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- Are You Placing Your Child in Danger? - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2003 from LINDA ALEXANDERMore than ever before it has become absolutely crucial for people to pay attention to their surroundings and the people they meet. There are now hundreds of organizations and websites dedicated to the safety and welfare of young children and yet, children are being abducted every single ...
Views: 1301(1 vote) - Dangers of Digital Dating - by Submitted on Oct 15, 2003 from LINDA ALEXANDERAs we enter the new millennium the Internet is evolving into a major meeting ground, one that affords us access to people all over the world and draws us daily into online relationships with individuals we have not yet met. An increasing number of people are using the Internet to meet and get ...
Views: 1526(1 vote) - Is Your Baby or Toddler Introverted? - by Submitted on Oct 10, 2003 from Nancy FennYou can tell for sure. Introverted babies and toddlers move away from lights, noise, motion and people. Extroverted babies move toward them. If your baby moves away from people, it doesn't mean your little one is going to be unsociable, it just means he or she is going to be an ...
Views: 10735(1 vote) - TO LOVE OR NOT TO LOVE - by When I was a child, and living in Portugal, my father took me to see a movie about the life of Jesus Christ. Sometime, during the movie, I started to think that I did not like those bad guys. I realized that they were going to hurt Jesus. So, I start to yell.
"Run away, Jesus. Run! Run!" I ...
Views: 1399(1 vote) - Haunted: Burying The Ghosts of Lost Love - by Submitted on Oct 04, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanLate at night, as you read quietly, before you fall off to sleep... During a busy afternoon as you run through a crowd, hurrying back to your office or home.... Sitting in a movie theater, a restaurant or waiting for the light to turn... A sudden thought or image rises within you. It can ...
Views: 1717(1 vote) - Breaking the Cycle of Unhealthy Relationships - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2003 from Kevin SkinnerRepeats are nice if you are the Los Angeles Lakers or Lance Armstrong, but when it comes to unhealthy relationships, forget it. Nobody wants to repeat the same mistakes over and over. However, when it comes to relationships, far too many people marry for the second or third or fourth time and ...
Views: 12753(3 votes) - What's Your Dating and Relationship IQ - by Submitted on Oct 02, 2003 from Kevin SkinnerIntelligence comes in many forms. In spite of this, however, our society focuses almost exclusively on academic intelligence. Think about it. When is the last time someone said, “John has really high relationship intelligence. He has a skill for listening and understanding people. He must have a ...
Views: 1974(1 vote) - Create a Legacy - The Parent Plan - by Submitted on Sep 29, 2003 from Derek RandelImagine the following three scenarios… Ron and Judy love their 26-year-old son Jim. Unfortunately, whenever Jim calls his parents they cringe. Will he ask for more money asks Judy? Ron replies, “What do you mean if, the question is how much this time?” Linda visits her mother. Linda would ...
Views: 1264(1 vote) - Which One is the Introvert? - by Submitted on Sep 24, 2003 from Nancy Fenn[graphic from www.clipart.com]"I asked these three adorable little guys here to model for me about introversion. 30% of the people in the world are introverts. 33 1/3% of the people in this photo are introverts. Introversion is a legitimate personality style. Are you wondering what it means to ...
Views: 6097(1 vote) - Sweet as Pie: A Doula Role In the Birthing Process - by Submitted on Sep 23, 2003 from Giuditta TornettaIf you have not heard the term Doula yet, you are bound to soon. Doulas are sprouting up all over the country and many mothers refer to them as the women who have made their birthing experience a ‘dreamy’ one. What is a Doula, anyway? A Doula is a trained birth coach -- a surrogate mother ...
Views: 2202(1 vote) - Why a Dirty Car Can Cause Single Women Not Want to Date You - by Submitted on Sep 19, 2003 from Don DiebelListen up guys, I just can't stress to you enough how important it is to keep your car clean. Single women will judge you on how well your car looks on the inside and out. If your car is messy, dirty, and smells bad, it's going to make a bad impression on women. And...guess what happens when ...
Views: 4938(1 vote) - Hallowe'en BOO BOOs for Little Introverted Kids - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2003 from Nancy FennHallowe’en is right around the corner. All the kids are really excited, right? Wrong. Not all children are as happy about Hallowe’en as you’d think. Some of our more lavishly celebrated children’s holidays are planned with extroverted children in mind. What about the remaining 30% who are ...
Views: 1679(1 vote) - Telling Your Stories - by Submitted on Sep 18, 2003 from Mark BrandenburgI must admit to having a fear that I believe I share with many fathers. I fear that I will some day be insignificant to my children. It's not as though they'll completely forget who I am; it's that what I stand for and what I believe in won't be a significant part of their lives. Perhaps ...
Views: 2028(1 vote) - DO SCHOOL UNIFORMS MAKE A DIFFERENCE? - by Submitted on Sep 14, 2003 from Pauline WallinA few days ago I was talking with a friend about school uniforms. "Back in my day," she lamented, "we didn't have the problems in school that we have now. Kids respected authority. They didn't talk back. They had to do their homework, and if they didn't, there were consequences. There was ...
Views: 9591(1 vote) - Hooking Up vs Lasting Love: It's Your Decision - by Submitted on Sep 06, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) Coleman"hooking Up" "friends with benefits" "booty call" These terms have become all too familiar in today's dating world. Are they words that you can relate to? Have you lived them in some way? If so, how have you felt about the experience(s) both during and after? Chances are that you have mixed ...
Views: 3299(1 vote) - Let's Be Rational - by Submitted on Aug 31, 2003 from Jay KrunszyinskyAre you a rational or irrational thinker? You may want to believe you are a rational thinker, but you find that you are the eternal pessimist, able to see only the half-empty glass in many situations you face. You are a rational thinker if you turn negative situations into positive ones. You can ...
Views: 1611 - New Powers to Help You Perfect Your Relationships - by Submitted on Aug 27, 2003 from Guy FinleySince what others may do to us is not in our power to change, we need only concern ourselves with what we do to ourselves . . . for this is in our power. There is always a moment before a problem starts with another human being where we realize that what we want is not going to happen. ...
Views: 1431(1 vote) - Accepting Your Child's Mistakes - by Submitted on Aug 20, 2003 from Mark BrandenburgOne of the most difficult parts of being a father is learning to accept your children's mistakes. It's certainly easy to be loving, supportive, and helpful when your children are mistake-free, but most fathers who are paying attention don't find too many mistake-free periods of their children's ...
Views: 2304 - Oppositional Defiant Disorder - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2003 from Robert SterlingOppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) is a common mental disorder seen in childhood and adolescence. The incident of ODD is, on the average, about 10% but fluctuates from study to study depending on the population and the methodology used to determine the diagnosis. ODD is seen more often in ...
Views: 4960(2 votes) - Zen And The Art Of Falling In Love - by Submitted on Aug 06, 2003 from Brenda Shoshanna(Practical Zen Steps To Falling In Love) Brenda Shoshanna, Ph.D. "We never ask the meaning of life When we are in love." Bhagwan Osho We are meant to live a life of love. When we're not in love, something's the matter. However, no matter how successful some are in other ...
Views: 5126(1 vote) - What Everyone Needs to Know about Extramarital Affairs...and what you can do to help - by Submitted on Aug 04, 2003 from Dr. Bob HuizengaRecent statistics suggest that 40% of women (and that number is increasing) and 60% of men at one point indulge in an affair. Put those numbers together and it is estimated that 80% of the marriages will have one spouse at one point or another involved in an affair. That may seem like a very ...
Views: 6260(1 vote) - Women and "Bad Boys": What Is The Attraction? - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) Coleman"Bad Boys". If you're a woman, you may be saying "hmmm" as you hear these words. You know you shouldn't, but you just can't help yourself. There is just SOMETHING about these guys that draws you in, even as your head tells you to "beware"! So, what exactly is the attraction? It's not ...
Views: 1546(1 vote) - 5 THINGS YOU SHOULDN’T DO IF HE’S CHEATING ON YOU - by Submitted on Aug 03, 2003 from Ruth HoustonThis may be the most important article you’ll read about dealing with your husband’s affair. There’s plenty of information available on what to do if your husband is cheating. But very little has been written about the things you shouldn’t do. Your husband is cheating. You’re not sure what ...
Views: 6084(1 vote) - The Pressure of Their World - by Submitted on Aug 01, 2003 from Nancy FennFaith Burgess is a bright and charming stay-at-home mom. She has a toddler, Joshua. Faith is an introvert and so is her three year old son. I asked Faith to try and put into words what it was like to be an introvert so I could help get the idea across to my readers. This is the story she told ...
Views: 1752(1 vote) - She Just Does What is in Her Heart... - by Submitted on Jul 31, 2003 from Robyn SpeedPeople who touch your life, are those who are loving, kind, caring. They lift your day, they make you feel appreciated. What is it about these people that is so special? They are loving, kind, caring. They treat other people well. They do not claim to be great teachers nor do they claim to be ...
Views: 1762(1 vote) - Teach your child about money - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2003 from Sandra Baptist -What are we teaching our children about money? Hopefully something! I remember when I was growing up, our family did not discuss money. Money was a taboo subject, discussed by the parents and handled by the father. This is one thing that I wish that was discussed more openly when I was ...
Views: 1696(1 vote) - Men and Relationships - by Submitted on Jul 22, 2003 from Ray Kadkhodaian,CAC,LCPC,CADC,PsyD & Jean Kadkhodaian,MA,CH,Rev.The two words, "men" and "relationships", often are not mentioned in the same sentence without a "punch line" following them. In addition, men are often stereotyped as being "insensitive" or "uncaring" when it comes to the needs of their partner. It has been my experience in coaching men that ...
Views: 2461(1 vote) - Developing Your Child's Emotional Intelligence-excerpt - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2003 from margaret AltmanOur ten steps contain the 10 vital capacities that lead to self-control Yes, self control; a basic and vital human capacity. We have found that self-control is the foundation of emotional intelligence. These 10 steps will lead you and your child to this empowering ability. Emotional ...
Views: 2225(1 vote) - The Naked Truth About Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Jul 19, 2003 from margaret AltmanThe Naked Truth about Emotional Intelligence By Margaret Altman Nancy came to work the other day in a pretty good mood. It ended when her boss suddenly threw a fit over a simple typo in the first draft of a letter that he had dictated Red-faced and irate her boss flung the letter on her desk ...
Views: 1889(1 vote) - SCHOOL SHOPPING: Less is better for your wallet and your kids - by Submitted on Jul 17, 2003 from Pauline WallinYou have permission to publish this article electronically or in print, free of charge, as long as the bylines are included and the article is published in its entirety. A courtesy copy of your publication would be appreciated. Send it to mailto:drwallin@drwallin.com SCHOOL SHOPPING: Less is ...
Views: 1734(1 vote) - How to Plan a *Super* Family Reunion - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2003 from Susan DunnMy years in public relations taught me a lot about setting up successful events – and that’s what you family reunion can be. Here are some tips. 1. You take the lead. Maybe your family’s never had a family reunion. Probably they’d all like it, but someone has to get the ball rolling. It ...
Views: 1399(1 vote) - Loved Real - by Submitted on Jul 08, 2003 from Nancy Fenn“There was once a velveteen rabbit, and in the beginning he was really splendid.” There is a classic children’s book called “The Velveteen Rabbit” that beautifully describes the rich inner world of introverted children. The velveteen rabbit wants to become real but he doesn’t know how. ...
Views: 2496(1 vote) - Please Put Me Back Where You Found Me - by Submitted on Jul 07, 2003 from Nancy FennParents who have introverted children wonder how to help them build a positive self image. We understand today that Introversion is a legitimate personality type. But not too long ago, introverts were labeled as “neurotic” or “loners”. Introverted children can be misunderstood at school and ...
Views: 1885(1 vote) - The Naked Truth About Emotional Intelligence - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2003 from margaret AltmanNancy came to work the other day in a pretty good mood. It ended when her boss suddenly threw a fit over a simple typo in the first draft of a letter that he had dictated. Red-faced and irate, her boss flung the letter on her desk and said; “What kind of stupidity is this, Nancy? Do you have any ...
Views: 4158(1 vote) - Are You (or are you with) A "Commitment-Phobe"? - by Submitted on Jul 02, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanWe hear it all the time. "He just won't make a commitment." "She just wants some space right now." "I'm not sure if I'm ready for a serious relationship." What does having a fear of commitment really mean? Actually, it means basically what it says. For SOME reason you, or someone you are ...
Views: 2424(1 vote) - Are You An Island Girl? - by Submitted on Jan 29, 2010 from John KuypersElton John sang his famous song, Island Girl, in the 1970s, idolizing the women of sun, sand and surf. But there is another kind of Island Girl. These are women (and men) who share a common and often unspoken challenge: fear of intimacy. People who are afraid to let other people get too ...
Views: 3161(1 vote) - Comparing Increases Sibling Rivarly - by Submitted on Jun 30, 2003 from Marilyn SuttleOne child takes off his boots at the back door. The other, leaves a trail of muddy water across the kitchen floor. At times like this, it is tempting to compare siblings; “Donna, look at the mess you made! Why can’t you be more like your brother? He knows better than to walk through the house ...
Views: 4813(1 vote) - THOSE WHO HAVE SUSTAINED MARRIAGE - by Submitted on Jun 29, 2003 from YAMIN MEMONThose who have sustained a successful marriage practice these qualities in their married life. I have listed some of their qualities below. Follow these tips and enjoy lasting married and family life. DO NOT SHARE YOUR PRESONAL PROBLEMS WITH OTHERS: There are a few exceptions to this rule, but ...
Views: 1407(1 vote) - So Your Child is an Introvert - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2003 from Nancy FennLet me ask you a question. Are you ashamed that your child is an introvert? An honest answer to this question is a positive step toward improving your relationship with your introverted child, now and forever. How can you support your child in finding his or her place in this world if you ...
Views: 11636(4 votes) - When Someone You Love Pushes Your Buttons... - by Submitted on Jun 27, 2003 from June CookNothing is more aggravating in relationships than having your buttons pushed by the one you love. It seems ironic that the one you love could make you so insane. But once the honeymoon period cools and real life sets in, we all take our partners off the pedestal and begin to notice their less ...
Views: 9841(1 vote) - Defining Moments: What Creates A Successful Life? - by Submitted on Jul 09, 2009 from John KuypersSome of us treat each moment as if it's a scarce commodity, trying to get as much crammed in as we can. Others among us casually toss away the moment, like so much excess fluff. As a former Type Adriven corporate executive, I began to search for meaning in my life ten years ago, when I was ...
Views: 6153(2 votes) - It's Okay if Things are a Little Different at Nana's - by Submitted on Jun 14, 2003 from Susan DunnMy granddaughter has great parents and also great grandparents, and we all do things differently. As parents, we love our children and also are responsible for emotional intelligence training and also character training! We want them to grow up to be responsible adults, contributing members ...
Views: 1353(1 vote) - Are You Relationship Ready? - by Submitted on Jun 03, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanSo, you want to fall in love? You are certainly old enough and moving well along your chosen career path. Many of your friends are either married or in committed relationships. You have grown weary of the singles scene and the solitary life. Therefore, you must be ready, right? Not ...
Views: 1483(1 vote) - Illusions and Delusions: Don’t let “reality” come between you and a happy relationship - by Some of the best marriages contain two people looking at each other through foggy glasses. And that’s a good thing.
We have some control over how we experience ourselves, our lovers, our world. Why not, then, choose a more positive version out of the many possibilities we can imagine? When ...
Views: 1217(1 vote) - LOOKING FOR LOVE? Love starts with you - by Submitted on May 22, 2003 from Marguerite TennierYes, I know. You've heard it before. You can't love someone and you can't accept true love in your life unless you love yourself first. It does not apply to you, you say. You already love yourself. Well, do you? Or do you secretly fear that you will not be loved the way you want because you ...
Views: 1721(1 vote) - "Plugging Up The Holes in Your Relationships..." - by Submitted on May 21, 2003 from Susie and Otto CollinsAre there any "holes" in your relationship? If you're like us--the answer is yes. In fact, in many relationships there are usually quite a few "holes." "Holes" are those things in your relationships and life that you may know are there but it's always a surprise when you fall into one. ...
Views: 1379(1 vote) - We should celebrate the diversity of children and adults - by Submitted on May 19, 2003 from Robyn SpeedYou know what really annoys me? The insistence that a child’s academic achievement is all that is important. A grades A grades A grades! I read an article last year that really stuck in my mind, and the gist of the article was ‘even though he only has his O levels he has still done well in ...
Views: 1619(1 vote) - SUMMERTIME AND THE LIVIN' IS EASY - by Submitted on May 19, 2003 from Kayla FaySummertime is supposed to be an easy time, evoking images of happy children with dirt necklaces, of lounging on the front porch with ice tea, of evenings soothed with fireflies and the lullabies of crickets and cicadas. In our society, this is about as close to reality as Brahms is to Ice T. Our ...
Views: 1811(1 vote) - Top 10 Ways to Find Your Soul Mate - by Submitted on May 17, 2003 from Linda LovejoySingles are constantly wondering where to find their soul mate. Below are some helpful hints in finding your true love. 1. Ask your friends to set you up with any of their single friends or acquaintances that meets your specifications. Your friends are a great resource. They know you ...
Views: 2574(1 vote) - Making The Connection: Tips For Getting Noticed - by Submitted on May 06, 2003 from Antoinette (Toni) ColemanChances are that you have had a wide variety of experiences in your quest for meeting singles. These can range from an event that yields several nice interactions and at least one offer to get together for a date, to going home feeling frustrated and convinced you are destined to be a dating ...
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