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When anger is repressed, it is accompanied by self destructive thoughts and a feeling of dissatisfaction. The loss of self esteem is of central importance to those suffering from depression (repressed anger can lead to depression). Boys are taught to release their anger and girls are taught it is the social norm to con
Do you call your anger by another name, perhaps, upset, frustration, worry? We can associate anger issues with men, we can see the aggression and although women are capable of being physically aggressive too, it seems that we focus this rage inward. Anger is a valid emotion and failing to express it or find a release f
You may have found ways over the years to reduce your anxiety but the shyness and avoidance tendencies remained. So in reality you feel like you have not made any progress. In essence, you are dealing with three separate entities – shyness, anxiety and behaviours and each needs its own management system. The confiden
To stop blushing with hypnosis, it is necessary to re-programme your thoughts associated with blushing. Using hypnosis you are accessing your subconscious, quickly and easily, and it is your subconscious mind that controls all your responses. For those who are time poor, suggestion therapy is ideal. You feel the benefi
Halloween conjures up our fears and phobias. Have you noticed how eerie it can be at night - a "lonely" night or a night that would be ideal for a horror movie! Have you noticed how the best horror movies feast on your imagination, it's so dark you can't see anything but the music and atmosphere it creates, for example
Is it more of an effort to keep the facade of being calm and in control at work while the anger fumes inside you? France has introduced legislation to criminalise shouting and applies to both men and woman and to co-habiting couples as well as married couples. If you spend your day at work with the outward look of bein
If you have experienced miscarriage, you know that feeling that keeps nagging you - what did I do wrong? Why did my baby have to die inside me? Unfortunately, there is no reason and yet we upset ourselves, looking for the one alcoholic drink we had before we knew we were pregnant or if life had not been so stressful, m
When you blush is your immediate reaction to say to yourself – “don’t blush” – with the immediate effect of even more blushing! Help is at hand. Hypnosis works by teaching you how to re-direct the blood from you face to a less obvious part of your body (leg, hand). What? I hear you scream – is that it? Well
What woman doesn’t dream of her baby being born into a calm, relaxed environment? This dream can be a reality using hypnosis for childbirth. You can achieve the birth you want for you baby by using the power of your own mind to control the pain so it is manageable for you as you work with your body to deliver the baby.
Stress and infertility, infertility and stress. It's a vicious circle and can be difficult to over-ride. So we know that stress can play a part in the inability to achieve pregnancy and there may be no medical reason why you and your partner cannot conceive, each month that your period arrives compounds the stress. It
You know the feeling you get, perhaps it’s a “butterfly” twitch in your tummy or a heaviness in your chest, the feeling that your mind and body are undergoing the “fright, flight or freeze” phenomenon of the stress cycle. The anxiety grows, the uneasiness grows and grows. You feel your words are beginning to
Fear is good. Fear prompts the body into reaction when there is no time to think, your mind and body react appropriately to the given stressor. The problem arises when anxiety attaches to the “fear” and what is anxiety – it is the anticipatory thoughts of “what if” and this fuels the fear. When fear and anxie
It’s holiday time again. Do you feel panic and fear – oh no, holiday time? If you suffer from aviophobia or fear of flying you really do feel miserable. Every year are you forced to bear the anxiety of packing a bag for the sake of a family holiday or are you left behind while your family jets off to the sun? Perhaps y
Weight, weight loss, diet books, diet fads – you have been on diets, off diets, this is the “forever diet”, you say, only to grow tired at its strictness. It has become an obsession. Lose weight and then regain what you have lost along with a few extra pounds. What do diets actually do – they make you think of food all
It appears that the various weight loss companies who previously encouraged calorie counting and their own brand of food are now realising the eating is all in the head and are offering various ways to deal with “emotional eating”. Hypnotherapy for weight loss has always gone for the fact that the way we eat is a h