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Confession is good for the soul. It lifts that weight off your shoulders and gives you a sense of relief. So while you feel great about getting that secret off your chest; you’ve hurt someone else in the process. Usher laid all his cards out on the table in an entire album and made millions of dollars for his confessions, but you are not Usher and your spouse will probably take half of what you have. Women are more likely to confess to a “slip” then men are and they usually e

Many women make the mistake of waiting too long to decide to tell a guy she likes him. This may be for a variety of reasons. Most commonly, some women believe in traditional dating tactics; and refuse to make the first move. While some women are simply expecting the worst out of the situation and so choose to be silent about their true feelings. If you’ve always wondered how to tell a man you like him, this article is for you.

This is the first in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. A single man I know once said, “If a woman doesn’t seem to love herself, why should I love her?” That makes sense. Keep in mind that: • The way you treat yourself is how others will treat you. • What you expect from people is what you will receive.

If you do not know how to read male body language and sign of attraction, all you need to do is simply read this article. You will find that doing these two things actually can be pretty simple and easy. Yes, it is so effortless to do but can prove to be successful when it comes to delivering the greatest results. While most women are not so adept at these skills, it would be best if you can hone your sharpness in reading men's body language as well as the possible signs of a

This is the third in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. I know you are a fabulous, smart, accomplished woman who has created a good life for herself. You're probably here, though, because there’s a missing piece. It's likely that you're still looking for love because there's something standing splat in your way. And that something is probably You.

What do men really want in a woman? Are they really those sex-crazed creatures we take them for? nnWell, yes and no. There are definitely men out there who aren’t looking for a relationship, who just want a hot body to show off and enjoy. But there are also men who are ready to settle down and commit themselves to a woman. What are they looking for?nn1. Beauty. nLet’s get that one out of the way. Yes, men want beauty. They want a face that’s wonderful to wak

"I know why you aren't married: you're just too picky!" Women who are single in their 40s, 50s and beyond hear this a lot. After all, what other reason can there be for why you haven't yet snagged a man? As a woman who became a first-time bride at 47, I heard this a lot—especially from my father. And the word "picky" was said with such disdain, like I wasn't deserving of being selective. Like I should just grab the next guy who would have me.

Have you ever wondered why THAT guy always seems to get the girls? He's brash, cocky and he marches to the beat of his own drum. He's on (or over) the edge, bordering on rude and doesn't seem to give a damn about anyone but himself - what exactly do women see in a guy like that? nnYou consider yourself outgoing, but conservative; interesting but a little shy; you can keep a conversation going, but with the right people... sounds good doesn't it? Why do the bad boys always see

We’ve all done it. We’re smack in the middle of a ho-hum, so-so, not going anywhere relationship. But, we don’t break up. We stay. We go out for linguini and clams every Friday night, have a sleepover every Saturday night, and continue on as though we might actually want to be with this person on a permanent basis. Except, of course, that we don’t. And it’s not that there’s anything wrong with him (or her), except that he’s just not “The One.” Then, we start to think of our alte atives. What will happen if we break it off?

My idea for today's post came from a seminar I hosted last week called "Making Sense of Men." It was co-led by a trainer for PAX Programs International, which is in the business of educating women about men. If you haven't familiarized yourself with PAX, which is the brilliant work of Alison Armstrong, I can't recommend it enough. I attended my first course with them 10 years ago, and it was a life-changing experience.

I define chemistry as “the feeling or desire that compels you, when in the presence of a particular person, to want to please them, touch them, and make them happy.” That’s it! Too many singles associate chemistry with the desperate feelings, longing, and compulsive thoughts that are actually a common sign of insecure attachments or addictive, abusive, or manipulative relationships.

I hate being like everyone else, but I have to make an exception for Oprah. Everyone is talking about her, and rightly so. May 25 is her final show. Oprah will no longer be visiting us every weekday, teaching us, nourishing our spirits and making us laugh. The positive transformation this one woman has effected in the world is breathtaking.

So you’re considering looking online for that special someone. Internet dating can be a lot of fun. You can meet not only the love of your life but friends for life. Here are some common sense tips that will keep you safe and help you successfully maximize your online dating experience. Tip #1 Trust Your Instinct. If you are feeling less than excited about a potential date, cancel it. On the opposite end of the emotions spectrum, be careful if you have intense feelings - move cautiously. Tip #2r

If you’re a woman who tends to over think and over analyze (and let’s face it…what woman doesn’t?) I want to advise you when it’s appropriate to do so about men: N-E-V-E-R! Oh how we love to dwell in conversations with ourselves about all kinds of fascinating things. Is he attracted to me, what will I do if he does/does not call, what signal was he trying to send when he did this/didn’t do that, what did he really mean when he said…?

Last week I hosted a workshop called Get Online, Get Noticed, Get Dates, Exclusively for Women over Forty. I had a fantastic time with these smart and lovely women who really want to meet their mate. It was a total blast, and they all left excited and feeling like they had the confidence and tools to get online and go for it.

If you’ve ever said something you considered to be completely innocent, only to have your wife or girlfriend flip out, you may have stumbled on to one of these taboo topics: 1) “Relax” You may think you’re being helpful, but to us, it feels like you’re being dismissive of how we’re feeling — in our minds, you’re telling us that what we’re upset about really isn’t a big deal. The thing to remember here?

rnTime and time again, the question seems to come up from men that really want to turn around their personal life and finally get the reaction from women that they want. Guys want to know how they can turn a friend to a girlfriend and there is a very common and a very good reason for this. Men almost always find themselves falling into the position of being a friend to a woman that they would much rather date than anything else. If you want to turn a friend to a girlfriend, t

Want to attract a confident, grounded man who will enhance your already great life? The best way to do it is to act like a lady. Yes, that age-old scenario is still true: masculine men are attracted to feminine women. Men want to know that they're contributing to our lives. When a man cares about you, making you happy is his mission. If you don't allow him this gift, chances are he will not stay. Or, if he does, he will give you what you ask for: nothing.

The first ten minutes of a date often determine whether a second date is ever going to happen, and let's face it: second dates are not the norm for many. That was definitely my story until I learned about (what I now call) "Date Waste."

Have you ever felt ugly or unattractive? Sometimes people can feel that way if they put on a few pounds, if someone rejects them or after they acted out in anger. No matter what society determines as being attractive, I believe everyone is beautiful in their own way. They key is that you must feel good inside to really express that beautiful self out in the world. Here are some simple ways to access authentic beauty in the world and in your heart: 1. Appreciate those you love. Thank someone in your life for something nice they did for you or just being in your world. 2.

Finding a man worth keeping these days is like going fishing in Citarum River, the word’s most polluted river- instead of finding a good catch, you find yourself surrounded with crap! To avoid wasting your time with crappy men, here are some guidelines to consider if the guy is a keeper or not. • He speaks his mind. A guy who is vocal about his opinions can be annoying sometimes, but believe me, it is better than a guy who keeps everything to himself. Being with a man who

Have you been dreading it and trying to avoid it? Chances are pretty good – thanks to all the advertising and silliness – that you’re keenly aware Valentine’s Day is right around the corner. I used to call Valentine's Day “Singles Awareness Day.” Now that I'm married I couldn't care less about it. I know from years of personal, painful experience that being single on Valentine’s Day can suck. Sure, you might not want a box of cheap chocolates or a dozen roses that will wilt and die in days. But I’d bet good money you want what Valentine’s Day is supposed to represent: being in love.r

A good man . . . Single women often say they want one. Few believe they can find one. Those who don’t have one usually insist that they do. And many more dismiss one without a thought. Not surprisingly, many good men consider giving up their nice-guy image after repeated rejections that usually end with the woman they like dating a jerk, liar, cheater, or beater. Why do women complain that they can’t find a good guy when they are passing one up? And what does a good guy do about it? 5 must-know steps for breaking the too-nice trap:

This week I spoke with my client, “Sue,” who recently entered the online dating world. Right off the bat she had scoped out a profile she really liked and emailed him. He seemed interested, attentive and pretty fabulous on paper. The next thing you know…she has a date! When they met in real life, he complimented her generously, told her he felt so lucky to have met her, and talked about doing lots of things together. At the end of the date, they both agreed they wanted to see each other again. She felt a major connection.

Think about the clever line we women often use: it takes some form of “I’ve kissed so many frogs I’ve got the warts to prove it!” or “How many frogs do I have to kiss before I find my prince?” You know what I’m talking about. It’s cute, and although we don’t really laugh at it, it tends to ease some of our feelings of disappointment and rejection. Let’s face it: after years of dating with no spectacular man to show for it, we have to tell ourselves something to help explain away the fact that we’re still “alone.”

A lot of men out there want to know how to talk to women in a cool and confident way that will build attraction. It is actually pretty easy if you stop doing all the normal, things men do that just turn women off. These are my personal secrets on how to talk to women: Quit using pick up lines. These are the worst thing you can say. Most guys use pick up lines as a band aid when they're too lazy to actually pay attention to the girl or her situation. It makes you look about as

I get asked this question constantly. Women who are dating want to know this; especially women who are divorced and over 40, and haven’t been dating for some time. They also want to know how they can tell if sex is all he wants. Good questions. The truth is that whether you’re dating at 20, 40, or 70 you’re going to question how long you should wait – and he will wait – before you get intimate. And you certainly want to be able to spot the guys who just want to hop in the sack and then go on to the next gal.

Why do we hold on to the man who isn’t good for us, our feelings of insecurity and being less-than, or our pattern of picking jerks and liars? These are all self-sabotaging behaviors and beliefs, and intellectually we know it. Yet we cling on for dear life, feeling powerless over our unfortunate circumstance.

Lisa, I believe that a large part of my problem is that I am what you referred to as a “nightmare girl.” I don’t know how to be one of those “dream girls.” I can hold it together for anywhere from a few days to a few months, but I get sooooo incredibly insecure that I end up losing it. I mean, I go crazy. I turn into a raging bi*ch, pick a fight, and think he’s doing all kinds of horrible things behind my back, etc.

What if you could hear men honestly share their thoughts and feelings about women, dating, sex and relationships? I had the opportunity to do that twice last week when I hosted and observed "man panels."

<img src="http://datelikeagrownup.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/06/Girlfriends-Fotolia_9196352_S.jpg" width="160" height="160"> Are you an independent, smart single woman who is dating and looking for love? If so, you've likely been challenged with how to respond when a man does something that ticks you off. What are realistic expectations? What should you tolerate? I get asked this question in many forms.

So are Virgo and Scorpio compatible in love? How much do you really know about their love compatibility? Knowing this helpful information is very important if you are planning to date a Virgo or Scorpio. Each of the zodiac signs have their own characteristics and unique love traits. So finding out how these two signs are compatible together will help you save a lot of time and energy in relationships. Virgo and Scorpio Love Traits - What Are They? When a Scorpio male or fe

Do you want charisma in your life? Do you want to have people listen to you and do what you ask them to do? Well, charisma, thankfully, is something you can develop over time and it doesn't always have to be something you are born with. There are several tips to creating charisma in your life, here are just a few. 1. First of all, you need to be passionate about the things in your life. You need to take action to do the things you like because your passion for them will be co

Recently *The Washington Post had an article on how dating online is a better way to meet a serious romantic partner than some other past traditional ways. My advice for dating includes the participation in online dating as any total dating strategy. I do have some dating tips for men and women on how to improve their profiles and who they attract through online dating. For my one on one coaching clients and my coaching group clients, I review their online dating profiles. I see the same mistakes being made time and time again.

Most guys that want to get a girlfriend are not really looking for just ANY woman. I mean, it's not really hard to get a girlfriend when your standards are low, is it? You want to be able to attract a girlfriend that is both attractive and fun to be around, and you don't want to have to break the bank to make it happen. For some, getting a girlfriend is one of the hardest things in the world to do. And for others, it's almost too easy. What makes the difference and what can y

Do you walk out of the house each day feeling good about yourself, and ready to run into that one man who is going to rock your world an put that proverbial cherry on your cake? Check out this guest post by Sybil Henry, The Style Concierge. Sybil joined me Wednesday night for my GGNO Club event: The Art of Being a Woman, Mastering Your Secret Super Power. (Have you signed up yet?) I love this woman. you will too.rn———————–

Newsflash: Women constantly push really good guys right out of their lives without even knowing it. We do it by behaving in ways that, until pointed out by someone else, are a complete mystery. Finally having this pointed out to me in my early 40s was a huge part of my transition from a pretty happy single gal to, at age 47, a truly fulfilled wife of a loving and adoring man.

If you don’t ask…you don’t get. I think this is the key to being happy with men. It’s one of my Dad’s favorite lines. I heard it so often growing up that it’s now a mantra in my already overloaded brain. Dad’s premise was that it is your responsibility to state what you want, and then give people a chance to give it to you. If you don’t ask for something, there’s a good chance you won’t get it. And if you don’t, it’s not the potential giver’s fault; it’s yours.

This is the second in a series of articles sharing my 5 Keys to Finding Hope and Finding Him. The 5 Keys are: M - Me and Me first. A - Assess your list. S - Shed your stuff. T - Time to get out and Trail blaze. R - Real women find their man. Most of you probably have a list of what you want in a man. It may not be on paper…but you have one. It usually includes things like: Honest Tall Funnyr Good lookingr Financially stable

Let's talk about vacations. We love to take them and look forward to them with anticipation. We put forth a lot of effort in planning a vacation. Some people make lists and in general we plan: Plan when to take vacation. How to get there. Making reservations for hotels, air travel, car rentals, ...

Dating like a grownup is the quickest path to finally enjoying mutually nurturing relationships with men who are full of respect, adoration and commitment. If you're going to date like a grownup, developing empathy for men is crucial. Just like all your relationships, when you have the ability to step outside yourself and get into someone else's head and heart (even just a little), your connections instantly improve.

Have you ever found yourself in a sexual lull? Maybe you're in one right now. During my oh-so-many single years, I used to call my gaps in dating and intimacy "being on hiatus." And the hiatuses were often pretty long. (Sorry…TMI?) The truth is that extended periods of celibacy are somewhat common for single women over 40. Unlike our earlier years of joyful experimentation and bed-hopping, most of us aren't sleeping with any guy that comes along. (Yes…pun intended.)

Dating can be a real pain in the butt, right? It can be a lot of work that leads to a lot of nothing. I conducted a survey recently and asked women what their biggest challenge was when they date. The #1 response was: I’m not meeting quality men. Can you relate?? I hear this from women all the time. I’m tired of meeting losers. All the good ones are gay or taken. All the men I meet are bald, boring, messy, sex-crazed, they are too this, not enough that. And the most common: I just don’t feel a spark with any men I’m meeting.

Not dating? Haven’t been in a relationship for a long time? Don’t know why? It’s sounds too simple, but it’s true—you probably do not look men in the eyes and smile—a real smile! Not just that dry, half turned-up smile you greet fellow co-workers with as you glance up from your work project. A real smile. One that says, “I like you.” One with warmth, charm, or even a coy grin. You can do it. Flirting is a must if you are going to date. Blind dates don’t come around very often. You need to do more if you are going to find lasting love.

It’s pathetic how easily I can find my self acting like the insecure kid I was in high school. These days it doesn’t come up too much, but can happen when I meet someone I especially like and admire, and get the sense they don’t return the feeling. I can get to feeling so hurt and undeserving that I turn into a withdrawn ball of mush.

There are so many women I care deeply about —both friends and clients — who are holding themselves back from bringing love into their lives. Are you one of them? Are you saying "I want a fabulous man in my life" and "I know I'm a catch," yet not doing much to actually reach your self-described all-important goal? Are you doing the same routine each day, expecting things to be different? Are you staying closed in your head and your heart, unwilling to learn to better understand and love men...and yourself?

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Advice about how to get a man comes relatively easy, but there are still at least 5 tips that every woman should know. If you have a particular man in mind, there is often no limits to what you will do to get him. Many women will argue this point, but lets be honest. Think about it. Have you don’t less than desirable things to get a man? Yes! However, lets jus concentrate on the good things that you’ve done, or the things that you will know how to do once you have read this article. Tip 1: Be Yourselfr

“It’s not you—It’s your technique.” This is one of the first things I teach singles. It is core to my coaching program and essential to your success in the dating game. To grasp the significance of this principle and how it can increase your confidence, you need to understand the following: 1. Your situation does not define your value Too often singles base their perceptions of themselves on the acceptance or rejection of others, which causes their self-confidence to plummet over and over again. The truth is:

Dating over 35 is a very empowering place to be. You are embarking on a journey that you alone create based on everything you desire your new life to become. Very few women have this opportunity and are stuck in a life that isn't their own. Like with any life experience you've created it takes focus, effort, discipline and commitment. You'll need the willingness to be uncomfortable and the ability to alter your mindset to begin enjoying this journey and taking control of your