most Americans get really excited about the Fourth of July. This date is all about American independence. Unfortunately, when most citizens discuss their finances, independence is probably not the first word that comes to mind. With a bit of work and planning, however, it is possible to increase the level of independence in your life. Here are four ways that you can gain some freedom. Pay Off Debt An ancient proverb states that the borrower is a slave to the lender. This coul

What makes you happy ? Truly, genuinely and authentically happy? Is this state of happiness easily reproduced every day or just sometimes? You can be in a state of happiness everyday if you would like to be. Your overall state of happiness is based upon how you perceive your past, present, and future. What does that mean? Here's an example: • Your Past: Regardless of what’s happened in your life do you think about you past with calmness, serenity and acceptance? Or do you all

While self pity ranks as one of the most effective tools of a child in coping with the rigors of life, as a grown-up self pity becomes the glue that holds our problems together. It lulls us to sleep as it gently persuades us that we really aren't responsible for our life and the problems in it. ...

If you're a happy loving person then it's easy to tell someone else - "Just be happy. Just love yourself. Go ahead. Do it!" But if you're really hurting, or depressed - if you're at the 'low end' of the emotional scale - it's probably just going to increase the hurt or the anger or the ...

In our effort to balance very full and hectic lives with our families and our jobs, we may have been neglecting an all-important facet of our child’s life: their emotional well-being. The first three years of a child’s life is a critical time for a child, and the trauma of changing child care providers or having a ‘part-time’ parent float in and out of their life can be very traumatic and destabilizing for them. It’s imperative that parents, educ

Copyright 2011 Healthy relationships can become dysfunctional if they prohibit one from "marching to the beat of a different drum," the one uniquely designed for only one set of ears. Peer pressure is an intangible force leading to either positive or negative outcomes, depending on how it is used. Cory Doctorow notes, "the accolades of your peers is very exciting always." However excessive attention to the opinion of others can inhibit a person from risk-taking that could le

Emotions are one way the body tells us “all is well” or “pay attention, there’s a problem here.” So all feelings serve a function – they keep us on track. However, people tend to desire the “good” feelings and avoid the “bad” feelings. We all want more love, joy, enthusiasm, happiness and relaxation. But sadness, anger, anxiety, fear and jealousy… well, we avoid them at all costs. Unfortunately, when we spend energy avoiding the “bad” feelings – an

You know the best thing I got going for myself? Deep down inside, where it really counts, I love and accept myself. I'm at peace with who I am. Not totally. But enough. I am my own best friend. Who's your best friend? For some, it's the Marlboro Man. Or Mr. Jim Beam. Or the U.S. Sugar ...

Goleman showed that the benefits of developing Emotional Intelligence skills are quantifiable.(1) This true story illustrates the impact on the bottom line. Joe's Story Joe (not his real name) is the director of engineering for a company that invents methods to improve oil extraction and ...

Top 5 Lessons To Teach Our Children With so many parents relying on TV to teach their kids about life, your child is at risk of growing up in a world where straight teeth are more important than the words that pass them. Here's five life lessons that aren't covered on sitcoms and cartoons. 1. Life isn't fair, it's about being fair This is the toughest life lesson for some children to learn. It's about understanding that sometimes things won't go your way but you must rise

Think back to the last time someone made you angry. Maybe it was earlier today, or yesterday. Or a few days back. It probably wasn't that long ago. What did they say? What did they do? Remember the circumstances? Get the image in mind. Now, think back to what you DID about the ...

How do you guarantee that your waking moments, your days, are successful, joyful, effortless, and deliver the results of your desires? There is a way to accomplish this. It is a simple way but it requires a few steps that may be very different from your current habits. However, with willingness to practice every one of these steps, you will soon replace your old habits with this new way. The following steps are adopted from A Course in Miracles. Step 1: The Day You Wish To

Wasting precious time when undecided may undermine your self-confidence considerably. As you will know when your self-confidence deteriorates you dwell in uncertainty. This feeling of uncertainty tints your every move and lets off an air of ambivalence which is far from becoming. Security is based on certainty. Uncertainty breeds insecurity which is also very destabilizing. In indecision, we have uncertainty.

The technology era has been gaining pace at a galloping speed and have been finding ways to make life easier all the time. And it seems finding Internet could have been the best of the innovations that ever changed the life of man on earth. Internet has made life a lot easier for the human society as it has brought the world to its doorsteps with the click of a button. Almost everything and anything that has a presence on the earth surface has found its way on the Internet to

Its stating the obvious but our bodies respond physically to how we think and feel. This is the 1st article in a series of 4 describing how emotions impact health and how we can use this fact to improve our wellbeing. The wellbeing of our physical, mental and emotional states is inextricably linked. And different emotions and feelings can cause us to have a totally different outlook on a situation. Being in a happier state can help us deal with things better and feeling stres

In many organizations, bad managers are rampant. A bad manager can be defined as someone who works solely based on their own emotions and has great problems with employees who often need a more logical, unemotional, and objective leader. They come in all shapes and sizes. These bad traits can be corrected through the proper and consistent application of management skills. Sometimes these bad traits are signs that can help us learn where we are on the path, and change course if we need too. You'll find that most bad managers have the following character traits.

By enhancing the Emotional Intelligence (EI) of its employees, an organization can successfully leverage two key trends identified in Patricia Aburdene’s Megatrends 2010: "The Wave of Conscious Solutions" and "Spirituality in Business." As we enter this new era welcoming the widespread ...

Anxiety is a mystery. So misunderstood. So frightening. So unwanted. Nobody knows why it comes. And nobody knows why it doesn't leave. Nobody knows... or so it seems. You can read tons of information about anxiety, and still not have a clue about its true nature. Anxiety is a ...

“Expect nothing, live frugally on surprise.” &#8211;Alice WalkernnI’ve recently become aware of how I can shape my own emotional states through managing my expectations. I’m finding that if I say or do something with the expectation that it will have a positive result (like someone will be pleased or impressed), most of the time the reaction I get falls short of the expectation, and I feel disappointment. On the other hand, if I have a negative expecta

These organisations have invested resources in acquiring the finest of profitable assets - the employees. They also have a plan in place that supports the maintenance of those assets. One way to maintain high Emotional Intelligence for employees is to train Human Resource (HR) Managers and other proper staff in Cognitive Behavioural Coaching (CBC). Cognitive Behavioural Coaching is the practice of thinking about beliefs and considering how they relate to and influence actions

I was taught most of the fundamentals about life by my Father and therefore learnt to think like a boy. It certainly has served me well in many aspects however I believe that I learnt to copy the social behaviour of men and never really got to know how to appreciate the intrigue of being a woman. I spent most of my free time with my Dad at sports clubs and pubs and was able to interact with people much older than myself. Another thing that has stood me in good stead.

EQ or Emotional Intelligence isn’t really new—the Time Life cover shown dates back to the early 90′s. The subject continues to gain attention as more companies (and individuals) look for a competitive edge. In this post I’ll attempt to demystify the concept of EQ and offer some guidelines on how to increase your personal EQ. The basics of EQ are simple and straight forward, yet by and large, the concept is misunderstood at best and viewed as a “soft” skill at wors

What do you mean, fire the client? It seems hard enough to find a client – now you want to fire them? However many people take on just any client because they think that they must - to stay in business. But not every client is the right client. How can there be a wrong client? A good business provides win-win opportunities for both the provider and the client. Each of the participants must feel that they have benefited from the experience whether it be a sale of a product o

FORMING A BUSINESS ASSOCIATION OR JOINT VENTURE South Africa has some wonderful inspirational individuals who are successful in assisting you in developing yourself, your career and your financial status. The sphere of Personal Development is increasingly under the spotlight as people realise that attitude comes from within.

Is the whole notion of reality creation valid? I recently heard a some-what famous and successful person on the internet mention that the whole idea of The Secret was nonsense. He also went on to say that positive thinking was nonsense. And he topped it all off by saying that if it worked - ...

According to the Harvard Business Review (Feb, 2007), self-awareness has just been recognized as the most important capability for leaders to develop. I would add that this is a quality that is beneficial for anyone to develop. After all, we are all leaders somewhere in our lives aren’t we? Emotions can play an important role in our careers, education, at home, in our community, and in all our relationships. nnEver find that you get upset easily or fairly regularly? Maybe y

Horseback riding is an art. Sure, in a Gymkhana, its a rather intense activity which blends speed and skill. As one, your horse and you swivel and swerve through obstacles while precious seconds go by. When jumping an obstacle course, timing and synchronization permit you to glide through the air, almost flying as you take off and land. Your skill and experience protects you from banal errors and injuries.

Emotional intelligence is your ability, either innate or learned, to acquire and apply knowledge from your emotions and the emotions of others. Using this information, you can make better decisions about what to say or do (or not say or do) in any given situation. The Emotional Intelligence ...

He came out of the night, appearing suddenly in my headlights, a big, golden dog, panting, his front paws tapping the ground in an anxious little dance. Behind him, tall cottonwoods in their April bloom. Behind the grove, the San Juan River, moving quickly, dark and swollen with spring melt.nnIt was nearly midnight, and we were looking for a place to throw down our sleeping bags before starting our river trip in the morning. Next to me in the cab of the pickup sat Benj Sincla

I recently received an email from a colleague who I haven't heard from in years. He reminded me that in the mid 80's I shared with him my model of factors affecting performance. He asked for another copy as he had given his last copy away to a corporate trainer while on a flight. After searching ...

You often hear the phrases - anxiety attack and panic attack - used interchangeably. Which would be okay, if the goal is to NOT understand anxiety and panic. Just bundle them up together. Keep them a mystery. Keep them 'out there' somewhere. Nebulous and undefined. In other words, if ...

Excerpts from The Sedona Method: Special Preview TeleseminarnnDavid Ellzey, professional life and business coach, hosted a recent teleseminar for Joy and Success International in which he shared some of the secrets of the Sedona Method. The Sedona Method has been used by over 1/3 of the teachers featured in the best selling movie, The Secret, and has had a timeless effect on those that have embraced its principles and put them into daily practice. nnTHE SEDONA DIFFERENCE nnOn

Here's how I used to feel: Something's not right. I'm miserable too much of the time. I barely know happiness. I feel 'down'. My heart aches. When will I feel better? I didn't start out this way. Although it often seems like it. I can vaguely remember moments of childhood glee. Life ...

I'll never forget the time I finally learned to ride my little red Western Flyer bicycle without the training wheels. I really didn't want to take them off, but my dad felt I was ready. So off they came. Wouldn't you know it? He was right. And it felt wonderful! I was free - free as the ...

"One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power.” Anthony Robbins Shine your torch well. Our focus is like a torch light that we can choose to shine on the muck or magnificence of our life. Our mind takes in two million pieces of information each moment and process only 134 pieces. The 134 pieces chosen depends largely on what we focus on, which affects our thoughts. Our thoughts affect our attitudes, and o

Everybody wants fulfillment. Filled by what, we don't know. We just know hollowness and emptiness hurt. We want to be filled. And so we go looking out in the world. Looking for the person or the thing that will satisfy that unending longing we feel inside. We can spend our whole lifetime ...

When any event happens - when ANYthing happens in your personal reality, it brings up thoughts and feelings. A certain amount of thought; a certain amount of feeling. Together, those thoughts and feelings possess a certain amount of VOLUME. Someone makes an insulting statement to you... ...

In an episode of the classic television series The Twilight Zone, a gangster dies and is greeted by a man in white who introduces him to life in the hereafter by giving the guy absolutely everything he wants. Beautiful women, fabulous food, money, whatever. He asks for crap games and he cannot lose. The drop-dead gorgeous women never turn him down. Everything is what he wants, as much as he wants—no limits, no problem. He tells the white-tuxedoed man he is unhappy. The women

If you want more courage, one way is to cultivate your soul. Your soul. Many people seem to have lost theirs. Others don't even believe they have one. Most people don't have a clue about their soul; as indicated by the sorry state of affairs society functions out of. I've even heard people ...

In an intensely competitive and, occasionally, unforgiving business environment, it has never been more important to maximise our efficiency so ensuring we maintain pace with the demands the world appears to impose upon us. As a useful tool to aid our own time management and productivity many of us use ‘To Do lists'. In a recent conversation, however, I was reminded of the pitfalls that can come when these lists are allowed to manage us - instead of vice versa.

Time Management - Can this be done? Time is a constant, you cannot store it, save it, delay it, control it, so how can you manage it? Ask yourself this question if you had more time what would you do? The clue is in the question. What would you do? Time is Energy, i.e. we will find it when ...

Are you aware that your company could be harboring a virus, potentially costing you millions of dollars annually? Negative emotions can be like a stealth virus that drains both financial and human resources from your company. And unless you've safeguarded everyone by developing their emotional ...

Price is what you do or give in order to acquire another thing. Virtually, everything in life has a price, nothing is for free. I what to use this ample opportunities to clearly state that even the air we breathe is not for free. The energy you dissipate to free the system is the price you pay for it (energy). Now I understand the reaso David said in 2 Samuel 24:24 “I will not give to my God that which cost me nothing”. Success prohibits all forms of bargaining. Price are usu

It sounds like an oxymoron, doesn't it? I mean, "emotional intelligence"? Aren't emotion and intellect two very different things? Not anymore, at least according to Dr. Relly Nadler, author of The Leader's Playbook: How to Apply Emotional Intelligence. Dr. Nadler explains Emotional Intelligence , or EQ , thusly: "Emotional Intelligence can be described as an ability or skill to understand and manage yourself and your emotions and understand and manage others and their emotion

“There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you, we are meant to shine, as children do.” Marianne Williamsonr

When you are not able to control your anger, it controls you. It can get destructive both for you and for others. A little bit of self-awareness and deliberate attention will go a long way. Because as you give in to anger, you are giving away your true strength. In this article, I will be sharing 10 tips on managing anger – techniques on how to control your temper and cultivate peaceful responses to challenges and difficulties, be it people or situations in your everyday li

Computers these days are pretty much capable of anything, well almost anything. They can store music, home videos, and photographs; treasured possessions, the like of which can take a lifetime to acquire. It provides a medium for mass communication across cities and even continents, whilst hosting a never-ending amount of games to occupy oneself with in times of boredom. Whilst not particularly cheap to buy, the prices of computers are gradually coming down as they become mor

Obviously, those who live and drive in Europe are probably quite familiar with speed Cameras (blitzers) used by the police to catch speeders. Most of the countries in Europe are incorporating their roads with traffic monitoring systems. Those locations that are particularly subject to accidents have speedcams (blitzer) specifically to catch speed offenders, to call them to account, and thereby to teach them a lesson. This definitely helps reduce the number of accidents. Howev

Two Types of Self-Awareness and Tips to Be More Self-AwarernBy Kara McDuffee The benefits of self-awareness are endless. Studies have proven that self-awareness leads to more success, stronger relationships, and better decision-making. Being self-aware also allows us to manage our emotions better, achieving a more positive mood overall. Being self-aware is crucial for life success and happiness. Unfortunately, many of us don’t understand what self-awareness fully encompasse

“Good morning, this is God. I will be handling all of your problems today. I will not need your help, so have a good time. I love you. ~God” Today I want to share with you three ways to help you to turn around worry. I talked yesterday with a dear friend about how we deal with fear. Some people go into overwhelm, some give up, and some escape in different ways. Do you recognize yourself in any of those responses? Or maybe you’re like me; I go into concern and worry mode

What is seen outside is 15% - 10% (appearance). What’s really happening inside is 85% - 90% (emotions). Emotion is like gravity. You know it's there. You know it exists but how do you define it? It is always experienced by the people.nnEmotional intelligence -“Is a term used to describe the various competencies that are essential for building, developing and managing relationships” (Peters, 2008, p.13). Emotional intelligence consists of two dimensions; intrapersonal in

　　Harry and Jessica had married for 10 years . They had no children .They loved eachother despite their frequent quarrels .One day Jessica was talking with the neighbour Sara . There was a diamond ring on Sara’s finger . Jessica said : “When do you buy this diamond ring ? I have never seen it before .” Sara gloated to Jessica that her husband bought it for her . Jessica was so jealous and she said : “ Since Harry and I have got married , Harry seldom buys me a gif

I grew up hearing that “no question was stupid” or “the question NOT asked was an opportunity missed”. I heard it all the way through school and college and even through graduate school. It was no surprise when I heard these same words echo out of my mouth to my own two little girls. I know now that when a parent says it to a child it is actually two pronged. One being, if you hear the question, you know more about what they are thinking. And second, one question lead

In the Part One of this blog I discussed the problems that can be posed by attitudes to ‘To Do lists’, especially in the workplace, when people find themselves labouring under the burden of excessive stress. We looked at the possible adverse reactions and counter productive effects that the spectre of increasingly overloaded ‘To Do lists’ can have. In this second part I wish to offer some thoughts intended to break the cycle of negative thinking surrounding 'To Do' lists, and help to overcome the inertia caused when the effects of stress begin to dominate the working day.

Season 2 has arrived, which means that now is the perfect time to see what kind of meta builds and weapons are the best-performing in the current season. Coming up next, LFcarry’s guide on top-tier Season 2 guns and why you need to add these titles to your collection right now. Top 4 Call of Duty Cold War Weapons from Season 2 Searching for a nice SMG that would allow you to stretch out your fights into longer ranges? Or, maybe, you are in search of a new sniper rifle y

Are we becoming a society of angry people? Most days my answer would be a resounding “yes!” Between shouting matches at school sports events, road rage, hateful comments via social media, and other popular displays of aggression, it seems that we are allowing our anger and frustration to rule us more and more each day. The good news is that we are capable of changing for the better. We may never be able to fully prevent ourselves from feeling angry, but we can increase ou

In Jack Welch’s autobiography we see his contribution to the performance management culture that is the norm today. By applying the 20/70/10 principle, below average performers were removed and the high performers or stars were identified, rewarded and fast tracked. By continuously raising the bar on performance any slack or margin was brought to the fore and eliminated. rn rnIt is imperative to remain competitive by improving efficiency through constantly improving technol

I have no doubt whatever that most people live, whether physically, intellectually or morally, in a very restricted circle of their potential being. They make use of a very small portion of their possible consciousness…much like a man who, out of his whole bodily organism, should get into the habit of using and moving only his little finger…We all have reservoirs of life to draw upon, of which we do not dream! - William James nnnPeople often wonder, what emotions has got

We all most likely are all aware folks, both at work or perhaps in your own lives, who are great audience members. No matter what kind of scenario we're within, these people constantly have knowledge of precisely what to say : and the way to state that : so that we aren't offended or even annoyed. They may be caring as well as polite, as well as if we don't find a solution to your issue, we generally abandon feeling more hopeful and also upbeat. All of us most likely also und

There are times in our spiritual journey when we find ourselves grappling with the most intense inner conflicts. Rather than confront them, we would sometimes prefer to hide under the covers. We can try to deny that there’s an issue waiting to be addressed, or pray to be rescued, but deep down we know that we’ll have to choose. We can soften the strain by remembering that our power to choose is a gift, and we can be grateful. These difficult junctures aren’t always appa

Artificial Intelligence technology is spreading rapidly, embracing new areas, including retail. According to the research by Research&Markets, in 3 years, retailers' expenses on AI solutions will amount to $ 5 billion, and in 15 years their use will lead to a 60% increase in profitability. In today's world, retail businesses are constantly working in a multitasking mode and solving many issues: they need to attract new and new customers and satisfy all their needs and demands

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You may envy those people that just seem to be confident no matter the situation. Building your self-confidence and self-esteem is something that can help you to transform your mindset. Here are some of the techniques that you can practice in order to become more confident. Avoid Negative Thinking That little voice in your head that tells you that you aren't good enough is just your self-doubt creeping into the equation. You can master that voice by painting a picture of your

Managing people is not an easy task mainly because every person has a different personality. A manager is expected to be able to motivate his subordinates to perform within the standards of the company. He should be flexible enough to deal with different people, and assertive enough to get the employees to do their jobs well. Managing people is already stressful to begin with; how much more if you encounter a difficult employee? In managing difficult people, make their tasks

Travel lightly my friends. Give up your unconscious pain and habits;nthey weigh you down. Accept your birthright to be joyous and free.n—AnonymousnnWhen was the last time you flew on a plane? Have you noticed that the weight limits for baggage have been significantly lowered? I discovered this at the airport recently when taking an international flight. At first it bothered me as I am a person that likes to have as much of my stuff as close to me as possible. Then I discove

If you want to be a man that everyone respects, there are certain criteria’s that you have to meet. In this article I will explain to you what is needed in order to be a man that people respect. To be a man you need confidence Confidence is a very manly trait and if you want to be a true man you need it. Confidence is like an acquired taste so it’s best to fake it until you make it. The best way to achieve it is by going out and working on it. Make a goal to do 5 things a