Attitude and Perspective Articles

As part of our relocation from Santa Monica to SF Bay Area, we took the boys on a road trip up the Pacific Coast. During our stay at Carmel-by-the-Sea, I sent the boys to the Monterey Aquarium and went on an 8-mile walking meditation/exploration along the shoreline… Are You “White-Knuckling” about the Wrong Things? Even though it’s peak tourist season, I managed to get off the beaten path and found a stretch of desolate beach with no one in sight (but a 4-bar LTE reception!!)

A few days after we moved into the new house, when the chores that kept us on our toes eased up, I had a moment to freak out. I didn’t know what to do with myself in this new place… I didn’t have a routine, and barely knew what is where. Work grinded to a halt – I could hardly focus. For a recovering Type-A overachiever, not getting stuff done can be nightmarish. FEARS and DOUBTS set in, and I started “white-knuckling” through my business and marketing activities. Forcing myself to sit at the computer and keep typing was doing more harm than good.

Are you a multi-talented, multi-passionate person who finds it hard to “commit” to doing “just one thing”? Sometimes I feel like a loser when I couldn’t just “stick with it” when something ceases to give me a deep sense of excitement and purpose. Some may call it ADD. Do you identify with being a “wanderlust” in life – not only having a desire to travel physically but also (and more importantly) to embark on a personal journey that involves experiencing all parts of SELF and all aspects of LIFE?

An absence of self-confidence is really a debilitating characteristic because it usually limits an individual in your options in life and jeopardizes your odds of success, which ends up in a self-fulfilling prediction. The following is an exercise to start to build self-confidence: Let’s imagine you've got a project you might be assigned to. Unfortunately, if you lack self-confidence and also you predict you won't be able to fulfill expectations. Any idea what will happen s

Your attitude has a significant affect upon the outcome of any of your actions. In fact having a bad attitude is almost a guarantee to make just about any aspect of your life more difficult than it may already be. In life attitude is everything since it will not only dictate the mood you are in it but also affects those around you. It is also true that any attempts you make to become successful at just about anything are greatly influenced by your frame of mind. Your mindset

Visiting someone can be a very healthy welcome wonder, for we may enjoy inspiring insights, facilitate new friends, enjoy edibles, convincing conversation, long laughs, delicious desserts, and overall, an enviable evening. It is, usually, a nice exciting evening! Of course, visiting relations(if one enjoys their relations), friends(not freaky ones), neighbors(if they are not nitwits), are events we all look forward to at almost any time, regardless of our age – for, whether w

Heredity: The passing of physical characteristics like the color of hair or eyes from one generation to the next. Kids in the family also pick up parents habits causing others to feel they and their parents look alike and act alike. Regardless of heredity, habits or what others thought in your childhood you are not your mother or father. Each child is a combination of both plus ancestors on either side. There are enough variables in the conception process to guarantee you are different.

Last week was another one of those weeks where I am amazed at how much I learn in such a short time and of course…I learn from my patients……. The first story is of a wonderful, full of life 96 year old woman. She had the most amazing sparkle in her eyes. She came to me in one of those scooters and could turn the thing on a dime. We had quite a discussion about life. She told me how frustrated she was with people her own age. (Keep in mind she is 96 years old!!) She complaine

Are you gaining on success or falling behind? I have heard many times that businesses are either going up or down. Never staying the same. We lose customers every year for one reason or another. They die, retire, move away, their brother in law becomes a competitor, you irritate them somehow. If you don’t have an ongoing program to gain new customers you are shrinking.

Who sits on your shoulder? An angel or a devil? This is the story of how I put an angel on my shoulder. As a younger man I was posed with this important question. Today, I now know the importance of always having an angel on my shoulder. I want to pass the lesson on to you today. In my early years, while still being very impressionable, my father gave me some words of inspiration. They have stuck with me to this day. Throughout the day, he said, my sister and I were always si

No matter what field you are in or whether your business has managed to stay prosperous despite the economic recession, your team members may experience fatigue and burnout. If your business has fallen on tough times and has faced downsizing, burnout will most likely surface in some form.rnThe National Center for Biotechnology Information (NCBI) studied how fatigue currently plagues the American workforce: the prevalence of fatigue in the US is as high as 37.9%, with 65.7% of

A couple of ways to manage fear is what this story is about. They came to me while I was on a white water rafting trip in Costa Rica with my son, Michael, and have been applicable on a number of occasions when I’ve been “stuck” because of fear. Here’s what happened. Michael had just graduated from college and it was an opportunity for a father and son bonding experience. One challenging thing about the experience for me was that when I was Michael’s age I had been t

Attitude can be defined as the way an individual looks at life. It is the outward reflection of what is taking place on the inside. It becomes his/her personality…it pervades their feelings and becomes their actions. Attitude is one of the most important aspects of life and a key to interpersonal relationships.rnThere are two types of relationships in animal (or human) life, symbiotic and parasitic. Symbiotic relationships are mutually beneficial. Both of the animals (or or

Technicolor Moments By Susan Bock 2010 Everyone’s life has superlative moments – times when we feel extraordinary and our experiences are recorded in Technicolor. Think back to when you were a child – everything was new, exciting, bigger than life. You could become so excited by something you could burst with energy and find impossible to stand still! Fast-forward to today. How many Technicolor moments do you have? When was the last time you were so excited you couldn’t st

A few years ago a friend invited me to play disc golf with a group of his disc golfing buddies. I like trying new things and I like throwing a Frisbee around in a park with friends, even though I am not very good at it. I accidentally learned about disc golfing many years prior. I thought I was being helpful by picking up a Frisbee in a public park for two guys who seemed to be playing together, only to find out that they were throwing their Frisbee towards a target instead o

Have you ever gotten a charlie horse in your leg? Ow. Or your foot? Ow. Well, that's kind of what happens when we say "no" to life. We all have different ways of saying "no" to life. We all have areas of our lives that we try to push away. And in the long run, it's kind of pointless, all that effort. Our life unfolds the way our life unfolds. At it's most fundamental, we have two options; saying yes to life, or saying no. Yes makes life easier, no makes it harder, like the cr

Consider this: 80% of all success is attitude and yet, very few people (a small percent of 5% of people on earth) can really define what attitude is - how it was formed, how it works, or how to go about changing it.nnYour attitude is about your mind. Attitude is about mind power. Attitude is about mindset and the mindset has got everything to do with your mind power. And that is why 90% of our mind power is there but we don’t even know it exists. My question is: if we donâ€

I cannot do everything! Indeed, right now I must simply do just a little bit at a time. I’m passionate. I WANT MORE. Yet I’ve learned to ACCEPT. Indeed, I’ve found my attitude and perspective of acceptance helps me move forward from wherever I am. Maybe not to where I want to be right now– but in that direction! So however slow, at least I’m go the right way. You see, recognizing that is important to me. Because realizing I’m going in the right direction lifts me up.

Hitting Some Out of the Park: The Excitement of Personal Home Runs rn rnI'm not a big baseball fan. I enjoyed playing when I was younger, but I’ve just not gotten caught up in watching nine innings of the game. Perhaps it’s because the home runs are so few and far between. Watching someone bunt, walk or get a base hit slowly but surely adds runs to the scoreboard, but they lack the luster of a home run with the bases loaded. Seeing that ball sail out of the park while the

“Why didn’t they tell me this in school?” This is the questio I consistently hear from participants in workshops and seminars I conduct. They are surprised that some of the basic strategies for living a happy, successful and fulfilling life are never mentioned during school days. They enter the work world, thinking they are well equipped for the journey of life, only to find that important things are still missing. The road to a safe and happy life is not complex or mysterious. It does not require a PhD. or a fortune in the bank. “Life One-0-One: Find your Purpose”

Being apologetic and making ourselves wrong doesn't help us step up to live our awesomeness. Drawing conclusions about our wrongness closes the door to unseen opportunities. Unfortunately, we’ve been conditioned into being apologetic… I hear it so often when people tell me what’s happening in their businesses: An owner of a wellness center with a loyal local clientele sounded apologetic about how she’s not doing the “Facebook thing” like those Internet marketers. I asked her, what if she doesn’t have to do everything those Facebook gurus are telling you to do?r

Mavis was a beautiful young woman, but she was in prison ! I worked with this capable and promising young woman for many years. Unfortunately, unde eath all that beauty lurked a sad secret. She had a “habit of thought” that she was worthless. That she would not and could not be successful. That she would not and could not ever be loved. That she was not worthy of anyone’s admiration and respect.

1. Solutions, Solutions, Solutions. Okay, I heard the problem nnow what’s the solution? There’s always a way and an answer. Your job is to find it. 2. Daily Improvement (DI) - Decide – Resolve – Act. Everyday do njust 1 more thing to improve. What if you improved 1 thing every day? 3. Take ...

Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, nothing seems to work. It might be because you are going through a bad patch and feel you are not making any progress. You are tired of trying and getting nowhere. When this happens, it is easy to become dispirited. These can be critical times and may spell the difference between continuing to work towards your goals and giving up on your dreams. You need to find ways to improve motivation to protect yourself from these threats to your s

Infinix Zero 5G was launched in Nigeria and became the first 5G smartphone from the company. Infinix Zero 5G is the latest addition to the Infinix portfolio in the Nigerian market and is immediately expected to go on sale in India.rn rnMicrosite on Flipkart for Infinix Zero 5G smartphone showed several specifications ahead of February 14 debut on the Indian market. The Smartphone Infinix Zero 5G gets 120Hz refresh FHD + panel, dimensity mediatek 900 chipset, 5,000 mAh battery

It is so easy to get tied up in the things that are going wrong in your life. There are things that are in desperate need of a miracle, people living in sickness, poverty and wondering what they are going to do in the days to come. You may feel that you are all alone, but I want to remind you that you are not alone. Jesus loves you and even if you do not believe in him, he believes in you! He is there for you every step of the way and on those days that you may feel that you cannot go on; stop focusing on the things that are going wrong look at the things that are going right!

It is a sad time in Columbus, OH as we mou the loss of a very special person who has survived and thrived with an abundance of grace during the last 11 years. Stefanie Spielman lost her battle with cancer yesterday and many people are suffering from broken hearts today. She has touched so many people through her inspiring and graceful presence and purpose in fighting cancer. People, like myself, who did not personally know Stefanie have been inspired, touched, and elevated b

I am a huge fan of claiming our superpowers and marketing our uniqueness as individuals, so we can fully express our value and passion in our business, while standing out from competition. However, there is ONE thing about us not being totally “unique” can work in favor of our marketing. And that is, we are human beings marketing to other human beings who share the same underlying psychological triggers and drivers. (Even if you service pets, it’s a human that is paying you.)

What is a résumé? It’s nothing more than a collection of things you’ve done in your work life – a sort-of “eulogy” at work. Oh sure, it may also point out some skills that you were allowed to use while on the job but it really gives no indication of your aptitude, your natural talents nor your ...

My friend Brian told me story a few months back. He had asked his early twenty-something receptionist to dig up a phone number for him. After ten or so minutes, the receptionist had not returned. Brian went to the front desk. "Have you found me that number yet?" he asked patiently. "The ...

When I was a kid my mother’s younger brother Sammy was a guy to look up to. A marine during world war II, a foreman in an auto plant after the war, a decent house in a nice neighborhood, wife, two kids. He was a big happy friendly guy who was fun to be with.

I spent a little time with Bill recently. He’s in his eighties now and lives alone. He spends most of his days in front of the TV as he needs a walker to get around. He has a boarder who lives downstairs and she is supposed to fix his meals and keep him company in exchange for a substantial ...

As kids, we are taught to look up to the heroes in our community such as the police officers and firefighters who keep us safe. Some of us also immersed ourselves in the world of comic book superheroes – characters with superhuman powers who always managed to do the right thing and come out on top. Today’s post is about a new kind of role model: the “Bonus Years” Hero. What’s a “Bonus Years” Hero? Over the years, I’ve met people in their 70’s, 80’s, and 90

I've heard that said since I was a little boy. Usually when talking about some awful deed that was committed. Fraud? Theft? Robbery? Murder? It's all been done to get money and will be again. Many people believe the origin of the saying is religious. The Bible (Timothy 6:10) says something like the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil causing some to stray from the faith. That message doesn't say money itself is evil but that some of us value it above more important things. Sounds like things haven't changed much since then.

If you want to control life to get what you want you need to control your attitude and behavior. If people do not like you it is not because there is something wrong with them. It is not their faults that stop them from seeking your company or becoming your friends. It's not their faults that cause them to break up with you. It is not the world's fault you do not have a good job or do not have enough money. You can be in control and have the capacity to shape life to your own

The Daffodil told me a Story!!rnWhat an absolutely gorgeous day in the south. It is hard to beat North Carolina on a beautiful spring day....(except maybe on a beautiful autumn day!!). Even as much of a Duke Blue Devil fan as I am, I can actually say that those Carolina Blue skies are hard to beat. The beautiful start to this day made it even easier to learn, and share, a lesson that was taught to me today by a daffodil. I was at Sunday School this morning and was standing at

Most of us spend at least 40 hours a week at our place of work. That’s at least half of the average American’s waking hours each weekday. Why not make your time at work pleasant? Sure you have lots of work to do but studies have shown that if you are happy while you work you will be more successful. Recent research is starting to indicate that happiness is "causal and brings many more benefits than just feeling good." (http://www.the-happy-manager.com/happy-person.html) W

A belief is a filter. It's a tuning mechanism in consciousness. And when you observe or interact with life through a particular belief filter, only certain information gets through to you -- the information that's aligned with the belief you're looking through. Here's a good analogy: when you have your TV tuned to NBC, you're just not going to observe any shows on CBS. No matter how hard you try... You can go to therapy; you can join a support group; you can take assertiven

Just got my copy of the new Disney movie Tangled. It was really a cute take on the Rapunzel story. There is a part in the movie that really touched me. After all of her life Rapunzel is finally getting the opportunity to have the thing that she had dreamt of for so long and she says I have been waiting so long for this, what if it's not anything like I imagined? What if it is?

Have you ever wondered how many people you meet are living quiet lives of desperation, with respect to how they earn a living? The answer would be...far too many. While millions of people would love to have a career or job they're passionate about, too many are stuck earning a paycheck at a profession they don't like, let alone love. Exploring your talents and finding a way to earn a living at what you love is a secret dream of millions of people. Once they discover their tru

Last week I sent out a newsletter of a very personal and vulnerable nature. I wrote it not because some email marketing best practice says so. I wrote it because I HAD to. Life is too short to have a message bottled up inside. In fact, I might have broken every single “rule”… No “5 simple ways” or “7 easy steps.” Screw SEO. Not particularly actionable. Definitely quite a bit about “me” and not a whole lot about “you.” Not exactly uplifting and definitely not kumbaya easy reading. Imagine my surprise when I looked at the metrics a few days later: 3 people unsubscribed. THREE.r

The changing global economic dynamics has had its impact not only on fiscal aspect of conduct of a business but a very severe effect on the business leaders – the managers personally. While this effect converts into physical and emotional pressure on the manager, it can also act as a key factor to identify the dead wood within any management team giving an opportunity to the ownership or entrepreneurship to restructure their organization. Hotel industry, or for that matter,

On a beautiful sunny afternoon in Vancouver, I was riding my bike to the bus station. I was on my way to catch a bus that would transport me and my bike to the ferry terminal. I had just spent the weekend with good friends and was happy about the unexpected warm weather. As I stopped at a red traffic light a man, who looked like a homeless person, walked towards me with a bunch of daffodils in his hand. I guess he had picked them in a nearby park. As he came closer, he extend

‘Follow your bliss. Or you may get to the top of the ladder, only to find that it’s against the wrong wall.’ – Joseph Campbell There is at least one thing that you have spent your whole life getting ready to do. Sometimes it’s something no one else could do. But usually it’s something millions of people do every day, but you love doing it anyway. Sometimes you know what it is but you don’t know how to make it happen, you don’t know how to turn a passion into a job, or you’d just feel guilty doing something that makes you feel that good and calling it a ‘job’.

Perhaps it’s my age but I find the best part of American Idol are the qualifying rounds to see who gets to go to Hollywood. Out of the tens of thousands of hopefuls only a few hundred are chosen as “good enough” to advance to the next round. It amazes me how many of the ...

I’ve just returned from Thailand and am totally fired-up to give you all the tools to move you forward toward your biggest goals and dreams. "We learn by practice. Whether it means to learn to dance by practicing dancing or to learn to live by practicing living, the principles are the same. One becomes in some area an athlete of God." ~Martha Graham You become an athlete of God, says Martha Graham, by practicing. Don’t you love that idea? Wherever we are in our life, we a

We all want to live the dream. We want the fancy cars, big house, no financial worries in the world type of life. The reality is that not many of us actually get to live it. Considering that about 11 million households in the United States fall into millionaire category and there are about 126.22 million households in the United States, just over 8% of households in the US ever make it there. Interesting, when you ask people if they want to be a millionaire, you often get an

We may not always agree with others, but why would we want them to fail? What makes us want to put someone down? There must be another way!nnRush Limbaugh has repeatedly said he wants President Obama to fail, as well as his administration and its agendas for economic and healthcare reform. He had the audacity to warn the British Prime Minister that if he keeps "slobbering" over President Obama, he will "come down with anal poisoning and may die from it." This past Monday he s

If you are not feeling totally fulfilled, you are not alone. Nearly 80% of people interviewed for our long term study of fulfillment did not feel totally fulfilled, despite many being successful in their careers or private lives. Many of those who were fulfilled did not necessarily start that way. Fulfillment requires actions on your part that are not always obvious or baked into our habits. Many require training ourselves to learn new skills and develop fulfilling habits. He

To have a different experience of the life you have you must have a different experience of who you are... Think about this for just a minute: how many people including yourself, do you know in your life that is in a place where they are not happy? They're not happy with their relationships. They're not happy with their careers. They're not happy with their health. They are not happy with their wealth or lack of it. Any of the above circumstances. Many of these people, maybe