Browse Divorce

When we are experiencing or recovering from divorce, remembering to find joy in everyday things during any season can be difficult. One of the reasons that, despite our best efforts, we can find it almost impossible to move on is when we are prisoner to one of the ugliest feelings of all. Being Bitter.

Divorce is tough for many reasons. Not only are we dealing with the emotions and logistics and finances, but after the dust has settled, we may feel like our life's plans have changed direction. The life you planned and your vision of the future may disappear, leaving you with a feeling of not knowing what to do or where to go from here. But when you feel like this, don’t panic! There is merely one thing you must remember: You May Feel Lost Because Your Internal GPS is No Longer Working

In order to file for Dissolution of Marriage, Legal Separation or Nullity of Marriage you or your spouse need to be a resident of the county you are filing in. Being a resident generally means you are living in that county and intend to live in that county for the foreseeable future. There is no minimum time requirement for Legal Separation or Nullity of Marriage. On the other hand, if you are seeking a Dissolution of Marriage (Divorce), Califo ia law requires that either yo

During the period of a peaceful divorce and emotional confusion, we sometimes say and write things to our partners that are offensive and inappropriate. Instead of clearly communicating our thoughts and calming down the situation, we respond with critical, judgmental words that inflame passions and throw fuel on the fire. Mr. Bill Eddy, LCSW and Attorney At Law, has developed a method for effectively dealing with hostile email and communications in a high conflict situation.

I remember it vividly. It was shortly after my divorce was final and the highly emotional state had calmed a bit. Although it did not happen suddenly, the realization hit me like a slap in the face. I didn’t know who I was. n The I that I was looking for had been pushed aside for years, by me. ...

The build up to ‘The Big Day’ is generally dominated by the female of the species and her chosen band of merry women – bridesmaids, mother, mother-in-law to be, sisters, aunts – basically any woman with a relationship or blood connection to the bride. Don’t be fooled. Weddings, their organisation and execution, and I am speaking ‘traditional’, are almost the sole domain of women. For men, it is a case of ‘await instructions’, carry them out to the letter yet

As human beings we can tend to become fascinated by ourselves and our stories and can allow ourselves to become too self-indulgent and it can be destructive. As long as we recognise the vision of where we want and need to be and what it takes to get there, the time that you determine it to take is essentially up to you.

BREAKING UP IS HARD TO DO -- ESPECIALLY FOR MENnnBy Pauline Wallin, Ph.D.nnnDivorce is harder on men than on women. Surprised?nnAfter all, it's the woman who suffers financially . . .who has to juggle work and kids on her own . . . who is more apt to end up in a therapist's office.nnMeanwhile, the man seems to go on with life, hanging out with his buddies, barely skipping a beat.nnTrue to all the above. But those points only describe external circumstances and behavior, not w

It is difficult in coping with break up. However, when you cope with break up, it is very important to think that you really can move on despite the hurt and you can really let go of that love. Even if time will only tell that you are healed, patiently wait as time will also heal all the negative feelings inside your heart. rn"He's the only one and i will wait for him until he loves me back.. AGAIN" I want to forget him but i truly love him". “He's always on my mind and hea

Hey, so does this ever happen to you? It may have been months since your divorce ended, and you thought you were doing okay. You were picking yourself up financially, making your home your own, and trying some new activities and were feeling pretty good about yourself. But then it hits you and won’t leave. That anger--that pure rage once you look back and realize just how awful your ex treated you. The time you found the messages from another woman on his cell phone.

After going through several divorces, it becomes easy for the divorce lawyers to figure out a shaky relationship from the one which would last a lifetime. Having seen several couples fight out till the end or give up the fight in favor of their love, they know the ground rules of how to make a marriage work. Just a few minutes in a room with a couple and they knew if their marriage had chances of ending in a divorce or not. Here are some signs that show if the marriage would

Any serious scientist will be familiar with the assertion that stress causes immune-compromise. A recent study by researchers at Harvard School of Public Health has finally put this long-held knowledge into perspective, deciphering that those who bottle up their feelings have a cardiovascular disease risk of 140 per cent and a risk of cancer of 170 per cent when compared to individuals who share how they feel. Overall, the risk of premature death for those who keep their negative feelings to themselves is around 135 per cent that of individuals unafraid to speak their minds.

8 Things You Can Do to Make Any Divorce Better Divorce is enough to give anyone the blues, but based on my experience with success in over 45,000 cases I can give you the following eight tips that will definitely help make things go more smoothly and easily. Not only that, if you follow my ...

When you want to get an ex back after you’ve broken up, be careful to avoid the following four mistakes that can make your ex detest you more and avoid you in the process. Don’t worry, avoiding these mistake will be easy once you know what they are. rnMistake 1 - Begging Your Exrn rnBegging not only makes you look needy, but also affirms your ex that the breakup was right. The truth is, nobody wants to be in a relationship with a very needy person as it leads to problems.

Most couples with children have no structured college savings plans set up. This is even more so after divorce proceedings commence. There are so many complex issues to discuss that college planning for the children takes a back seat to everything else. Things such as, “We’ll work it out when the time comes” or “We’ll set something up after the divorce, when things calm down”. As a divorce mediator, I cringe inside when I hear couples utter these phrases. Even the most well intended couples don’t follow through with these statements.

Instant rewards and instant healing has a much nicer ring to it, then the words combined; LONG – TERM. However if waiting that particular extended time will further HELP in the long run it stirs the question if waiting is more worthwhile. But how do you determine what works best for you?

Although your friends and family are an important part of your life, you may find that they’re ill-equipped to support you through your loss. I found that even though my friends and family were well meaning, they often said or did things that were inappropriate. Whenever we hung out together, my friends would try to distract me from the pai I was feeling, invalidating my emotions and my right to feel lousy. I’d leave feeling superficially better but also feeling as if I’d moved 2 steps backwards. I soon realized that I’d have to get divorce support elsewhere.

Divorces are a financial strain on your family because they divide you and your spouse’s cumulative assets (lawyer’s fees aside). In this economy, where assets are quickly turning into debts, it is critical to understand the financial consequences of a divorce and how to make the most out of its aftermath. A divorce divides one family unit into two separate units. When one spouse moves out, there will be one more mortgage or rental payment to make. Having 2 separate famil

The second annual recognition of National Child-Centered Divorce Month will take place throughout July across the United States. Professionals who deal with divorce issues -- therapists, atto eys, mediators, coaches, educators, clergy and others – will be joining forces to share valuable ...

Today’s Hollywood is rarely a place to find role models for our culture, especially when it comes to divorce and family issues. Year after year we’ve been exposed to dramatic, painful, explosive relationship breakups resulting in tabloid headlines that feed upon scandal and ...

There is an article in the Daily Mail today entitled “Why ‘ex-sex’ CAN be a good idea: Sleeping with an old love lessens psychological distress of break-up… if you’re not over him” Apparently research from the University of Arizona (published in the journal of Social and Clinical Psychology) found that divorced partners who slip back into the marital bed find sex can actually lessen the pain of the break-up. No kidding… We even have the UK sex expert Tracey Cox agreeing with this idea that sex with an ex can provide closure. Seriously?

One of the tasks you will be asked to complete during your child custody case is to create a parenting plan for your child. A parenting plan should contain the custody arrangements for your child and some basic philosophies for raising your child. Your plan, once approved by the court, shall become a binding contract that both you and your ex will be legally obligated to follow.

My rear bumper has been ado ed with a sticker one of my kids picked out seven years ago when we brought two English Mastiff puppies, Spunknik and Tasaki, into our family. The sticker read I Love (heart actually, a drawing of a heart, you know!) My Mastiff. I used to also have one that read My Mastiff is Smarter Than Your Honor Student. I covered that one up with one urging single payer health care about a year ago after Spunk’s untimely death. Now the second sticker has been altered to read I Miss My Mastiffs. Lots. Tasaki, Spunk’s brother, died recently. Now he’s gone too.r

You have finally decided to go through with it, you are getting a divorce. As a divorcing parent, what do you need to think about? How do you minimize the affect of the divorce on your children?

My husband laughs at me a lot because he thinks I'm just not hip. The funny thing is I agree with him. I often use slang that is WAY out of date and when I try to use more current slang it just sounds funny coming out of my mouth.

So, you want to know about one of my favorite guilty pleasures? You might have a similar one. I love watching House Hunters on HGTV! There’s nothing better to do on a lazy Sunday morning, coffee in hand (or let’s be honest…a homemade mimosa) than curled up on my couch watching TV, and shouting at it, telling the clueless couple to go with House #2 because they can just repaint the damn walls instead of making the horrible decision of going with House #1—the one the husband wants that’s $75,000 over budget but is big enough for him to build custom brick oven for his artisanal pizzas.

Helping prevent divorce from happening can be easier said than done because it involves lots of difficult steps involving going through hate-filled arguments, painful feelings, and being able to face all these things with a positive attitude, no matter how hard it seems at first. Firstly, assuming you were one who decided to divorce and you are wondering what you can do to prevent the divorce. You should be aware that you are not in a more severe condition like those making e

Overwhelm is something everyone faces at one time or another. When things seem like they are insurmountable, what do you do?

© 2005 Debra Gordy. All rights reserved n Little 3-year old Susie holds her dog for hours at a time and has a meltdown when Mom separates them. Forty-year old Tina complains she can’t feel much in her life and resists getting close to people. Diane is terrified of commitment and imagines ...

If your divorce involves minor children, and you and your spouse can't agree on custody or visitation issues, you may be required to participate in Califo ia divorce mediation. After reading this article you will know how it works. Califo ia divorces are handled through the state's Superior Court system, which includes Family Court Services. According to Califo ia law (Family Code Section 3170) if divorcing couples can't agree on a parenting plan for their minor children, the court will require them to attend Califo ia divorce mediation through the Family Court Services.

If you are interested in dealing with a broken heart, there are a number of issues you should be aware of. First of all, you should understand that no breakup is fun, and completely getting rid of any trace of pain may be impossible. However, there are some powerful strategies that will help you to recover more quickly without being negatively affected by the consequences. While some partners reach a mutual agreement to part ways, this is not the case in many situations. In q

Every day thousands of people are hurt by break-ups, divorces or the death of a loved one. Some seem to plummet into the abyss of broken hearts and others appear to brush it off and go on. So what’s the difference between these people? They both feel the hurt acutely. It may be only a matter of how they heal themselves. nn There are several ways to get through loss. Some of it is highly interactive, and some of it is more private. Tailor it to yourself. In other words if yo

Too often, grandparents are caught in drama between parents during and after their divorce. While they want to help in any way they can, many grandparents just don’t know how to ease the hurt, confusion and other emotions affecting their innocent grandkids. Since every divorce is unique there are no cookie-cutter solutions that do the trick. But here are some guidelines to help you be there for your grandchildren at a time when they need your love and support.

The custody issue can be and often does become highly contested. In a lot of divorce scenarios the husband and the wife are able to settle all of the issues outside of court except the custody issue. When this happens, the ex's will schedule a final hearing whereby they will appear in the court room and will proceed to throw each other under the bus all in hopes that the judge will award them custody of the children. Regardless of how the ex's treat each other during the divo

How does a man get over a divorce or a relationship that had run its course? Other than one’s friends or the bars where can a man turn to get support or the needed help to just talk and figure out how to get back on the road to self confidence and feel good about himself again? A friend of mine gave me this bit of sage advice that went something like this: “C’mon, man. The hell with her. Women are like bicycles. You ride ‘em for a while then you find a nicer, shinier one. No big deal.”

Divorce is tough - there's no way around it. Most people who get a divorce feel at least a little lost, sad, or angry afterward, even if they wanted the divorce in the first place. Getting divorced signals the end of one phase of your life, and the transition can be hard, even if it's for the best. But you don't have to deal with these negative feelings forever. Here's how you can bounce back from divorce and move on to the next phase of your life. 1. Let yourself grieve It's

Deciding about whether you should get a divorce or not is an agonizing experience to go through. If you are asking yourself "should I get a divorce?", you've been thinking about your relationship's state for a while or an isolated incident that occurred was so terrible, that you want to just chuck it all and start over with a new life! If you have been asking yourself "should I get a divorce?" for any length of time, you should figure out what is making you feel that way if

Are you tired of hearing "Diets Don't Work."? As an overweight person needing to lose weight, this can seem quite disheartening. Somewhere in the back of your mind, you can't help but wonder if they're wrong – surely there has to be a diet that works … You know that you've lost ...

Whether you have $10K or $10M in assets, the division of marital assets does not necessarily determine how much your divorce will cost you. The divorces we see on television, with high priced atto eys and high powered experts, do not have to be the rule, but the exception. Divorce mediation offers a unique perspective on the dissolution of a marriage and the division of marital assets. That perspective focuses on the bases of assets, not the quantity of the assets.

Ten Quick Tips to Survive Divorce and the Holidays The holidays can be a rough time for those recently divorced or those facing it soon. With all the emphasis on family get togethers and social gatherings, it can feel like an agonizing and long stretch of time for many. So, what can you do to relieve some of the sadness and loneliness you may feel?

Sadly, celebrity divorces make all the headlines for all the wrong reasons. They showcase the most unconscious behavior, especially when it comes to relationships. Kim Kardashian’s marriage gone off tracks after such a short time is just one more example.

At some point after sobbing one to many times you are probably going to find your self asking. What are some things to do to get over a breakup? When a relationship doesn't work out, and you look at it realistically. Most relationships are not healthy. A healthy relationship is designed with standards, dreams and goals. At The YOU Series we like to talk about these things every week. Focusing on giving you tips and trick to feel more confident, fulfilled and being your amazin

Most couples separating or divorcing find that they are in a period of high conflict. Some have experienced constant arguments and fights for months or years; some are reacting to a sudden change of heart. Regardless of the circumstances and presentation conflict between the between the partners is present and often seemingly impossible to navigate. Most often this conflict results in a traditional type of intervention: retaining atto eys and asking them to resolve the issue

How do you focus your mind in an era of multiple distractions? We are living in an era of an information overload. Vast varieties of technology everywhere we look, that it has become essential to one’s survival or so it sometimes seems. An average employee receives thousands of interruptions every day, from instant messages and texts, e-mails and internet calls to the good old regular telephone ringing.

For most people, divorce is made up of a bunch of unfamiliar events, requirements, emotions, and behaviors. It's usually a very confusing period of time. Because divorce is so confusing, unfamiliar and legal, it's in your best interest to have exactly the right experts to help you out. Hopefully, the first expert you found to guide you was an atto ey or mediator. The legalities of divorce can have repercussions for years and you deserve to have your interests attended to by an expert.

Is it feasible to “bring back to life” a dead end marriage? If you're in what can sometimes feel like an empty loveless marriage, you may very well find yourself asking this question, time and time again. Sometimes, there is only one person in the relationship asking this question, and the other person doesn’t have any idea that something is not right, or they just want to put an end to the relationship as soon as possible. If you have concerns about how your marriage i

Effects of Divorce on Children For a married couple with children, the impact of the divorce on children should be one of the biggest conce s when the question of a divorce is raised. Research shows that a child's reaction to divorce is greatly shaped by a number of factors, including age, gender, family support, and the quality of the relationship between the parents prior to the divorce.

How many times have we gone on vacation or somewhere away, have an amazing time only to return home wishing we were back? I don't know about you but it has happened to me countless times. Why does this phenomenon occur in our lives and what does it mean? When we are in a different place, there's something about being away from our environment that shifts us. New and different stimuli catches our attention...we have a different routine...we may be away from people and things that create stress in our lives...we feel different.

There was an article in the Daily Mail (Femail - onliine) today - 'Yes, of course, divorce shatters lives. So why DO we pretend it's an easy option?' by Yasmin Alibhai-Brown.(http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1202855/Yes-course-divorce-shatters-lives-So-DO-pretend-easy-option.html#ixzz0MeHG73vH). In my opinion this is a controversial article. My comment to the article was as follows: “I don't think most people look at divorce as an easy option. This is rather a sweeping statement. Divorce is painful, stressful and traumatic.

In 1990, I received ‘The Power of Clearing’ tool as an answer to my desperate request to God for a way to heal pain and suffering and end separation in relationships, after my own husband fell in love with another woman 25 years younger than me. I told God in a prayer that I could ...