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"I lost everything when the police raided my house looking for prescription drugs. My husband and two little children were home that night. I was so ashamed I couldn't even look at them. I was arrested, put in handcuffs and locked up. My husband divorced me. My children were taken away from me. ...

Our Historyr When we look at the history of women as it relates to men, we see that it has only been in the last 100 years that we were given rights. Before we had rights, women and children were the property of men. Men could do with us whatever they pleased, whenever they pleased. This included all forms of abuses: sexual, physical and emotional. Having no rights, we were groomed to be compliant, to obey, to serve, to not speak up, to not have a voice, and generally be an extension of the man. Both church and state enabled and didn’t interfere with this paradigm.

Like any other threat to the basic need of survival, the recent Swine flue alert is causing fear in people. While a reasonable fear of death is a normal human reaction to a threat, excessive worrying and paranoia are not. The Swine flu alert can understandably trigger a sudden loss of security ...

Why Memories hurt. When an experience is recorded as a memory, it goes through the emotional and cognitive filters, assumptions and interpretations of the person. This is one of the reasons why different people can have quite different recollections of an event they all witnessed.

Having chosen your team of consultants and experts – and having hired their services – relegate any inevitable contact with your abusive ex – when and where possible – to professionals: your lawyer, or your accountant. Work with these qualified third parties to extricate yourself and your loved ...

We all perform in some way every day. In what arenas do you want to perform better? To improve your performance abilities, you need to know, understand, recognize and be able to avoid the myths surrounding performance. Top performers are so fine-tuned in their disciplines that they have seen all the traps, pitfalls and blind alleys about performing, and have devised methods to overcome them to be able to sustain high levels of performance under all adverse conditions. We call these people peak performers. Why are these myths dangerous?

"There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds." Laurell K Hamilton Mistral's Kiss

On May 1st 2008, so called DC Madam Deborah Jean Palfrey was found hanging in a utility shed at her mother’s mobile home in Tarpon Springs, Florida. A couple suicide notes were found.nnThe Pinellas County Sheriff’s Department has stated officially that it was a suicide and made the notes public. The Sheriff’s Department says that her mother and sister have seen the suicide notes and say that it is Deborah’s handwriting.nnAs a Certified Handwriting Analyst, my training

A gift to yourself The idea of forgiveness makes many people shout, Never!! Indeed, resentment, blame, recrimination and desire for revenge seem so much more natural than forgiveness.

In this month when we celebrate love, I wonder what we are celebrating and what love is all about. Love…what’s love? That is the question. A word that causes the biggest happiness but can also cause the biggest misery in our lives, especially when we don’t know what it means, misuse it to achieve personal goals, or to cover up personal deficiencies. I see that everyday when people come to my office justifying their abusive, comfortable or unconscious behavior in the name of LOVE. Providing a definition for love is most difficult.

Learn to be more present by increasing your visual acuity : About the e-book CONSCIOUS VISION. Conscious Presence You have probably come by descriptions and course offers about Conscious Presence. Many of these descriptions focus on the attitude Conscious Presence, and on different mental and psychological techniques for increased level of presence. These techniques constitute important and necessary factors and deserve attention, and I recommend you to investigate them.

Zen mind is the “Natural” state of our beings: No self, no identity, no memes, no beliefs.nnAny idea of “what is” takes us away from what is – to be in the moment, all ideas need to be gone. There’s not even an “I” to have the ideas. nnThe natural being acts as an outcome of the movement of the universe, in the same way that an artist’s brush is moved by its “universe”.nnAll “teachings”, “spiritual” paths or “sacred” practices actually take u

Sometimes it is easier to forgive the actions of another person than your own transgression or mistake. Your life may have changed because of you doing something or not doing something: If only I had not been so …. It’s all my fault. They’ll never forgive me. I can never forgive myself. You may be beating yourself up, stuck in self-recrimination, guilt and shame, because of something you did or did not do. But there is no benefit to self-condemnation. It does not change anything. Only choosing different behaviours or making amends for your actions will make a difference for the future.

Personality disorders cannot be safely diagnosed prior to early adolescence. Still, though frequently found between the ages of 3 and 6, Asperger's Disorder is often misdiagnosed as a cluster B personality disorder, most often as the Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). The Asperger's ...

Selecting the right professional is crucial. In the hands of an incompetent service provider, you may end up feeling abused all over again. Go through the following check list before you settle on a divorce atto ey, a financial consultant, a tax planner, a security adviser, or an accountant. ...

You’re in a groove. You’re on track. You’re inspired. You’re filled with confidence. And then you’re not. It’s over – at least for now. You’re in a rut. You’re off track. You’re discouraged. Your commitment wavers. What do you do? It’s the norm, not the exception, to lapse into a rut. These times may come as part of a general slump in your life or as a response to a challenging situation that’s getting you down.

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Why Memories hurt. When an experience is recorded as a memory, it goes through the emotional and cognitive filters, assumptions and interpretations of the person. This is one of the reasons why different people can have quite different recollections of an event they all witnessed.

Psychological abuse leaves no visible marks and often remains hidden within families, romantic relationships, toxic individuals and groups, cults and organisations of various religious and non-religious orientations. However, it is at least as damaging as the more explicitly violent forms of physical and sexual abuse. Mental, emotional and spiritual abuse leaves lasting damage to a person’s sense of self, confidence and ability to navigate life successfully.

Are you stressed? Or are you among the rare 25% of Americans who are not greatly stressed at least once a week? [A number down from 45% about 25 years ago.] Why we have so many more people feeling stressed these days has been attributed to factors such as job conce s, crime, changing societal and religious practices, etc. I am not sure what stresses you, but I do know that the two reasons most people do not sleep well at night are worries about their health and their finances.

Online therapy (also referred to as Internet therapy, distance therapy, cyber therapy or e-therapy) is used to describe the variety of ways a professional counselor or psychotherapist can communicate with you over the Internet or telephone. It may consist of emotional support, mental health ...

The Inner Critic is the nagging voice inside your head who constantly criticizes you. In reality, you do this yourself, but in therapy or if you want to change, it is advisable to treat that criticism as separated from yourself. There is a direct and an indirect way how the Inner Critic can harm your self-esteem. While the direct way is not that difficult to spot, the indirect way is more insidious and pollutes your self-esteem behind your back.

Seventeen millio Americans today are taking antidepressants, spending 11.3 billion dollars for the privilege of doing so. Kind of depressing, wouldn’t you say? Rather than get depressed, however, I get angry. Why? Because we have been fed so many phony “facts” about depression, we now simply accept them as true when we should really be applauding the drug companies for a super successful relentless marketing campaign. You hear the ads everywhere. But here’s what you won’t hear about anti-depressant drugs.

Are you controlled or in a partnership? Abusive marriages come in different forms. Most people are quick to think of "physical abuse" but there are definitely other acts of abuse that detriment the wellbeing of individuals at the hands of their domestic partner. 1. Physical Abuse

When you get involved in anything, there are always expectations that you have about the situation or person. Here are some examples: X The college I’ve chosen to go to is going to be really difficult. X The project I’ve just done may not meet the standards of the committee. X My blind ...

Divorce with dignity! Be committed to be on the healing in two years not five year track! Children want to be normal again, not kids of those divorcing parents who are always fighting. Believe in yourself and what the future holds! Lean into the divorce, move through one step at a time, don't waste time blaming or being a victim, and get ready to reinvent yourself!! Read more: http://www.divorceforce.com/article/prepare-for-divorce-by-dr-anne-brown-phd-

Many abusers have a specific body language. It comprises an unequivocal series of subtle – but disce ible – warning signs. Pay attention to the way your date comports himself – and save yourself a lot of trouble! Abusers are an elusive breed, hard to spot, harder to pinpoint, impossible to ...

Prepare to Fight

At times people wonder how a stranger – i.e. a psychotherapist or a counselor – can help them with their problems as they feel they are so different from other struggling couples. “How do they – i. e. marriage counselors and couple psychotherapists - know why we are at this point in our relationship?” they ask, and “How do they know what we need to do to get reconnected with one another again?”

In my previous article, I spoke about what an inner child is and why it is the most critical relationship in our life. In this article, I offer some simple exercises to now connect with your inner child and to begin to work with him/her. While I say these exercises are ‘’simple,’’ that doesn’t mean they are always easy. If at any point during these exercises it becomes overwhelming for you, just take a break or come back to it another time when you are feeling more

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Most marriages include children. Certainly, kids bring joy and add love to the family unit. You wouldn’t have it any other way. But, often, on a day-to-day basis, children also add stress. As a matter of fact, research indicates that the years when couples are raising their children are the ...

“It comes from saying No to 1000 things to make sure we don’t get on the wrong track or try to do to much.” Steve Jobs

Learn to empower yourself by shifting your inner focus: The e-course MENTAL FRAMES. Our thoughts govern our inner state For the most time, we are not aware of our thought patterns - our thoughts just are there and we seldom reflect on how they affect us, emotionally and physiologically. But, by making yourself aware of your thought patterns, you can change them. This can be especially valuable, when it comes to thoughts around problems you have had during a long period of time, and that may have burdened you and cost you a lot of time and energy. Focus on one problem

You can’t teach somebody something in English if all they speak is Spanish. Well, you can if you are showing them, rather than telling them. Likewise, if you want to teach effectively, you need to understand the student’s preferred learning style. Some people do really well with wordy explanations, while others don’t and would prefer visual type education. Whether you are a parent, a coach, a teacher or a manger, you likely find yourself in a position of having to educate people in your environment. It behooves you to have some understanding of different learning styles.

It’s no secret that college students have severe schedules, even in the summer. Between juggling classes, studying, assignments, internships, working a part time job, and making time for friends, it’s predictable that your energy levels are low. Although most students resort to caffeine to remedy their lack of energy, there are viable alte atives. Use these strategies to boost your energy without having to step into a coffee shop:r

I could write on and on about what you can do, should do, must do, and could do. We have all been frustrated with and in our relationships especially regarding a juicy relationship for couples. I had one of my students write me an entire letter the other day on all the ways she hated everything about her husband. It took me two sentences for me to get back to a place of willingness to see what could change. It went from hate, hate, hate to I don’t know what to do.

Moon Centers. Let’s face it, many women have out-of-control emotions—huge emotional swings that they often blame on PMS, SMS, MPS—whatever! Some people would say it’s easier to just let the emotions rule. Wrong. As a woman, I’m sure that you’d welcome knowing that there are ways other than prescription drugs, to deal with your emotions—how to get them to work for you instead of the other way around—being a slave to them. I’m sure you agree.

Most of us believe in the circle of life it stands for reason because that makes sense. We are born we grow and then we leave this world. For each of us it’s a completely different path that we walk. We may enter into each other’s lives for many different reasons, each time our life’s are either enriched or affected by that catch meeting. We may feel an affinity towards them because something about them draws our attention, these connections are meant to happen; it’s my own b

Sports champions know how to win and accomplish their dreams. They have learned the secrets of winning and success in sport. The mental game concepts that follow are familiar ones in the sport world. Let's examine these principles and laws of winning in sport and see how we can apply them to our daily lives. Championship sports stars know what these principles mean, honor them and apply them in their training and competitions: 1. Second Effort. Making that extra effort can make the difference between winning and just barely losing.

The manic phase of the Bipolar I Disorder is often misdiagnosed as a Personality Disorder. In the manic phase of Bipolar Disorder, patients exhibit many of the signs and symptoms of certain personality disorders, such as the Narcissistic, Borderline, Histrionic, or even Schizotypal Personality ...

Certainly the storied career of former Penn State football coach Joe Pate o has left many praising his legacy of career wins, devotion and loyalty to his university for so many decades, and his conce with providing a wonderful role model for the young men under his tutelage. Sadly, the end of his career seriously tarnished the image of his decades of honor and success. Pundits will be debating for years whether to give Joe credit for what he accomplished or to revile him for what he did not do, with respect to the Jerry Sandusky sex abuse situation.

My title is prompted by the oft repeated phrase: Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. What is your experience of this? Is suffering optional? Is that even a desirable goal? Or are there experiences that automatically cause suffering? Is there a function to “suffering” or feeling one’s feelings fully that is crucial to healing? Sometime I post quotes of the day on Twitter. I like searching for and finding a phrase that resonates, speaks to some inner truth for me. Recently I chose “We are healed from suffering only by experiencing it to the full” by Marcel Proust.

Most 'personal growth' or 'self development' of today seems to take an extremely careful approach to either 'the personal' or 'the self'. It's almost as if nothing's supposed to really make a difference. Not really, anyway. "Spirituality", this other highly contaminated word of our day and age, too seems mainly to be used to plaster the cracks on the walls of our lives, or act as a "fast-releasing" method to dodge the pains and sufferings that come with being alive.r

The human body is a very complex system. It is a whole much larger than the sum of its parts. And most importantly, all of the parts work together in synergy, and all depend on one another for proper function. Being but one element in this complex system, calcium needs many other nutrients to ...

You Are What You Eat

This is the use of the mind power to create a better you and propel success in things you may get involved in. There is quite a number of mastering mind power techniques should anyone wish to use brainwave entrainment technology. rnHowever, it is important to note that brainwave entrainment technology is quite diverse and one needs to have specifics in what they wish to achieve should they engage the power of brainwave entrainment. Cerebral success is relevant to quite a numb

The DSM-IV-TR (2000) defines a personality disorder as: "An enduring pattern of inner experience and behavior that deviates markedly from the expectations the individuals culture (and is manifested in two or more of his or her areas of mental life:) cognition, affectivity, interpersonal functioning, or impulse control." Such a pattern is rigid, long-term (stable), and recurrent. It manifests itself in all areas of life (it is pervasive). It is not owing to substance-abuse or

Using the power of the subconscious mind, you will find it easier to influence people, make friends, and solve problems. It all boils down to the way you program your mind to work. Below are 5 ways to help you beat the competition and stay one step ahead.n nn 1) Develop rapport nnWhen you establish similarities with someone, you will help their subconscious mind to feel as though there is a certain rapport with you. This can be done quite easily through the mirror technique;

We know from our own experience about the mind-body connection. For example, if you were to imagine or visualize sucking on a lemon rind, you may very likely begin to salivate. Even though that sucking on the lemon rind is entirely of the mind, it can easily generate bodily responses.